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0:00Got a new video for you. Women obsess
0:02over this type of man and go weak for
0:05him emotionally. If you've ever been
0:07sitting there wondering, what is the
0:09type of man that a woman goes
0:12emotionally weak for? Why does she
0:14obsess over that one specific guy? I'm
0:17going to fill in all these gaps.
0:20And as I get older, I think I'm actually
0:22getting better at explaining this in
0:23certain situations because one of the
0:25things that I'm going to do for you in
0:27this video is relieve some of the
0:28anxiety. Okay, that comes with um
0:32consuming dating content because you
0:34maybe feel from time to time that you're
0:35at like a deficit compared to where you
0:37want to be.
0:39My goal with this video is to erase that
0:41feeling completely and make everything
0:43so easy and happy and free-flowing and
0:46manageable. So, women obsess over this
0:49type of man and go weak for him
0:50emotionally. That's the title and this
0:52is what I'm going to tell you. The first
0:54thing you have to understand, okay, when
0:56you're wanting to get better with women
0:59or when you're wanting to shift yourself
1:01into being that socially confident guy
1:04that has that like almost magnetic aura
1:06that just like attracts women.
1:08You have to understand that a lot of
1:10this, okay, comes down to your internal
1:13traits, not your external traits. Okay?
1:16It comes down to things like bravado,
1:19vocal tone. These are the things we're
1:21going to touch on right now.
1:23As I've made these videos over the
1:25years, what I've realized is that all
1:27forms of passiveness,
1:29when a guy is passive, it typically
1:31starts with the voice, okay? And it's a
1:34form of vocal suppression. Okay? So,
1:38I've made videos for years, okay, and
1:40I've had over the years just like
1:41thousands of dudes, you know, inside my
1:43programs and whatnot.
1:45So, I've seen all different types of
1:47people. I've seen doctors, lawyers, you
1:49know, professionals, dudes with status,
1:52okay? What you have to understand is
1:54even guys who might be in good shape,
1:56making good money,
1:58um have good social status,
2:01you'll notice this a lot. Doesn't matter
2:03where you're at, doesn't matter where
2:04you're from, you're going to notice
2:06this. A lot of guys still just
2:07naturally, based on how people are
2:09today, just have weak tone.
2:12Okay, so I'm going to start to explain
2:14to you as slowly as I can, in baby
2:17steps, basically like how you can baby
2:19step your way through this to shift your
2:22vocal tone into the right ways. I'm
2:23going to give you full on step-by-step
2:25processes.
2:26I've seen smart and competent guys
2:29still have issues with women. Because
2:32smart and competent rarely triggers
2:35female desire, and here's why. It's
2:38because of the speech, okay? The speech
2:41is rooted in thinking instead of
2:44feeling. I'll say that again. Smart and
2:46competent rarely triggers female desire
2:50because the speech, okay? The actual
2:52words spoken,
2:53is rooted in thinking instead of
2:55feeling.
2:57So, the tone is always flat with zero
2:59passion. That's how most guys talk.
3:02They talk um
3:04zero tone, zero passion. And because of
3:07that, she doesn't feel anything. So,
3:08despite him having every success marker,
3:11she just doesn't feel the right way. So,
3:13this is Just [clears throat] stick with
3:15me here. This is going to be this one
3:17little tip that I'm going to give you
3:18right now. This is going to be the
3:20opposite, okay? This is going to be
3:22opposite of the other masculinity
3:25videos, okay? That maybe a lot of other
3:26people make. So, just stick with me for
3:29a second because I understand that even
3:31me saying this, rooted in thinking
3:33instead of feeling, okay? I understand
3:35that this is probably different than
3:36things you've heard in the past. Listen
3:38to me close, okay? When speaking to
3:41women, the tone has to have a feeling.
3:45And what that is doing is that triggers
3:48something that I like to call active
3:50masculinity. And this is something
3:52that's missing for most guys speech.
3:54Okay?
3:56It's something that's missing for most
3:58guys speech. Even me right now, the way
4:00that I'm talking to you,
4:03I'm lacking this currently because I'm
4:05actually trying to explain a topic. So
4:07right now I'm thinking. But if I met you
4:10and I go, "Hey, how you doing today?"
