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0:00If you are not able to make her sad,
0:03she'll never love you. Okay, I'm going
0:05to explain something here that it just
0:07seems like most guys can't understand.
0:10Okay, the one thing that like guys just
0:12can't understand is that her emotions
0:14are opposite to your logic. I know that
0:17sounds wild. I know that sounds
0:20completely just like batshit crazy, but
0:22this is what you're going to experience
0:24is that her emotions are opposite to
0:27your logic. So, what does that mean?
0:28That means if you are not able to make
0:32her sad, she'll never love you. If you
0:36are not able to make her sad, okay,
0:39listen close. If you're not able to
0:41cause
0:43some type of emotional turbulence from
0:45time to time
0:47where she either hates you for a period
0:49of time or you pissed her off or she's
0:52sad or she's super jealous or some type
0:55of negative emotion was felt. She is
0:58never going to love you. She is never
1:01going to love you the way that you want.
1:03She is never going to care about you the
1:05way that you want. And I'm going to tell
1:06you this as well. You can't fix this
1:10thing that I'm teaching the emotional
1:13disruption. You can't fix this or
1:18mitigate this or get around this by
1:19being a Chad or by looks maxing or by um
1:23having a better jawline or by being uh
1:26charismatic because at some point in the
1:30dynamic the relationship or the
1:32interaction is going to move from casual
1:35to we actually know each other. When I
1:38say casual, no, I'm not [ __ ] talking
1:40about you two just uh casually hooked
1:42up. When I say casual, here's what I
1:45mean by this. Casual means,
1:49let's say you meet a woman at a coffee
1:51shop, you say, "Hey, it's great to meet
1:52you, whatever." You start talking to
1:55her. That's a casual interaction. Even I
1:57would say the first couple dates are
2:00casual.
2:02You are casually getting to know each
2:04other. A lot of times, even if you and
2:07the woman sleep together once or twice,
2:10it's still casual. When does it move to
2:13more of a relationship? When does it
2:15move to the phase that says, "Hey, we
2:17know each other. Me and this woman know
2:20each other. This woman knows me on a
2:22personal level. I know this woman on a
2:24personal level." It happens once you've
2:25spent a significant amount of hours with
2:27that woman to where she feels like she
2:30knows you. Okay? meaning you got to the
2:32phase where you could call her up on the
2:35phone and say, um, you know, I'm going
2:38to go grab food. Um, we're going to
2:41meet, blah, blah, blah. Or like, uh, I'm
2:45going to this taco shop. I'm going to
2:47get a quesadilla. Do you want me to
2:48bring you back a a steak quesadilla,
2:50too? And she'll answer. And you don't
2:53have to worry about some kind of
2:54[ __ ] [ __ ] test where like she
2:57doesn't answer or something or you have
2:59to play some game. Okay. At some point,
3:01the relationship, this is what I'm
3:03trying to say, at some point the
3:04relationship is going to
3:07move into a phase where you're out of
3:10casual and she goes, "Okay, I know this
3:12guy." Or you're going to look at her and
3:13you be like, "Okay, we know each other."
3:15To where it's no longer casual like
3:17that. That's what I'm trying to say.
3:18When it gets to that point,
3:22she has to feel some type of negative
3:24emotion or she will never love you. I
3:27will give you a real life example. I
3:29will give you a real life example of how
3:31um this has played out in even my life.
3:34So, a woman that I used to see um she
3:37invited me to go camping, okay? And we
3:39were probably like 6 or 7 weeks into
3:41seeing each other. And she calls me up
3:43or she says something like, "Hey, my
3:45friends are going camping and I'm on
3:47this camping trip. Do you want to come?"
3:48And I said, "Yes." Now, obviously, I've
3:50told you in other videos to be
3:52unpredictable and why women respond
3:54positively towards this, even if they
3:56respond to it negatively in the moment.
3:57So, here's what happened. Um, she
4:00invites me to go camping. I say yes for
4:02about 10 days leading up to it. So, I
4:04solidified plans with her and she
4:06invited me to go first and then last
4:08minute I flaked. I called her and I
4:10said, "Hey, uh, or I texted her and I
4:11said, I am not going send. I have to
4:14work. I um am doing something with my
4:17business. Send or something like that."
4:20and she called me and she tried to keep
4:23composure and she tried to be mature and
4:25she tried to um like hold herself
4:29together. But then as soon as she got
4:31home she said we need to talk and
4:32instantly I knew what was coming and
4:34when she said we need to talk or I want
4:35to talk to you or we should really talk
4:37about this or um whatever the case may
4:40be. The first thing she said is you made
4:41me feel sad. You made me sad. I was
4:44really sad that you flaked on me or
4:46nobody's ever done that to me before.
