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0:00So, when I turned 30, recently,
0:02something like just changed. I don't
0:04know why, but the way my mindset started
0:06to look at things like I turned 30 last
0:08week and like
0:09I just feel different.
0:11So, I wanted to make this video
0:14to help you become a man who is capable,
0:17a man who is strong, a man who is
0:20powerful,
0:22and a man who is socially resilient.
0:24Okay? So, that way you can get what you
0:26want out of life. That's what I'm here
0:28to do. I'm here to help you get what you
0:30want out of life.
0:32I know a thing or two about this because
0:34I've accomplished pretty much every goal
0:36I've ever had, and I typically do a bit
0:39more than most people. Okay?
0:42Because of that,
0:45if you're a part of this channel, and
0:47you've been watching this channel, and
0:49you like the content I produce, I want
0:51you to align with these traits and these
0:53beliefs with how you see yourself. You
0:55are capable, you are strong, you are
0:57powerful, you are socially resilient
0:59because you are getting what you want
1:01out of this life.
1:02Every single dude I've ever met in my
1:04life, every single dude I've ever met in
1:07my entire life who has these traits,
1:10pretty much everybody who views them
1:12looks at that dude and goes, "Yes, that
1:14is alpha or he represents that."
1:18That type of guy gets what he wants, and
1:20he's not ashamed of it. I'm here to let
1:22you in on a little secret. You don't
1:23have to be ashamed of what you want. So,
1:25let me give you an example here.
1:27Okay, if you're here on this channel,
1:29you're here to get what you want out of
1:30life. And my job, especially as I age,
1:33okay, is to simplify this for you.
1:36To boil down all the principles that I
1:38know and get you results as fast as
1:40possible
1:41with doing
1:43the least amount of work. That's called
1:45wisdom. Okay? So, let me give you an
1:47example.
1:49If you see a hot woman,
1:51your brain goes, "I want her." That's
1:54it. That's pretty normal.
1:56The bad boy, if you want to call it
1:58that, because that's what all the game
2:00gurus over there, whatever, have been
2:03calling it for however long,
2:05that guy's okay with that.
2:08When he sees her and he goes, I want
2:09her, he's not ashamed of his desires.
2:12Okay? Now, instead of labeling that a
2:14bad boy, I want you to just start to
2:16label that as being a normal man. A
2:18normal man who is capable, strong,
2:21powerful, socially resilient, and gets
2:23what he wants out of life.
2:25Let her label you whatever she would
2:27like to label you. I want you to just
2:29identify with what is rock solid to help
2:31you be a good functioning human being.
2:33So, you see a hot woman and you go, I
2:35want her. Okay? Now, 99%ers out there,
2:39dudes with that 99%er mindset,
2:42you can't even listen to them, no matter
2:45what they say in the comment section.
2:47Oh, I ain't talking to her. Oh, I ain't
2:48validating her. Oh, it's worth my peace,
2:51not worth my peace. Oh, blah, blah,
2:53modern women this. Listen, you got to
2:55understand this, and I know this because
2:56I've done things in life.
2:5899%ers have no balls to go after what
3:02they want, ever.
3:03These guys who make excuses never start
3:06the business that they want to start,
3:08never do what it takes to go and just
3:10get their first customer, never do what
3:11it takes to be consistent in the gym and
3:13just build a body, never do what they
3:15want to get the hot girl that they
3:16really want. They don't do anything. All
3:18they do is they make excuses and they
3:20say the juice isn't worth the squeeze,
3:22or they say in business the market's too
3:23saturated, or they say that she has too
3:25many options in her social media inbox.
3:28Blah, blah, blah, I don't care.
3:31There has been times in my life
3:33where I've walked up to a woman and I
3:35said, "Hey, excuse me. Thought you were
3:36so pretty. Hey, excuse me. Didn't know
3:38I'd see the prettiest girl today when I
3:39went on my walk."
3:42And she smiles. I said, "What's your
3:44name?"
3:45She told me, I told her mine. We
3:47exchanged phone numbers and I went out
3:48with her a couple days later. That's
3:49happened to me, and been that simple. In
3:51that 30-seconds, I didn't lose my peace.
3:55I didn't over-validate and lose
3:57self-respect for my life. No, I went
3:59after what I wanted, and whether I got
4:00rejected, if I would have in that
4:02circumstance or not, I didn't go to bed
4:03thinking that, "Oh, I lost self-respect
4:05and all this." These excuses that I'm
4:07seeing guys have is like so conditioned
4:10into their mindset to be passive. I'm
4:12going to help you break free from all
4:13that. Listen, regret hurts in life.
4:16Regret hurts in life far worse than
4:18rejection.