4:12Do you see the difference? That's the
4:14difference. So when speaking to a woman,
4:17the tone has to have a feeling. Okay? So
4:20this shows that you're alive and it
4:22shows that you are in a magnetic or
4:24masculine state. So this is the first
4:27thing that I want to teach you. Most
4:29guys, the tone is always flat with zero
4:31passion.
4:33Now, the better you get at understanding
4:34this and the better you get at
4:35understanding vocal tone, the more
4:38you're going to see that what you say,
4:40the actual meaning or the content of the
4:43words spoken, virtually has zero effect
4:46on the outcome with that woman because
4:48she's constantly gauging your body
4:51language and your vocal tone because
4:53that actually determines your social
4:55confidence and how you feel internally.
4:58Okay? So she's like almost analyzing you
5:00on like, let's call it a genetic level.
5:04And those traits come from within. Okay?
5:07So just stick with me. I'm going to make
5:09this manageable. Okay? Just notice the
5:11difference.
5:12Right now I'm speaking, not a lot of
5:14passion because I'm thinking. I'm
5:16thinking, so I'm trying to explain stuff
5:18step by step so you understand it.
5:20But if I actually give a real life
5:21example, if I say, "Hey, how are you
5:23doing today? I'm Casey." Zero passion,
5:26flat. If I go, "Hey, how you doing
5:27today?" Do you see the difference?
5:30You're going to have to just practice
5:31this. And what I'm going to do because I
5:33understand that this is like
5:34intimidating or it's hard to just start
5:38doing and practicing with um let's say
5:41um
5:42with people that you meet socially or
5:43when you're dating. That's kind of hard.
5:45So I'm going to give you more manageable
5:47steps later on. Anyways, let's shift to
5:51how I started to put two and two
5:52together. This is a story that um I've
5:56shared before on the channel, but I'm
5:58going to share it again because I think
5:59it's really really powerful.
6:01So, I was at a restaurant one time and
6:03it's an outdoor um I was in the outdoor
6:06seating space and there was a balcony
6:08where I was seated and it was like a
6:10late-night dinner. So, it was me and my
6:12date um
6:14and then there was it was probably like
6:167:00 or 8:00 at night, so it was kind of
6:18a late dinner. And then there was all
6:20these other couples, a lot of like, you
6:21know, husband and wives. Um everybody
6:23was out kind of having dinner and
6:25they're sitting there. And it was a
6:26nicer restaurant, okay? And then all of
6:28a sudden um
6:30there's this homeless dude
6:32that comes up to everybody and he starts
6:34like approaching everybody. And he's
6:36like asking for food, but he's like
6:38really like intimidating with it.
6:41Um
6:42and the tone that he had was like mad
6:44and like entitled. And at first nobody
6:47would really give him any food and he's
6:49sitting there going, "Oh jeez, yeah, no
6:51one Nobody gives me nothing." And you
6:53know, he's saying all this stuff and
6:54he's getting mad and like that was his
6:55vocal tone. Like I actually saw this.
6:57I'm sitting there and I watched this,
6:58right? I'm watching this guy like get
7:00really just mad and frustrated and just
7:02uh
7:04he was like putting himself out there,
7:06right? Like on an energy level, he was
7:08giving everybody that like, "Oh, I can't
7:11believe no one gives me food." Right? He
7:13he's so mad. Everyone could feel that.
7:16But here's what I noticed. I noticed a
7:18shift right there. Every single husband
7:20that was sitting at that
7:22on that balcony.
7:24My table was a bit further back. This
7:26dude was more to the front of the
7:27balcony. So, he was a good probably like
7:3060 ft away from you, you know?
7:33Uh probably about 20 yd.
7:35So, you know, it wasn't like super close
7:37to like my proximity, but all the
7:39husbands who were around him looked
7:41scared. Like they look nervous. Okay?
7:44And then all the wives, this is what I
7:45noticed, like I I paid attention to the
7:48women who were at the tables as well.
