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0:00So, this is episode one. Um, I'm
0:02starting a whole new series explaining
0:04all of the things that women do. The
0:08reason why I want to make this is
0:10because what you're going to find the
0:11more that you date is that women
0:14essentially are a walking contradiction.
0:17And what I mean by that is they're going
0:19to tell you that they want one thing or
0:21they're going to claim that they want
0:24one specific thing verbally and then
0:27their actions are going to do the total
0:29opposite.
0:31Now, to a younger man, um, who doesn't
0:34have a lot of experience dating, that's
0:37super frustrating
0:39because a lot of times you're attempting
0:41to be compliant or you're listening to
0:43her and you're doing what you were told
0:45as a kid, which is, you know, be a good
0:46active listener, be considerate, um,
0:49listen to other people and, um, you
0:53know, always be respectful and, you
0:55know, take what they have to say into
0:57consideration. Okay, cool. doesn't
1:00typically work in the real world or if
1:02you're an older guy. Um,
1:06and let's say uh you don't have very
1:09much experience, this can also be
1:11frustrating. So, because I have over a
1:14decade now of experience and I've seen
1:16everything, I'm going to do a series on
1:19all of the things that women do. So, the
1:22very first thing
1:24that you'll notice a woman will do is
1:29claim that they're a planner or they
1:32will claim that they want you to take an
1:35active initiation in planning things.
1:38So, it's not so quick and spontaneous.
1:42Okay? This is a massive test and you
1:45cannot fall to this. So, I'm going to
1:47explain to you what I mean. Um,
1:51you're going to notice women plan things
1:53in their own life. You know, I got girls
1:56brunch this Saturday and then the
1:58weekend after that I'm taking a trip to
2:00Maui and then the week after that I have
2:01a work conference. Women like plan their
2:04whole life on a calendar. That's why you
2:06as a man your job is to be present in
2:09the moment. Your job is not to future
2:12pace anything.
2:14You'll notice this anytime as a man you
2:16attempt to make plans, it typically goes
2:19pretty poorly because women operate
2:22based on how they feel. So if she wakes
2:24up that day and she doesn't feel like
2:27doing anything or she doesn't feel like
2:30doing it, she won't. So the first thing
2:32that you have to understand about women
2:35is you have to pay attention to what
2:36they respond to, not what they claim
2:38they want. Women respond to
2:40unpredictability. So, when I set a date,
2:45the message is going to look or sound
2:47something like, "I am hungry. Want to
2:49come w me? Want to come with me to get
2:53food?" RN.
2:55That's it.
2:57Come get food with me. RN. Okay. So,
3:01what you're going to notice when you set
3:03up dates, okay, if it feels spontaneous
3:06to her, you have a higher probability of
3:09her saying yes and her meeting you.
3:11Okay. Because of the spontaneousness,
3:14there might have been three or four or
3:16five other guys that week who tried so
3:18hard to plan something. You know, he
3:20wanted to put his bid in early. So, he
3:22texted all the way on Monday and he
3:25said, "Hey, I want to take you bowling
3:26and we're going to go get dinner Friday
3:28night and all this." And he assumed that
3:30him giving her all these days in advance
3:34would make sure that she can carve out
3:36some time in her schedule to give to him
3:38so that way he can take her out. Sounds
3:41really great on paper, but female nature
3:43doesn't work that way. Female nature
3:45doesn't operate that way. Then Friday
3:48night rolls around, a dude like me comes
3:51in and sends that text message that says
3:54food RN question mark and she had that
3:57plan with that guy since Monday and now
3:59it's Friday. And because that guy was so
4:02willing and ready to sit there and wait
4:04patiently for his turn, she now ignores
4:07him. And then she goes with the guy who
4:09is spontaneous.
4:11Now that spontaneousness is you being
4:14present in the moment. This is why I
4:15don't plan anything. I don't plan any
4:17dates ever. If I'm texting a woman, if
4:19I'm doing something, it's happening
4:21right now. Want to meet now? I'm doing
4:22this now. As you wake up, the more you
4:25live day by day without trying to
4:28constantly think of the future, you're
4:29going to be a more centered, grounded,
4:31masculine man. Now, the reason why I'm
4:35telling you this is because women are a
4:36walking contradiction. As soon as you
4:38get onto that date, I've seen this
4:40happen numerous times. This is what
4:42you're going to experience.
4:44This has even happened to me personally.
4:46There was a woman we probably met up
4:48four or five times, let's say, um, in
4:50the beginning. And every single date
4:52that I sat with her was spontaneous,
4:55meaning I just messaged and asked, um,
4:58you know, whatever I wanted to do in
5:00that moment. And she agreed every single
5:02time. But on the first date, and even on
5:04the second date, she made these two
5:06remarks. The first remark was something
5:08like, you know, I'm a planner, so in the
5:10future, I'm going to need a bit of a
5:11heads up if you want to see me. And then
5:13the second time or the second date, she
5:15said something along the lines of like
5:17this spontaneous stuff really isn't
5:18gonna fly, mister. You know, or
5:20something like that. Or she said, uh,
5:23she said, "You just randomly texting me
5:25and then, you know, expecting me to just
5:27drop everything and come hang out with
5:28you. That's not going to keep flying."
