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0:00All right, so one of the ways that you
0:01actually win in life is you have to stop
0:03making excuses because you'll always
0:05find a reason. If you want to start a
0:07business, you'll tell yourself, "Yeah,
0:09man, you know, I want to, but like all
0:10this AI stuff, like, you know,
0:12technology just moves so fast and I'll
0:15never be able to keep up with what to
0:17do. So, you know, it's too hard. It's
0:19too saturated, right?" That's an
0:20example.
0:22If it comes to women, most guys are
0:23going to just say, "Oh, you know, uh
0:25yeah, all these women just want these uh
0:28hot dudes on social media, so I don't
0:30even stand a chance, right? Because I
0:32don't own
0:33um
0:34you know, a sports car." Whatever,
0:36there's always a thing. So, you need to
0:39not make excuses and you need to turn
0:41your brain off and just go and talk to
0:44her, okay? Like me, personally,
0:47I even stopped reading.
0:49I quit reading cuz I'm like, "You know
0:50what? I don't want to sit here. I don't
0:52want to sit here and stare at my hand.
0:53I'm not going to sit here and stare at
0:54my hand anymore. I'll only read
0:56something if I need the specific info on
0:58that topic, but I'm not just going to
1:00sit here and stare at my hand, you know,
1:01on my couch and look at a piece of
1:03paper. No. Like, I'm going to go live
1:06and I'm going to take action."
1:08So,
1:09stopping all forms of overthinking. This
1:12is like key to get success with women.
1:14This is key to get success with anything
1:16in life, okay? Um
1:19And I know this because I've gotten
1:20success in like every single area that
1:22I've tried, okay?
1:24Um
1:26So, the first thing we have to do is we
1:27have to stop all forms of overthinking.
1:30So, men who win at life, they appear
1:32stupid when you look at them, okay? They
1:34appear stupid because you might think
1:36that they say and do stupid stuff
1:39because to the naked eye, it looks quick
1:42and impulsive what they're doing, but
1:44it's really not, okay? The dude who wins
1:47at life or the dude who wins with women
1:48or whatever,
1:50that man has conditioned himself to just
1:52go and win
1:54and be okay with even a potential
1:55failure. That guy will just go and talk
1:58to that pretty woman just because he
1:59wants to. Like he does what he wants.
2:01Like the question I want to ask you is,
2:03why do you
2:05Why do you keep
2:08um this mindset where you're not
2:10allowing yourself to do what you want?
2:12Like if you see a hot woman and you want
2:14to talk to her, why do you want to go to
2:16bed every single night not talking to
2:19who you want to talk to? Like why is it
2:21okay to not do what you would like to do
2:24to reach your goal? Because I'm sorry,
2:26but I don't know how you're going to
2:28have the family you want one day or I
2:30don't know like if you tell yourself
2:31every single time, "Oh, you know, if I
2:33give um some attention away here, then
2:35I'm uh that's bad." It's like, "So what?
2:37You're going to just walk past the
2:38pretty woman 100 times in a row over the
2:40next 2 years and not give your
2:42validation away? And then hop back into
2:44your vehicle and drive away and you'll
2:46never see her and she'll never see you
2:48again?" You're just going to keep doing
2:49that? Like does this make any sense? As
2:51like a logical or rational man, how does
2:54any of this make sense? It doesn't. So,
2:56the guy who wins is a guy that has
2:58conditioned himself to just go and win,
3:01okay? And be okay with being a failure
3:03from time to time. You might start the
3:04business and it fails, but you learned a
3:06lot of skills along the way. So, when
3:07you launch it again or when you relaunch
3:09what you did, you win.
3:11You maybe failed at the approach and you
3:13were nervous or she rejected you, but
3:14then you learn what not to do. You win
3:16over time.
3:17So, another thing you got to realize is
3:19like
3:20I just turned 30 this year. So, for me,
3:22like the older I get um
3:24the older I get, the more I realize how
3:26precious time is. You know, we're not
3:28going to live forever.
3:29So, thinking takes time. Thinking takes
3:32time, okay? And it causes lack of
3:34action.
3:35As I get older, I'm all about action.
3:38I'm all about action and I don't want to
3:39think. Thinking causes stress because
3:42you feel like there's more to learn. So,
3:44thinking takes time, okay? And that
3:46causes lack of action. So, every day
3:48we're also closer to being old.
