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0:00Now, there's a really big problem that
0:02most modern men seem to not be able to
0:04come to terms with, but the fact is like
0:07what is most masculine is not what is
0:10most attractive.
0:12This is something that modern men are
0:14going to have to come to terms with if
0:16they actually want real life dating
0:18success. Because if you actually look at
0:21the men that women choose, it is
0:24typically men
0:26with a combination of both masculine and
0:30some feminine type qualities or traits.
0:33This is why most of the time if you
0:35wear, let's say, jewelry or accessories
0:37as a man, you get much more attention
0:40from women. This is why women will
0:42typically choose a guy in a bar, let's
0:44say, with a low stubble when it comes to
0:48beard length versus a guy with a full-on
0:51long masculine beard.
0:53Like, men need to understand and men
0:55need to realize that what is most
0:57masculine to you, or what is considered
1:00most masculine, does not by default mean
1:02that it is most attractive to women.
1:05And I think it's really important to
1:06make this conclusion for yourself
1:08because you need to really sit back and
1:10ask yourself like,
1:13are the beliefs that I hold beliefs that
1:15are true,
1:17or is it just beliefs that sound good in
1:19theory? Like, are these beliefs that
1:21actually work in the real world when it
1:23comes to practice, or is this just my
1:25theory and my internal belief?
1:28See, here's the thing.
1:31Social media doesn't lie.
1:34Okay? This is what you got to
1:35understand. Sure, social media might
1:37have some negative side effects where
1:38people say like, oh, you know, it's
1:40harder to date than it ever was before,
1:42or uh hypergamy is off the charts and
1:44it's harder to get any options more than
1:46it ever has been. Okay, sure. Maybe
1:48that's true to some degree, but it also
1:50gives you a pretty damn good clear
1:52picture
1:53of which men are selected by women and
1:55which aren't.
1:57And
1:59the men that women are simping for in
2:01the DMs,
2:03it's not these high-value stoic
2:05ultra-masculine like basically Chads,
2:08like you like to call it. These aren't
2:10the guys getting chosen.
2:12So, I think that like maybe this was due
2:15to like over the years like such heavy
2:17heavy influence of, let's say, like the
2:19red pill movement, for example, or like
2:21the manosphere movement, for example.
2:23And this sounded really good on paper
2:25for a lot of guys to say, you know, if I
2:27just become more masculine and if I
2:29choose to become the more stoic
2:31masculine um
2:33you know, whatever,
2:35I'm going to have all the options, but
2:37that's not the case.
2:38Because if you actually look who the
2:40women are choosing, it is never who you
2:41actually think it is. And this is why
2:43actors, musicians, songwriters,
2:47um DJs, uh party animals, dudes
2:51constantly at the bar having a good
2:52time, dudes up and down even with their
2:55emotional state, these are the guys
2:56getting the most play from women.
2:58These are the guys with the most
2:59options.
3:00And these are the guys even where
3:01sometime like
3:03his behavior is volatile or erratic and
3:06she thinks it's hot because she's
3:08stimulated. You got to understand this.
3:10A lot of times these stoic
3:11ultra-masculine dudes, she doesn't feel
3:13anything for them. She doesn't feel
3:14anything for them. They're completely
3:15boring. So, all you have to do is you
3:17have to actually look at who are the men
3:19that women are actually choosing. And
3:22most men simply cannot wrap their heads
3:24around the fact. They cannot wrap their
3:26minds around the fact that what is most
3:28masculine
3:31is not what's most attractive.
3:34Let me give you an example. I'm going to
3:35put up this picture, okay, right here.
3:37I would say that this photo was me
3:39inside of the male gaze, g a z e, okay?
3:44Now, compare that to this photo of me in
3:47my younger years. I would say that this
3:49photo appeals more to the female gaze, g
3:52a z e, okay?
3:54You're going to look at the second
3:55photo, when I'm younger, without a
3:57beard, and you're going to see that I
3:58have softer features and you're going to
4:00see that um I look more like the pretty
4:02boy type.
4:05The amount of choosing signals that I
4:07got from hot women, okay?
4:11In that second photo,
4:13night and day difference, okay? Compared
4:16to this photo
4:18that I just showed you. Which is why as
4:19I've gotten older, okay, I've had to
4:21re-evaluate different things and
4:24different characteristics to really
4:25understand attraction at a fundamental
4:27level. Now, what this looks like with
4:30age, once I actually understand stuff at
4:32a deeper level, starts to look like
4:34this.
4:35And this right here is me in my older
4:37years also appealing to the female gaze,
4:40g a z e. So, you're going to have to
4:42make a choice. You're going to have to
4:43make a decision. You can choose to be
4:46the most masculine, but that doesn't
4:48mean you're going to get laid the most.
4:49You can choose to be the most masculine.
4:52That doesn't necessarily mean that the
4:53women are all going to choose you. And
4:55what I can tell you is that every single
4:57time in my life that I've attracted the
4:58most women is when I was getting the
5:00most hate from other men. You can choose
5:03to be the highest value stoic,
5:04non-reactive, unemotional, whatever you
5:07want to call it. Whatever more videos
5:08you want to keep watching. But the stuff
5:11that I talk about comes from a decade of
5:14actually getting laid
5:17and constantly re-evaluating what works
5:19and what doesn't. It comes from a decade
5:22of practice, a decade of
5:25actually seeing what works in the real
5:27world.
