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0:00So growing up, one of the things that I
0:02noticed, okay, just from my own
0:05observation, this was when I was growing
0:07up, all the things I saw, you know, from
0:10about 19 years old to now 29 years old.
0:16The common narrative that you hear,
0:20okay, is that women want high value men.
0:24Okay, so this is what you hear is you
0:27hear like women want really rich
0:30successful guys or the guys who are at
0:34the finish line or the guys who are at
0:36the top. These are all the guys who are
0:38chosen.
0:40These are the guys that women have their
0:41eyes after or these are the guys that
0:44women have their eyes on. This is what
0:46you hear or at least this is what I
0:48heard. But what I saw growing up was I
0:52saw something very different.
0:56You may have had a different lived
0:57experience than me, but what I saw is
1:00that women typically went for degenerate
1:03losers. This is what I saw. This is just
1:06something that I noticed. So, I made a
1:08video or a couple videos um a little
1:12while back about bum maxing. Okay? And I
1:15wanted to talk about this today and
1:18explain to you what this is and what
1:21this means and why
1:23um this probably goes against a lot of
1:25the beliefs that you've held, you know,
1:28about your dating life with women. The
1:31hottest women
1:34typically went for like a degenerate
1:37loser. This is what I saw. There was
1:39something about him not caring. There
1:42was something about him not doing what
1:44everybody else does or not caring about
1:47maybe it's the image of looking a
1:49certain way or you know that type of guy
1:51doesn't really give a how much
1:52money he makes. He just doesn't care.
1:55The bum. This is why I called it bum
1:57maxing. He doesn't care. He doesn't care
2:00to appease anybody. He doesn't care
2:02about anybody else's perception of him
2:04or perspective of him. He doesn't care
2:06what anybody thinks of him. He doesn't
2:08care if he's doing things the proper way
2:10that you're supposed to or not. The man
2:13just lives dayto-day doing the things
2:15that he wants. And a lot of times he
2:17would choose to do, you know, degenerate
2:20behavior. This is what I noticed. A lot
2:22of times these guys were always at the
2:23bar or they were always drinking or
2:25whatever. Or a lot of times what I would
2:28see is like the girlfriends or these
2:30wives of like these high value men, if
2:33you want to call it that, um, these
2:36women a lot of times were cheating with
2:38the degenerate losers. And what I
2:40noticed is the hottest women never
2:44seemed to gravitate towards a lot of
2:46these high value, successful men that we
2:49were all told. Maybe you had a different
2:52observation, but that's not the
2:53observation that I saw. What I saw over
2:55the years was the hottest women
2:58constantly [clears throat]
2:58choosing what most people would call the
3:01worst type of men. Now, to her, it's
3:04obviously not the worst type of man
3:06because these are the traits she wants.
3:08These are the traits she is desiring
3:11clearly,
3:13but
3:16the worst type of man based on what like
3:18the status quo is or what everybody else
3:21says. Now, I have a couple theories for
3:23this and I also am going to explain to
3:25you how I live my life and how I believe
3:28this is best, okay? Because I'm not
3:31saying go quit your job or go, you know,
3:34be a loser. That is far from the core of
3:37what I'm talking about. So, just stick
3:39with me. This will all make sense. What
3:41I saw was that women were most excited
3:44by the dudes who were the degenerate
3:47losers that didn't care.
3:50One thing that I noticed
3:53about a lot of the dudes who constantly
3:56were so focused on like money or success
3:59or like their image of how other people
4:01view them. When you would talk to these
4:04guys oneon-one,
4:06they always were super like timid or a
4:09lot of times insecure. And what you
4:11notice or what I noticed over the years
4:13is a lot of these guys who fit the whole
4:16high value narrative. Um maybe it sounds
4:19really good on paper, okay? Like it
4:22sounds really good like he's probably
4:24really rich or he probably has a great
4:26career or he's known for something um
4:29regarding, you know, his income or his
4:31career or he's well-liked in his
4:34occupation, things like that. Or maybe
4:36the guy has like a really aesthetic um
4:39social media page where the dude looks
4:41like he's just having this uh amazing
4:43cool lifestyle or whatever you want to
4:46call it, right? The whole high value
4:48lifestyle or whatever.
