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0:00Okay, these are the seven deadly sins of
0:02dating.
0:03And when you do this, women usually
0:05leave you.
0:07Okay? All I can say through this video
0:09is please take notes. That's it. Go into
0:13your drawer and grab a notebook and a
0:14pen and take some notes. Number one,
0:17okay? Thou shall not ever say I love you
0:22first before she does. You cannot do
0:24this and I'm going to explain why.
0:26Whoever says I love you first is
0:29automatically by default now in the
0:31weaker position, okay? This is what
0:33you're going to find, okay? The reason
0:36why that that person is now in the
0:38weaker position, okay? The reason why is
0:40because it is a risk. It's a risk
0:43because the other person may not feel
0:45the same.
0:47So, it's a risk, right? You're putting
0:48yourself out there. If you say I love
0:50you first, you're putting yourself out
0:52there, it's a risk. What you're going to
0:54find nine times out of 10 is that women
0:56are not happy unless they put themselves
0:59in the weaker position first and she
1:01gives up that leverage. You have to
1:03understand this when it comes to
1:05leverage in dating, like emotionally, if
1:09she doesn't put herself in the weaker
1:11position first,
1:14when it comes to the emotional
1:15investment of the relationship, her
1:17desire just tanks.
1:19She ends up losing all desire for that
1:22man. So, I'm going to say this one more
1:23time.
1:25The first deadly sin, thou shall not
1:27ever say I love you first before she
1:29does. As a man, you love yourself, you
1:33love your purpose, you love your family,
1:35you love God. Because of that, she
1:38starts to love you. This is just the
1:40natural way of things. What you're going
1:42to find is that women aren't happy
1:43unless they put themselves in the weaker
1:45position first in that relationship and
1:48she gives up that leverage. They're just
1:49not happy. I didn't write the rules, I
1:52just observed over the past 10 years.
1:54This is number one, okay? Now, the
1:57second deadly sin of dating,
2:00thou shall not ask her to stay the night
2:03with you.
2:04Thou shall not do this, okay? She needs
2:07to be the one to ask to stay the night.
2:09She needs to either ask you and say,
2:11"Hey, will you stay the night with me?"
2:12Or, okay?
2:15What has to happen is, let's say she's
2:16at your place, she has to say or you
2:19want her to say, um
2:21"Hey, can I stay over?"
2:23And here's why, okay? Let's say you two
2:26sleep together, okay? Let's say you two
2:28sleep together. Let's say it's the
2:29second or third date, and let's just
2:31make up a scenario and you two slept
2:33together, okay?
2:35If you're at her place when that
2:37happened,
2:38then you're going to
2:40eventually just say, "Hey, I got to go."
2:43You know, it doesn't have to be right
2:44away, but later on, you know, through uh
2:46the night or when the interaction um is
2:49starting to come to a close or when you
2:51two get tired or like, let's say Let's
2:53say, um let's say you two slept
2:55together, it's 9:30 at night, and then
2:58let's say, you know, it's almost like
3:0010:45 11:00 p.m. and you got work the
3:03next day, you're going to say, "Hey, I
3:04got to go."
3:05Okay?
3:06You're not going to um
3:08you're not going to start saying and
3:10doing things that shows that you're
3:11attached.
3:13Let's say the reverse now, okay? The
3:15reverse is like, let's say she's at your
3:16place. Okay, if she's at your place,
3:20later on, maybe through the night,
3:21you're going to say, "Hey, I got work
3:22real early in the morning. I got all
3:23these errands to run. Um
3:26you know, I'm going to have to get to
3:27bed." Okay? The reason being is because
3:29here's what you got to understand.
3:31If she brings it up first, if she brings
3:34up the fact that she would like to stay
3:35the night or something like that, okay,
3:37fine. Okay, she's at that level
3:39emotionally where like she wants to
3:41invest and she wants to spend the night.
3:43But the man asking, like, "Hey, will you
3:45please stay with me?" Or, "Hey, do you
3:47want to stay the night with me?" All
3:48this is doing is showing premature
3:51attachment. Premature attachment, okay.