5:29So,
5:30what you have to understand is like just
5:32because you maybe hold a belief or
5:34you've been influenced by different
5:36videos on social media to believe
5:39certain things about masculinity,
5:41that's cool, but it's like if your life
5:43fundamentally hasn't changed at all and
5:45you're just sitting behind a computer
5:46screen agreeing with stuff, and you
5:48haven't put anything out into the real
5:50world to try and test for yourself, you
5:53have absolutely no real world
5:54understanding of what works and what
5:56doesn't. And one of the things that guys
5:58are going to have to come to terms with
5:59is that what is most masculine is
6:01typically not what's most attractive to
6:03women. This is why women gravitate
6:05towards a blend of guys who have both
6:08masculine and feminine characteristics
6:10because at the end of the day, she wants
6:12everything because she wants dad.
6:16Let me give you an example.
6:17Let's say there's a woman
6:19um
6:21women, for example, who understand the
6:23male lens of attraction do this really
6:25well because a lot of times they start
6:26to actually fit the mother archetype.
6:29So, what happens? You're out and about
6:32and you see that woman in that beautiful
6:34sundress and she looks just elegant.
6:38It does something to you where you
6:39almost want to go and talk to her. And
6:41you'll want to talk to her on a
6:42different level. It's like you're almost
6:44going to give yourself more courage,
6:46even if you think that she's
6:47intimidating because of her beauty or
6:49whatever. You're going to even give
6:50yourself more courage, or you're going
6:52to feel like you're going to have an
6:53easier experience talking to her and
6:56this is actually going to go somewhere
6:57compared to just like, you know, the hot
6:59girl that you see out at the bar or
7:01something who's all dressed up. When you
7:04see a woman who knows how to embody the
7:07right traits to appeal to the male lens
7:10of attraction,
7:11it does something to you where you want
7:12to go and talk to her because she's
7:14demonstrating the mother archetype,
7:15because you see traits that would appeal
7:18um
7:19to your lens of attraction and appear
7:20nurturing or feminine or soft or sweet,
7:23which makes you gravitate towards her.
7:25Listen, women want dad. The father
7:28archetype. So, the dad has to be
7:31everything. Sure, the dad has to be
7:32stoic and strong at times, but the dad,
7:37if he has children, he has to also um
7:40give the kids a good experience
7:42and have fun with them.
7:44And he has to show that he doesn't take
7:46life too seriously, so that way the kid
7:48can be in a playful state and have fun.
7:51So,
7:52you as the father archetype, you're
7:54going to have to show that you are
7:56everything. Yes, you are stoic from time
7:58to time. Yes, you are strong from time
7:59to time. But yes,
8:01you're also going to embody the traits
8:03that also
8:05shows for the long haul that
8:07you are a good fit. Which is why women
8:10want everything. And the guy who
8:12satisfies hypergamy is the guy who
8:14satisfies everything best.
8:16That's why when a woman really likes
8:18you, she calls her girlfriends and she
8:19says, he's strong and he's smart and
8:22he's funny and he's handsome um and he
8:25makes me feel good and um you know, he
8:28um
8:29he is strong enough to disagree with me
8:31from time to time if I'm wrong, but he's
8:33also super playful and I always feel
8:35safe around him. She's going to tell her
8:36girlfriends the wide array of emotions
8:38that that guy gives her.
8:40And if you look at the guys who are
8:42getting the most choosing signals on
8:43social media, the guys who are actually
8:45the attractive ones that women are
8:47gravitating towards, like
8:49there's two types of guys. There's guys
8:51making content talking about all of this
8:52theory when it comes to how stoic and
8:55manosphere and how red pill they are and
8:57how cool they are and how female nature
8:59this, but if you actually look at their
9:01options, they don't have very many.
9:03Then if you look at the guys who maybe
9:04don't study any of that stuff at all,
9:06but you actually look at their
9:08behavioral habits,
9:11and if they're attractive or not to
9:13women,
9:14the guys who are winning are not the
9:16guys who you think.
9:17So, men are going to have to come to
9:19terms with the fact that what is most
9:21attractive to women
9:23is not typically what is most masculine,
9:26and there's a very high degree or a very
9:28high probability that some of the
9:30beliefs that you've held
9:32are probably fundamentally wrong. Now,
9:34if you want real dating success and you
9:37want to be around a community of dudes
9:39who are actually the ones who are
9:42learning, understanding, and mastering
9:44the language of women to actually get
9:46laid, to actually have a better dating
9:49life, to actually attract really hot
9:51women instead of just sitting there
9:52talking about a bunch of masculinity
9:54concepts, then join us in the community
9:56that I built to help you learn,
9:58understand, and master the language of
10:00women. Because at the end of the day,
10:02what actually matters is the amount of
10:04dating success you have, not what just
10:06sounds good.