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How WOMEN get attached - The MASCULINE Temperament that creates arousal and desire (Casey Zander)

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0:00Okay, in this video I'm going to be

0:01showing you exactly how women get

0:03attached, okay? And this is the

0:05masculine temperament that actually

0:07creates arousal and desire. The reason

0:10why I'm making this is because majority

0:12of men don't understand this at all. You

0:15have to actually understand what gets

0:17her emotions engaged. What you have to

0:20understand is that her arousal and her

0:23desire is through words, okay? Inside of

0:26the mind. For example, with you it is

0:28most likely based on what you see. This

0:30is why men, okay, watch dirty websites

0:34and women read, okay, dirty romance

0:36novels because it comes down to the

0:38words for them. It's different. When you

0:41finally realize this, you're going to

0:42start to see that women do not see the

0:43lens of attraction the same way that you

0:45do. So, listen. Modern men today lack

0:48masculine temperament. They lack

0:51attitude, okay? They lack masculine

0:54temperament and attitude,

0:55[clears throat]

0:56which is the fundamental core of

0:58emotional spikes as well as a

1:00non-conforming attitude, okay? So,

1:04words, okay? When you actually focus on

1:06the words and what you say, you can

1:09actually tap into like her primal

1:11hardwiring and her primal hardwiring of

1:13attraction and desire and arousal. So,

1:16the core of the man only comes out when

1:19he turns his brain off and actually

1:22speaks freely based on what he feels

1:25instead of constantly thinking. I'm

1:27going to give you numerous examples

1:29through this and majority of men don't

1:31know how to do this because they watch

1:32so much content, they're basically

1:34sitting there mute and in like this

1:36passive state, damn near sitting there

1:38just like almost hypnotized because they

1:40have too much screen time. So, listen,

1:42okay? The core of the man only comes out

1:44when he turns his brain off and speaks

1:47freely based on what he feels instead of

1:50constantly thinking. So, most men simply

1:53cannot do this without drinking. They

1:55just can't. So, to do this, what I'm

1:58about to show you today, because you can

1:59see I have an entire board of notes

2:01right here. To do this sober is a

2:03complete skill. It's a complete skill.

2:06Okay, especially in this like common

2:09modern day like HR culture, which all

2:12men were raised in to just be very nice

2:14and be very polite and don't ever be

2:15offensive and make sure you never step

2:17on anybody's toes or else you're a bad

2:19guy. It's like all this is just BS.

2:21Complete BS. It's like all that happened

2:23was you don't even speak your mind about

2:25certain things or you don't even say

2:27what you want and then you sit there

2:28passive thinking that someone's going to

2:30get mad at you because you said one

2:32wrong sentence. It's like it's just

2:34stupid, okay? So, without this, what I

2:36would call masculine temperament,

2:38without this, okay, or you can call it

2:40whatever you want. Without this one

2:42thing, you can call it swag, you can

2:44call it bravado, you can call it

2:46masculine temperament, okay?

2:48Without that, whatever you want to call

2:50it, her female spirit will only long for

2:54something else and never fully love you.

