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0:00Now, in today's video, I'm going to be
0:02showing you, telling you, and teaching
0:04you why women feel more loved by a man
0:07the less he loves her. Just think about
0:09that for a second.
0:12Women feel more loved by a man the less
0:16he loves her. Okay, stick with me.
0:18There's a couple brutal truths here in
0:21today's video you're going to have to
0:22learn, understand, and internalize. So
0:26brutal truth in life right off the bat
0:28is this. You'll find that the more you
0:31try at anything in life, okay, the
0:34further away your goals are and the
0:36harder they become to achieve. I don't
0:37care if it's a dating goal, I don't care
0:39if it's a relationship goal, okay? Even,
0:42you know, if you take a dude who is
0:44trying to go out to a bar and go and get
0:45laid, him even being in that mindset
0:48like, I really want to go out and get
0:50laid, he probably won't. Meanwhile, the
0:53dude who had no expectation is the one
0:56who ends up getting laid. Keep that in
0:58mind. In life, the harder you try, the
1:01worse off you do. So, listen close,
1:04okay? Once you stop caring, you
1:06naturally attract things without effort.
1:09Once you stop caring, you naturally
1:11attract things without effort. So, the
1:13brutal truth of women that you must
1:15accept is that her emotions are opposite
1:18to your logic. which is why women feel
1:20more loved by a man the less he loves
1:23her. Okay, so the reason why or the
1:26reason being is because women what
1:27you're going to find the more you date.
1:29Okay, women expect a certain amount of
1:32strength from a man and when you're
1:35competent enough to know how to
1:37demonstrate that strength, okay, she
1:40feels the most loved. So when you're
1:43competent enough, when you're smart
1:45enough, okay, to know how to demonstrate
1:49that strength, she feels most loved
1:51because she understands at a core level
1:54what you're doing or how you're acting
1:57and how you're behaving and it's
1:58rewarded. So meanwhile, the guy who
2:02actually claims he loves her or the guy
2:04who really, really, really loves her for
2:06real, this guy, she won't even text
2:08message him back. Could be a husband,
2:12could be a boyfriend, it doesn't matter.
2:13When you act incorrectly with women,
2:16it's like they just naturally become
2:18repulsed by you. They naturally become
2:21repulsed and they'll just exit. And
2:23she'll do this without any remorse and
2:26it's like her emotions completely close
2:28off to you and it's like she doesn't
2:30care if she ever sees you again or not.
2:32Um, that's just how it happens. Okay?
2:36So, you have to start getting used to
2:38sharing less things about yourself with
2:41the women that you date. I'll say that
2:44again. Start getting used to sharing
2:46less things about yourself with the
2:48women that you date. And I'll give you
2:50an example. Here's an example. Okay?
2:53You're dating a woman and let's say you
2:55love her a lot. You love her a lot. You
2:58really like her. Okay? And since you
2:59love her a lot, you start to actually
3:01feel like you know her on a
3:03persontoperson level, which allows you
3:05to feel like you can open up. So now
3:07here's what happens. You start
3:08oversharing. You start oversharing.
3:10Let's say there's office drama or let's
3:12say your business all of a sudden isn't
3:14going well and you decide to share that
3:17that you're really stressed. Let's say
3:19um there's financial uncertainty. Let's
3:21say there's fear of the future of what's
3:24going to happen at the office. I don't
3:25really care what it is. Or let's say
3:27you're claiming that you aren't happy
3:28all of a sudden with how things are
3:30going in your life. Well, this creates a
3:32negative existence. This creates a
3:35feeling that there's future uncertainty.
3:38So, now she feels unsafe and pulls away
3:40even further even though you really love
3:42her. So, this is what you have to
3:44understand. You need to start getting
3:46used to sharing less things about
3:48yourself with the women that you're
3:49dating. So, you may actually love her.
3:52Like, you may love her and you may
3:53actually tell yourself that. Okay? But
3:55this is what you have to understand is
3:57despite you being in the situation where
3:59you would protect, you would provide,
4:02um, you would basically do whatever you
4:04need to do to have a future with her,
4:06but now she starts testing your core.
4:09She starts testing your core identity.
