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0:00I want all of you to understand this. If
0:03she is the hottest that you have ever
0:06been with, you've already lost her.
0:10Even if that hurts to hear, I'll say it
0:12one more time.
0:15If she is the hottest that you have ever
0:18been with in your whole life,
0:21you're having all those thoughts when
0:23you two are sleeping together. You're
0:24banging her.
0:26It's real good.
0:28You think she's so beautiful. You're
0:30sitting there going, "Oh my gosh, look
0:31at the smile on her. Look at her hair.
0:34I'm going to marry this woman. I love
0:36her so much."
0:38Oh, it feels so good. If she's the
0:40hottest you've ever been with,
0:42you have already lost her.
0:45If she's the hottest you've ever been
0:47with, you were already about to lose
0:48her. You were going to lose her. I think
0:50that anybody who comments on this video
0:52can testify to this as well.
0:55Because you will notice that it is very,
0:57very true.
0:59Now, there's some reasonings for this,
1:01but there's light at the end of the
1:02tunnel because I'm about to be 30 years
1:05old this year.
1:06And I have a framework for how I've
1:08carried my own life. And I thought of
1:11this today, and I'd like to share it
1:13with you.
1:14But the first thing we have to address
1:16is we have to address this one thing and
1:19why wisdom and learned experience only
1:22comes with time.
1:23It only comes with painful lessons, and
1:25it only comes with heartbreak.
1:27You as a man are only going to transform
1:30into your best self through heartbreak
1:34and through frustration and through
1:36figuring out what not to do. I don't
1:38care what anybody else tells you.
1:41There's going to be a lot of influencers
1:43that you watch or that you see that want
1:45to talk about dating, and people will
1:48ask them and say, "Have you ever been
1:49heartbroken?" And most of them are
1:51probably going to lie to you and tell
1:53you no because they want to protect
1:54their social image or their reputation
1:57or they want to look like the man.
1:59Because I don't care how I look at all
2:02for the most part,
2:04and I'd like to just have these
2:05discussions with you to get you the
2:07right information. I'm going to tell you
2:09this.
2:11Every single man that you see
2:14has been through something that has
2:16molded him into who he is.
2:18And it was most likely because of a
2:20woman.
2:21That's not good or bad. That just is.
2:23That's how life typically unfolds. But
2:25if she's the hottest that you've ever
2:26been with, you have already lost her,
2:28and here's why. Your mannerisms in your
2:31speech, the way you look at her, the way
2:33you smile, she's going to notice that
2:35you have a little sparkle in your eye
2:37that's way different.
2:39And you're going to look at her
2:40differently, and you're going to treat
2:41her differently than you would anybody
2:43else.
2:44And she's going to feel
2:47in her heart of hearts like she means a
2:49lot to you, and that's going to turn her
2:50off because she's going to wonder what
2:52she did to deserve this treatment. And
2:54then she's going to realize that she
2:56didn't do anything to deserve this
2:57treatment. She's just pretty, and to her
2:59that's not going to be a good enough
3:00reason because she has not had to earn
3:02you.
3:03So, that's the first lesson. The second
3:06thing you have to understand is your
3:07subcommunication,
3:09okay?
3:10And what that means is the nuances in
3:12your speech and your vocal tone changes
3:15when you're around her.
3:17This is going to be subconscious on your
3:19end, but it is going to happen. And then
3:20last but not least is this one very
3:23important thing.
3:25If she's the hottest that you've ever
3:26been with, you will notice that you
3:28typically have run-on sentences. Run-on
3:31sentences means that if you go through
3:33all of your text message history, right?
3:35Let's say you two were dating for four
3:36or five months, and you lost her. I
3:39would almost guarantee that if you went
3:40back and you read your text messages and
3:43you looked at what you were saying and
3:45what you were doing, you were
3:46overexplaining or you were sending too
3:48many words at a time.
3:50And this probably even showed up when
3:52you were talking to her one-to-one in
3:54real life.
3:56If you look at your text messages, you
3:57used 10 words when seven would have done
4:00the trick.
4:01You used 15 words in that sentence or in
4:04those sentences when you could have got
4:06your point across with
4:07eight or nine words. And because you
4:10overexplained, because you
4:12overcommunicated, because you said too
4:14much,
4:16because you were very clear. See, this
4:18is the thing. The hotter the woman gets,
4:20the more you feel as if you're
4:23needing to be extremely clear so that
4:26way there's no room for interpretation.