2:56If you don't have this one thing, you

2:58can be the best looking dude on the

2:59world, you can be the most handsome,

3:02whatever. You can be the richest, you

3:03can be the highest status. When she

3:05starts talking to you and she starts

3:06testing that core, she sees that you

3:09don't have any oomph. And the oomph when

3:11you talk is what creates a sense of

3:13confidence. Whether you like how that

3:15sounds or not, okay, doesn't matter

3:18because that's what actually unlocks her

3:20arousal and her attraction. You got to

3:22remember this, a woman might stay with

3:23you from where you're going and what

3:25your purpose is in life and your

3:26direction and your competency, but women

3:29sleep with that dude or women bang that

3:31dude because of energy. The energy that

3:34he puts out in this world. Okay, so keep

3:36that in mind. All the looks maxing, all

3:38the red pill content, all the manosphere

3:40content in the world will not save you,

3:42okay, without this one thing. So, in

3:44order to get my point across a little

3:46quicker, I'm going to give you three

3:47core stories which will actually help

3:49illustrate this because what I have

3:51found is that almost every single dude

3:53typically above the age of like 45, 46,

3:5647, 48 naturally has this figured out

4:00because they didn't have so much screen

4:02time. So, their interactions with people

4:04were based on a sense of like

4:06camaraderie and um

4:09coming together of having a good time

4:11and the right energy. So, keep this in

4:13mind. There's three core stories I'm

4:15going to tell you right now to actually

4:17help you with vocal tone to understand

4:19masculine temperament. So, this was me

4:22the other day. So, me and myself, I was

4:24at a cigar bar, okay?

4:26And there was this old guy there. He was

4:28probably like 60 years old with this

4:29pretty hot like younger woman. She was

4:31probably like 30, okay? So, for him,

4:34right? That's like a That's a big age

4:36gap, okay? And she's with him and

4:37they're clearly on a date or they're

4:39clearly together. So, um

4:41what happened was I actually walked over

4:43to him and I was like, "Hey, can I

4:44borrow this pack of matches?" because I

4:46had to light my cigar. And he looks over

4:48at me and he goes, "Hell no." He goes,

4:49"You think you can just take my matches?

4:51Who you think you are?" right? And I

4:53laughed and I said, "Oh, woah, woah." I

4:54go, "Yeah, yeah, you're right, man. I'm

4:56going to find my own." And in sec I

4:58could tell what he was doing right away.

4:59And then the woman he was with started

5:01laughing at both of us and she starts

5:03laughing at this whole tone back and

5:05forth that we're doing. And then you can

5:06tell she's in that giggle state. And

5:08when they get into that giggle state,

5:10that's the point where they actually are

5:11like really feeling you, okay?

5:15From there, he's like, "Oh, no, no, I'm

5:16just kidding. Here, you take these

5:18matches." right? And he went on his day

5:19and I said, "Oh, thank you." right? But

5:20it's just those small interactions like

5:22that. Most dudes who are like, let's say

5:24if that dude would have been 30 instead

5:26of 60, he'd have said, "Yeah, sure. Here

5:27you go." Oh, thanks.

5:29And nothing would have came of it. But

5:30here there was energy, okay? So, I

5:33pointed that one thing out to my friend.

5:35I was with my friend, okay?

5:37I was with my friend and I told my

5:38friend, I was like, "Hey." I was like,

5:40"Check this out." I was like, "If he can

5:41do it, right? If this guy did that and

5:43this guy got her to giggle and she is 30

5:45and he's 60 and you see what that does

5:48to the energy into the environment when

5:50a woman sees that you let go and you

5:52stop thinking and you say that edgy

5:54stuff with that proper vocal tone that

5:56shows bravado. I was like, "Hey, I was

5:58like, dude, if he can do it, so can you.

5:59So can anybody." So I told my friend, I

6:01was like, "Hey man, I was like, next

6:03woman that you see, all you're going to

6:05do is you're going to say whatever comes

6:07to your mind."

6:08You're going to turn your brain off.

6:09You're going to stop thinking. You're

6:10going to just say whatever comes to your

6:11mind. And whatever you say, you're

6:13saying it fully confident, right?

6:15Because confidence in what you say only

6:17comes from what you believe.

6:19So like

6:21if you fully believe what you say, it's

6:24almost automatically correct by default.

6:26So he walks by um the woman, this is the

6:29second story. He sees a woman that he

6:31likes or he walks past her or something

6:32and instantly he turned his brain off.

6:34And he was just like, "Oh god

6:35damn, you're cute."

6:37"Oh you're so teeny tiny. Look how

6:39cute you are. Oh my gosh." Like he just

6:40said whatever came to his mind. And he

6:42said it with confidence. He said it with

6:44um conviction. He said it like he didn't

6:46care what the outcome was. And she

6:49blushed and then she was like, "Oh my

6:50gosh, I thought you were so attracted to

6:51I'm so nervous, right?" He walks away.

