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0:00Okay, so I just see a lot of guys making
0:01mistakes on the main traits that
0:03actually gets a woman to like want to
0:05stay with you without losing interest.
0:08Because of that, today I'm going to show
0:10you internal high-value masculinity
0:13traits needed to maintain a woman's
0:16interest. So, those of you, okay, most
0:19likely started watching dating content
0:21on the internet not because you were um
0:24looking for better uh well, maybe you
0:27were looking for better social skills or
0:28whatnot, but a lot of times guys run
0:31into a situation where they get
0:32heartbroken. So,
0:35they feel so bad because they lost their
0:37crush or their love of their life. And
0:40now all of a sudden they're sitting
0:41there going, "Why? What happened?" Okay?
0:43A lot of times it's not the external
0:45materialistic high-status metrics that
0:48you think matters, it's what's on the
0:49inside because the inside is your
0:52innermost core and it's your innermost
0:53identity. So, we're going to go a few
0:55layers deeper today so I can teach you
0:57some attraction things that you need to
0:59know for life success, okay?
1:01Before we can do that, we have to look
1:03at conventional thinking. So, modern-day
1:06men, okay,
1:07a lot of times just go off of
1:09superficial things or conventional
1:11thinking. So, conventional thinking,
1:13which is superficial and flawed, this
1:15would be like go make more money, go
1:18have higher status, get better clothing,
1:20get more tattoos, get more followers, or
1:22be a guy with like status and a lot of
1:24sex appeal. So, now she's going to want
1:26to stay in your life. And I'm sorry, but
1:28that's not how it works. There's a lot
1:30of {quote} {unquote} hot guys out there
1:33that women find very attractive that
1:35cannot maintain her interest because
1:38there's something on a core level that's
1:39missing. I'm going to teach you all the
1:41things needed on the core level to make
1:44sure that these issues don't happen
1:45anymore. Okay? So, keep in mind, these
1:47things, money, status, followers,
1:49whatever, this can get you laid, but
1:52chasing these things creates weak men
1:54with lack of core identity.
1:56Okay? And the guy has been taught to
1:58follow these things so much that he
2:01thinks that this is all that matters.
2:03Not true. So, right now, okay,
2:05especially on social media, this is what
2:07you have to know.
2:08There is tons of dudes right now
2:11that women would probably consider hot.
2:13Okay.
2:15But, a lot of times that guy has zero
2:17understanding of self
2:20and who he actually is.
2:22And this is why he's losing her interest
2:24because he's only looking at the
2:26superficial things on the external.
2:28Okay? So, this type of guy a lot of
2:30times will lose every woman that he
2:32really wants the relationship with long
2:34term that he even had interest in or
2:36maybe he thought that they would have a
2:37great future together because he is
2:39fundamentally not displaying the right
2:41things needed to get her emotions to
2:43keep working in his favor. So, I'm here
2:46to help with all of that. There's five
2:48key traits that I really think is needed
2:50for you as a man to be smart, competent,
2:53able, sufficient, and demonstrate that
2:55you have an internal character of real
2:58raw masculine strength that she cannot
3:01find elsewhere. Good news for you is you
3:05don't need any of the um
3:08all the things I'm going to be talking
3:09about today come from the inside, not
3:11the outside, which means none of this is
3:13going to be centered around followers or
3:15like making more status-driven
3:18posts of superficial attraction or money
3:21or any of that. Listen.
3:22Number one, the first high-value thing
3:26that a woman looks at on the internal,
3:28okay, a woman wants to see that you have
3:30courage.
3:32Now, we're going to take this in two
3:33different ways. We're going to talk
3:34about courage with your desires
3:36romantically and on top of that courage
3:39in life. Okay, so courage, okay, and
3:41being okay with the fact that you're a
3:43man who has romantic desire. This is
3:47really important. You're comfortable
3:50with yourself
3:52to show that you have romantic desire.
3:55Like you don't care.
