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0:00Okay. How to stop being so predictable
0:02with the women that you date. This video
0:05is going to be like one of the core
0:08reasons why majority of your
0:11relationships probably fail or why
0:14majority of women that you were dating
0:16or have dated in the past start to lose
0:19interest in you. How to stop being so
0:21predictable. Because if you tell a guy,
0:24"Hey, be unpredictable."
0:26He says, "Okay, most of the time." and
0:28then it's hard to actually apply because
0:31he doesn't know what to do. So, it
0:33starts up here. Understanding the mind.
0:36Okay. So, this is what I'm going to tell
0:37you. Predictability leads to getting
0:40dumped, ghosted, or cheated on. So, you
0:42might be saying, "Well, how how do I
0:44become unpredictable?" It's by breaking
0:47the social narrative that says, "I'm a
0:50man of my word." This right here is a
0:53social narrative. You're going to hear a
0:55lot of guys say this, and this is
0:57probably what you have even been told as
0:59a kid growing up from your parents. You
1:01got to be a man of your word. Always be
1:03a man of your word. You have to break
1:05this social narrative, being a man of
1:07your word or, you know, making sure um
1:10your actions always match what you say
1:12you're going to do. These types of
1:13things hold you back. And I'll show you
1:15why. This is something that men say,
1:18okay, when they say, "I'm a man of my
1:19word." This is something that men say to
1:21try to prove to women what a good guy
1:24they are. Oh, look at me. I'm a man of
1:26my word. I do what I say I'm going to
1:29do, and you can count on me to show up.
1:32Okay, this is something that guys say to
1:35women to prove to the woman that he's a
1:38good guy. Okay, he wants to show that
1:40he's reliable. But what you're going to
1:43find is this backfires. This backfires
1:46terribly.
1:50If you're messaging a woman and you say,
1:52"Hey, um,
1:54we'll meet here for the date. I'll call
1:56you at 7 to um, let you know when I'm on
2:00my way."
2:01You sticking to that, little things like
2:04that over time starts to decrease
2:06interest. You call right at seven. You
2:09see what I'm saying? He wants to show
2:11he's reliable and this backfires. the
2:13more you emulate or mirror her own
2:16female nature, the more she engages her
2:20emotions because of the emotional
2:21turmoil. So, women, you're going to find
2:24this the more you date. Women are
2:25unpredictable a lot of times, um, do
2:28whatever they feel like in the moment.
2:29If she doesn't want to follow through
2:32with plans because she woke up and she
2:34doesn't feel like it, she just doesn't
2:35attend. So, women are pretty good at
2:38putting themselves first. Men, not so
2:41much. Okay? You'll notice that women say
2:44one thing and then a lot of times their
2:46actions are the complete opposite. So
2:49you stop being predictable when your
2:51words don't match your actions. This is
2:53how you actually become unpredictable.
2:56So for all of you saying okay I
2:57understand that I need to be
3:00unpredictable. How do I apply this?
3:04It's by making sure
3:07that you live every single day the way
3:10that you would like because it serves
3:12you the best. So, I'll give you an
3:13example. You stop being unpredictable
3:15when your words don't match your
3:16actions. So, how do you even get to this
3:19point? Okay, by doing exactly what you
3:22want in the moment based on how you
3:24feel. Okay, to decide for yourself if
3:28you want to attend. That last part is
3:31really important. to decide for yourself
3:33if you want to attend.
3:36Most guys have all these obligations in
3:39their life. Okay? All these obligations
3:42because everybody expects something of
3:44you. Hey, can you call me back at this
3:46time? Hey, can you text me back now?
3:48Hey, can you attend this? Your parents
3:51call you. Hey, can you do this? Can you
3:52be here at this time? And the guy just
3:53says, yes, yes, yes, yes. His whole life
3:56is about serving others. Okay, listen
3:59closely here.
4:01You decide for yourself if you want to
4:03attend. So, this is the rule. The rule
4:05is you put yourself, okay? You put your
4:07well-being first, and that's really all
4:10you care about. Now, some of you might
4:12watching this video, you might say,
4:13"Well, that sounds selfish. That sounds
4:16self-centered."
4:18You're right. It is. That's why I'm
4:20telling you this because it is selfish
4:23and it is self-centered. And this is how
4:25you become unpredictable so you have a
4:27better dating life.
4:29Women are not drawn to predictability.
4:31Women are drawn to unpredictability.
4:34This causes her to engage in her
4:36emotions. So, this is the rule. You put
4:38your well-being first, and that's really
4:40all you care about. The reason why this
4:42works is because it's exactly what she
4:45does, okay? If she doesn't feel like
4:48doing something or going somewhere, let
4:50me give you an example. Let's say she's
4:52been on a couple dates with a guy and
4:54let's say he says, "Okay, we're going to
4:56go to this concert. I bought tickets.