4:28You're going to notice this if your
4:29interest isn't as high. You'll just send
4:31some text messages. There's probably no
4:33punctuation. You don't care, and you
4:35almost feel as if, you know, it's her
4:36job to figure out where that text goes
4:38or what those words mean and what you
4:40actually meant, and you just understand
4:42and you have full trust and full
4:43confidence that she'll just figure it
4:45out, and then she'll respond to you.
4:46Well, you don't do that with the hot
4:47woman. The hot woman, you're very
4:49specific with what you say. It's very
4:51crystal clear. It's almost worded in a
4:53way where it's a bit weird. Because she
4:55looks at it, and she goes, "Why is this
4:56so
4:59Why is this formatted this way?" And
5:02you're going to notice your
5:02communication pattern is different.
5:05Well, how do you fix all this? Okay, how
5:07do you How do you change this, and how
5:09do you actually level up as a man?
5:11Okay. And on top of that, how do you
5:13level up as a man without losing who you
5:15actually are? See, there's a lot of guys
5:17they lose themselves to pick up tactics.
5:20They lose themselves to different
5:21manosphere influencers, and they are
5:23neglecting the fundamentals of what
5:26makes a man a man.
5:27They're neglecting the fundamentals of
5:29purpose and identity, okay?
5:33There's three things
5:35that I wrote down today. As I approach
5:38my 30s and I look back on my life, what
5:40are the things that I'm doing? What are
5:41the things that I'm looking at? What is
5:43my mindset like? There's three things,
5:45okay? The very first principle, okay?
5:47Actually, I'm going to do this. I'm
5:48going to tell you the whole framework
5:49first, and then we're going to go
5:51through each and every one one by one.
5:53What I wrote down in my notebook today,
5:56there's three things that a man must do.
5:57First is seek God. Number two would be
6:00survive, and number three would be
6:02replicate.
6:03This is super, super, super simple.
6:06Super simple. The reason why I wrote it
6:08down like this and the reason why it
6:09sounds like an absolute no-brainer is
6:11because this is common knowledge.
6:13However, common knowledge is not always
6:15common practice. We live in a world
6:17today where men complicate things.
6:19People complicate things.
6:21Doesn't matter if it's television,
6:23movies, music. People's minds go in a
6:26million different directions all day.
6:28And you lose the fundamental of what it
6:30means to be a human being.
6:32A human being, there's multi-dimensions
6:34to you. There's multi-parts to you,
6:36right? Some days you're happy, some days
6:38you're sad, some days you feel good,
6:39some days you're confident, some days
6:41you're not, and that's anybody. I don't
6:42care how tall you are, I don't care how
6:43much money you make, I don't care where
6:44you're at with your career. Every single
6:46man is going to go through some things.
6:49Well, when I wanted to boil down what it
6:51actually means to be a human being and
6:53to be a man that can actually succeed
6:54and get ahead and attract hot women and
6:57actually um live a life that's
6:59meaningful, I think it comes down to
7:01these three things. And if I really look
7:03at where my mind and my vision and my
7:05focus is going, especially over the past
7:07like 18 months now as I approach my 30s,
7:10this is the core framework that I'm
7:12looking at.
7:13Number one, I wrote down seek God.
7:15Number two, survive. And number three,
7:17replicate. Here's what happens when you
7:19seek God, okay? I wholeheartedly believe
7:23in God.
7:25I think a lot of you who have watched
7:26this channel know this about me.
7:29Um I definitely have an element of
7:31faith.
7:33Um and
7:35I think that it's very important.
7:37I think that me as a human being, I
7:39think that it's absolutely amazing that
7:41if I just tell myself to move my hand, I
7:43can move it.
7:45I think that that's a god-like feature.
7:48That we can think and we can speak and
7:50we can do these things and we have
7:52consciousness. I think that that's a
7:53blessing, and I think that most people
7:55overlook that, okay? The fact that I can
7:57look at my hand and I go, "Move my
7:59pointer finger," and it moves, and I can
8:00say, "Move my pinky," and it moves. That
8:02is amazing to me. So, I think as a human
8:05being, as a man, okay? You have to seek
8:07a god, and that's number one. And the
8:08reason why that's number one is because
8:10you can't get to number two and number
8:11three without this. You can, but you're
8:13going to have a brutal path, and I'll
8:15explain why. When you seek a god, okay?