3:57It's not something that you're like
3:59ashamed of, okay? You're not ashamed of
4:01it. This is the number one problem that
4:03I see with a lot of modern men is many
4:05modern men feel almost like shameful
4:07that they desire to even date her or
4:09talk to her in the first place. Like
4:11they have to um
4:13tiptoe around asking for what they
4:16actually want, which is the date, you
4:18know, or they have to tiptoe around how
4:20to do this socially to not rock the
4:22boat. A lot of times none of this
4:24matters. This is all just stuff you're
4:26creating in your mind telling yourself
4:28that it matters. The number one problem
4:29many modern men feel is they feel
4:31shameful, okay, that they even want to
4:33date her or talk to her in the first
4:35place. So, they never even end up
4:36talking to her in the first place.
4:38There's probably been hundreds of women
4:39over your years that you've been alive
4:41that you've walked right past that you
4:42had interest in or thought were
4:43attractive and you never said nothing.
4:46You ain't never said, "Hey, gorgeous."
4:48You never said, "Oh, look at you. Oh,
4:50what's your name?" You ain't never said
4:51nothing. Nothing.
4:54And what's missing for a lot of guys is
4:56that courage. That courage to just speak
4:59and go. No thinking, speaking, and go.
5:02Just speak and go. Over the years I've
5:04tested this. So, let me give you an
5:05example.
5:06Over the years I've tested this. If you
5:09are going to talk to her, it is best to
5:11demonstrate big balls, big balls and a
5:14lot of courage, okay? If you say
5:16something like "Uh hey, thought you were
5:18so pretty. Hey, excuse me, I thought you
5:20were so cute, so pretty. I saw you
5:21standing there. I thought you looked so
5:22pretty, looked so gorgeous." Okay, a lot
5:23of times that's too nice
5:25and it doesn't create that that
5:27emotional tension where she really feels
5:30that spike of romantic excitement.
5:33Instead, you have to look at the things
5:35that will actually cause romantic desire
5:38because this happens through the words.
5:40You're looking to spike her romantic
5:42desire. If you look at her as
5:46you're walking down the street or if you
5:48if you look at her, okay? Let's say
5:49you're you're walking down the street or
5:51you're walking down the bike trail or
5:52the walk path or whatever,
5:55and you two cross paths,
5:57okay?
5:59And you see her,
6:01and you go, "Excuse me, you look damn
6:03good in those jeans."
6:05That is going to
6:07create way more different emotions
6:10in her that she's probably has not felt
6:12compared to the guy that just says, "Oh,
6:14you're so pretty."
6:15Because now it's like you're a guy where
6:17it's like
6:18you see those jeans, you know what
6:20you're thinking,
6:22and it's like you had the courage to say
6:23it. Okay, that's what's missing from a
6:26lot of guys is like demonstrating that
6:27they have big balls in the first place.
6:30Now, for a lot of you guys out there who
6:31want to make the excuses, "Oh, that's
6:32over validating" and all this, I'm
6:34sorry, but what would have happened on
6:35that bike trail or that walk path is you
6:38would have went home and you ain't never
6:39see her never again. And then you'd have
6:41sat there and said, "Oh, well, what
6:42should have I said? Oh, I'm not going to
6:43validate her." It's like, bro, you have
6:45no options anyways. Like, that's
6:46equivalent to a business owner having
6:48zero clients, zero customers, but
6:50telling himself that he's too uh that
6:53he's not going to put himself in a
6:54position of lower leverage to talk to
6:56the potential new prospect or customer
6:58because uh it's a cold call. It's like,
7:01give me a break. Are you going to go to
7:02bed every night, every week single
7:04forever?
7:06I mean, come on now.
7:08There's a big difference between that
7:10and saying what you'd like, which is,
7:12"Hey, let's switch numbers. I'll take
7:13you out sometime. You want to go out
7:14with me?" That's way different than over
7:16validating, meaning maybe you're texting
7:17a woman and you constantly keep asking
7:20her out and she keeps uh
7:23flaking or whatever. Like, yeah, that's
7:25probably over validating because you
7:26keep demonstrating attention and
7:28interest to a woman that fundamentally
7:30doesn't want you. But a lot of times if
7:32you say what you would want to say, she
7:34respects that courage or she's even
7:36turned on by it.
7:38Like,
7:39since women communicate covertly, okay?
7:43And men communicate overtly a lot of
7:45times.
7:46Like if she sees that you have the
7:48ability
7:49to say what you want from time to time,
7:52that will spike desire and a lot of
7:54times respect. Okay? So keep that in
7:55mind. If you just said what you wanted
7:58to,
7:59life would get a whole lot better. Or if
8:00you did get rejected,
8:02you'd go to bed at night kind of feeling
8:03cool because you're like, "I don't even
8:05care, man."
