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0:00Your consistency is why you're
0:02predictable.
0:04Okay? Your consistency.
0:06This needs to sink in. Um because most
0:10men serve other people. In order to have
0:13dating success, you have to start to
0:15have the mindset that I serve myself.
0:18So, let me give you an example.
0:21When I was a young kid,
0:24you know, like before I had my driver's
0:26license, obviously whatever my mom said
0:29was what I had to do because, you know,
0:32if she says, "Hey, you know, be here at
0:34this time," you know, I automatically
0:36have to come. Well, once I got my
0:38driver's license and once I turned 18, I
0:40would go where I wanted to. Now I have
0:43three other siblings
0:46and as soon as I started doing whatever
0:48I wanted to do, meaning she didn't know
0:51if she would see me at that event. She
0:54didn't know if she'd see me even at that
0:56holiday. This is what my siblings would
0:58tell me. My siblings would actually call
1:00me up on the phone and they'd say, "You
1:03never show up. You never call, but mom
1:05talks about you the most. Why does Casey
1:07never call? Why is Casey not here? Is
1:10Casey going to come?" Well, we'll see if
1:12Casey comes. And it's a mystery the
1:14entire time leading up to the event or
1:16leading up to that location if Casey
1:18will come. Now, a lot of times what I
1:21would do, and I don't really care how
1:23this sounds, I'm just letting you know
1:27what you'll notice with women or like
1:28what I would experience with even my mom
1:30in general is that if my mom didn't get
1:33yes for an answer, she would just ask a
1:36hundred times over. Will you please
1:38come? Are you going to be here? Are you
1:39going to be here? And even if you have a
1:40bunch of other obligations that actually
1:42leads towards a better future like
1:43working or building something for
1:45yourself, something that brings you ROI,
1:47return on investment. See, this is what
1:49you have to understand is women will
1:51constantly try to pull you into their
1:53world into stuff that brings no ROI or
1:56no return on investment.
1:59This is why like a woman, you know, she
2:00might sit there um
2:03you know the girl I'm dating, right? She
2:06sat for like the past 4 days to do a
2:07puzzle. I bought her a puzzle for her
2:10birthday. I got her this puzzle
2:14and she does this for hours and once
2:16it's complete, it's not like that's
2:17going to do anything for her. I would
2:19never sit there and do a puzzle. Food
2:21for thought. That's a whole another
2:22story. Women bring you into things that
2:25bring no return on investment. That's
2:27what they try to get you to do.
2:30Your consistency is why you're
2:32predictable because you serve other
2:34people. Okay? You have to start to focus
2:36on serving yourself. So, my mom, for
2:39example, would text me a bunch of times
2:41in a row. Are you going to be here? Are
2:42you going to be here? Are you going to
2:43be here, please? And she'd call me up,
2:45oh, you know, uh, the brunch is at this
2:48time. Be sure to come. The brunch is at
2:50this time. And she'd keep calling. And
2:51then a lot of times I just say, yeah,
2:53I'll be there. Just to get her to stop
2:55asking me. And then I would just not
2:56show up or I just turn my phone off.
3:00That inconsistency.
3:03Okay. And this wasn't even something
3:04like I was trying to do. This was just
3:07something that like my brother would
3:08call me up and he'd say, "Hey, uh, you
3:09know, you're never around." And it's
3:12funny because mom just doesn't stop
3:13talking about you. Well, the same thing
3:15goes for women. So, when you're dating a
3:17woman, and this is why I call it bum
3:19maxing, okay, for any of you who have
3:21started to see some of the short form
3:23clips that I've made, the reason why I
3:25call it bum maxing is because the bum
3:27does whatever he wants. The bum serves
3:29himself. Now, you can still see I
3:32prioritize my diet. I prioritize my
3:35fitness. I prioritize my sex appeal. I
3:37prioritize the things that I want to
3:39prioritize. But I give zero attention
3:41and zero care to anything that I don't
3:43want to do. So that in my opinion is
3:47alpha because at all times I'm looking
3:50at the highest uh value thing that I
3:52have which is my time and I'm saying do
3:55I want to do this?