6:54By the time he's walking away, she's

6:56already sitting there going, "Hey, wait,

6:57wait, we didn't exchange numbers." Like

6:59she had like a positive interaction just

7:01from that. She even said she was like,

7:02"Oh, I feel like you're just so easy to

7:04talk to." This was actually her words.

7:06So this came from just seeing the

7:08results. I was like, "Dude, like if this

7:10old 60-year-old dude who's like bald and

7:12can do this, like you can do this, too.

7:13Like any guy can do this." It's an

7:15internal thing. Women are turned on

7:17through words. You have to understand

7:19this, okay? And the reason why I know

7:21that this is true is because women's

7:23fantasies come from like novels, okay?

7:26Or romance novels and words.

7:28When men look at bad stuff, right?

7:31They're going to these dirty websites,

7:32right? When women want to go down that

7:34road, they're not typically loading up

7:36the computer screen. What they're

7:37typically doing is reading those books.

7:39So that's what do to remember is the

7:41woman's attraction comes into the mind,

7:43right? It's through words, it's through

7:45tone. And then the third thing that

7:47happened was this, okay? Fast forward

7:49like a week later, this thing actually

7:50happened by accident right here. This

7:52actually happened by accident. So I'm

7:53sitting there um at this at this bar top

7:56and I order a pizza and it was kind of

7:57like a fancier restaurant and with my

7:59friend, right? and at these fancy

8:01restaurants, I hate them, right? Because

8:03I just like basic food, right? I like

8:05steak, I like chicken, I like pizza, I

8:06like cheeseburgers, basic stuff. If I

8:08have a pizza, I just want pepperoni,

8:10bunch of pizza sauce. You know on these

8:12fancy schmancy restaurants, right? They

8:14got hot honey oil and all the stupid

8:16stuff. And I said I was like, "Look, I

8:18go I don't need none of this fancy

8:19shit." I was like, "I want just basic

8:21pizza. I'm like, you give me some pizza

8:23sauce, right?" And I just said it like

8:25just like that. I was like, "I don't

8:26care all this high-class stuff, right?"

8:28I see I also see I was like, "I see all

8:30these people ordering this stuff

8:32hummus." I go, "I don't need none of

8:34that. I go, I don't know what that even

8:35is. I go, I ain't never had no damn

8:36hummus in my whole life." Right? And

8:38then what happens is the servers

8:39laughing. Table next to us, they start

8:42laughing. The woman who's married next

8:44to us, um

8:46you know, she starts giggling and saying

8:47how much that she's even with her

8:48husband and she's saying how funny that

8:50was. It creates the environment. This

8:52happened by accident. Just for me just

8:53saying what I like, right? Just caveman

8:56stupid simple, okay? So for example,

8:59like another thing that I'll notice is

9:01like my grandpa naturally had this. My

9:03grandpa naturally had this tone. Almost

9:05every dude's grandpa had this tone,

9:07right? He'd say, "Oh, man, $3.80 for

9:10that coffee? Now I remember at my diner,

9:13it was a nickel. Yeah, growing up when I

9:15was 12, it was a nickel. Look what

9:16happened, right?" Just whatever. Just

9:19grumbling, right? Saying whatever they

9:21want and the energy gets them to laugh.

9:23It gets people to laugh. It gets women

9:24to laugh. So this is why, okay, why

9:27women laugh at dudes of all ages because

9:30you have to understand that her

9:31attraction is verbal and it's less about

9:33the physical like yours is of what you

9:35see. Hers is verbal. So, women's

9:38arousal, okay, is most sensitive to

9:40words and vocal tone, which is why they

9:42get turned on reading like dirty books,

9:44okay?