8:07Like I said something I had never said
8:08before because I finally gave myself the
8:10courage. Okay? So if she thinks that
8:12you're hot, she'll probably like it. If
8:15she thinks that you're hot and you say
8:17what you wanted to say, she probably
8:19will like it. And if not, then here's
8:21what she's going to say. She's going to
8:22say, "Oh, sorry. I have a boyfriend."
8:23"Oh, sorry. I'm married." "Oh, sorry.
8:24I'm engaged." And you say, "Oh, no
8:26problem. Uh congratulations. We'll catch
8:28you later. See you. Bye-bye." That's it.
8:30Nothing. You move on. You lost 15 20
8:33seconds. That's it.
8:35Stop making these excuses and you start
8:36going after what you want. You start
8:38conquering your goals in life. Another
8:40thing with courage is you need to have
8:42the courage to start and finish
8:43something. That means if you have a
8:45business idea and you're already, let's
8:47say, dating a woman, you have the
8:48courage to stick it through month after
8:51month, year after year, and develop it.
8:53The courage to win in life, no matter
8:55what.
8:56No matter what. This is super important.
8:58Okay?
8:59Number two, the second internal
9:01high-value trait that a lot of men don't
9:03have that I think is missing
9:05is patience. Okay? Patience demonstrates
9:08maturity. Patience. If you have a little
9:11bit of patience in life,
9:13okay? Now there's a big difference
9:15between when you see her and you want to
9:16talk to her. Yeah, that is a point where
9:18you have to capitalize on the moment.
9:20But patience to let things develop is a
9:23sign of wisdom and maturity and it shows
9:25that you have probably had some dating
9:28experience before because every guy has
9:30been messaging a woman and you had no
9:32patience. And if you would have just sat
9:33back for a few days and let things
9:35happen and unfold, she probably would
9:37have messaged you. Okay? Patience is
9:39important, okay? Patience shows that you
9:42have the ability to be alone and you're
9:45not needy. So, let me give you an
9:47example. Let's say you send her a text
9:49message, okay?
9:51I don't know what you said. Yes or
9:52something or you said something, okay?
9:55And she replies and she goes, "Oh, you
9:56know, this
9:58uh weekend or what I'm doing is, oh, I'm
10:00just spending time with my family this
10:02weekend."
10:03You know?
10:05A lot of guys, what they feel like they
10:06have to do is they have to feel like
10:08they keep following up and creating more
10:10conversation so she doesn't lose
10:11interest. That is not how it works.
10:13Instead, what you could do is maybe you
10:15just hold down the reaction button and
10:17you give the message a heart. You heart
10:19the message.
10:20And then, let's say in a day or two, you
10:22know, 24 to 48 hours later or, you know,
10:25whenever you get around to it or
10:26whenever you've just had some patience
10:28where it's like, "Okay, well, I think
10:29I'm ready to now talk to her. She spent
10:30the time with her family this weekend."
10:32Then, in a day or two, you just say,
10:34"Hey, what days are you free during the
10:36week?" I'd like to take you out. What
10:38days are you free during the week?
10:40She'll know what you mean. If you just
10:41say, "What days are you free What days
10:44do you have free time during the week?"
10:46She knows that what you're doing is
10:47you're setting up the plan and the lead
10:51to
10:52get the setting right for a date. This
10:55shows competency how that whole thing
10:57was framed. Okay, so a lot of guys just
10:59completely miss this. You don't have any
11:01patience. If you have patience to let
11:03things play out, you know, you show that
11:06you're You show that you're living your
11:09own life.
11:10Maybe you heart her message, you know,
11:12and then 5 6 7 8 hours later or
11:13something or maybe it's a different
11:15situation or circumstance. The nice
11:16thing is like if she doesn't know when
11:17she's going to get to hear from you,
11:19maybe you're now out on your walk or
11:20you're out doing something and you send
11:22a quick voice message talking about
11:24yourself or your day and it shows like
11:26you're a normal dude who has
11:27conversation. This helps so much.