3:51Like we're closer to being old. More
3:53guys need to realize this. If you walk
3:55past her and you don't say anything, you
3:57went home and you already rejected
3:58yourself and you're never going to see
4:01her again. So, what you're like worried
4:02about showing interest for that 10
4:03seconds? Well, how are you going to even
4:05start the conversation anyways if you
4:07just keep walking past every single
4:08woman that you think is hot and then you
4:10never talk to her. This doesn't make any
4:12sense at all. Like the more I think
4:14about this, I'm like, "Whoa, this is
4:15like just wild to me." Okay, so the
4:18number one skill, okay,
4:21that you can have as you get older in
4:22life, the number one skill that you can
4:23have is to condition yourself to take
4:25action even if you feel like you're not
4:27ready. Because here's a newsflash, you
4:29will never feel ready.
4:30You'll never feel ready to do anything.
4:32When I woke up, I didn't feel ready to
4:34make this marker board presentation.
4:36Sometimes when I write my marker board
4:38presentations, I go, "Is this good
4:39enough?"
4:40But I try and I take action and I do it.
4:43So, newsflash, you'll never feel ready,
4:45but you have to do it anyways because
4:46it's the only way you grow. And then
4:48like for example,
4:50if you want to keep studying and
4:52thinking without taking action, well,
4:54you're always going to feel like you're
4:55in a deficit because here's the thing,
4:57there's always going to be an expert
4:58that's smarter at something. There's
5:00always going to be someone just a little
5:02bit better at it than you and then you
5:03think there's always more to learn.
5:05Guess what, there's always going to be
5:07more to learn, no matter what. But if
5:09you just learn for your whole life and
5:11you just hope that one day your life's
5:12going to change, it's not going to until
5:14you actually take action to change
5:16things. So, you need to start
5:18conditioning yourself to win and to take
5:19action. If you've had a business idea,
5:21then go and build that website right now
5:23today. If you walk past a really hot
5:27woman at the gym that you want to talk
5:28to and you've seen her a few times, walk
5:30up and say, "Hey, seen you here a few
5:31times before. I've never got to know
5:32you. You want to go out sometime?" Like
5:35start taking action. Start doing things,
5:37okay?
5:38And everything that I just said right
5:39there, "Hey, want to go out sometime?"
5:40If you try to micromanage what I just
5:42said, I'm not using game.
5:44I just said what came to my mind. Like
5:47there's no like secret. You just have to
5:49start doing it. So, life or for example,
5:52women, dating, business,
5:54it's all the same, okay?
5:56It's literally all the same. You just
5:57take action, you learn what not to do,
5:59you accept that failures are part of
6:01life, and you just win. So, me when I
6:03was 18, I wanted to become a real estate
6:05agent. So, I just went and did it.
6:08I just studied and went and did it. Then
6:10when I got a little older in my 20s, I
6:11wanted to be a fitness coach. So, I just
6:13went and did it. And then eventually I
6:15wanted to make videos about dating. So,
6:16I just went and did it. Give yourself a
6:18reason to just start.
6:21My reason is very simple. I just do it
6:23because I want to.
6:25Today I wanted to make this video, so I
6:26just did it.
6:27Um a new rule, okay,
6:30that I made, um that I've been sharing
6:33with other dudes or helping guys with,
6:36is basically just something very simple
6:38like this. If you want to talk to her,
6:40you just go and do it. And just say what
6:41you want. If you thought she was really
6:43pretty, you say, "Hey, I thought you
6:44were really pretty. I want to talk to
6:46you."
6:47Maybe she'll reject you, maybe she
6:48won't. But if you think you need the
6:49perfect line to say, "Look, the reason
6:51why I'm telling you this is because the
6:52guy who just does it, the guy who just
6:54takes action, he's the one who wins." I
6:56want you to think of all the, let's say,
6:58100 times that you walked past that hot
7:00woman and you just said nothing. You
7:02said absolutely nothing. So, one of my
7:04friends, this is one of my personal
7:06friends, right?
7:07There was this woman he wanted to talk
7:09to, so I said, "Go talk to her." And he
7:10finally did it. And he walked up to her,
7:12and then he just said, "Hey, excuse me,
7:13what's your name?" And she said her
7:15name.
7:16And
7:17then he said, "I'd want to take you out,
7:19or would you like to go out sometime?"
7:20And she said, "Yeah." And then they
7:21swapped numbers and went out on a date.