9:45It's not typically visuals, it's

9:47typically all words. So, once you

9:49understand this and you now understand

9:51what I'm telling you, like how to get a

9:53woman attached, like this is how you get

9:54a woman attached. That's where like I

9:55just laugh, like I see all these dudes

9:57who are like on maybe social media and

9:59they're like in their early 20s, right?

10:01And they think that it's all about like

10:02how they look and stuff. And sure,

10:04that's like one piece of the pie, but

10:05there's so much more to it. And like if

10:07you follow just whatever the next trend

10:08is, right? It's like you don't have

10:10enough experience. Like I'm almost 30

10:13years old now. Right? So, I've actually

10:15seen stuff at all different ages through

10:17hanging out, partying, seeing what women

10:19giggle at. Like this is all like part of

10:21the thing, right? So, now that we've

10:24understood this, we understand the vocal

10:25tone, we understand masculine

10:27temperament. Now, there's actually three

10:29secret steps that I want you to

10:30understand. There's three secret steps

10:33that you have to understand in order to

10:34get to the end result, which is actually

10:36mastering front end game. Front end game

10:39is the very first piece when it comes to

10:40my process called the language of women.

10:42But what I'm going to do right here is

10:44I'm going to walk you through the three

10:46steps that you can actually use and

10:48leverage in your own dating life to

10:50start to actually like incorporate this

10:52masculine tone and masculine temperament

10:54into your day-to-day interactions so

10:56that way you can finally generate some

10:58attraction and get some real results.

11:00So, step one, okay, you have to know

11:02thyself. And when I say know thyself,

11:05that means we are crafting or we are

11:07creating a unique masculine archetype.

11:10We are creating a unique masculine

11:11archetype. So, you have to know

11:13yourself, okay? And this is based on

11:16your location of where you live, this is

11:18based on your hobbies, and this is based

11:20on your interests. So, let me give you

11:22an example. I will show you right here a

11:25picture of me

11:27in 2022. Okay, this is me in 2022. I was

11:30at like a country music concert or

11:31something.

11:33And now here's a pic from me last week.

11:35I'm the same dude. You can see I'm the

11:36same dude. I think it's even the exact

11:38same uh cowboy hat. I'm the same dude.

11:41So, this right here is congruence. Once

11:44you have congruence through personality

11:46and through identity, now you can

11:48finally combine that with the proper

11:50vocal tone. I see a lot of different

11:52dudes emulating how other dudes talk,

11:56and the problem is like, dude, if that

11:57other dude that you're emulating grew up

11:59in a completely different environment,

12:01sounds completely different, it's not

12:02going to be the same as you. It's not

12:04like there's one personality that's

12:06better. It's like, how far can you

12:08actually lean into yourself confidently?

12:10Okay? So, this is congruence. Once you

12:13have congruence, now you got to combine

12:14this with vocal tone. Okay, so me, the

12:17way that I look, okay, and the aesthetic

12:20that I have, and I'm from North Dakota,

12:22and where I'm from, if I was at a bar,

12:25if I was like anywhere, if I was just

12:27out and about and I said, "Oh, well,

12:28look at you, huh? You're pretty lady,

12:30huh?"

12:31Okay, that would come off natural, that

12:33would come off congruent. If I tried to

12:35do or say something or start throwing

12:37off sauce or rizz into the universe

12:39that's like a completely different dude,

12:41it's not going to align, and it's not

12:42going to be the thing that I need. So,

12:45the first is you got to create your

12:46unique masculine archetype. This is me,

12:49this is what I wear, this is how I am,

12:50this is what I'm doing, and it works,

12:52okay? But, what I can tell you is do not

12:54emulate somebody that you're not. If you

12:56emulate somebody that you're not, this

12:58is the fastest way to start to lose,

13:00because rest assured, I want you to

13:02really be aware of this, there is no

13:04specific better personality.

13:07I'll say that again, there is no better

13:09personality. It's [clears throat] not

13:10like somebody else has a better

13:11personality, okay? Only your conviction

13:14in yourself is what matters.