4:52It looked really good on paper and I'm
4:54sure to the woman it sounds really good
4:56on paper too. But when you meet a lot of
4:58these type of guys one- on- one. A lot
5:00of times that success that was chased
5:02constantly was rooted in probably a bit
5:05of insecurity. And you could tell or you
5:07can typically tell with certain dudes,
5:10you know, they have to make up for, you
5:12know, that feeling through materialistic
5:15status in some way, shape, and form. And
5:17I'm guessing that women could typically
5:19sense this, too. That's what I'm
5:21guessing. That's just my best guess is
5:24that women can probably tell like this
5:26is what you will typically notice. Like
5:28this is what guys will notice if you
5:30like lead with money or you try to like
5:32lead with like a flashy lifestyle or
5:34something. A lot of times you will get
5:36tested harder. She will interest test
5:39you way harder. Interest test, you know,
5:42a lot of guys call them like tests.
5:44You're going to notice these at a way
5:46higher level because something about um
5:51like something about
5:53this whole situation that you're going
5:54to notice is that she starts to look at
5:57that guy and she goes, "Well, why does
6:00he behave that way? Why do you need that
6:03really expensive car? Why do you need
6:05that really expensive house?" Right? Or
6:06why do you need this type of image? So,
6:09she starts to test that guy more and
6:11more. Now, when I was a bit younger,
6:14okay, and I noticed that women would
6:16test these type of guys more, I actually
6:18used to think that it was because she
6:22wants to lock him down for a
6:24relationship. She sees him as
6:27relationship material. Okay. So, what
6:31she's doing is she's carrying herself in
6:33a way to appear as if, you know, she's
6:36the good woman that um he would want to
6:40be with. And in some cases, this might
6:42be true, but as I get older, okay, and I
6:46actually see this for what it is,
6:50what is actually going on here is she
6:53senses that he might be weak. She senses
6:56that there's a chance he's beta,
7:00which is why she withholds that
7:02affection because he's leading with
7:04things that shows that his inner core
7:08identity, he doesn't have the
7:10self-belief.
7:11>> Okay? Because what she's doing is she's
7:14testing for potential insecurity.
7:17So, what you're going to notice about a
7:20lot of the like degenerate loser type
7:22dudes, maybe if you want to call them
7:23that, is since these guys don't care
7:25what you think of them, and these guys
7:27also don't care um what their social
7:30perception is like, they just live life
7:33having fun. She rewards that a lot of
7:36times because she senses that inner
7:38confidence that you truly don't care.
7:41That you truly don't care. Meaning there
7:43could be a million different uh whatever
7:45magazines or TV shows or social media
7:48posts telling you, you know, a highv
7:49value man has this type of suit on and
7:52he's got this type of watch and you know
7:53that's a real man's man and whatever and
7:55that guy goes, I don't care.
7:58Okay, this is what you're going to
7:59notice is that guy goes, I don't care.
8:02So what am I saying? Where am I going
8:04with this? to come full circle. Do
8:08things like money, career, future status
8:11help for, let's say, like long-term
8:14retention or relationship retention?
8:16Absolutely. Especially if that woman
8:18wants to potentially have a family with
8:20you because now she's looking at
8:22different things when it comes to
8:23attraction.
8:25Am I attracted to this guy for the
8:28personality and character traits that he
8:30has or specifically the skill sets that
8:32he has where this guy shows like he has
8:35other masculinity characteristics.
8:37However, that does nothing typically
8:41when it comes to the other side of this
8:44which is who she's turned on by.
8:47Because you have to understand this,
8:49that other guy that truly doesn't care,
8:51she still is turned on by that vibe and
8:53that attitude and that demeanor.
8:55>> Which is why the rich guy who's high
8:57value or successful or whatever is
8:59attractive and great for a long-term
9:01relationship, but this does not always
9:03lead to arousal. Okay, big difference.
9:06You have to understand this regardless
9:08of how much money that guy makes. So
9:10keep that in mind. What you want to do
9:11is you want to put both these concepts
9:13together. You live life the way you
9:16want. Yes, you chase career as much as
9:18you want. Yes, you still um get in the
9:21gym and you get as strong as possible.
9:22You still build an amazing body. You're
9:24healthy. All these things, but you're
9:26doing this for you.
9:29And those are the character traits
9:30you're going to notice that she rewards.
9:32Pursue career as much as you want. Do
9:34these things for you. But you do not do
9:38these things or become something
9:41specifically for external validation
9:44because you think it's what you're
9:45supposed to do.
9:48That's the whole point of this. And when
9:50you live this way, bum maxing, which is
9:53what I call it, becomes very easy
9:55because you're finally living life on
9:56your own terms. Everything you pursue,
9:59you're doing it for your own
10:02well-being because you want to. Not
10:05because you think it's going to help you
10:06look high value, not because you think
10:08it's going to help you attract more
10:09women, any of that stuff. You're doing
10:11it for you. And that's the whole point
10:13of this