7:50And all the wives, they couldn't stop
7:51staring at the dude, and you could tell
7:53that they were drawn to that vocal tone
7:56and even to the tension of the
7:57situation. Like I watched this, like I
7:59watched how they were just so like
8:01captivated by this like vocal tone and
8:03that this guy's doing this. But here's
8:05the one thing that I noticed, not one of
8:07the husbands, none of the dudes sitting
8:08there, told this guy to get
8:11Nobody told him to just go off. Nobody.
8:14They just sat there, and it was like it
8:16was very just like weak passive
8:17behavior. So here's a lot of dudes,
8:19okay, who are like some of them look
8:21strong, some of them look tall, you
8:23know,
8:24dudes who are well put together, and you
8:27could just feel the fear. That's what I
8:29could feel just sitting there watching
8:31this. So in this, okay, in this
8:33situation, the homeless dude in this
8:36example was essentially the social alpha
8:39to some degree with vocal tone. Now, it
8:41wasn't a positive outcome, and it wasn't
8:43a positive experience, but nevertheless,
8:45he was definitely the one putting
8:46himself out there and giving energy and
8:49being at the cause when everybody else
8:50was at the effect. So I was watching
8:53this, and I was like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa,
8:54the internal traits." I was like, "This
8:56is different." Right? This is like
8:58internal high value instead of the
9:00external high value, which is like
9:02materialistic stuff and followers and
9:04all that stuff. This is like an internal
9:06shift. So I'm watching this, and I'm
9:08like, "Huh."
9:09So I took it a step further, and I was
9:11like, "Okay, guys say, 'Hey, you know,
9:14don't compliment women.'" This is what
9:16guys will say.
9:18They'll say, "Don't compliment women. If
9:19you approach her, if you talk to her,
9:21definitely don't validate her, don't
9:22compliment her, okay?" Guys will say
9:24this. And
9:26what you have to understand is this is
9:28true at a lower level of game. It really
9:31is, like especially if you're just
9:32starting, you have to understand proper
9:34frame and dynamics to not lose value,
9:38but you have to really understand this,
9:40okay?
9:41This is true at a lower level of game
9:43when you don't understand voice and
9:45vocal shifts, but at a higher level,
9:48okay, at a higher level, what you say
9:51almost doesn't matter, especially when
9:54you first meet the woman. What you say
9:55almost doesn't matter because she's
9:57looking at your vocal tone and she's
9:59looking at your confidence level, and
10:00she's looking at you being able to say
10:03what you feel and what you want to say
10:06and be happy with yourself versus
10:10trying to think. And as soon as you
10:12think about all these sentences and all
10:14these things, two things happen.
10:16You typically don't make the approach or
10:17you don't even introduce yourself
10:19because you're too nervous, or
10:21it doesn't come out the right way
10:22because she can tell how much you're in
10:24your own head. So,
10:26vocal tone is what really determines
10:29your success at a higher level. So, what
10:32you say almost doesn't matter, it's all
10:34how you say it. So, let me give you an
10:36example.
10:37Um, when you see a guy do an approach,
10:40maybe you're like scrolling the internet
10:42or something and you see this video of a
10:44dude who wants to show confidence, and
10:46he walks up to her and uh he goes, "Hey,
10:49you know what? I thought you were really
10:50cute. I I wanted to come talk to you."
10:52And you can just see
10:55that it doesn't have the impact that
10:58you're wanting or that he was wanting.
11:01And she'll still typically sit there for
11:02that 30 seconds and talk, and maybe
11:04they'll exchange numbers, maybe they
11:05don't, but you're going to notice that
11:08it typically doesn't unlock like that
11:10giggle, that giggle factor that gets her
11:12to really buy into him.
11:14So,
11:16that dude who has like [clears throat]
11:17this um thinking calculated mindset
11:20where he wants to walk up and say the
11:21right thing, it doesn't come out right.
