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0:00Okay. So, there's a lot of guys um
0:02where, you know, they meet a woman and
0:05they sleep with her and then she doesn't
0:08want to talk to you anymore. Or maybe
0:10you two went on a couple dates or you
0:12slept together a couple times and you
0:14notice she doesn't care to take interest
0:17in you or she doesn't um want to keep
0:19seeing you. So, no matter what anybody
0:22says, okay, there's a lot of guys who
0:25want relationships. like you want a
0:28relationship with a woman, meaning you
0:30want a girlfriend or you want um a
0:32family one day or you want um someone in
0:35your life that sees just you. Okay? So,
0:39this video is to help you with that
0:42because the only way to do that is you
0:44have to actually become that guy which
0:48means you have some form of identity and
0:51men lack this. She falls in love with
0:54who you are. Okay. So, if you are in
0:58this situation where maybe um you can
1:01get some dates or you know maybe
1:03sometimes you can get laid but then you
1:06notice that none of the women want to
1:07stick around and none of them care about
1:09you and none of them invest in you, this
1:12video is for you. So, if you want a
1:14situation where she looks at you as that
1:15guy and then she goes and deletes all of
1:17her dating apps, um, and then, you know,
1:21she wants to tell everybody she's dating
1:23you and she's excited that she's dating
1:25you and she's excited that she's in a
1:27relationship with you. If you're wanting
1:28that, then stick with me throughout this
1:30video. So, it's actually very simple
1:33once you understand the concept of
1:35identity and why you have to be someone
1:37or become someone. Okay? So here's just
1:40a very loose framework that I wrote on
1:43my marker board. So I'll put a picture
1:45up here. Okay. So step one is like one
1:49night you two met one night or maybe you
1:52slept together once. Okay. A lot of guys
1:55want to actually have the next step
1:57which is a long-term relationship. Okay.
2:00The only way to do that is by focusing
2:02on that bottom pillar that I have right
2:05here which is that guy. She has to look
2:08at you and go, he is that guy. He is
2:10that guy from something or from
2:12somewhere. And this is what most men
2:13lack is they lack identity because they
2:16don't pursue career. They don't actually
2:19pursue a stable future for themselves.
2:21So listen closely. When a woman decides
2:23to pair with you, you have to understand
2:26this. When she decides to pair with you
2:28and stay with you, okay, she's looking
2:31at your strength, your security, your
2:33protection, your resources. If you have
2:35a stable future, if you have an
2:37established career, if you know who
2:38you're becoming, if you are somebody,
2:41okay,
2:43to where it doesn't make sense for her
2:46to stop talking to you. Like a lot of
2:48guys are like, "Yeah, um, you know, she
2:50unfollowed me or she doesn't talk to me
2:52anymore." Okay, when you understand this
2:54element of identity, she has absolutely
2:57no reason to get rid of your phone
2:59number because that makes absolutely no
3:01sense. Why would she want to get rid of
3:04a man who has value or who has built a
3:07future for himself? So, let me give you
3:08an example. When I say that guy, okay,
3:11like this is what most guys don't
3:12understand. And I'll even use me as an
3:14example, too. If I meet a woman or if we
3:18go on some dates and she starts seeing
3:20me, okay, or we start sleeping together,
3:24she is going to be able to associate me
3:27and my identity with who I am. So, she's
3:30going to say, "Okay, he's that guy who
3:33does that thing on the internet and
3:35makes those videos. He's known for
3:38this." You have to develop into
3:41something. So, I'll explain to you what
3:43this looks like at a very grand scale
3:45and then I will explain to you what this
3:47looks like on a local level for you. So,
3:50on a grand scale, it looks like this.
3:54Oh, he is Leonardo DiCaprio. Oh, I saw
3:58him on a couple movies. Yes, I would
4:01like to be with him and stay with him. I
4:03know who that is.
4:05Or yes, he is Drake. Oh, I've heard a
4:08few of his songs on the radio. That's
4:10what this looks like on a grand scale.
4:12That is identity. That is recognition.
4:14That is status. That is career. That is
4:16everything. You are who you say you are.
4:18And you know who you are. Or you have an
4:21established position in this world that
4:24has led to career. Okay. What this looks
4:28like on a local level is, oh, he is that
4:32real estate agent with every single sign
4:34in the ground that I constantly see
4:36anytime I drive around my city. Oh, he's
4:39that dude on the billboards who sells
4:41insurance. Oh, he's that uh ear, nose,
4:44and throat specialist uh who's that
4:46doctor um that everybody in my
4:48neighborhood goes to. Oh, he's that guy
4:51who um owns all of the franchises for
4:56the restaurant. Oh, he's that guy who
4:58makes those videos on the internet.
5:02So, when you live this way, she doesn't
5:05have a reason to want to get rid of you.
5:09Okay? She'll call all of her girlfriends
5:12up and say, "Yeah, I'm seeing this guy.
5:13I think there's potential here." The
5:15problem is most men don't chase or
5:17pursue a purpose in life that you can
5:19gain some status and recognition for.
5:22So, can you get laid
5:25just practicing
5:27um
5:29how to have maybe um some charm or some
5:33seduction to you? For sure. Can you get
5:36laid um living like the bum maxing
5:38lifestyle? Of course. You're going to be
5:41very attractive to a lot of women.
5:44There's probably going to be women who
5:45really want to sleep with you because
5:47they can tell that you don't necessarily
5:49um care how everybody else acts.
