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0:00All right. So, today we got to talk
0:02man-to-man
0:04because this is pretty important. You
0:06have to find that one thing in your life
0:09that just makes you tick.
0:11Like that one thing that makes you love
0:13life. And not a lot of guys have this,
0:16okay? Like most guys don't have this.
0:23And what that means is like they might
0:25have a job, they might have a career
0:28path,
0:29but they don't have that one thing that
0:31just makes them tick. That one thing
0:33that they just love.
0:35Okay?
0:37Now, the only way you get to this point
0:40of figuring this out of what that thing
0:42is for you
0:44is if you stop idolizing content
0:46creators.
0:47Okay? If you stop idolizing content
0:50creators. I will say that again. You
0:51have to stop idolizing these influencers
0:54and these content creators, okay? Here's
0:56why.
0:59As I've gotten older, I've met some of
1:00these dudes in person.
1:03The first thing you have to know is most
1:04of them are broke because they don't
1:06have any value to give to other people.
1:08They maybe have found out how to get
1:10value to themselves for likes and
1:11validation, but no one's paying them for
1:14their full day of eating tutorials and
1:16their jawline tutorials so they look
1:18hot, you know, in their photos. Okay?
1:20Because that's what most
1:22uh content creators and influencers are,
1:25okay? And what you have right now is you
1:26have a generation of men. You have a
1:28generation of young men specifically
1:31idolizing that.
1:35And you think it's going to get you
1:36women.
1:37You think it's going to get you women
1:38and it might short term.
1:40Right? Like it might generate you a few
1:42options, but this is not going to lead
1:44to any life fulfillment. And keep in
1:46mind, most of these guys also can't
1:49retain the women in their life that they
1:51want to because they're missing a core
1:54identity. They're missing a piece of the
1:56core identity. So, to be a complete man,
1:59okay?
2:03To be a complete man, you have to have a
2:05common sense of identity.
2:09Okay, and this is tied into your
2:11purpose. This is tied into why God made
2:14you. This is tied into who you are as an
2:16individual. This is tied into basically
2:19everything that makes you you, okay?
2:22Because the first thing you have to do
2:24to get clear on this is you have to look
2:26in the mirror and you have to tell
2:27yourself, "Okay, I'm unique.
2:29There's only one of me. Like God only
2:32made one of me. When I look in the
2:33mirror, there's only one Casey Zander.
2:35Just me.
2:37So, I could do things the way that
2:38everybody else does, but that's not
2:39cool. That's not how God made me. God
2:41made me unique. So, you have to find
2:43your own unique path. I'm glad that we
2:44got that out of the way.
2:46Once we've addressed this, the reason
2:49why you have to find that one thing that
2:51makes you tick is because I would argue
2:54that you don't even know who you are,
2:57okay?
3:00You don't even know who you are. And
3:02what that means is
3:04your mind has been shaped by your
3:06surroundings, okay? So, the music that
3:10you've listened to over the years shapes
3:11you into what you think is cool or what
3:13you think you need to be like, okay?
3:16The movies that you watch
3:18shapes you into what you think, you
3:20know, a man is or what a man should be
3:22or how you should be.
3:24The career path that your friends go
3:25down, you think that this is all of a
3:27sudden something that you should do
3:28because everybody else is doing it.
3:30The things that your parents told you or
3:32the things that, you know, magazines
3:33told you or whatever the case may be.
3:35Now, the reason why this is so important
3:37is because I already know that most of
3:39you would like a better dating life. And
3:41women can tell who is fake in a quick
3:44hurry, okay? Especially in some of these
3:47bigger cities, like last year, um you
3:50know, I lived in like the Scottsdale
3:51Paradise Valley area and
3:56women have seen it all.
3:58You know, this guy leases the expensive
4:00car because, you know, he wants to look
4:02cool. You know, this guy um wants to
4:04look like the bad boy, so he gets a
4:06bunch of, you know, tattoos. You know,
4:08it's like all this stuff and women can
4:10just sense that these men are just just
4:13struggling so bad to find out who they
4:16are.
4:17And what you have is you have a bunch of
4:19men following trends.
4:21You have a bunch of men following trends
4:23because they think it's what they should
4:24do. And the problem with that is your
4:25mind has became passive. Okay, your mind
4:29has became passive and your mind became
4:31really weak because what happens is
4:33you're influenced by your surroundings
4:34and you conform to what you think the
4:36normal way of doing stuff is or you
4:39conform to what the status quo is. But
4:41the older you get and the more stronger
4:43sense of self that you have, you start
4:45to realize that there is no such thing
4:47as a status quo. There is no such thing
4:48as the normal way of doing things
4:50because the normal way of doing things
4:51is just somebody who had the confidence
4:53in the first place to say this is the
4:55way.
4:56Okay. This goes really deep because,
4:59like,
5:02most men don't have their own opinions.
5:04They have the opinions that everybody
5:05else has.
5:08There's nothing unique about them. So,
5:10we need to we need to really address
5:13this here, the differences between the
5:14masculine and the feminine. The
5:16differences between the masculine and
5:18the feminine would be this. The
5:19masculine has a sense of uniqueness. The
5:23masculine has a sense of
5:27um
5:28persuasiveness because you're supposed
5:31to be interesting.
5:33Right? Like, you are supposed to be
5:35unique and you are supposed to be
5:37interesting. I think that right now
5:39there's a lot of men that think that,
5:40you know, they have to keep up this
5:42image of either travel or having this
5:44specific exotic car or whatever and
5:47they're not mastering their craft.
5:50Okay? Now, the dudes in life who are
5:53most rewarded
5:57are dudes who master their craft
6:00and are completely unapologetic about
6:01what they are or what they've became.