11:23Meanwhile, the dude who's just relaxed,
11:26free-flowing almost, not even thinking
11:28at all,
11:30and let's say um
11:31they cross paths
11:34and the dude just basically turns his
11:36brain off and he just lets that vocal
11:38tone come through and he goes, "Hey,
11:39you're cute, huh? Oh, look at you,
11:42you're cute."
11:43Do you see the difference? The
11:45difference is that one dude, okay, one
11:48dude was thinking of the perfect thing.
11:51The other dude felt the perfect thing.
11:55And when you feel the perfect thing
11:56internally, you need to start to learn
11:59how to demonstrate this. And when you
12:00demonstrate this, you come across as a
12:02guy who has more passion. To women,
12:05passion typically means more charm. To
12:07women, passion typically means you're
12:09more magnetic, you're alive, you're
12:11vibrant. These things are really, really
12:13important to understand. So, that's like
12:15one example. What you're really looking
12:17for, and keep in mind, even the way I'm
12:19describing this, the way I'm going
12:21through this very methodically,
12:23the way I'm teaching this, the way I'm
12:24describing this, I'm in a thinking
12:26state. I'm not in like a good
12:28free-flowing social state right now
12:30because I'm really going step-by-step to
12:32give you a good video. So, like in some
12:34way, shape or form, I'm working right
12:36now. But if I had this same vocal tone
12:38and this same mannerisms, if I was
12:41out with people socially, I would not
12:43have that good of a
12:44social presence. I would have to adjust
12:47and realize that, hey, it's not time to
12:50think and to teach, it's now time to
12:52have fun. So, that's the difference,
12:54okay? You have to be able to really spot
12:56this stuff and I'm going to show you
12:57ways to do it so it doesn't feel like
12:59it's overwhelming, okay? What you're
13:02looking for when you talk to her is
13:03you're looking for basically like a
13:05guaranteed giggle. You want her to be
13:07giggling. Every single time you're in
13:09the sweet spot with a woman, you're
13:11going to notice she's giggling, she's
13:13maybe laughing, playing with her hair.
13:15She's like in that vibe state, okay?
13:18If she isn't giggling, you're slowly
13:20going to fade away and not have the
13:23right vibe with her emotions. So, this
13:25is one way that you can actually start
13:26to tell if you're in the sweet spot or
13:28not is if you're getting that giggle. If
13:29you're getting that giggle, you're
13:31socially received positively.
13:32[clears throat]
13:33And that's what you have to do, okay?
13:34You have to practice. You have to
13:35practice talking from the heart and what
13:38you feel versus thinking logically in
13:41your brain with what to say.
13:44Okay, so this right here, what I'm
13:46teaching you right here, this is why
13:47smart or successful or rich or strong
13:51physically strong or lean or
13:53good-looking people, these guys still
13:55struggle. I've seen this time and time
13:57again. A lot of these guys still
13:58struggle. Now, what I can tell you is
13:59this, as a man, as I got older, there
14:01was a period of time in my own personal
14:03life where the more that I learned about
14:05anything
14:07could be uh
14:09uh stuff in my career or with business,
14:11it could be stuff socially, it could be
14:12just the more I learned, okay, the worse
14:15my game actually got because I was in a
14:17thinking state. When you're in a
14:18thinking [snorts] state you're not
14:20vibing and connecting the right way
14:22socially. So, what you want to do is you
14:24want to just practice. You want to
14:26practice being in the moment. And the
14:28fastest way to start to do this is with
14:31your family. Okay, with your family. If
14:33you're there with your mom
14:35and she made everybody a meal and she
14:36made spaghetti, you say, "Oh, I can't
14:38wait to eat. Oh my god, I'm so hungry."
14:41And you're going to notice she'll laugh.
14:43And she'll laugh because you're you're
14:45freely expressing your tone.
14:48You're sitting there you go, "Oh god, I
14:49love spaghetti. Oh, thank you so much,
14:51Mom."
14:53And she can tell that you are
14:56you know, I'm doing my best to describe
14:57this, but you're you're letting loose.
14:59You're letting uh you're letting your
15:01vibe flow freely, okay? Naturally, this
15:05might be hard for you if you're more of
15:08the like uh
15:09like that masculine rational thinking
15:12type. Me myself, a dude who's been in
15:14the gym for the past 10 years, I
15:15probably gravitate more towards that.