5:30Well,
5:32it was a complete lie because she said
5:33that, but then every single time,
5:36um, since I didn't conform to what she
5:39said and I just kept doing things my own
5:41way, she kept going out on the dates.
5:45So, that's what you're going to find is
5:46even if she claims, hey, that's not
5:48going to work. You need to plan. You
5:49need to give me a heads up. You have to
5:51be able to spot this because this is a
5:53test for her to reject you. So, here's
5:56how this plays out. If you actually
5:58listen to what she says and you agree to
6:00it, if she sees that she can now get you
6:03to control your speech and change the
6:06way you do things as a man to suit her
6:08needs better, this shows lack of
6:11identity and this also shows that you
6:13can be molded or you can be changed. So,
6:16this is going to naturally make you a
6:18less masculine option. So, she told me
6:22one thing. She told me that if you keep
6:25uh being spontaneous and you don't set
6:27plans with me and you do everything just
6:29spur of the moment,
6:31that's not going to fly with me. But her
6:33behavior showed the exact opposite. And
6:35every single time I said, "Come over" or
6:38"Want to come over or let's go grab food
6:39or I want to do this." She would just
6:40say, "Okay." And it was complete
6:42compliance the entire time. Now,
6:45majority of men who don't have as much
6:47dating experience, here's what would
6:48happen. As soon as that woman says
6:50something like, "Uh, hey, you know,
6:52that's not going to fly with me. I'm
6:53more of a planner." He would just say,
6:55"Oh, yeah, okay. Uh, in the future next
6:57time, I'll I'll make sure to give you a
6:59heads up." And then what would happen is
7:02he would try to give a heads up and he
7:04would send that text message that says,
7:06"Hey, I know you like a little bit more
7:08time, so it's Wednesday. I was thinking
7:10Saturday night we could do this." And
7:12guess what happens now? He gets rejected
7:15because now she just proved to herself
7:18that you followed her words. You could
7:20be changed and now you're willing to
7:22change or bend or adapt how you do
7:25things to suit her plans better. So even
7:28though she claimed she wanted this, now
7:30this will decrease her interest and
7:31decrease her attraction and she'll
7:33literally discard you. And this is how
7:35women typically go through all of their
7:3720s single and just going from date to
7:40date or guy to guy is because their
7:42words are a walking contradiction to
7:44their actions and they can never
7:46actually find a man who is smart enough
7:48to decode that and figure that out. They
7:51can never find a man who's competent
7:53enough
7:54um to decode that and to not listen and
7:58to still stay true to who he is. So,
8:01this is the very first thing that I want
8:04you to know. I don't care what any other
8:06dating coach tells you. There's going to
8:08be dating coaches out there that tells
8:09you um uh you know, always always plan
8:13things and make sure um you're setting
8:16dates and you're planning. That does not
8:18work with women. Listen, women are
8:20texting sometimes 5, 10, 15, 20 guys
8:22between dating apps, between text
8:24messages, everything. They're getting
8:25asked to do things left and right, which
8:27means if she commits to a plan that
8:29doesn't hold true, she'll just tell you
8:31one thing and she'll wake up that day
8:33and if she has a a tummy ache or, you
8:35know, she wants to lay in bed and just
8:37have girls night, she'll just flake on
8:39you. She doesn't care because women
8:40operate based on how they feel. So
8:42that's why it's completely pointless to
8:44set plans or to make plans because guess
8:46what? If she wakes up that day, she's
8:47just going to do what she feels like
8:48anyways. you have a far higher
8:51probability of getting her to feel like
8:54doing something if it's right there in
8:55the moment and she had no idea that it
8:58was uh about to happen throughout the
9:00week leading up. And then you'll notice
9:02she'll send you a text message like,
9:04"Okay, well um I just got done working
9:06or I just got done at the gym, so we can
9:08eat, but just be sure to give me uh 45
9:10minutes or I'll need a quick 45 minutes
9:12to go home and shower and then we can
9:13meet up." And see how it's spontaneous
9:15and now she agrees. Women plan
9:17everything. This is what you have to
9:18know. The feminine likes to plan. The
9:21feminine likes um an idea and vision for
9:25herself of what she's going to do. But
9:27this is on her. Just because she
9:29operates her life like that doesn't mean
9:31you need to operate your life like that.
9:33You as the masculine, you stay present
9:35in the moment. I don't care what anybody
9:37else tells you. I don't care if other
9:39dating coaches tell you plan things and
9:40plan stuff in the future or you know
9:42when you're around that woman again,
9:44keep talking about the past and all the
9:45good experiences you had. No, you don't
9:48care because anytime you take time and
9:50initiative to plan, it signals care.