13:16Your personality can be literally the

13:18best if you believe it's the best

13:20because it's you. So, it comes down to a

13:22sense of belief, and a sense of belief

13:24is confidence, and you're going to see

13:26what I mean by that when it gets to step

13:27two.

13:29But, I want you to remember that saying

13:30right now. Belief is confidence,

13:32confidence is belief, okay? If I've ran

13:35Let's say Let's say I've ran a 5-minute

13:37mile every week, once a week, for um

13:40let's say a year straight.

13:42Well, by week 53, I probably have just

13:44as much confidence, okay, and belief

13:46that I can run maybe a 4:59 mile if I go

13:49just a little bit quicker because I have

13:51proof of running exactly 5 minutes on

13:52the dot. Belief builds confidence, which

13:56leads me to step number two.

13:58And step number two is demonstrating

14:00real-life active masculinity. I will say

14:02that again, real-life active

14:03masculinity. So, let me give you an

14:05example. When you're with a woman to

14:06demonstrate real active masculinity,

14:09because the male, the man energy is

14:12active, it's the doing, right? The man

14:14energy is that doing energy. It's like

14:16putting your will out into the world.

14:18It's that that that spirit of like the

14:20warrior, right? The conquering energy.

14:22Okay, so you're demonstrating soul.

14:25Dudes with a lot of soul, dudes with a

14:27lot of heart, they'll typically

14:29outwardly demonstrate this, and they

14:31typically attract all the women. So,

14:33what you're going for is loud, active,

14:36and sure of yourself. That is active

14:38masculinity. These dudes who are very

14:41worried about their looks, I get it. You

14:43want to be lean, you want to have a

14:44six-pack. I've had a six-pack for like

14:45the past 10 years, right?

14:47But, like if you're missing the internal

14:49guts of the man and how he is and how he

14:51sounds, you're going to be at a severe

14:53disadvantage. Confidence in vocal tone

14:56only comes from belief in speech. Now,

14:58belief in speech comes from when you

15:00stop thinking, okay? Because now you

15:02become sure of yourself, because what

15:04you're saying becomes correct by default

15:07because you believe it. This is how

15:09energy works when you're attracting

15:10women. Let me give you an example.

15:12Here's what belief would look like.

15:14Let's say you have a bright red apple,

15:16and you know it's red, and you can see

15:17that it's red, and a different dude

15:19comes up to you and he says, "Hey, that

15:21apple's blue."

15:22How confident and how convicted in your

15:24speech would you be to prove to them

15:26that that apple is red? You say, "No,

15:28bro, look, the apple is red. Like, you

15:30can see that it's red. Do you see that

15:33it's red? You can see that it's red,

15:34right?"

15:35Okay? You following me?

15:38You would have full belief and full

15:39confidence because you believe what you

15:41say. That is conviction. That is

15:44confidence. This is how you build it

15:46with women.

15:47But, you have to start throwing out

15:48those active sentences. Active sentences

15:51demonstrating active masculinity,

15:53putting your sauce, your ribs, your will

15:55out into the universe. This is much

15:57easier with step number three.

15:59Because step number three, I have two

16:01rock-solid examples of how this actually

16:03works when you have the proper friends

16:05around you and the proper male energy

16:07and the proper wingman. When you're with

16:09your friends, or if you want to call

16:11them wingman or whatever, okay? You need

16:13other guys who actually understand how

16:16to talk to each other this way. And when

16:19you do this, okay? You need wings that

16:22get this and talk to each other in this

16:24exact speech pattern that I'm

16:26demonstrating. Okay? It's like even if

16:28you have like a football team or a

16:30basketball team, right? There's like a

16:31common set of like lingo, of like

16:34speech, right? Of like like pumping up

16:36everybody, right? When you guys are all

16:37on the same page, okay? You need to

16:39spend more time talking to each other.

16:41Okay, the men spend more time talking to

16:44each other than they do her. So, it's

16:47almost avoiding direct conversation.