15:18Right? That like
15:19rigid thinking.
15:21Okay? So, this is something me myself,
15:23the reason why I'm able to teach this is
15:25because this is something I've had to
15:26literally practice, okay?
15:29So, keep that in mind. You have to
15:30practice, and you do this by making baby
15:32steps.
15:33You do this by making baby steps, and
15:35you start small.
15:36Okay?
15:38You don't start practicing this socially
15:40or when you're going out, right? Maybe
15:41start small, family, friends. Makes it
15:43easier, makes it more manageable. So,
15:46you may be wondering, "Well, Casey,
15:48how do I speak and talk from the heart
15:50in order to create emotion without me
15:52appearing emotionally weak and then
15:55losing my masculine frame, okay? Without
15:57getting emotional and then she pulls
15:59away." It's very simple. You have to
16:01understand the power of being at the
16:02cause and not the effect.
16:05When you're at the effect and you're in
16:07an emotional state, you're actually
16:08reacting to her.
16:10She didn't text you back or she didn't
16:12call you, and now you're double calling
16:14or you're double texting, and it's
16:15almost like you're really pursuing
16:17because you have fear of loss, and now
16:19you're talking from the heart, and it's,
16:20"Oh, I miss you so much. I really want
16:22to see you." Okay, yes, now you're in an
16:23emotional state. You've lost the
16:25leverage, you've lost your masculine
16:26frame. What I'm talking about is not
16:28that. I'm talking about being at the
16:29cause, not the effect, and specifically
16:31when you first meet people, okay? Using
16:34tone and speaking what you feel to
16:36create a spike in emotion and a spike in
16:38fun and enthusiasm is far different from
16:41speaking your feelings when it comes to
16:43your own personal attachment. If you're
16:46in love and you're in an emotional
16:47state, you're at the effect. That's why
16:49you will lose her desire.
16:52What I'm talking about is not that. So,
16:54the rules still apply. Yes, you can't
16:56over-validate, and every single day turn
16:58into just like a soft dude, okay? You
17:01can't be too available, or else she sees
17:03you don't have any options. You can't
17:05call and text message too much, or you
17:07start to lower your perceived dating
17:09value. And what that means is you must
17:11still be able to create the space, okay?
17:13So, she wants to fill in that gap
17:17and help build that relationship. But,
17:19this is how you do it. This is the guy
17:21that she's constantly obsessing over.
17:22The guy that she's constantly obsessing
17:24over has that emotional pull.
17:26Now, guys know this to some degree or
17:29they've learned it, okay? They've
17:31learned it. Listen, there's a big
17:33difference thinking versus feeling this
17:35stuff. Thinking, when I say like um that
17:38guy has that emotional pull, so that way
17:41she's obsessing over him, that's like
17:43the logical or the rational part of
17:45this. That's like the thinking piece.
17:47What I'm trying to do is now take it a
17:48step further. I'm trying to explain the
17:50mechanics of how that actually happens
17:52in the first place. So, for some of you,
17:54yes, we are developing a bit of aura
17:57here. We're developing a bit of charm, a
17:59bit of aura, if you'd like to call it
18:00that. So, this right here, okay, is why
18:04women obsess over this specific type of
18:06guy, okay? It's because he is actually
18:09demonstrating the social success of
18:12having the confidence to be like what
18:15some would call the social alpha, okay?
18:19On like a primal level. He's actually
18:21demonstrating it in real life socially,
18:23okay?
18:25Where
18:27most guys, what they're trying to do is
18:28they're trying to like level up all
18:30these metrics to hope that now like they
18:32qualify
18:34to like be with a beautiful woman and
18:35it's like it's not like that. It's not
18:37about that. This isn't like something
18:38you can measure on paper. These are
18:41feelings. This is like social
18:43perception, okay? So, you have to
18:45remember, attraction is internal. Like
18:47in some way, shape or form, it's
18:48genetics. So, that's why a dude, when he
18:51doesn't bring anything to the table
18:53tangibly, like let's say he doesn't have
18:55any a lot of money or he doesn't really
18:57have like uh
18:59a very stable job, but he's super funny,
19:01he's enthusiastic, it's like he's not
19:03even really uh
19:05it's like he's not even really providing
19:07anything, but you notice that she's just
19:08completely hooked. This is why.