3:54Point number two right here, thou shall
3:56not ask her to stay the night with you.
3:58She needs to be the one to ask. This
4:00goes hand in hand with point number one.
4:03Thou shall not ever say I love you first
4:05before she does. So, keep that in mind,
4:08okay? If you're at her place, eventually
4:10you're going to say, "Hey, I got to go."
4:11If she's at your place, you're going to
4:13say, "Hey, I got work early. Um, you
4:15know, we got to got to wrap this up, you
4:17know, I love to see you again sometime,
4:18but I got so much stuff to do in the
4:20morning. I got to hit the gym. I got a
4:22big meeting coming up. I got to get to
4:24bed. Just got to get to bed, okay?
4:26That's number two. Number three, thou
4:29shall not ever position yourself to be a
4:31beta male provider.
4:33I'll say that again. Thou shall not ever
4:35position yourself to fall into that
4:37provider category. And a lot of guys do
4:40this, and it's completely embarrassing.
4:42Here's a few of the things that most men
4:44will say or most men will do through
4:46their implied actions.
4:48Maybe a few dates down the road, he's
4:50already in love and attached, and he
4:52knows that money might be the only thing
4:54that he's got working for him, and he
4:56might say, "Babe, you know, with me, I
4:58make so damn much, you know, babe,
5:00you'll never have to work another day in
5:02your life ever again if you were with
5:04me. Oh, you see this nice big house?
5:06Imagine our life together, okay?"
5:07Another thing he might say, that dude
5:09might say, "Oh, do you love to travel?
5:11Oh, I love to travel. I'd love to bring
5:12you somewhere. I'd love to bring you to
5:14Portugal. I'd love to bring you to the
5:16Bahamas. Oh, I got this big vacation
5:19planned in Cancun. Oh, gosh, we'd have
5:22so much fun together, okay?" And then
5:24she's sitting there going, "Oh, look at
5:25this guy already wanting to spend a
5:27bunch of money on me." Another thing,
5:29talking about men who don't provide.
5:31There's like a specific group of dudes
5:34who think that it raises their dating
5:36value by basically like talking
5:39negatively about dudes who don't
5:41provide. But, all this does is she sits
5:44there and she goes, "Look at this guy
5:45trying to prove his worth." This is a
5:47complete turn off. When you prove your
5:49worth, okay?
5:52By saying all the things that you can
5:54provide or do,
5:56this right here crushes attraction. So,
5:59number three, thou shall not position
6:01yourself to be that provider. You want
6:04the entire interaction to be based on
6:07masculine and feminine polarity.
6:10A dynamic that's rooted in desire, where
6:13she's like, "Gosh, this dude is just so
6:15hot. I just want him."
6:17If you're not unlocking that like
6:19natural instinct out of her and you're
6:21trying to lead with money, long-term
6:24this is going to be such a turn off,
6:25okay? Point number four,
6:28the fourth deadly sin, thou shall not
6:30ever make promises of a future. Promises
6:34of a future, what does that mean? What
6:35does that look like, okay?
6:36Promises of a future is like, "Hey, I
6:38could really see myself uh dating you.
6:41Hey, I could really see myself being in
6:43a relationship with you. Oh, you're just
6:45the woman of my dreams." All this stuff,
6:46okay?
6:47Here's what you have to understand about
6:49female nature. Like, she doesn't want to
6:51be too comfortable to the point where
6:53she's like, "Oh, I just know that this
6:54guy will basically worship the ground
6:56that I walk on and take care of me
6:57forever." No, no, no.
6:59If there is a future,
7:02it's something she would like to
7:03actively build with you, not something
7:06that you're making promises of in hopes
7:08that this would raise her desire.
7:10Because here's what actually happens.
7:11When you do that, when you say stuff
7:13like that, she goes subconsciously, she
7:15sits and thinks, "Oh, so you're just
7:17sold on me already?