4:19If you never start the business you
4:21wanted to start, that's going to hurt
4:22way worse than getting rejected by a
4:23prospect on a sales call. Listen, if you
4:26never approach the hot girl you wanted
4:28to talk to, you will live with that
4:29forever. There's been times in my life
4:31where I've literally gotten my crush.
4:34So, the girl I had a crush on, I
4:36attracted her, and I dated her. Most
4:38guys never get that opportunity, and it
4:41starts with identifying with the fact
4:43that you're okay with going after what
4:45you want. So, most guys with no will,
4:49like they have no internal will to go
4:51and get what they want out of life.
4:53They will say, "Oh, I'm not going to
4:55validate her. I'm not going to give her
4:57free attention." Here's my favorite,
4:58"What did she do to deserve it?" She
5:00didn't do anything, but who gives a
5:01crap? Who did Who Who cares?
5:04Who cares?
5:05Go and talk to her if that's what you
5:07want. Like, I'm going to help you break
5:08free from all this, but it starts by
5:10adapting and adopting the mindset of no
5:12more excuses. No more excuses why we
5:14can't win.
5:15No more excuses. And listen, for guys
5:17who say, "Oh, well, I don't have the
5:18right pre-selection. I don't have the
5:19right images on social media. I don't
5:21have the right profile on my dating
5:23app." Dude, you can do all that. You
5:25literally, like, let's just actually use
5:27some logic here. You can go and talk to
5:29the hot girl when you're on the bike
5:30trail or you're on the walk path and ask
5:32her how she's doing, and you want to
5:33take her out, and you can do that
5:35sometime. You can go and do that. And
5:36guess what, bro? You can still have a
5:38dating app.
5:39Wow.
5:40Ain't that awesome?
5:42Well, you can still have a dating app.
5:44Oh my god, wow.
5:45>> [applause]
5:47>> So, this is just total BS, okay?
5:50Life is about going after what you want.
5:55Not what the guru on social media told
5:57you to want, not what I told you to
5:58want, not what your parents told you to
6:00want. Life is about going after what you
6:02want. You.
6:04What you want.
6:06Okay? You commit to what you want out of
6:08life. Okay, and it starts with being
6:10okay with being direct about your
6:12desires. So, listen, when it comes to
6:14game with a woman,
6:16when it comes to game, when it comes to
6:17social skills and having a personality
6:20socially, okay,
6:22please listen to me. You have to learn
6:25how to be direct with your
6:27communication.
6:28I want to take you out.
6:31I think you are pretty.
6:33Hello, I think you are pretty. I want to
6:35take you out. You have to do it scares
6:37you Listen, you have to learn how to be
6:39direct, okay? You have to learn how to
6:42be a direct masculine man before you
6:45ever have the social skills to go
6:47indirect.
6:49You have to do this. You have to learn
6:50this.
6:51When guys try to be indirect socially
6:54and they try to like create attraction
6:55without giving too much power away and
6:56all this, do you understand how much
6:58mental gymnastics you are putting
7:00yourself through?
7:01Do you understand how like advanced that
7:02is? And a lot of guys, you don't even
7:04have to be that advanced. I've been on
7:05dates before by just saying, "Hey,
7:06you're pretty. Let's go out sometime.
7:08Let's switch numbers." That That simple.
7:09No game. No game at all. Isn't that
7:11amazing?
7:12Some of you you might find a girlfriend
7:14or wife, you might have a family by
7:16literally just saying that. One thing.
7:18Because you stepped outside of your
7:19shell, you stepped outside of your
7:21comfort zone. You have to learn how to
7:22be a direct masculine man before you
7:24ever have the social skills to go
7:25indirect. So, listen,
7:28how do you adopt this mindset? You do it
7:29by just living by this one rule, okay? I
7:31say and I do what I want.
7:34Not like in an aggressive way. I say and
7:36I do what I want. No, just I say it and
7:38I do what I want. If I want a steak, I
7:40will look at the server and I'll say, "I
7:41would like my steak rare.
7:43I would like my steak medium rare. I'm
7:45okay with that, okay?
7:47If I want a coffee, I will go to the
7:49coffee shop and I'll say, I would like
7:51an Americano. I would like a latte. No
7:53shame in that. That's what I want.
7:55That's what I like. That's what I'm
7:56drinking. If I want some sleep and I
7:59don't want to go out with all my friends
8:00on Saturday night, I will text them and
8:02I will say, I need to sleep. My
8:04apologies. I know that it sucks and you
8:06guys want to see me. I am very tired.
8:08Send. See you next week. Send.
8:11If there's a woman, okay?
8:15If I think she's pretty, listen, if I
8:17think she's pretty,
8:18I will say, I want your number. I would
8:21like your number. Just like that. That's
8:23it.