19:11It's because it's almost like genetics.
19:13So, she wants this dude's genes, okay,
19:16in some way, shape, or form, which is
19:17why she's probably sleeping with him, or
19:19which is why she's sleeping with him.
19:21So, the CEO, the rich guy, okay, um even
19:25like let's say the boyfriend, okay, when
19:26she sleeps with him, okay, more often
19:29than not, it's for a feeling of like
19:31closeness or security, but the dude,
19:34okay, with real social presence and
19:36social aura, that's like genetics.
19:39That's like his internal That's his
19:41internal personality. Like she loves him
19:43on like a deep, deep level internally.
19:46Like she feels that sense of like spirit
19:48or soul, okay? And this is like the
19:50active masculine. So, this would be like
19:53one of the components, like you really
19:55want to take this at a deeper level and
19:56start to learn front end game, which is
19:59what I teach inside of the language of
20:01women. So, be sure to join us inside of
20:03that after today's video is over, but
20:05you might be wondering, okay, like
20:07what do I do from here?
20:09If you're sitting here going, "This
20:10makes sense, but now what do I do from
20:12here?" Okay, well, the first step is do
20:15not get anxious about this. Don't get
20:17anxious at all.
20:19I think a lot of guys, you know, they
20:20want they want everything so quick, and
20:22it causes anxiety, okay? You want the
20:25six-pack abs tomorrow, so you're
20:27stressed out about your meals and your
20:28workouts. You want, you know, the $10
20:31million or the fast sports car tomorrow,
20:34so you're all stressed today. You want
20:36to have this amazing social confidence
20:38literally tomorrow or today, so you're
20:41super stressed about what to do. You
20:42can't do that. You have to take
20:44everything slow. You have to take
20:45everything in baby steps, okay? So,
20:47start small, okay? It's the same as in
20:49the gym, okay?
20:52You have uh
20:54let's say one person where they go in
20:56and they do a bunch of uh workouts and
20:58high-intensity stuff, and then 2 weeks
21:00later they fall off because it's too
21:01much. Meanwhile, the dude who's been
21:03going to the gym long-term, you know, he
21:05just starts with maybe a set of five at
21:07a really light weight and then every
21:08week he just maybe adds 2 and 1/2 lb.
21:11Fast forward 2 years later and he's
21:12built an incredible physique. You have
21:14to go slow with things. So, I want you
21:16just to start this start this process
21:19when you're with your mom, your dad,
21:21okay, your friends, you're at a family
21:23event. If you're with your friends, you
21:25say, "Boys, we're having some fun
21:27tonight."
21:28Simple. Adjusted the vocal tone, they'll
21:31go, "Oh, yeah."
21:32Very very simple, very easy to
21:34understand. You're with your mom, your
21:36dad, a family event, whatever, same
21:37thing. Talk about the food, talk about
21:39how nice of a day it is, talk about the
21:40weather.
21:42You're going to notice older dudes do
21:43this naturally. They might be on the
21:45golf course, they're talking about the
21:47weather, the sun's out, okay, it's like
21:49that good vibe feeling. So, practice
21:51this with your loved ones, go slow. If
21:54you try to do all this like at a fast
21:57pace, oh my gosh, you're just going to
21:58stress yourself out. If you actually
22:00take my advice here and you go slow,
22:01you're going to have way better success
22:03than most people and this is the type of
22:05a guy that women obsess over. I really
22:07hope you do like this video. As I get
22:09older year by year, I really do want to
22:11make sure I'm teaching this stuff at a
22:12better level, a higher level. Um I want
22:15to make sure that uh
22:17I'm doing a good job and I really want
22:18to give you the best content possible
22:20and that's why I just try to stay as
22:21dedicated to my craft as I can. If you
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