3:57And if the answer is no I don't do it.
3:59See, a lot of people, and this is why
4:02even having like a lot of friends or
4:04like a bunch of obligations to other
4:06people can totally ruin your life,
4:08because these people then expect
4:10something of you. There's like this
4:13reciprocal agreement, like reciprocity,
4:15reciprocal. Since they sent you that
4:18text message or they sent that phone
4:19call, now they're expecting you to take
4:21time out of your day to reciprocate.
4:23That's fine with maybe one or two
4:25people, but if you do that with 10, 20,
4:2730 people, you have no time and your
4:29whole life is pulled in a bunch of
4:30different directions because you're
4:33scared to upset somebody. You're scared
4:35to make somebody disappointed. I don't
4:37really care if I upset someone if I
4:40don't want to do something.
4:43You might have to even have this talk or
4:45this conversation with your girlfriend
4:46or your wife and she says, "Please do
4:48this. You got to be here at this time."
4:49And you say, "No, I'm not. I'm going to
4:51go uh shoot basketball. I'm going to the
4:53gym. You got to say what you want.
4:57Because what you have to remember is
4:58this. The more times you try to appease
5:00her in general, it might work for a
5:04little bit because you're consistent,
5:05but long term it turns them off and then
5:07they end up leaving or wanting to cheat
5:09with a guy who's like more alpha in his
5:11own life and puts his time where he
5:12wants. So, this is what I want to tell
5:14you is like
5:17when I say bum maxing, like this is so
5:20important because like over the years,
5:21obviously, I've had a lot of different
5:22clients, a lot of different guys
5:24interact inside my community, my
5:26program, stuff like that. And the guys
5:29who struggle just as much as like a
5:31different type of guy, like guys who are
5:34really successful, have great corporate
5:35jobs, are in sometimes even like good
5:37shape, um dress well. These types of
5:40guys struggle too. And these types of
5:42guys will have women constantly pull
5:43away and exit. So I started to see I'm
5:44like, "Huh, it's a demeanor. It's an
5:46attitude. It's a temperament that these
5:49guys are lacking." And the issue is
5:51they're scared to upset other people.
5:52They constantly say yes to every
5:54obligation. And the biggest thing that
5:57you have to remember is like their word
6:00holds true, which on paper should be a
6:02good thing. Like they'll tell you
6:04they'll be there and they show up.
6:06That's a good thing on paper. But the
6:09problem is is if that guy wakes up that
6:11day and he doesn't want to do that
6:13thing, he still does it just because he
6:15told the other person that he would.
6:18Overall, this is a good thing. This
6:19helps you maintain relationships with
6:21family, friends, stuff like that. But
6:23this can be a very bad thing because
6:26what happens longterm is you're
6:27consistent and predictable. Your
6:29consistency is why you're predictable.
6:32Your predictability is why you're
6:34turning women off. Over the years,
6:36there's been numerous times where I have
6:38had a maybe a flight booked or a
6:41vacation booked and I paid for it and I
6:43might have woke up that day and I said,
6:44"I don't feel like going." You might
6:46think that that sounds harsh, but
6:47nothing shows a higher level of strength
6:50and complete detachment. Because most of
6:52the time when you hear people say that
6:53they have obligations, the truth is that
6:55they just have obligations to other
6:57people, but this typically holds them
6:59back because now they're not putting
7:01their time where they would like to. The
7:03reason why bum maxing is so important is
7:06because this is the men that women
7:07chase. Guys who don't care. Guys who
7:10only serve themselves instead of serving
7:12other people. These guys put themselves
7:14first. If you just put yourself first in
7:17everything. No. Can't. Got to work. Hey,
7:20can you attend this? No, I don't feel
7:22like it. No, I'm going to go do this
7:24instead. No, no, no, no, no. You will
7:28watch so many people try to get access
7:30to your life. you're going to watch so
7:31many people try to get access into um
7:34they automatically think you have
7:35something going on or it's like then
7:37when that woman does get like a sliver
7:39of your attention she values it more. So
7:42this is what you have to remember like
7:47in 2026.