7:19Your desire is just already through the
7:21roof on me already? Okay, well, I guess
7:23that your SMV isn't as high as I
7:25thought.
7:26I guess you don't have as many options
7:27as I thought you did."
7:30And then here's what happens, you're
7:31signaling, "Hey, yes, I really like you
7:33and I'm not going anywhere. Since I
7:35really like you and I'm not going
7:36anywhere, let me promise you this big
7:38future. Let me promise you how I could,
7:40you know, take care of you and be there
7:42for you and I'm going to be such a great
7:43husband one day. When you do this, I
7:45know that logically it makes sense,
7:47right? I know that you logically think
7:48that, oh, you know, if I do this and if
7:50I act this way, I'm going to be rewarded
7:53for being this good guy, but
7:55unfortunately, that's just not how women
7:57operate, okay? And you can say whatever
8:00you want about dating, right? Like you
8:02can say like, uh,
8:04"Oh, you know, well, you know, women
8:06date all the wrong dudes and then end up
8:08regretting it and all that stuff." And
8:10sure that might be true, but it doesn't
8:11change the facts that when you start
8:13breaking these rules, you end up
8:15getting, uh,
8:16left for a different dude who didn't do
8:19this stuff. So, keep that in mind, okay?
8:21That's number four. Now, number five,
8:24thou shalt not ever talk about your ex
8:26negatively. If you have an
8:28ex-girlfriend, if you have an ex-wife,
8:30you do not ever say anything negative
8:31about her through the dating process at
8:34all. Because the woman sits there and
8:36goes,
8:37"Oh, well,
8:39looks like the common denominator's
8:40you." Listen, here's what you do.
8:43You're only going to talk good about
8:45your ex. You're going to say, "Oh, she
8:47was wonderful. Oh, we had so much good
8:49times together. Oh, yeah, that was in
8:50the past, but you know, while it lasted,
8:52it was great." Okay? And then she's
8:55going to say, "Oh, well, then why didn't
8:57it work out?" Here's where guys go
8:58wrong. It's they start saying all this
9:00negative stuff. "Oh, she did this and
9:02she did that." Not good. You're going to
9:05give just very easy to,
9:08like, answer questions or, excuse me, a
9:11better way to word this is like, you're
9:12going to give easy answers, okay? You're
9:14going to only say good things and you're
9:16only going to give nice, simple, easy
9:19answers. You're going to use a bunch of
9:21just like, fluff and filler words. Fluff
9:24and filler words would be things like,
9:27"Oh, we just grew apart."
9:30"Oh, it just didn't work." "Oh, you
9:31know, it was just best to go our
9:33separate ways." "Our separate ways." Or
9:35my favorite is, "We're just on different
9:38wavelengths."
9:39Yeah, you know, "We just grew apart and
9:41we're just on different wavelengths,
9:43right?" Different wavelengths. Yeah, we
9:45just through time at different
9:47wavelengths. And it's so funny.
9:49You're going to read these and you're
9:50going to go, "Oh, that don't mean much
9:51of anything." And she's going to sit
9:53there and go, "Oh, yeah, makes sense."
9:55Okay? You don't have to go into detail
9:57with anything. In fact, the more you go
9:59into detail, the more she just gets
10:00turned off. Like I said, I didn't make
10:02the rules. I'm just showing you what
10:04actually happens. You're going to say
10:05simple answers. "Oh, we grew apart. Oh,
10:08it just didn't work. Oh, it was just
10:09best if we went our separate ways.
10:11Oh, you know, we were just on different
10:12wavelengths." And then she goes, "Oh,
10:14okay."
10:15That's what happens. Point number six,
10:17okay? The sixth deadly sin of dating,
10:20okay?
10:22Thou shall wait until she calls or text
10:25messages you first after you two have
10:27slept together for the first time. I
10:30cannot stress this enough how important
10:32this one point is. Thou shall wait until
10:36she calls or text messages you first,
10:39okay?