9:52Anytime you're trying to bring up past
9:54experiences to talk about the amazing
9:56time that you guys had together, it also
9:58shows that you care and that you're
9:59trying to have great emotions
10:02be brought up so that way she thinks of
10:03you in a positive light. The true man's
10:06man doesn't care. Which means when I am
10:08on that date, I am sitting there only
10:10talking about things in the present
10:12moment. I am right there and I am
10:13centered and that's all that matters.
10:16And then when that date's over, it's
10:17over. And she doesn't know when she's
10:19going to get to hear from me again next.
10:21And I don't know when I'm going to get
10:22to hear from her again next. Women need
10:24that tension of uncertainty to want to
10:27keep pursuing you. There can't be this
10:31final um sentence that was discussed
10:34where it's like now she knows when she's
10:35going to get to hear from you again
10:36next. So a lot of guys even after that
10:38date, they'll say, "Hey, you know, I'll
10:39call you tomorrow morning." And then
10:40they're predictable. You can't do that.
10:42It's not your job to set plans. It is
10:44your job as a man to stay focused on
10:46your purpose, to stay disciplined to
10:48your tasks that you need to get done
10:50every single day. And when you have some
10:52time to see her, you tell her right then
10:54and there and you say, "Hey, I'm hungry.
10:56Want to go grab food?" If she says she's
10:58working, you say, "No worries." Or you
10:59just heart the message and it's over.
11:01And then here's what happens if you do
11:03that. You'll notice if you wait 2 3 4 5
11:056 days, she'll message you. And then
11:07she'll say, "Hey, stranger. I know we
11:09never got to go out. You want to um see
11:10me tomorrow? I'm off work at this time."
11:12and you'll notice she'll actually repurs
11:14because you're the only guy who's not
11:16actually chasing another date. So, this
11:18is what I can tell you to sum up this
11:20very first video. The first thing that
11:22you're going to notice from women to
11:23bring this full circle, she will tell
11:26you that she wants a man who plans. She
11:28will tell you that she wants a man who
11:29plans dates and ideas and future events.
11:33Don't listen to any of it. Don't plan
11:34anything. You only see her when you want
11:38to, at that time. That's it.
11:42Okay. When you send that message that
11:44says, "Hey, tomorrow let's go do this or
11:46you know, I'm free up after 5 today. I
11:49want to go do this." When it's
11:50spontaneous like that, that builds the
11:52anticipation and the butterflies. And
11:54it's uncertainty. It's unpredictability.
11:56She will tell you verbally, "I don't
11:57like that feeling. Maybe she doesn't."
12:00But what you're going to find the more
12:01women you date is women chase negative
12:04emotion. Women chase and respond to
12:06negative emotion far more than they do
12:08to positive emotion because now they
12:10have something that they want to change
12:12or that they want to fix. So because of
12:14that, just listen to me very closely.
12:17Don't plan anything. And if she tells
12:18you that she wants a man who plans or
12:20she says, "Listen, that's not really
12:21going to fly. All of this spur-of the-
12:23moment type stuff, I'm not the type to
12:25do that. So you're going to have to plan
12:26something." Don't listen to it at all
12:28and just keep doing your thing. and
12:30she'll notice that you can't be changed
12:31or you can't be um
12:34that you don't adapt to change to who
12:37she claims she wants you to be. And then
12:41okay, her hardwiring on like a primal
12:43level when it comes to female nature,
12:45she looks at that guy and she goes,
12:46"Okay, he can't be changed. He is the
12:48masculine ideal. This is the man who
12:50knows himself. Regardless of what I say,
12:51this is how he communicates and this is
12:53how he operates." So because of that,
12:55now her emotions work in your favor and
12:57not the other guys. I think that this
12:59series that I'm going to make is going
13:00to be really good. I'll make a separate
13:02playlist on my channel for this. Um,
13:04this is going to be all the things that
13:06women do that you're going to notice the
13:08more you date. And the more that you can
13:09spot this stuff, the better you're going
13:10to be. If you like this video, hit the
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13:14community that I built so that way I can
13:16help you learn, understand, and master
13:17the language of women. And for those of
13:19you who don't know what the language of
13:20women is, it's a process that I created.
13:23So this process that I created, I break
13:25it down into three specific categories.
13:27There's front end game, which is how to
13:29act when you first meet the woman.
13:31There's midame or middle game, which is
13:33how to act and how to carry yourself on
13:35the first one to three dates. And then
13:36there's backend game, which is how to
13:38behave to keep the relationship dynamic
13:41alive and keep things going. That whole
13:43system encompasses the language of
13:45women. So, if you've had women pull away
13:47from you or ghost you or stop talking to
13:49you or maybe they've slept with you a
13:51few times and then all of a sudden she
13:52lost interest and you have no idea why.
13:54I created this system in this process to
13:56stop all of that so that way you have
13:58more predictability over your dating
14:00life so you know what's actually
14:01happening. And because I teach female
14:04nature at like the highest level, be
14:06sure to check out that community that I
14:07built because I know it can help you.
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