11:30Patience is so key. So, what happens
11:33when you wait a day or two like that is
11:35you stretched it out and you didn't need
11:37to feel like you need to keep
11:39communicating or you didn't feel like
11:40you need to keep doing these text
11:42messages. That's where guys start to
11:44lose is they feel like they need to keep
11:45maintaining her interest, which is
11:47exactly what makes her lose interest in
11:49the first place. So, another thing that
11:51this demonstrates is that you're okay
11:53with being alone. Like you're not
11:54rushing to a relationship. Now look,
11:57it's good to show some strength that you
11:59can be alone without somebody. But
12:01listen, this whole narrative that a lot
12:03of guys sell themselves on that like,
12:05"Oh, you know, I'm going to constantly
12:06show that I'm okay being alone." Listen,
12:08the older I get,
12:10as I watched my grandparents get older
12:12and then pass away, or I've seen my
12:14parents get older, or I've seen people
12:16get older, listen, I genuinely believe
12:18as I get older that no matter who it is,
12:22men or women, okay, it's not good to
12:25constantly be alone for long periods of
12:28time like month after month, year by
12:30year where you meet nobody and you have
12:32no like companion. That is not
12:34necessarily a good thing. If you start
12:36living your life like that, well then
12:37all of a sudden what's going to happen,
12:39and I see it, right? Because I see like
12:41I know people. You get older and you
12:43don't have a family,
12:44or I've watched people get older and
12:46they run into health problems and they
12:47don't have anybody to talk to. Now
12:48you're spending holidays alone. It
12:50starts to get really sad. You need to
12:52get good at developing the social skill
12:56combined with the romantic skills to
12:58create something amazing for yourself in
13:00this world. It's a skill. You got to
13:02work at it every day. Every day.
13:05You know, a lot of guys they want to go
13:07out and party and keep delaying it. If
13:09you keep delaying the work, man, it's
13:10not going to get easier. Okay, now I get
13:13it, okay, it's good to some degree to
13:15show that you're okay with being alone.
13:17But if you constantly just are by
13:19yourself all the time, like if you're
13:20constantly by yourself all the time,
13:23there's people in this world and there's
13:25probably people in this world who would
13:26love to talk to you. Go and talk to
13:28them.
13:29Create connection and circumstance where
13:30you two can have an amazing time
13:32together.
13:33It takes you wanting to do it, okay?
13:36That's the second thing I think all men
13:37need to demonstrate is patience.
13:39Now, the third thing, okay?
13:42The third thing that you have to
13:44demonstrate or that you should
13:45demonstrate, the third thing that's
13:47really important to demonstrate, that's
13:49a very high-value skill, is the ability
13:51to have backbone and stand up for
13:53yourself if you feel like something is
13:55BS. If you feel like something is BS
13:59and you're not going to put up with
14:00that, then you need to say that right
14:01then and there, and she needs to see
14:02that you have the backbone to say it.
14:04Doesn't matter who's around, doesn't
14:06matter uh if you're going to be judged
14:08for it. She wants to see you have the
14:09strength to not put up with a bunch of
14:11crap. Let me give you a few examples.
14:13Let's say you have a uh family dynamic,
14:16okay? Maybe you have a family dynamic or
14:18um you know, whatever, okay?
14:20And you're able to actually directly
14:22say, "Hey, this ain't how this is going
14:24down. This ain't how we're doing this.
14:26No. That ain't how this is going to
14:28happen." Women need to see that you have
14:31the ability to be a protector.
14:33That's really important. You have the
14:34ability to be a protector. When you're a
14:36protector, this shows strength. It's
14:38very, very hard for her to replace you
14:40if you demonstrate this stuff. So, when
14:42you look at these things like family,
14:44safety, uh
14:46dad, right? The dad archetype, the
14:48father figure. The dad is the protector.
14:51This is really important to understand.
14:53So, let me give you an example. It
14:54doesn't matter when or where or why. You
14:56got to be okay with rocking the boat. If
14:58you're Let's say you're at a family uh
15:01holiday or something and you're with
15:02your girlfriend or something. If you're
15:0425 years old, okay? And you're sitting
15:07down at the table or whatever, and
15:09you're with your uncle, and let's say
15:10he's 50, and the things that he's
15:12saying, he's making like uh
15:14rude comments or disrespectful comments
15:16towards you, you have to have the balls
15:18right then and there. No No who's
15:20around, you have to show that you have
15:21enough courage, right there, to say
15:23off.