4:11She starts testing what your core is
4:13made up of. And now when you've revealed
4:15all this stuff about yourself, see,
4:17here's the thing. You sharing all this
4:19stuff, oh, my business is this, I feel
4:21like this, it doesn't change anything
4:23about the circumstance. So, you might as
4:25well just not even say it at all because
4:27it's not like you sharing any of this
4:29fixes the situation or the circumstance
4:31and how you feel is completely
4:32irrelevant because it doesn't change the
4:34circumstance. You're better off just not
4:35sharing anything.
4:38Okay, this is what happens is most guys
4:41don't know these things. So then the
4:43woman that they really want to be with,
4:44they say the wrong thing and it
4:45completely turns her off because he's
4:47revealed his love. He's revealed his
4:48interest level. So in life, the less you
4:51try, okay, and the less you care, the
4:55more you're going to notice that
4:56positive energy flows your way that
4:59actually leads to an attractive outcome.
5:01I'll say that one more time. Positive
5:03energy flows your way, which leads to a
5:06good, healthy, positive outcome. So what
5:09actually happens? Okay, or think about
5:12this.
5:13What actually happens when you try to
5:15start to control things, okay? You start
5:18to try to control things. You start to
5:20try to control outcomes and then things
5:22shift. Okay. What happens?
5:26Okay. Well, think of it this way. Okay.
5:28Start at the top.
5:31The less you care and the less you try,
5:33the more energy flows your way, that
5:35leads to a positive, attractive outcome.
5:38But what happens when you try to control
5:40things? What happens? Things shift. All
5:43of a sudden, you start trying to control
5:44outcomes.
5:46You start caring about saying and doing
5:48the right thing. You start trying to
5:50micromanage circumstances and
5:52expectations and now you're punished and
5:56you do not receive favorable outcomes.
5:58This is what happens when you attempt to
5:59basically micromanage outcomes. It's
6:02almost like you're playing God. You
6:04cannot play God. Life is just going to
6:06unfold the way that life unfolds. And
6:08the more you try to micromanage all
6:10these details, the more you'll be
6:11punished. Okay? And now you don't
6:14receive favorable outcomes. So, the art
6:16of truly like not caring for most guys,
6:19this takes a lifetime to master because
6:22you're mastering a lot of things here.
6:23You're mastering sense of self. You're
6:25mastering identity. You're mastering
6:26your stoicism, your discipline, your
6:28emotions. All of these things take a lot
6:30of hours to almost like master your own
6:33psychology
6:34to have a strong sense of self and be
6:36okay with where you're at and letting
6:38life unfold. So, this is why women feel
6:41more loved the less you love them. Okay.
6:45It's because she knows that it takes
6:47strength. She knows that it takes
6:48strength. She knows that it takes a
6:50level of emotional willpower. She knows
6:51it takes discipline and stoicism to
6:54master your own emotional state. So now
6:57she rewards you fully. Think about that.
7:00Now she rewards you fully. Okay? The
7:02second that you all of a sudden slip,
7:05you notice a dip in her energy. When you
7:08slip up, okay, you notice a dip in her
7:10energy. And that means men are so
7:13worried about losing her or her losing
7:15interest that she never even gets a
7:18chance to worry if you'll lose interest.
7:20She never even gets a chance to worry if
7:22you will. Let's go through all this one
7:24more time. The second that you start to
7:27slip up, you notice a dip in energy. It
7:31doesn't mean that she's going to leave
7:32you right then and there, but you're
7:33going to notice that one conversation or
7:35that one sentence. It's a micro shift in
7:39dynamic and it can be corrected. Okay. A
7:41lot of times it can be corrected. You
7:43just give a little bit of patience.
7:45Sometimes it takes a minute, sometimes
7:46it takes 30 minutes, sometimes it takes
7:48an hour, whatever. By getting back into
7:51the right energy, you'll notice that
7:53things start to work itself out.
7:55However, the second that you notice a
7:57dip in her energy, okay, you have to
8:00correct that. And what you're going to
8:02find is men who are worried about
8:03micromanaging every little outcome. It's
8:05like they're so worried about her losing
8:07interest, she never actually has the
8:09chance to worry if you'll lose interest,
8:11which means now the relationship dynamic
8:13is one-sided where she has all the
8:15leverage over you and your emotional
8:17state. And this is not good. Okay, so
8:19stick with me here.