16:49You're almost avoiding direct

16:51conversation. You can literally get laid

16:53or damn near have a girlfriend by the

16:54end of the night by absolutely knowing

16:56nothing about her, not knowing where

16:57she's from, not giving a crap where she

16:59went to school, simply through your

17:01energy and talking amongst the other

17:03dudes that you're with. So, let me give

17:05you an example. I had a group of friends

17:07back home, okay?

17:09There's probably like 10 other dudes,

17:10okay? And a few of them what I noticed,

17:12even like my one really close friend, he

17:13goes hunting all the time.

17:15Um

17:17what I would notice, okay? he would

17:19always say this, boy, b o i, but they

17:21would even do this when they're texting.

17:23What's up, boy, b o i. That's just what

17:25they would call each other. So, when

17:27they're out on the sandbar or one of

17:28them are out on the party, it's just uh

17:30yo, boy, what's up, okay? What you're

17:32going to notice is like, for example,

17:34let's say they all go out on the river

17:35or something and they're on the jet ski.

17:37All of a sudden, like the tone, the

17:39attitude, it's just so much like this

17:41frat boy behavior, okay? I You might

17:44hear something like This is probably

17:45like 5 10 years ago, but you hear

17:47something and it's like, boy, you see

17:49that boy? We jumped that wave. Oh,

17:51bro, we jumped that man.

17:53Okay, that energy right there, what

17:56would happen is all the women would feed

17:58off of it. The women would literally

18:00feed off of that energy. And then the

18:03women would even start saying it, too,

18:05because now there's like a common set of

18:07like language that everybody's like

18:08having fun with and it's this energy.

18:10Women follow fun. So, that rowdy energy

18:14to women literally is like flies on

18:16Right, like I can't control that

18:18it's like this. This is just what I've

18:20observed after, you know, learning this

18:22stuff over the past like 10 years plus.

18:24So, when you combine these three things,

18:26step number one, know thyself and create

18:28a unique masculine archetype. Step

18:30number two, demonstrate real life active

18:32masculinity. Step number three, now you

18:34get your wing men or the friends that

18:36you're with to all understand this and

18:38have a common set of language where it's

18:40almost like you're rising each other.

18:42This strategy is how you actually get

18:43the vibe state that gets her to want to

18:46sleep with you. And she thinks you're

18:47like the funnest, coolest dude ever all

18:49of a sudden. So, all three of these,

18:51what I just described, step one, step

18:53two, step three, this right here is what

18:55I would call front end game, okay? So,

18:58now it's time that you fully understand,

19:01learn, and master the entire system of

19:03the language of women, which means some

19:05of the things that you learn in this

19:06video, this is some of the few key core

19:08concepts of what I'm going to show you

19:11inside of front end game when you start

19:13to learn, understand, and master the

19:14language of women, which is why it is

19:16now time for you to join us inside of

19:18that community because there's two more

19:19pieces of the puzzle left. I'm going to

19:21teach you mid game or middle game, which

19:23is how to act from the first one to

19:24three dates, and then I'm even going to

19:26show you back-end game, how to

19:28successfully manage a proper long-term

19:30relationship, but you have to understand

19:33the stuff that we just described today

19:34is literally just the tip of the

19:36iceberg. It is literally just the tip of

19:38the iceberg. If you think that this

19:39stuff is good and this stuff makes

19:40sense,

19:41this is only just a few of the key core

19:44concepts that I explained at an even

19:46deeper level in the actual system when

19:49I'm demonstrating and showing how to

19:51demonstrate real front-end game inside

19:53of the language of women. The next step

19:54is you need to actually take this

19:56further. You need to understand that

19:58over the past however many years, you

20:00have gotten to a point most likely in

20:02your dating life where you don't have

20:03any options, you're watching video after

20:05video, and you still don't have results.

20:07If you're there and you don't have

20:08results, it's now time we get some

20:09results. So, join us inside of that

20:11community, hit the like button, comment,

20:14and subscribe, and we'll see you in the

20:16next one.

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