8:24You have to learn how to be okay with
8:26your desires. Most men just don't go
8:28after what they want in life and I'm
8:29seeing that this is like a more and more
8:31recurring theme. Uh okay, especially as
8:34like younger generations are so glued to
8:36the cell phone. Like, we have to escape
8:38this a bit and we have to actually be
8:40okay with like just being a dude that
8:41like gets what he wants.
8:43Like, this is so easy if you just allow
8:46yourself to be okay with a simple
8:48sentence. I want to take you out.
8:51I want to go here with you. I will take
8:53us to do this. Would you like to come
8:55with me? I want to do this. Very, very
8:56simple.
8:58So, I am not afraid of being told no,
9:01nor does this make me feel like I lost
9:03my peace. This is the biggest BS excuse
9:07that weak men say. Weak men will say
9:09this excuse, I just want to keep my
9:11peace. Juice isn't worth the squeeze.
9:13I'm just keeping my peace. Bro, there's
9:16been times in my life where I've woken
9:18up at 8:00 a.m.
9:20and I went out and by 1:00 p.m.
9:23I did five approaches.
9:25And I probably walked away with three,
9:27four numbers. That quick.
9:29I didn't lose no damn peace. And if I
9:32would have gotten rejected or if she
9:33would have given me an attitude, and I'm
9:35talking to her face-to-face and I'm
9:37getting this attitude and this cold
9:39vibe, I will politely and quietly turn
9:42and walk the other way.
9:44No peace was lost. The only thing was 30
9:47seconds of my day, 30 seconds of my
9:49time. Guess what happens when you allow
9:51yourself to be the masculine man who's
9:53the active initiator in the
9:54conversation, a lot of women are
9:56actually attracted to that. Oh my god,
9:58isn't that amazing? A lot of women
10:00actually want to talk to you. How cool
10:01is that? Like how cool is that they
10:03actually want to talk to you if you
10:04allow yourself to open your mouth.
10:08So, this is like blatantly obvious,
10:10okay?
10:11Um
10:13and it's just weak excuses. Like I've
10:14never lost peace over a woman. I've
10:17never went to bed and go, "I lost my
10:19self-respect cuz I said she was pretty."
10:21No, nine times out of 10 she smiles and
10:23she blushes and says, "Thank you."
10:25There's been women who I've approached
10:26before and I've asked to take them out
10:28and they said it's been years since this
10:30has happened to them.
10:31That has happened to me personally. So,
10:33like this is not very hard, okay? The
10:35reason why as a man in life you want to
10:38start your social skills journey with a
10:40direct communication is for this one
10:42reason. You want to get to the point
10:44where you're no longer ashamed of your
10:46desires. And you no longer have to beat
10:48around the bush and be so like covert
10:50and hidden and try to use all this game
10:52techniques and strategies. A lot of guys
10:54who do this, man,
10:55you will work yourself up into so much
10:57anxiety. Was this the right thing to
10:59say? Did I over-validate? Did I
11:01under-validate? No, here's my
11:03validation. I'm not going to think about
11:05this a lot. I don't care a whole lot to
11:07think about this the right way. If you
11:09want to go out with me, you'll switch me
11:11numbers and we'll go out, and if not,
11:12I'm going to turn around and I'll never
11:13see you again, and that's that, and I
11:14lose in no peace.
11:16Okay, very basic. No longer afraid of my
11:19desires, no longer afraid of your
11:20desires, okay? This is why a guy can't
11:23get the girl that he wants or any girl
11:25for that matter is because he's not up
11:27front with going after with what he
11:29wants. This is is he can't start the
11:30business. This is why he can't get in
11:32shape. This is why he just doesn't win
11:35in general. Guys who don't win it's
11:37because they don't ask for the win. They
11:40don't ask for the win.
11:42Like this is blatantly obvious. He
11:43doesn't allow himself to win in the
11:45first place.
11:48If you think the girl you see at the gym
11:50that you think is so hot,
11:52if you never walk up to her and start
11:54talking to her,
11:55and you never say, "Hey, I'd like to
11:57take you out sometime. You want to
11:58switch numbers?" How is she supposed to
12:00ever know where you're wanting to lead
12:02that interaction? Are you going to trip,
12:04fall, and stumble one day and hopefully
12:06socially you two are out and just meet
12:08at the perfect moment with this friend
12:10group together and she just makes eye
12:12contact with you and just pulls out her
12:14phone and coincidentally says, "Hey,
12:16please have my number." No, that's not
12:18going to happen. Make something happen.
12:20I've had to make everything happen for
12:22myself in life. Every dollar I have ever
12:25made in my business, I had to generate.
12:27Every single thing I built, I had to
12:29build myself. Every single rep in the
12:32gym, I had to build. Every single
12:34approach I had to do to fortify my
12:36confidence, I had to go and do it.