8:19And you're focusing on your god-given
8:22calling, your god-given mission. You can
8:24You can say this in a lot of different
8:26ways. You can call it your god-given
8:27mission. You can call it your god-given
8:28purpose. You know, there's a lot of guys
8:30that get really um you know,
8:33the language that they use is really
8:34emotionally charged, and I'm not trying
8:36to do it like that. I'm trying to just
8:38get you the point across here, okay?
8:40When you seek God, you can hopefully
8:42find your purpose or your calling in
8:44life because you see what skills you
8:47have. And when you see what skills you
8:49have, you can step into your identity,
8:52okay? Me, I believe that I was good at
8:54speaking, and I believe that I was good
8:56at speaking and talking to other men.
8:59So, I stepped into that calling. You see
9:01what I'm saying? I stepped into that
9:02calling, which allowed me to
9:04get to point number two, which is
9:06survive. Okay, when you look at survival
9:10in general,
9:11okay? The reason why this is number two
9:13in my framework is because
9:15if you don't seek God,
9:17it's going to be hard for you to
9:19understand what god-given skills you
9:21were blessed with, to understand where
9:22to put your time. So, this is where when
9:25you see guys um chasing money, for
9:27example, they're typically like lost or
9:29they become lost souls because they're
9:31always just looking for the way to make
9:33the next dollar or they're always just
9:34looking for the next opportunity or
9:36they're always looking for the next
9:37thing to do, but they have not embodied
9:41the word career. And the word career
9:43comes from identity. So, let me give an
9:45example.
9:46Let's say a man
9:48has looked at his life, and he's he's
9:50seeking God, and he says, "God, please
9:51give me the strength. Please give me the
9:53ability to listen to the calling that
9:56you have for me so I can put my skills
9:58and my time where I need to.
10:01And let's say he starts to really, you
10:04know,
10:05step into whatever he feels is best for
10:08himself, and he steps into all of
10:11these different things that he slowly
10:13starts to see. Okay? He steps into his
10:15God-given calling. He tries to get
10:17aligned in his faith, and because of
10:18that, he sees that doors open for him
10:21because he listened. And let's say he
10:23has an interest and a skill set in,
10:25let's say, aviation, and he decides to
10:26become a pilot. Okay? The reason why
10:29point number two is survive is because
10:31because that man has now pursued a
10:33career which is rooted in identity
10:35because he listened to his God-given
10:37skill set, it's easier for him to
10:39survive. His survival is now amplified.
10:42So, listen close. When you step into
10:44identity and calling, okay,
10:47survival becomes amplified because
10:50the monetary success that you achieve is
10:54a byproduct of following that calling.
10:57So, maybe his first year as a pilot,
10:59maybe he makes 80 grand. But because he
11:01just loves being a pilot so much, and he
11:04sticks with that one thing for 20 years,
11:06and he tells himself, "You know what?
11:07God gave me skills to be an amazing
11:09pilot."
11:1020 years later, he looks down the road,
11:13and he's making millions of dollars per
11:14year because he pursued what he feels
11:18like he was meant to do. Okay? So, this
11:20is how you have a good survival. You
11:23have a good survival as a man when
11:24you're aligned in faith, and you pursue
11:26your God-given calling. I'm going to let
11:27you in on a little secret as well. This
11:29is also when you have the clearest best
11:31conscience.
11:33Okay? Because you feel as if you're not
11:35doing things and just putting your time
11:36into areas for your own, um, gain or
11:39because you see an opportunity, you
11:41actually know yourself and you know
11:42where you're going.
11:44You might be saying at this point in the
11:45video, "Casey, how does this tie into,
11:47um, if she's the hottest woman I've ever
11:50been with? How does this tie into that
11:51at the beginning of the video? How does
11:53that actually tie in?" I'm going to show
11:55you, but you have to stick with me
11:57because this will all make sense in a
11:58second.
11:59When you seek God, it helps your
12:00survival.
12:01So, that man is now aligned in his
12:03faith. As he's aligned in his faith, his
12:05survival's easier. He's making the type
12:07of money that he wants because his
12:09career path that he's chosen is rooted
12:10in identity, and he now has vision.
12:13Hm. So, what comes with this?
12:16Being grounded in who you are, not
12:18having your emotions constantly in
12:20chaos, pulled in a million different
12:21directions because you don't have a
12:23path.
12:24Well, what happens when a woman sees
12:26that you have these character traits?
12:27She sees that you're stable and strong.
12:30Okay? Now, listen.
12:33There is a very big difference between
12:35short-term getting laid and having the
12:38rock-solid rooted masculine identity
12:42characteristics where a woman looks at
12:43you and goes, "There is no way in hell I
12:45can replace him." Or at least not very
12:48easily.