10:41After you two have slept together for
10:42the first time. Listen, you are not
10:45ghosting. You are not ghosting her.
10:47You're right there. But, here's what you
10:49have to understand. You have to sit back
10:51and wait for her to message and here's
10:53why. Because she will She will do it if
10:57she likes you enough.
11:00She will do it. This is what you have to
11:01understand. She will do it. I want this
11:04to be very, very clear. For those of you
11:06saying, "Oh, well, what if I never hear
11:07from her again?" Good. Because if that
11:10actually happens where you don't hear
11:12from her ever again, well, then you know
11:14that you didn't satisfy hypergamy to the
11:16level um needed where her desire would
11:19be high enough that she would pursue
11:20you. So, if she doesn't text or call you
11:23first, okay, that's fine. You probably
11:26just won't end up seeing her again. And
11:27you got to be okay with that. And here's
11:28why. The reason why I'm telling you that
11:30that's okay is because
11:33women
11:34will call and they will text the guy
11:37first that they like. This is what you
11:39have to remember. When she likes you
11:41enough, she will reach out to you.
11:44That's what you have to know. She'll
11:46send you a text the next morning that
11:48says, "Hey stranger." She'll send you a
11:49text message the next morning. Listen,
11:51this is what actually happens. When you
11:53two have slept together for the first
11:54time, if she likes you enough and she
11:56wants to keep seeing you and she views
11:58you, how you are, your spirit, your
12:01personality,
12:02just your overall masculinity, if she
12:05likes you enough, she will reach out.
12:08She will because she doesn't want to
12:09lose a good one.
12:11That's what you have to understand and
12:12this brings back to the first point that
12:13I said, women aren't happy unless she
12:16actively puts herself in the weaker
12:18position to give up that leverage, then
12:20she's happy in the relationship.
12:22That's what you have to understand. So,
12:23she will say, "Good morning." She'll
12:25say, "Oh, I had such a great time last
12:27night." She'll say, "Oh my gosh, last
12:29night was amazing."
12:32And what you have to understand is if
12:33you're not getting stuff like that, then
12:35maybe you were just a dude where it was
12:37like you were her rebound option because
12:39she just broke up with a boyfriend and
12:41she doesn't even really like you, but
12:42you know, maybe that night she was just
12:44like turned on. That might happen. But
12:46you want to make sure the women you're
12:48communicating with like you and this is
12:50the biggest issue that I see right here
12:52with most men is they are actively
12:54pursuing women that don't have interest
12:56in your personality as a whole. So, quit
12:58doing that. Number seven, thou shall not
13:01ever try to win her back if she is
13:03talking to someone else. There are so
13:06many guys that say, "Oh, I caught my
13:07girlfriend talking to a different dude.
13:09I caught her going out on a date with
13:10her boss at work. Blah, blah, blah."
13:13Okay, if she's talking to someone else,
13:15you just stop talking to her completely
13:17and you don't ever see her ever again
13:19and here's why. You need to just cut
13:20your loss. You need to cut your losses
13:23in life or you need to not think about
13:24your losses in life, okay? And you need
13:27to have some self-respect and move on.
13:29And here's what I mean by that. It's
13:31natural selection. It is natural
13:33selection.
13:35Like you cannot negotiate desire. It's
13:38natural selection.
13:39She maybe
13:41found a different dude that she aligns
13:44with better on a chemistry level, and
13:45there's nothing you can do to change
13:47that. There's nothing you can say to
13:48negotiate her desire. It's internal. For
13:51example, if you like the taste of steak
13:53more than you like the taste of chicken,
13:56well then that's just your natural
13:57desire. There's nothing I can do to
13:59convince you to like the taste of
14:00chicken more if you just like the taste
14:02of steak better. You're just going to
14:03gravitate towards the steak. Naturally,
14:05she's just going to gravitate towards
14:07who she likes. So, stop trying to
14:09negotiate any of this. It doesn't work.
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14:14only reason why I'm telling you this is
14:15because I've already made every mistake.
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