7:23That's how it actually happened.
7:24Sometimes that's how simple it is.
7:26That's how simple you can make it.
7:28Um and they went on a date that next
7:30day. So, it's like
7:32this is not hard. What's hard is like
7:34sitting every day thinking, wondering,
7:37"Should I do a direct approach? Should I
7:40do indirect?
7:41Is just app profile picture good enough?
7:44Uh did I over validate too much with
7:46that emoji on that text message? Like,
7:48dude,
7:49you need to start just like actually
7:50taking action and watch your whole life
7:52start to change. So, how I personally
7:55get success in my own life is right here
7:57in this column. I'm going to teach you
7:58this right here. This is how I
7:59personally get success in my own life.
8:01Number one, the first thing that I do
8:04is
8:05I am willing, okay? Like, this takes a
8:08growth and maturity because a lot of
8:10guys are so like rigid in their beliefs.
8:13They're never open to change, but if
8:15you're never open to change, you'll
8:16never grow. So, what I do is I analyze
8:19my beliefs every few months, you know,
8:20or every few months or every 6 months or
8:22whatever. And what I do is I update my
8:25beliefs every few months based on how I
8:27see the world going. So, based on how
8:29the world's going, you can start to
8:30update stuff. The second thing that I
8:31try to do is I try to do the opposite of
8:34everybody else.
8:35Because when everybody's doing
8:37everything a certain type of way,
8:39that's going to become typical.
8:42Okay? So, when I see that everybody's
8:44going this way,
8:46what I do is I try to go this way. And I
8:48try to figure out, "Hey, what's my own
8:50way?" If everybody's doing it this way,
8:52they're probably all getting average
8:53success because the average, okay, does
8:56what majority of people do. So, if I
8:58start taking opposite um approaches to
9:01things, I maybe will be able to get
9:02success faster. That's how I look at
9:04stuff. So, this is how you get the best
9:06results, right? You got to turn your
9:07brain off and you got to go. So, the
9:09next thing that I encourage you to do is
9:11you need to do what might even scare
9:13you. And when you do what might even
9:15scare you, you learn and you grow along
9:17the way and you realize it's not that
9:19scary. You just had a 100 hours of
9:21failure ahead of you to learn what not
9:23to do. So, let me give you an example.
9:25A lot of people out there want to learn
9:27about tech, right? Could be how to build
9:29a website, could be how to do AI,
9:31whatever, right?
9:33And they're bad at it because they don't
9:35do it. But guess what? Everybody's bad
9:36at anything when they start. So, what I
9:37would tell you to do is just go and
9:39start the website. And if you dive into
9:42that software every single day, there's
9:43a very good chance that in 6 months from
9:45now, you'll probably be a pro because
9:46you did it every day. Okay? If you want
9:49to get good at approaching women, then
9:50just do it every day. And guess what's
9:52going to happen? In 1 year,
9:55it'll probably be super easy for you.
9:56And I would bet there would even be a
9:57percentage of dudes within 1 year of
9:59doing that, they'll probably find a
10:01girlfriend or a wife along the way and
10:03be able to actually have a family.
10:05Didn't even maybe take them the whole
10:06year. Right? So, just start doing
10:08things. Another thing, you want to have
10:09a business? Well, just start one. Start
10:11one and do it. And then guess what
10:12happens? In 5 years, what if it makes
10:14you millions? You'll never know. What if
10:16it makes you millions?
10:18That's what I mean, like So, when I look
10:19at my life and I'm like, "Okay, how can
10:21I help you the most?" Here's how I can
10:23help you the most, okay? I'm going to
10:24show you this picture of me. This was me
10:26when I was 17 years old. Okay?
10:29Every single time that you think you're
10:31in a bad situation or you think that
10:32life's hard, I just want you to remember
10:34this picture because I know what it
10:36feels like to be you and struggle the
10:38entire process, too. But, the only
10:40difference is I just started doing
10:42stuff. So, if you start doing things,
10:43you're going to get ahead, okay? I want
10:45to give you belief, okay?
10:48That success is actually real, okay?
10:50That change actually can happen. And
10:52that's why I want you to view this
10:54picture whenever you need to, whenever
10:55you need some motivation. Join us inside
10:57the community that I built so I can help
10:59you learn, understand, and master the
11:00language of women. I want to show you my
11:02end-to-end process, okay?
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