8:21As you get older, okay, yes, you
8:25demonstrate active masculine energy at
8:27pursuing your own goals ruthlessly,
8:30relentlessly. You pursue your own goals.
8:32It's like you do not tolerate weakness
8:36in your own life where it's like you uh
8:38will just give up. Okay? You ruthlessly
8:41and relentlessly attack your own goals,
8:44that is demonstrating active masculine
8:46energy. Okay? But what you're going to
8:49find is the more you just only focus on
8:51you and you're a leader for yourself and
8:54in your own life, what you're going to
8:56find with age and wisdom and the more
8:58you date is that women lead the whole
9:00relationship. You have been taught or
9:02you have been convinced as a man, okay,
9:05to attempt to lead and give effort and
9:07emphasis and energy to planning dates,
9:11trying to talk to her, trying to ask
9:13when she's free. And all that happens is
9:15you're essentially chasing her schedule.
9:18You're chasing her schedule and you're
9:19chasing to essentially figure out when
9:21she's free so that way you can hopefully
9:24see her. And this doesn't work. Women
9:26lead the whole relationship when you
9:28lead yourself. And what that means is we
9:30as men, we were taught wrong. Okay?
9:35You leading by setting plans and giving
9:38effort and taking initiative does one
9:40thing. It reveals your interest level.
9:43Okay. And you being convinced of this,
9:46okay? This was designed by women
9:48essentially as manipulation to get you
9:50to reveal your interest level so they
9:52can filter out which men they don't
9:54want. Which is why women choose to
9:56repetitively sleep with essentially guys
9:59who on paper would appear to be passive
10:02non-leaders. It's like he makes no
10:04effort to see her. He doesn't really
10:06care if he sees her again or not. She's
10:08constantly the one asking him when he's
10:10free. this is the dynamic that she wants
10:13because this is a guy that she chases.
10:15And if you were to see the text message
10:17and the phone call history, you would be
10:19looking at this going, "Wo, why does she
10:21want him? This is completely opposite to
10:22what I've been taught. It's almost like
10:24he sits there passively and doesn't even
10:26care if anything happens." But that's
10:28the energy that she responds to.
10:30Essentially, you being convinced of the
10:32wrong things essentially was designed in
10:36a way to manipulate your emotional state
10:39so that way she can see which men have
10:41the highest interest. So, she can just
10:43instantly disqualify them and not sleep
10:45with them. What you're going to find is
10:47women truly only start to sleep with the
10:49men who appear as if they don't care if
10:50they see her again or not. That's the
10:53men that women repetitively chase. So,
10:56I'm going to put up um this short form
10:58clip that I made yesterday. I'm going to
11:00post this right now so you can see this.
11:03The real reason why women claim that
11:04they want leaders is so they can reject
11:06you because you've now revealed your
11:08interest level. Listen to me closely.
11:11You have been programmed wrong. Listen,
11:14the more you sit passive and don't try
11:16to lead anything, the more you keep it
11:20super nonchalant where she can't figure
11:22you out why you're not attempting to
11:24give effort. Listen, as soon as you lead
11:26anything, let's do this. Made some plans
11:28to do this. Yeah. Okay, you've now
11:30revealed your interest level. And she'll
11:33claim that she wants this. She will
11:35claim that she wants you to plan more
11:37things and lead more things only. So
11:39that way she gets you to open up, reveal
11:41your interest level. Show that you want
11:43to see her. Show that you have desire to
11:45keep meeting up with her. All so she can
11:47one day go
11:50fell asleep. Totally forgot to reply.
11:54Yeah, I was so busy yesterday.
11:57That's how that'll go. To conclude the
11:59video, what I'm trying to say is this.
12:01Don't fall for it. Don't fall for any of
12:04it. Don't reveal your interest level. If
12:07you hear these things like, "Oh, I want
12:08a man to love me. I want a man to always
12:10set the date. I want a man to always see
12:12what I'm up to. I want a man to uh
12:14always call me through the day and ask
12:16how I'm feeling." All of the stuff. It's
12:18just designed to get you to reveal your
12:20interest level. Now, you're more easily
12:22manipulated. And now, um now that other
12:25dude in her office looks a lot more
12:27enticing than you. If you like this
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