12:49Okay?
12:51There's a big difference between a woman
12:53finding a hot guy to just sleep with or
12:55have a fling with for a couple months
12:58and stuff fizzles out, and her actually
13:00finding a man that she's like,
13:03"I'm so attached to this guy and his
13:05overall aura and being because he knows
13:07himself that it's so hard for me to
13:09replace him. Like, I'm so attracted to
13:11this guy, I can't leave him." That's the
13:12mindset you want her to be in. The only
13:15way you do this is if you get aligned on
13:17your survival. Women look at a man's
13:19survival value. And your internal
13:21confidence and your strength within
13:23yourself is stronger, your survival
13:26value is more rooted in who you are when
13:28it's
13:30like
13:32made from identity.
13:34Okay? And this comes from you seeking
13:35God. Well, the last piece that you have
13:38to do then is just replicate.
13:40So,
13:41if you get these first two pillars on
13:43point, number one, seek God, and number
13:45two, survival. What is survival? When
13:47you seek God, you have alignment with
13:50your beliefs and your actions. And who
13:53you are is who you say you are, and who
13:55you think you are is who you actually
13:57have became. Well, that's where your
13:58confidence comes from. So, now you're
14:01the guy who is the same no matter who
14:04you are. And this is really important
14:06because being a human, okay, there's a
14:08lot of different pieces to you. Now, all
14:10of a sudden, you feel confident in your
14:13financial life and in your financial
14:14future. When you're socializing with
14:16people, you're happy with who you
14:17became. So, it's easy for you to speak
14:19and to communicate and be free-flowing
14:21and have good open dialogue and
14:23conversation because you like who you
14:24are. Okay?
14:27This is common sense, but common sense
14:29is not always common practice. And then
14:31the last thing now is replicate, and
14:32that becomes very easy.
14:34You should be looking at every dating
14:36interaction that you go into, and you
14:38say,
14:39"What is this woman's character traits
14:41like? Could I see myself having a family
14:43with this woman?"
14:45Like,
14:46at the end of the day, that's what,
14:48like, when you actually look at like
14:50reproduction,
14:51when you're with a woman in the bedroom,
14:53what is sex? Sex leads to reproduction.
14:56Think about that for a second. So,
14:58replicate. That is the last piece of a
14:59man's life. If you're surviving and
15:01replicating, you typically have a good
15:03existence.
15:04When you see a lot of guys in a negative
15:06mindset because they can't get a
15:08girlfriend,
15:10well, they can't get a girlfriend or
15:11they can't attract a woman, which means
15:13they can't replicate, and typically it's
15:15because
15:17their character traits and their ability
15:20to have excellent survival, which is the
15:22second piece to my framework that I just
15:24showed you,
15:25is flawed. And it's flawed because it
15:27doesn't start at the top yet for them.
15:29And that is why you need to seek God.
15:32When you seek God,
15:34you can build a career and you can build
15:36an identity, and you can build a purpose
15:38that's rooted in faith, which means you
15:40know who you are because you've listened
15:41to your God-given calling, your survival
15:44gets better. You make the type of money
15:46that you want to make. You start
15:47naturally aligning yourself with people
15:49who, um, have similar beliefs and
15:51similar talents. You build a community.
15:53You build a network. You build friends
15:55that are part of that social circle. You
15:57all of a sudden have direction and
15:58vision in life. That is awesome. That's
16:00a blessing. It's going to be almost hard
16:01for you not to attract women at that
16:03point, which means the replication
16:05piece, reproduction, is going to get
16:07easy because you have women that
16:09actually view you as a viable option,
16:10but it starts at the top. Most men are
16:12not seeking and pursuing their God-given
16:14faith the right way,
16:16and because of that,
16:18from the top down, okay, it's broken.
16:22Like, the fundamental base of who they
16:23are is broken. It's not rooted in faith.
16:25This is extremely important to
16:26understand because when you do this,
16:29all of a sudden,
16:30you don't have to worry about saying the
16:32right thing.
16:33You become who you are.
16:36And you're going to notice that certain
16:37women, okay, really, really take to your
16:40personality positively.
16:42Now, as I approach my 30s, this is like
16:45a core framework. Like,
16:47when I wake up each day,
16:49am I seeking God, and is this amplifying
16:51my survival? If it's amplifying my
16:52survival, keep doing it.