5:53You're doing things dayto-day because
5:54you want to. Of course, it's very
5:56attractive. But if you want women to
5:58stick around in your life, you have to
6:01have a sense of purpose, a sense of
6:03value, a sense of identity. And this is
6:05what most guys don't have. And this is
6:06why you can't get a girlfriend is
6:08because she doesn't see that you are a
6:10stable bet for a long-term future. Okay?
6:15To a woman, if she's going to stay with
6:16a guy,
6:18like ultimately staying with him, like
6:21in the back of her mind or in her
6:22subconscious, that means family, which
6:25means if I were to have kids with this
6:26guy, can he protect and can he provide?
6:28And does he have security and potential
6:30future resources? And does he know who
6:31he is? And like all of this stuff
6:33matters. That's what you have to
6:35understand. All of that stuff matters.
6:38That causes her to want to be with him
6:41or to want to stay with him. Now, once
6:43you're at that situation, can you still
6:45lose your masculine frame and lose the
6:47woman? Absolutely. Can you still um you
6:50know, end up overqualifying yourself and
6:52talking too much and wanting to see her
6:54too much? Absolutely. But those problems
6:56go away real quick when you're occupied
7:00with purpose, ambition, career, which is
7:02why you need to be out in the world
7:03doing things. Another thing that she
7:06doesn't want to see, she doesn't want to
7:08see that you always have a new job going
7:10on or a new situation.
7:13the more you're stable with your career.
7:16Like a lot of guys, you know, one week
7:18they're doing this and then the next
7:19week they're focused on this uh side
7:22project with business and now they want
7:23to change career paths over here and now
7:26they want to do an investment thing over
7:28here and all this stuff they got going
7:29on. And she's going to see a man who's
7:32scattered.
7:34Okay. When you look at identity, it's
7:37typically rooted in one thing. Oh, he is
7:40the quarterback. He is the linebacker.
7:44He is the guy who makes those videos. He
7:46is the guy who's the best real estate
7:48agent. He is the doctor. So, all of you
7:51watching this, I'm going to really boil
7:53this down for you in just a few
7:55sentences. Number one, you need to focus
7:58on career. Number two, you need a skill
7:59or a purpose. That skill needs to have
8:02value to others. And then number three,
8:03you need to pursue that relentlessly and
8:05only do that one thing until you're
8:07really good at it. That's how you keep
8:09getting paid more. That's how you keep
8:11um a level of social status, right? Like
8:14for example, if you're uh if you're Tom
8:17Brady and you won all those Super Bowls,
8:18he got good at one thing and that's that
8:20football game. One thing you do, one
8:22thing, okay? So, let me give you an
8:24example. Like, I'll put up this photo
8:26right here. When I was uh like 22, okay,
8:31I was attracting a bunch of women. I was
8:32in good shape. Um I had, you know, good
8:36blonde hair as you can see. I was in
8:38really good shape. Um, and a lot of
8:40times women would direct message me
8:42first, approach me first, uh, add me on
8:45different social media pages first,
8:47whatever the case may be. But at the
8:48time I was a fitness trainer and I was
8:51pretty known for that in my hometown.
8:54So, if a woman saw me or if a woman went
8:56out on a date with me,
8:59she also would tell her friends that,
9:00"Oh, he's that guy who um coaches my
9:03friends or he's that guy who coached my
9:05friend uh with her fitness journey or
9:07with his fitness journey or you know,
9:09oh, uh my cousin uh worked with him for
9:12this and I had a form of identity.
9:16Okay, I was known for something." So,
9:18it's like when a woman sees that you're
9:19doing something or building something,
9:21she sticks around because she sees the
9:23value ad. Okay? So, she looks at that
9:27guy and she's like, "Okay, well, I'm
9:29going to have a way better existence
9:30staying with this guy than being by
9:33myself."
9:35She's going to look at you and go,
9:36"Well, if I'm just all by myself, I'll
9:38go back to my apartment and then, you
9:40know, pet my dog or feed my cat and then
9:42I'll have to, you know, go back out, you
9:44know, to the venue and hopefully meet a
9:46different guy." And like that's a lot of
9:47times her situation is like being by
9:50herself. But if she's with that guy, she
9:52looks at that guy and goes, "Wo, he's
9:54building something. He has a future. Um,
9:57look at all the stuff he can do. Look at
9:59all the skills he has. Look how he can
10:00stay disciplined and just do one thing
10:03for a longer time than everybody else
10:05without giving up." Like all of those
10:07character traits matter. And that's even
10:09something that like I've had. Okay? Like
10:13let me give you an example. If I date a
10:16woman right now on this channel right
10:19now, between short form and long form
10:21content, there is over 5,000 videos on
10:24this channel right now.
10:27Regardless of what I would say on any
10:30video, whether a woman agrees with it or
10:32disagrees with it, any woman who would
10:34date me looks at that dedication and she
10:36goes, "Okay, uh, this guy's
10:38disciplined."
10:40She could just instantly tell. and
10:42hypergamy, a piece of it, is already way
10:45more satisfied than most guys who have
10:46no focus. You need to start to build
10:50something. You need to figure out who
10:52you are. I don't care if you want to be
10:55a professional ice skater. I don't care
10:57if you want to be a professional
10:58skateboarder. I don't care if you want
11:00to make videos. I don't care if you want
11:02to be the best doctor. You need to do
11:05something because then she wants to
11:07stick with you. Can you still lose her
11:11by being too nice or by losing your
11:13masculine frame and all that? Of course,
11:16there still has to be a good dynamic.
11:19But is it going to help you retain
11:21interest levels, especially in the
11:23beginning where she wants to see how
11:25things play out? For sure. I advise you
11:28to take this even a step further. Join
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11:31I can help you learn, understand, and
11:33master the language of women. I believe
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