5:00It's at 7:30." And she says, "Okay,
5:02perfect. I'll be there. I'm excited to
5:04go." If she wakes up that day and she
5:06doesn't feel like going, she'll just
5:08flake. Doesn't matter if he spent money.
5:11Doesn't matter if he already has the
5:12tickets. Doesn't matter if he was really
5:14excited to take her somewhere. She
5:16doesn't care. So, okay, this is what you
5:19got to realize.
5:21This is so hard for men to do. It's so
5:24hard for men to break the mindset
5:27conditioning that says you have to
5:29please everybody
5:31or that it's bad if you disappoint
5:33someone. It doesn't matter. You better
5:35get used to disappointing people. If you
5:38want to um have a better dating life,
5:41you better get used to disappointing
5:42people. Because
5:46the men who constantly like
5:48self-sacrifice their time in a bunch of
5:51different areas to just appease people,
5:54years go by off their life not living
5:56the way that they would like. If you
5:57look at all the things you've had to do
5:59over the years that you didn't want to
6:00do, that you could have said no to, you
6:02just didn't want to let that other
6:04person down. This is an accumulation of
6:06time you're never going to get back.
6:08Okay? So, this is so hard for men to do.
6:10Okay? You have parents, you probably had
6:12coaches
6:14when it comes to sports when you were
6:17growing up, maybe teachers,
6:19all taught you to probably just serve
6:21others. Okay? However, what you're going
6:24to find is that all the men that she
6:26rewards, these guys serve themselves.
6:30So, this is what you're going to start
6:31to realize as you put two and two
6:33together. Okay? So what it actually
6:35looks like. Okay. So the first thing I
6:37did in this video is I told you you need
6:39to stop being so predictable. Now I've
6:41shown you how to do that. Now I'm going
6:44to show you what this actually looks
6:45like in real life. Okay? How to
6:48implement this in a way where in real
6:51life you're like, "Okay, that makes
6:52sense." What it actually looks like.
6:54Okay?
6:55Let's say um
6:59let's say you want to have a fun
7:01Saturday night
7:03or you want to make sure that um after a
7:06long work week you have something to do,
7:08something fun. Maybe you're just going
7:11to make plans with all three of the
7:13women that you're texting. Just set
7:15plans with all of them. You have plans
7:17on Saturday with all three of them. Then
7:19when it comes to Saturday morning when
7:21you wake up the day of the one option
7:24that you want to see the most, you see
7:27her and then the others you just flake
7:29on. You just flake on or you say, "Hey,
7:31something came up." Or maybe you don't
7:32even text them at all. You just don't
7:34care. This is similar behavior that
7:37you're going to experience from women is
7:39when they don't want to do something,
7:41they just don't attend. So, the day of,
7:44okay, the one that you want to see most,
7:48well, you'll just see her. The other
7:50two, you don't really care. Okay? And
7:53this is the other thing that you're
7:55going to notice. Women never feel
7:57obligated to give any context or
8:00reasoning why they did something. And
8:03this is how they constantly are at the
8:05higher perceived status in almost every
8:08single interaction with every single man
8:10that they date. They give no context.
8:12and they just ghost and the guy says,
8:13"Oh, okay. That's just how women are. I
8:15guess I'm going to just, you know, keep
8:17trying to meet the one." This is not how
8:19you do it.
8:22You need to actually start doing things
8:25that serve you. Another example, okay,
8:28let's say you're dating someone and she
8:31says, "Babe,
8:32will you go on a run with me? Can we go
8:36running? Let's run three miles."
8:40And you say, "Okay, yeah, that's fine.
8:42Well, then that morning you wake up and
8:43you realize, whoa, it's actually chest
8:45day. I have to save my energy for the
8:48gym. You just skip the run. You skip the
8:52run and you go to the gym instead. Most
8:54guys can't do this. Most guys, what they
8:56do is they sacrifice their gym. They
8:58sacrifice their gym routine to make sure
9:01that they're a man of their word and
9:02they go on the run even though they
9:03don't want to. This is another example
9:06of how you constantly put her needs
9:07first before yourself. Basically, all
9:10you have to do, okay, is minuteby
9:11minute, hour for hour, you do what
9:14serves you the best. You do what serves
9:16you the best for your own self-interest.
9:18And yes, that is selfish. Yes, that is
9:19self-centered. Yes, you're going to get
9:21used to disappointing people. And yes,
9:24um, you know, the sun will still come up
9:26the next day.
9:28You have to stop caring about all of
9:30these little things that you tell
9:32yourself are important. So what you're
9:36looking at right here on this
9:37markerboard presentation is essentially
9:40what complete detachment looks like.
9:42Okay, this is complete detachment which
9:44is the highest form of masculine because
9:47you don't need anything from anybody and
9:49you also make sure that you are living
9:50the way that you would like. Okay, so
9:53you don't care at all what the outcome
9:56is. You are living life the way that you
9:59want and that's what's most important is
10:01you live the life that you want to live.