7:50You're watching this play out now more
7:52than ever. And if you just become this
7:54guy with this amount of followers and
7:56this amount of status, now you're going
7:58to have that pipeline of options and a
8:00woman by your side who loves you with a
8:02white picket fence and two kids and a
8:04puppy one day and that amazing marriage.
8:07And look at you. You just grinded really
8:09hard and you put in all that work and
8:11you made all that money and now that
8:13lovely woman respects you. What an
8:15absolute joke. What a total joke. There
8:18is no bigger lie. Women give respect to
8:21the men who act as if he is better than
8:26damn near everybody around him because
8:28he doesn't care what anybody else
8:30expects of him. So, this is the whole
8:33point of this video is you have to get
8:34to a point where you don't care what
8:37other people expect from you because
8:40when you wake up that day, you might not
8:43feel like doing it. And you know what?
8:45That's okay. Because as long as your
8:47bills are paid and you got a roof over
8:48your head and you got food in the
8:49fridge, that my friend is bummaxing to
8:51the highest because that's all you need
8:54to be happy. And she looks at you and
8:56she goes, "Wow, this guy really doesn't
8:57conform to anything that everybody else
8:59wants him to do."
9:02You'll see this too, right? You'll
9:05notice this with people who get like put
9:06in a group chat for text messages.
9:10Let's say there's like an event or
9:12something going on, you know, a boat
9:14party, right? or uh you know dinner
9:16plans over here. Let's say there's 12
9:18people in the group chat on text
9:20message. The guys who are most engaged,
9:23oh yeah, man. Yeah, bro. Blah blah blah
9:25blah blah. Keep talking. Keep talking.
9:27Keep talking. Keep talking. These guys
9:28always have the worst relationships.
9:30They always have the worst relationships
9:32and their life is always headed nowhere
9:33fast because they have no focus. See,
9:35that's another thing, too. A lot of you
9:37guys like introverts, man. Introverts
9:40beat themselves up way too much. Like
9:42introverts just beat themselves up way
9:44too much. They automatically think that
9:46extroverts are always going to win or
9:49they automatically think that extroverts
9:51are cooler. Look, this has been my
9:53experience over the years after having a
9:54lot of friends after just seeing people
9:57show up in life in how things play out.
10:00Typically, introverts are more focused
10:03on their career. They can get ahead way
10:04quicker. They have way more focus and
10:06way more discipline because they don't
10:08say yes to a bunch of different people.
10:10Extroverts say yes to everything. Yes, I
10:12will attend this dinner plan. Yes, I
10:13will attend this uh niece's piano
10:15recital. Yes, I'd love to go networking.
10:18Yes, I'd love to meet that person, too.
10:20Yes, I'd like to be the center at the
10:21party. And because of that, they get
10:24nothing done [snorts] because their time
10:26is spent networking.
10:30Introverts
10:32can still be attractive, can still be
10:35physically attractive, can still be in
10:37amazing shape. A lot of times it's
10:39easier to be in amazing shape because
10:41you only put your time to where you
10:42want. A lot of times it's easier to get
10:44ahead and make more money in your
10:46industry if you're an entrepreneur or if
10:48you're career oriented because it's easy
10:50to get ahead because you have focus
10:53because you've removed the expectation
10:55of needing other people to validate you.
10:58You've also removed the expectation of
11:02caring what other people expect of you.
11:06What I'm trying to say is
11:09your predictability
11:12starts to become a turnoff.
11:14No matter how that sounds, no matter how
11:16that makes you feel,
11:18I want this to sink in one more time. I
11:21understand that on paper to people when
11:24you're a man of your word and you say
11:26what you mean and you always show up no
11:27matter what and you told somebody that
11:29you'd be there and no matter what since
11:31you did say that 100% you're going to be
11:33there and you're going to stay true to
11:34that agreement. That sounds great on
11:36paper and I agree.
11:39That's where words like honor and
11:40respect come into play. However, with
11:44female nature, you watch them reward the
11:46complete opposite. that guy becomes too
11:49stable, too predictable, and then she's
11:51chasing the loser, or she's chasing the
11:53bad boy, or she's chasing the bum, or
11:54she's chasing the guy who doesn't even
11:56have a future. But because his future
11:58doesn't include her in his future, and
12:00he doesn't care what she's up to, he's
12:02now the stronger option. So, she
12:04gravitates to him.