16:56You might be saying, "Well, Casey,
16:57at the beginning of this video, you told
16:59me that if she's the hottest woman
17:03that I've ever been with,
17:05I'm going to lose her."
17:07Listen close. The hottest woman that
17:09you're ever with or that you're with at
17:11the time that you will lose, she's most
17:14likely a lesson in your life
17:16because God wants to probably show you
17:18what you could have had
17:21if you would have been
17:22the masculine man that you know you need
17:23to be.
17:25This is what
17:26you will find. Okay? Every single time
17:30in life
17:31that you go through that heartbreak or
17:33that you go through that painful
17:34experience or that you go through, um,
17:36that situation with that woman where you
17:38thought she was so amazing, you will
17:40notice that if you really zoom out
17:43and you really zoom back and you really
17:45look at all the conversation, you were
17:47not focused on your higher-up mission
17:49and vision and purpose.
17:51You were not pursuing God. She was your
17:53entire center. She was your entire
17:55center, and she could feel that. And
17:57because she could feel that weakness,
17:58she pulled away. She was probably a
18:00lesson.
18:01She was a lesson, and she was sent to
18:03you, and she was sent to you to show you
18:04where you need to get better.
18:06You see, anytime a woman exits your
18:08life, it's almost like a slap in the
18:09face in a quick hurry where you will
18:11show, you will be shown where you were
18:14flawed.
18:15You will start to see very quickly what
18:17went wrong if you have the wisdom to
18:20actually look inside yourself and say,
18:21"Hey, what can I do to get better?"
18:24But it starts at the top. So, this is my
18:26core framework that I'm living by or
18:28that I have decided to live by as I
18:30start to approach my 30s.
18:32And because of that, because I believe
18:34that God has blessed me with certain
18:36skills in order to communicate messages
18:38to you,
18:39because I believe this,
18:41I have created my own community. And I
18:43created my community to help you learn,
18:45understand, and master the language of
18:47women. And one of the dudes in my
18:48community, um, a few days ago, he goes,
18:51"This course transformed my whole life,
18:53and I realized girls is just a bonus you
18:56get when you got your life figured out
18:59and follow your calling to become the
19:03best version of yourself you can
19:05possibly become."
19:08This is the missing link for most men is
19:11they are not pursuing their craft and
19:14their calling.
19:16And that's why she exits your life is
19:19because she can see that she's the
19:22placeholder for
19:24that missing piece in your life, which
19:26is that calling, that purpose. She can
19:27see that she's became that center for
19:31you.
19:32And when she sees that, when she feels
19:33that, that's when you start to
19:34over-communicate your interest level.
19:36That's why she pulls away from you.
19:39You are not pursuing excellence
19:41at what God has blessed you with.
19:44And when I look at my life, um,
19:49I just think that this is a really
19:50important message for me to make. Um,
19:53and that's why like I just think it's
19:54amazing like if you even look at the
19:55first sentence here when he says, "This
19:57course transformed my whole life."
20:00I think a lot of times when we read
20:02stuff, we just read it and it goes in
20:04one ear and out the other. But if you
20:06actually look at those words, "This
20:07course transformed my life."
20:10This is a man. This is a human being,
20:13okay?
20:15With his life.
20:17And when he says, "This course
20:19transformed my whole life." That means
20:21that the way he's moving and operating
20:23is most likely different.
20:25It transformed his life.
20:27And I think we as men, we want life
20:29transformation. We want it. We claim we
20:32want it, but we don't take the action
20:34steps needed to get there.
20:36So because of that, I invite you to
20:38actually take that next step and join us
20:40inside the community that I built so I
20:42can help you learn, understand, and
20:44master the language of women because I
20:45have been making so many of these
20:47videos, I genuinely feel like I can help
20:49you. I think I've done this for so many
20:50years now that I think I teach this
20:52stuff better than anybody. And I believe
20:54in my heart of hearts that there's
20:55nobody better at teaching this than me
20:58because I don't know anybody else really
20:59that's dedicated this much time to
21:01actually talking about this stuff in the
21:02first place. So because this is like all
21:04I've done, because I really have
21:07not a lot of hobbies or interests. I
21:09like to lift weights. I like to shoot my
21:11bow that I have.
21:13Um,
21:14you know, I
21:16I have my select friends that I hang out
21:18with, but I really pursue my vision and
21:21my craft because I try to seek God. And
21:25there's been a lot of times in my life
21:26where I've been laying in bed at night
21:28and I feel like
21:30God has called me to do this stuff.
21:34And I want all of you to experience
21:36that, too.