6:04I'll say that again. They've mastered
6:05their craft and they're completely
6:07unapologetic about what they are or what
6:09they've became.
6:11Okay?
6:12If you look at anybody
6:14who has had success in a specific field,
6:17a specific industry, they got to that
6:19point because they did things
6:21differently and they were okay with not
6:23being the same as everybody else. Okay?
6:26The man,
6:27the masculine has that natural
6:30rebellious spirit to not conform to what
6:34everybody else does.
6:37Like, in a nutshell, if you want to put
6:39an aura on the word testosterone, that's
6:42what it would be. Okay?
6:47The feminine is a little different.
6:50Okay? If you put a bunch of women
6:53together
6:55and you ask them something, a lot of
6:58times they just say yes because the girl
7:00before them said yes or they say no, I
7:02don't like that because the girl before
7:04them said that. And they adapt this herd
7:07mentality. They don't want to step
7:09outside the norm. They want to be
7:11accepted and liked. And that's why all
7:14of them in the pictures pose the exact
7:16same with the hip out this way and all
7:18of them take the exact same photos with
7:20their lips like this.
7:22And all of them have the same captions,
7:25you know,
7:26uh
7:31in in touch but out of reach.
7:34A girl just manifested. Okay, it's
7:36common thought. That is the feminine.
7:39The masculine isn't. The masculine is
7:43individual and willing to think for
7:45himself. The masculine is if 200 people
7:48lined up and say, "Hey,
7:50you shouldn't do that and that's wrong
7:52or that's not the right way of doing
7:54things."
7:56And that one dude who has the strength
7:58and the courage to say, "No, even though
8:00there's 200 of you telling me this, I
8:02can actually prove that you're wrong and
8:04I can prove that I have a better way of
8:06doing things or I can prove to you that
8:08this is the way."
8:10That is the masculine, willing to stand
8:12on strength. Now, this is what
8:15fundamentally attracts a woman.
8:18Okay?
8:19I would say that I have even attracted
8:22women into my life specifically because
8:25of these videos that I make and the
8:26reason being is because a woman can see
8:28that I have 5,000 uploads on here. So,
8:31she goes instantly, "He's disciplined
8:33and he's willing to keep doing this and
8:35he obviously just keeps
8:37creating this because he wants to." So,
8:39it's a sense of unique identity. So,
8:41when men come to me and they're like,
8:42"Well, how do I have a stronger frame?"
8:46It's like you need to figure out who you
8:47are in the first place.
8:50You need to figure out who you are in
8:51the first place. Do you know another
8:52YouTuber like me?
8:54No.
8:55You're going to see a bunch of other
8:56people maybe get all of a sudden go buy
8:58a marker board and try. There's a lot of
9:00them now probably I'm I'm sure, but
9:02they're not me.
9:06When you have this sense of uniqueness
9:09to you, you're willing to tolerate
9:12Excuse me. You're willing to not
9:14tolerate
9:15that you used to. Okay?
9:19Because you start to understand that
9:20you're rare.
9:22So, if a woman gives me any friction or
9:24so it's giving me a bad time, I'm just
9:26not going to text her back or call her
9:28ever again because I can because I know
9:31that I can go attract a new woman
9:32because I'm in high demand. You have to
9:35get to a point where you are in high
9:36demand.
9:38Okay. So,
9:40when you have this aura, this attitude,
9:42women don't play the same games as they
9:44once used to. Because they can just tell
9:46that you're going to basically go next,
9:49and then you're going to move on.
9:51And then when she can tell that you have
9:52that attitude, she doesn't want a
9:53different woman
9:55to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
9:58Because she wants to enjoy the fruits of
9:59your labor. So, she wants to go, "Hey, I
10:01want to be with the man who has
10:03confidence in himself. I want to be with
10:05the man who has a unique identity and a
10:06unique personality. I want to be with
10:08the man who has discipline and structure
10:10and focus in his life because he knows
10:12what he's doing and where he's going."
10:13Mhm. I'm sure that there's definitely
10:15some benefits that come with him.
10:20So, this is what you have to understand
10:21is like you need to figure out who you
10:23are. Your parents can't do this for you.
10:25They can try, but they're just going to
10:26make you a a carbon copy clone of
10:29themselves. Okay? They're going to try,
10:31but only you can do this by getting in
10:34touch with your faith.
10:35And you have to ask God for the
10:36strength. You have to say, "God, out of
10:38everything, right, that I'm good at,
10:40everything that I'm not good at, please
10:42give me the way, show me the way to
10:43excel. Show me the way to succeed. Show
10:46me the skills that you blessed me with
10:48so I can actually use them."
10:49That's the only way. That is the
10:51masculine. The masculine is faith.
10:53Okay? That's why God often times is
10:55referred to as the father. Because you
10:57come back to the father for the wisdom.
11:00So, these are traits, um, that actually
11:03determines your success in life as a man
11:05and your own happiness.
11:08Um, this has This video almost has
11:10nothing to do with you attracting women.
11:12It has everything to do with you
11:13becoming who you need to be. And there's
11:15no escaping that.
11:17Right? There's a lot of guys who they
11:18try to escape that. You can see who's
11:20fake from a mile away. I can spot who's
11:22fake from a mile away. I can walk into a
11:23bar or a night club or whatever, and I
11:25can just look around, I can just feel
11:26the fakeness. Just fake. Bunch of fake
11:29dudes.
11:31You know, even the communication
11:32patterns, the the over politeness, the
11:35willingness to do all this and you know,
11:37it's like they just want to be fit in.
11:39They want to fit in and be accepted so
11:40badly.
11:42Until you get to the point where you
11:43don't care if you're accepted,
11:46only then will you start to succeed.
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11:51and master the language of women.
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