4:48And even though you told me uh whatever
4:50is going on with your business or
4:51whatever or you told me you had to do
4:53something, um I right away thought like
4:55is there a different woman or whatever
4:56the case may be or she didn't know why I
4:59flaked on her. She thought I didn't like
5:00her. Okay, this is what I'm saying is
5:03like most guys are completely
5:05predictable to her in that moment. It
5:07was completely unpredictable that I
5:09randomly um flaked uh literally just
5:13like a day before we were supposed to
5:15leave or like um maybe even that same
5:17day. I think it was I can't even
5:18remember. Well, you fast forward now 7 8
5:229 10 months later as I've known her. Um
5:25those little micro hiccups in the
5:27relationship strengthen the bond. And
5:29this is one thing that guys don't
5:31understand is like her emotions are
5:33opposite to your logic. If you are like
5:37easy to please like this is what I'm
5:39telling you. You have to carry yourself
5:40with like some type of aura that it's
5:42like it's hard to be pleased or like you
5:46are willing or able just through your
5:49root personality to cause disruption
5:51because you're doing what you want to
5:53do. So the only way you do this is if
5:56you make yourself your own mental point
5:58of focus at all times. So because that
6:00was going on um in my work life or
6:02whatever the case may be at that time
6:03months ago, I just called her up and I
6:05flaked. Most guys don't have the nuts to
6:07do that. Most guys don't have the nuts
6:08to flake. They don't have the nuts to be
6:10unpredictable. And they cause zero um
6:14like I don't want to call it emotional
6:16disruption, but they're not willing to
6:19cause any negative emotion, which makes
6:21them super predictable. And this is why
6:23you'll even find like the Chad husband
6:25where it's like, you know, he's a good
6:27guy and, you know, he's uh seven feet
6:28tall and he makes a lot of money and he
6:30looks really good, but because he is
6:32just so predictable and because she
6:34knows he's always there and he's not
6:36hard to please at all. And keep in mind,
6:38this type of stuff only works once you
6:40two have gotten to know each other.
6:42That's why I'm saying it moved past a
6:44casual interaction. Like this is when
6:46you have been like steady dating for,
6:49you know, four weeks, 5 weeks, 6 weeks,
6:518 weeks, whatever. Here's what I mean
6:53when I say completely unpredictable.
6:55Let's say um you're dating a woman and
6:57let's say um you're at her place or
6:59she's at yours and let's say you spent a
7:01few hours together or whatever and then
7:02you just uh you look down at your phone
7:04maybe and something comes up or you want
7:06to leave and you say, "All right, I got
7:07to bounce." And you're just out the door
7:09within like uh 30 seconds. you say, "All
7:11right, I'm going to get going." And she
7:13doesn't know why. She doesn't know um if
7:15something came up. And she might even
7:17ask you, "Is something wrong? Did I do
7:18something?" And you're like, "No, I just
7:19got to get going." That's what I mean is
7:21like you have to have that that edge of
7:24unpredictability. That edge of
7:26unpredictability
7:28is what gets her in that emotional sweet
7:30spot pocket between hot and cold.
7:34like things are hot and things are good
7:36when everything's good and cordial, but
7:39then she needs that opposite effect,
7:40too. She needs the other side of the
7:42coin. She needs the emotional disruption
7:44from time to time or she just gets super
7:46bored. She gets super bored. You're
7:47super predictable. Now, the reason why a
7:49lot of times Chads, okay, if you want to
7:51call it that, um, cause emotional
7:54turbulence or turmoil naturally is
7:56because they have so many options that
7:58naturally they're unpredictable because
7:59minute for minute, hour for hour, that
8:01guy doesn't know what he's going to do
8:02because he has so many options
8:03available. So, you might be over here
8:05one day, he's over here another day.
8:07Like, this is what I can tell you. She
8:09has to be bringing these conversations
8:11to you. You'll see what I mean. So, what
8:14are the conversations? The conversations
8:16that she has to be bringing to you are
8:18all of the conversations that the beta
8:20male brings to the woman. Babe, uh, how
8:23do you feel, babe? Uh, what's wrong? Um,
8:26what can I do to make this better? Um,
8:29you know, uh, I I love you so much, but
8:32um, you know, I just feel like you're
8:34distant and I'm really scared to lose
8:35you. All this type of stuff that the guy
8:37who's really attached is saying to her,
8:39she starts to say to the guy. Now the
8:42other thing that I want to make very
8:44very clear is if you don't bring the
8:46drama, if you don't bring the turbulence
8:48to the relationship first, call it
8:51whatever you want. Maybe even you call
8:52it like a temper tantrum. Imagine a
8:54toddler freaking out and having a temper
8:55tantrum. If you don't bring this stuff
8:57first, she finds ways to bring the chaos
9:00and the drama and the turmoil because
9:02she becomes so [ __ ] bored. You have
9:05to really understand this. Like if you
9:06don't bring these things to the
9:08relationship first, I promise you she
9:10will. And by the time she brings it to
9:13the relationship first, at that point,
9:16you're probably so damn scared to even
9:17rock the boat. You're probably so weak
9:19and emotionally attached at that point.