12:38Eventually, you're going to have to tell
12:39yourself you're okay with being a doer
12:41and you're okay with being a bit
12:42different than your friends, and you're
12:44okay with going after what you want in
12:46this life, and that's okay. The way I
12:48came to terms with this over the years
12:50was by this one simple column. I just
12:52started analyzing, okay? I analyzed my
12:55actual personality. So, I want you to
12:57analyze your actual personality
12:59and what you care about.
13:01What is it that you care about?
13:03Okay? Let me give you an example.
13:05Not what you're told to care about, but
13:07what you actually care about. I'll give
13:08you an example. If I see a hot woman,
13:11there's some guys they love small talk.
13:13They love to sit there and just BS back
13:15and forth. I'm not really like that. I
13:17don't care a whole lot about simple
13:19sentences of stuff going on in people's
13:22life. I just don't. I'm not a mean guy.
13:24I'm still going to be very nice, right?
13:26I'm still a nice guy. Like, "Hey, how
13:28you doing?" I'll smile at you and I'll
13:30talk to you. But, I'm not really the
13:32type to sit there and spend tons of
13:33minutes just BSing a whole lot, okay?
13:36So, if I see a hot woman, okay, I don't
13:38really care a whole lot about, "Hey,
13:39where are you from? What are you doing?
13:40Where are you working at?" All this
13:41stuff or any like small talk. Like, I
13:43don't really care. There's some guys
13:45they thrive in that and that's them.
13:47That's not me.
13:48I'm a little bit more
13:51prioritize time a little quicker, okay?
13:55I'm a man and I communicate as such,
13:57okay? So, I want to know
14:00if she'll go out with me and that's
14:01that. That's all I want to know.
14:04I'm going to tell her I want to take her
14:05out and I'm going to just start [snorts]
14:07with that. And that's all I want to
14:08know. And if she ain't into that, then
14:10that's fine. Then, I'll find a different
14:11woman who is.
14:13That's it.
14:15No games, nothing. No loss of my peace,
14:17nothing.
14:20Now, when I say I'm a nice guy about it,
14:22you can still be a direct guy who's
14:24direct and still like be a good human
14:27with social skills.
14:29You don't have to sound robotic.
14:31You can say, "Hey, excuse me. I thought
14:32you were so pretty.
14:35What's your name?
14:37Uh do you want to go out with me
14:38sometime?
14:39I'd love to take you out." That's a
14:41direct
14:42approach.
14:44I softened it with my tone
14:46for good social skills and good human to
14:48human dynamic. But, it's like you have
14:50to get to this point. Like I said,
14:52here's why I know this works, okay? I've
14:55done this numerous times in my life,
14:57okay? Numerous times. So, this is where
14:58I know it works. For any of you saying,
15:00"Oh, that's not textbook game. That's
15:02not good game."
15:05There's people who I know who are top
15:07performers at their company, literally
15:09top performers, sales reps, top
15:11performers, who don't follow the script
15:13at all.
15:14Because they're just good at what they
15:16do.
15:16They're just good, okay? I'm trying to
15:19make an analogy here so you understand.
15:21You can just do things and get results.
15:24So here's how I know that this works.
15:26There's been times before where I just
15:28walked up and I said, "Hey, excuse me.
15:30Thought you were pretty. Let's switch
15:31numbers. Let's go out." And then 2 days
15:32later we just met. That's it. That's all
15:34it was. And I know that this works
15:36because I've done it. I've done it, so I
15:38know that it works. So listen, my first
15:40business was CZ Fitness is what I called
15:43it, like CZ Fitness. It was
15:44caseyzdannerhealth.com. That's what I
15:46used to do um years ago when I was
15:48really in my early 20s.
15:50And
15:51there was tons of my friends or like
15:53people around [clears throat] me or like
15:54I didn't really know if it would work.
15:55It wasn't like socially not everybody
15:57was like doing this and being an
15:58internet person, but I didn't care. I
16:01just did it cuz I wanted to. And then I
16:02made my first couple hundred grand doing
16:04it because I just did things. I just did
16:06it. No one taught me. I just did it.
16:09So like if you get used to just doing
16:10things, I know that this works cuz this
16:12is how I built my whole life, okay? When
16:14you do stuff, okay, and you allow
16:16yourself to freely just go after what
16:18you want in life, you do win. So I want
16:20you to be a man who's capable, strong,
16:21powerful, socially resilient so you can
16:23actually get what you want. Join us
16:25inside the community that I built so
16:27that way I can help you learn,
16:28understand, and master the language of
16:29women. I think it's some of my best
16:31work. We've built an amazing community,
16:33so I want to see you inside of there.
16:34Hit the like button, comment, and
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