15:24To say no, no, no, you're not going to
15:26talk to me like that. No. You need to
15:28have the strength and the courage to say
15:29you're not going to talk to me like
15:30that.
15:31So, when she sees that you have that,
15:33that controlled, like, protector
15:36instinct, it's very attractive because
15:38she feels safe with you. Most guys don't
15:40have this. They don't want to rock the
15:42boat. They're only worried about keeping
15:43the peace. And because of that, like,
15:45when stuff needs to be said, there's
15:46never a man to step up and say what's
15:48needed. That is not good. That's not
15:50good for family dynamic or you being a
15:52protector. The fourth thing that's very
15:55important, okay, is lust control. A lot
15:58of guys, what they'll do is they'll try
15:59to start saying flirty or edgy things
16:02over text message, or, you know,
16:05attempting to see if she'll send
16:07pictures of, you know, herself or
16:09whatever. And that is just not good,
16:11okay? If you're doing stuff like that,
16:13all that stuff does not need to be added
16:15to the conversation when you're
16:17messaging women. In fact, a lot of
16:18times, what happens is now she doesn't
16:20want to meet you in real life because
16:23now she thinks that that's all you're
16:24about and you're thirsty. So, listen,
16:27I've had girlfriends in the past. I've
16:29had numerous women tell me, like,
16:31"I really like that you never
16:34um said anything like that compared to
16:36most guys who maybe I've matched with on
16:38a dating app or something." And it's
16:40because I have the strength or you
16:42demonstrate the strength to not be tied
16:44to needing that.
16:46It makes you look weak or thirsty. And
16:48the thing is that's not good. So, this
16:50is like no strength, it's all thirst
16:52when you do that. And then a lot of
16:53times she ghosts you. So, what you want
16:56to do is you want to focus on being hot
16:57enough as a guy. You want to be
16:59attractive enough that she would sleep
17:01with you,
17:03but disciplined enough
17:05to not have to say things in
17:07conversation
17:09that acts like or that positions you in
17:11a way where you look super thirsty and
17:12desperate. A lot of that stuff is not
17:15needed. So, when you demonstrate this,
17:17it's another very high value skill
17:19because it shows that you're
17:20disciplined. Now,
17:22the fifth thing that you want to show,
17:25the fifth high value skill, is financial
17:28discipline. Listen, I see a lot of guys,
17:31they are spending money on bottle
17:33service, adult clubs, bars, video games,
17:38uh
17:39maybe like gambling or sports stuff.
17:42Okay?
17:44All of these things are vices that you
17:47have or that a guy might have that makes
17:49her feel less safe because listen, when
17:52it comes to financial discipline, here's
17:54what she's looking at long-term if she's
17:56going to stay with you. Notice I didn't
17:58say if you're trying to get laid. This
18:00video is about internal high value
18:03masculinity traits so that way she
18:04doesn't lose interest. That's what I'm
18:06trying to show you here.
18:10Listen, if she's going to be with you,
18:13she's worried about the man, okay,
18:15having resources and future resources
18:18for her
18:20and potentially if you two were to have
18:22children. That's what she's looking out
18:24for. If you two were to have family and
18:26you two were to have children together,
18:29is there going to be enough future
18:31financial resources and you have the
18:33competency to create a dynamic where she
18:36feels safe? The only way you do that is
18:38by being financially disciplined. I do
18:40not spend any money on any of that
18:41stuff.
18:42Never really have. Never really had a
18:44problem ever with
18:47maintaining women's desire, either.
18:49Because I've demonstrated the things
18:51that equals a good long-term fit. So,
18:54for some of you, okay, and I know that
18:55this is true, like I know in my heart of
18:57hearts that a lot of guys want to have a
18:59girlfriend and a lot of guys would like
19:00to be with that special someone because
19:02I've seen it. I've seen the dude who
19:05looks super, you know, strong and
19:06masculine and he's really tall and he
19:08looks, you know, really strong, but even
19:10him deep down a lot of times like he
19:11even him, you know, he got sad that that
19:13woman left him. And I see this time and
19:15time again. So, these are the things you
19:16got to practice in order to not have a
19:18woman want to pull away from you. If you
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