12:06The lessons that I teach on this channel
12:10is a direct reflection of internal
12:13character traits that you cannot see at
12:16face value. I need this to sink in.
12:21The things I teach you on this channel,
12:23I don't care if you are 7 feet tall. I
12:26don't care if you make 10 million bucks
12:28a year. I don't care if you are super
12:30famous. You will run into the exact same
12:33issues with female nature as all of us,
12:36as every single man will. You cannot
12:39make up for the lessons that I teach you
12:41on this channel through looks maxing.
12:44You cannot do it through getting more
12:45aesthetic. You cannot do it through
12:47making more money or becoming higher
12:49value. Those things at face value look
12:53attractive,
12:55but things change a lot when you're
12:57interacting with women sentence by
12:59sentence. And the entire relationship
13:01from the time you say hello to the time
13:03that she decides to go chase somebody
13:05else. A lot can happen there. And it all
13:06comes down to this and what you say and
13:08how you act.
13:11[cough]
13:13I'm still a little bit sick.
13:15So the bum doesn't care. In 2026, I
13:19advise you let the chips fall where they
13:21may.
13:23There's probably millions of dudes out
13:24there, you know, still in the gym with
13:26forearm sleeves, you know, trying to get
13:28the next tattoo to look cool. doesn't
13:30matter. Let all those other guys chase
13:31the next dollar and try to, you know,
13:33level up and whatever the case may be.
13:35You can do those things for yourself if
13:37that's what you want. But listen
13:38closely. There's a lot of guys right now
13:40trying to fit a mold to appease women.
13:43They are trying to fit an aesthetic
13:45image to appease women. They are trying
13:47to make XYZ amount of dollars to keep up
13:50with the Joneses or to keep up with the
13:51next lifestyle trend to appease women.
13:54It is not until you stop attempting to
13:56appease women in the first place and you
13:58do exactly what you want and live
14:00exactly how you want that you now become
14:03that guy. You're now that guy that she
14:05looks at and she goes, "Oh, he's broken.
14:06I want to fix him. Why can't I get him
14:09to comply and listen to what I want to
14:11do? Oh, he seems like a challenge. The
14:14bum is a total challenge. Like, look at
14:17it that way. A lot of times he's
14:18self-centered. He does what he wants. He
14:19could go get a job, but he probably
14:21doesn't. and he lives the way that he
14:22wants regardless of what everybody else
14:24thinks of him in some way, shape, or
14:26form. He's more of a leader in his own
14:29life than a lot of other people despite
14:31having a lot of things. But those people
14:33are just doing those things because they
14:34feel like they have to to keep up their
14:36status or their appearance.
14:38It is not until you break free from the
14:41expectations that other people place on
14:43you that you will finally start to have
14:44dating success. If you like this video,
14:46all I advise you to do is just join the
14:48community that I built. I created an
14:50entire community where I can help you
14:52learn, understand, and master the
14:53language of women. So, one of the things
14:56that I give all the guys inside of that
14:58community is an exact step-by-step
14:59process, which means just do this when
15:03you first meet the woman. Now, do this
15:05on the first one to three dates. Now, do
15:07this when it comes to managing the
15:09long-term relationship. And I teach all
15:12of these details along the way. So,
15:15you're going to want to check that out.
15:17You know, I really intend on this
15:18channel to keep evolving. And I think
15:21that over the years, I go through
15:22different changes and I mature in
15:25different ways that I didn't know I
15:27would. And because of that, I keep
15:28trying to give you the highest level
15:29content that I possibly can give you.
15:31But I'm just here to tell you this.
15:33Those of you who think that you can make
15:34up for the internal character traits
15:36that I'm teaching you through just
15:41superficial things like looks, money, or
15:43status, you are not going to be able to
15:45because sentence by sentence, everything
15:47that you say alters how she perceives
15:50you and she follows where her emotions
15:54go.