9:21By the time she brings the drama to the
9:23relationship first, then you really
9:24start to beg and plead for the
9:26relationship to be stable. And right
9:28now, you're really scared to lose her
9:29and then you'll lose her completely
9:31regardless. One thing I need to make
9:33abundantly clear is the dynamic between
9:35the masculine and the feminine. The
9:37masculine is the father, the feminine is
9:39the mother. a lot of times as a man um
9:43is like um a lot of times as the man is
9:47uh really in love with a woman or he
9:50really likes her or he really cares for
9:51her, he's tapped into the father dynamic
9:54or the father spirit. So he wants to
9:56protect her, provide for her, um love
9:59her. Okay, women. If she's not tapping
10:02into the mother's spirit towards you,
10:06um the child has a temper tantrum and
10:09she wants to be nurturing. The child um
10:13brings chaos or drama or can't sleep and
10:15she wants to be loving. The child is
10:17sick and she wants to be nurturing. If
10:19she's not bringing you the motherly
10:21care, she's not loving you the full
10:25potential that she could. Like, you're
10:26losing her. and you're not losing her.
10:29Um, like that's why I'm telling you, you
10:32can't just like fix this stuff through
10:34like being a Chad or like you can you
10:37can give that woman a more attractive
10:40guy physically, but like she doesn't
10:42have that emotional depth and bond with
10:45him when it comes to the masculine to
10:47feminine. And that's what I mean is like
10:49you have to be a problem that she wants
10:51to fix or that she has to solve. I will
10:53say that again. You have to be a problem
10:55that she wants to fix or that she has to
10:57solve. You have to have something or you
11:00have to have a type of like situation or
11:02problem or your personality has to be
11:04like slightly problematic where she
11:06wants to fix you. This is why, okay,
11:09just stick with me because if this
11:11sounds really broad, it is, but let me
11:13just like bring it back to home base
11:14here for a second. This is why in
11:16movies, women fall in love with the
11:19villain archetype. They do not fall in
11:21love with the hero archetype. you can
11:23give her uh the superhero and after a
11:27while she goes he's really strong he's
11:28really masculine he's really powerful
11:30but he's boring because he's always good
11:32the villain on the other hand is
11:35problematic she wants to say how can I
11:37fix him how can I change him how can I
11:39change him and make him good for me only
11:43and this is why women fall in love with
11:44the villain this is the difference
11:46between the male gaze g a ze and the
11:49female gays Okay,
11:53you're sitting there looking at the hero
11:55thinking that that's who she's looking
11:57at. And meanwhile, since the female
11:59archetype falls in love with the story
12:01or the depth of character or the
12:03complexity, she is sitting there looking
12:05at the villain getting turned on by him
12:07and you didn't even know it. This is why
12:09I'm telling you, you have to learn,
12:11understand, and master the language of
12:13women. So, this is why I created this
12:16process. If you join me inside of my
12:18community that I built, I'm going to
12:19show you all of the little micro depths
12:21and micro nuances of female nature. So
12:24that way you don't run into these
12:25problems anymore. Because what I did was
12:28I took every single element that I found
12:31over the years after 10 or 11 years of
12:33dating now. I find all the little micro
12:36nuances between the masculine and the
12:38feminine and then I show you, hey, this
12:39is how you behave and this is how you
12:41act in the beginning when you first meet
12:43the woman. This is what you do on the
12:45first one to three dates. This is how
12:47you withhold interest so that way she
12:49desires to chase your validation. This
12:51is how you act accordingly to have a
12:53proper long-term relationship. I built
12:55this so that way you can basically just
12:57like turn your brain off and you can
12:58just follow along what I already built.
13:01That's why I built this. So join us
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13:05are only like if you're only seeing
13:08these concepts that I talk about here on
13:10my channel right now for the first time,
13:11you have to understand we are only
13:13scratching the surface. We are only
13:15scratching the surface for how deep I
13:17actually take these concepts inside of
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13:21of that. I have an entire system. I want
13:23you to see this system. I'm extending
13:24the invitation to you right now. You're
13:27going to see why this process has gotten
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