10:04Okay? Now
10:07the outcome might not be favorable and
10:09that's okay. She might never text you
10:12again. If you do something that serves
10:14you and you flake on the situation or
10:17the setting or whatever or the date, she
10:19might never text you again. But you say,
10:21"Good. So be it. That's what I wanted to
10:24do in that moment. life goes on and I'll
10:26be just fine. And I'm glad I didn't have
10:28to put my time to something that I
10:30didn't want to do just to appease
10:33somebody else. This is how you become
10:35unpredictable. Okay? Your words don't
10:38match your actions, but not because
10:40you're using a tactic or playing a game.
10:42It's because you literally live hour for
10:44hour the way that you would like to
10:45live. So the things that you want to do
10:47in that moment, you do. Me personally, I
10:49don't ever make plans. I don't think
10:51I've made plans in weeks, months, or
10:53maybe even years.
10:55because I just I wake up and the things
10:57I want to do in my free time, I go and I
10:58do them. When you do this, you're
11:01naturally unpredictable because you are
11:03embodying the masculine spirit in
11:06general. Okay, keep that in mind.
11:09So, you have to be able to say, "Good,
11:11so be it." This is also why I call it
11:13bum maxing. Okay, think about this with
11:15me because this is the mindset, okay,
11:18that men are missing, which is why they
11:20fail.
11:21The reason why I call it bum maxing is
11:24because men are missing this specific
11:26mindset of putting themselves first and
11:28doing what they would like. Let me give
11:29you an example. If that dude, okay, if
11:32the bum wakes up that day and doesn't
11:34feel like going to work, he just doesn't
11:36attend. He just doesn't go. The dude
11:38just sleeps in and skips.
11:42That's what he wanted to do. Listen
11:44closely. This mindset of putting
11:46yourself first,
11:48this is like completely needed to have a
11:50better dating life and to make sure that
11:52you are looked at as a man who has
11:55higher perceived status to the woman
11:57than all the other options that she
11:58could be with.
12:00You are strong enough to say, "No, I
12:02don't want to do that and I'm going to
12:03go do what I want to do anyways." And
12:05you see, this is really, really
12:07important to understand because all the
12:08looks, money, and status in the world
12:10will not make up for your lack of having
12:12this mindset trait. You can do all the
12:15looks maxing that you want to do. This
12:17is not going to make up for the lack of
12:19mindset of putting yourself first. So,
12:22this is the full bum maxing guide. If
12:25that guy wakes up and he doesn't feel
12:27like going to work that day, he doesn't.
12:28The dude just sleeps in and skips. And
12:30what you're going to find is dudes with
12:32this type of mindset, despite not having
12:34a lot of money or uh sometimes uh you
12:36know a good stable financial future, she
12:39still happily sleeps with him a lot of
12:41times anyways. So, I'm not saying that
12:44you go out right now and you go lose
12:45your job, okay? But you apply the same
12:48principle. What that means is if you
12:51don't want to do it, and if you don't
12:53want to do something, don't. And if you
12:56do want to do it, and you do want to do
12:58something, well, then go out in your
13:00life and do it. Go do that one thing
13:02that you really have been wanting to do.
13:03It might be rock climbing. It might be
13:05um, you know, whatever the case may be.
13:07Just go and do the things in life that
13:09you want to do and watch how women
13:11reward you. I want you to watch how
13:13women reward you. You go all in on
13:14yourself. You put all of your time,
13:17okay? All of your time is spent with
13:20essentially the bum maxing mindset.
13:23Okay? Because this is what I can tell
13:25you. Your life gets a whole lot better
13:27because you finally have freed yourself
13:29from all the obligations that you told
13:32yourself that you have,
13:34but they're not actually real. You don't
13:36have to pick up that phone and answer if
13:39that person calls you. You don't have to
13:41reply to that text message. You don't
13:44have to attend that thing or that event
13:47or venue you promised. You can just go
13:50do something else. And this is how you
13:53become unpredictable with women. Men
13:56have a lot of undoing to do with these
13:58concepts because since you're a kid,
14:00you've essentially been taught to serve
14:02everybody else instead of serving
14:04yourself, which is why you most likely
14:06don't have the results in life that you
14:08want. which is why I created an entire
14:10community to help you learn, understand,
14:13and master the language of women. And at
14:15this point in the video, I invite you to
14:17join us. I invite you to join us inside
14:19of that community that I built. And I
14:22give you an entire process to help you
14:24learn, understand, and master the
14:25language of women. So that way, you know
14:27what to do when you first meet the
14:29woman. You know what to do the first one
14:31to three dates. And that way, you know
14:33what to do when it comes to managing the
14:36proper dynamic with a long-term
14:37relationship. That's why I built this,
14:39to give you an actual comprehensive
14:42guide and understanding to make your
14:44dating life way easier. If you like this
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