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0:00Now, to come full circle with this
0:01video, this is what I can tell you. If
0:02you don't go out very much or if you
0:04don't have a lot of friends, you need to
0:06start going out and you need to start
0:07making friends. You need to develop your
0:09social skills. You have to do this. I
0:11know it's uncomfortable, especially in
0:12like a digital generation. I know that
0:14this is uncomfortable, especially when
0:16everybody's just trapped behind the
0:17phone. I know that this is
0:18uncomfortable, especially when you could
0:20just let's say put in the work and take
0:21some really good photos and maybe get,
0:23you know, 10 to 20 new matches on a
0:25dating app per day, but listen,
0:27you have to do this to start to develop
0:29your personality and push yourself
0:31socially. This is what I found. What I
0:33found in life is that every single skill
0:35that you want is individually specific
0:38to that one thing.
0:40Right, so guys think oh, you know, I
0:41have a great business or I'm making a
0:43lot of money, so I'm going to have a
0:44great dating life. It's like no, you're
0:46making a lot of money or you have a
0:47great business, so that means you're
0:49probably going to be good at that.
0:51But a lot of times what I have found is
0:53that success in one thing doesn't
0:55unanimously mean that you're going to
0:57have success across a bunch of other
0:58things. So, you have to start to push
1:00yourself socially and the reason why
1:02this is the third video in my series is
1:05because I'm going to show you exactly
1:06how to do it once you hit the
1:07>> [music]
1:07>> third step.
1:09So, here's why this is also really
1:10important.
1:12If you're an attractive dude or if you
1:13have an above average amount of muscle
1:15mass or if you are like conventionally
1:18good looking and you don't talk to
1:20people first, you don't initiate
1:22conversation, you don't do these small
1:24gestures of um
1:26whatever you want to call it, social
1:28etiquette, whatever, people overall are
1:30probably not going to like you. They're
1:32going to think that you're either stuck
1:33up or they're going to think that
1:34something's wrong with you or they're
1:36actually going to think that you don't
1:37like them. All right, my camera died,
1:38well, I'm back now. So, check this out,
1:40okay? One of the dudes in my community
1:42goes, "Oftentimes I was never able to
1:44keep these women around because I didn't
1:46understand the language of women."
1:48After studying this course, I have been
1:50able to get a girl absolutely down bad
1:53for me, practically begging me to be her
1:55boyfriend. This program not only has
1:57some of the most valuable information
1:59with women, but also has a great
2:01community of people reaching for similar
2:03goals. This is why I created my
2:06community. This is why I created Headman
2:09Nation, so I can help you learn,
2:10understand, and master the language of
2:12women. And I believe I'm the best at
2:13teaching this. Since I believe I'm the
2:15best at teaching this, I want you to
2:16join us inside of that community, too.
2:18After today's video is over, let's dive
2:20back in. Okay, so you have to take
2:22initiation, and you have to do this.
2:24Also, let's say you don't fit that
2:26category, but let's say you're just
2:27socially awkward. Well, you're going to
2:28have to push yourself socially, too,
2:31because what this is going to do is this
2:32is going to make it appear like you have
2:34more confidence, more popularity, more
2:36social status than maybe you actually
2:38have.
2:39The reason also why this is important is
2:41because you as the man, you as the male
2:44energy, you as the masculine, you are
2:46the active initiator. You are the
2:49initiation energy. You are the doing
2:51energy. So, what you're going to notice
2:53is that a lot of times if there's a
2:54group of women and there's a group of
2:56guys, a lot of times the women do not
2:58start talking at all until the guys make
2:59that initial initiation of the contact
3:02of that communication. The women don't
3:03want to start talking until the guys set
3:05that environment, and they set that
3:06frame to do so. What you're going to
3:08find is that as a man, you are the lead.
3:10You are the active initiator.
3:12And that's just how it is. That's a
3:13natural dynamic of
3:15the universe, if you want to call it
3:16that. This is what you're going to do,
3:18okay? So, if I actually get out my notes
3:20here, and I'm helping you, I'm giving
3:21you step-by-step the same things that I
3:23have to do, right? The same things that
3:24I have to do in my day-to-day social
3:26life, because listen, if you are more
3:28socially confident, if you are more
3:30socially successful, there is going to
3:32be women that gravitate towards you.
3:34There is going to be women that
3:35gravitate towards that charm or that
3:37persona or that personality, and you're
3:39going to find that certain women just
3:40really stick to that.
3:42Now, does that mean you're going to have
3:43a great relationship? Does that mean
3:45that you constantly um now are just
3:47immune to female nature? Does that mean
3:49that automatically you have a great
3:51masculine frame to carry out the
3:53relationship? Absolutely not. Absolutely
3:55not. But at least you can spark that
3:57initial interest. At least you can get
3:59your foot in the door to having a
4:00potential dating option.
4:02This is number three in the process.
4:04This is number three in the video or in
4:05the mini series that I'm making here for
4:07you guys to help you overcome social
4:08anxiety. You need to start asking them
4:11questions. You need to ask them
4:13questions, okay? Because it makes other
4:15people feel like you care. Tip number
4:17three, okay, so let's start from the
4:18beginning. If you saw the first video in
4:20the series, tip number one that I gave,
4:22you are going to wake up every single
4:24day and you're going to nourish your
4:25body with the sun, mother nature, and
4:28you're going to get out and you're going
4:29to do a 20-minute walk. While everybody
4:31is slurping down sugar, drinking
4:33mochaccinos and all this stuff, you're
4:35out in mother nature, instantly putting
4:37yourself in a calorie deficit for the
4:38day. You're getting in some fasted
4:40cardio. You're already stepping outside
4:43of the norm of what most people do.
4:45That's a win. That's a big win. That's
4:47step number one. You're actually taking
4:48active steps to aligning yourself with a
4:51healthier future, getting active with
4:53mother nature, and you're actually
4:54taking initiative to be a stronger,
4:57better, more healthy human. I want
4:58everybody outside every day if you can.
5:00You wake up, doesn't matter if it's a
5:01workout day or not a workout day, you go
5:03and you get that 20 minutes of steps in.
5:06It's a game changer. I do this every
5:08day.
5:09That's number one. Number two, when you
5:10go out, you're going to make friends
5:13with all the men. Even if you don't have
5:14common interests. Even if you don't know
5:16if you like them or not.
5:18Even if you think that you know, you
5:20don't know what they're into. Maybe
5:22you're into different hobbies. Maybe
5:23you're into different interests. I don't
5:24even care if you think that you guys
5:25won't get along. You're going to do it
5:26anyways.
5:28You might be wondering, well, how are
5:29you going to do that? By point number
5:31three right here. You're going to ask
5:32them questions about their life or their
5:34personal life that makes it seem like
5:35you care. And what this does is minute
5:37by minute or hour for hour, it puts the
5:39attention on them, okay? Notice, this
5:42video is helping you overcome social
5:44anxiety. This video is helping you
5:45overcome social fears. This video is
5:47helping you step outside of your shell
5:49to become who you want to be or who you
5:51need to be to be socially successful. A
5:53lot of people want to be socially
5:54successful. They might tell themselves
5:56that they don't, but a lot of times it's
5:58a lie. A lot of times people actually to
6:00some degree do care. So, because of
6:01that, this is how you do it. Okay,
6:03you're going to ask them questions. Hey,
6:05what are you into? What do you do for
6:07work? Why'd you choose that? Where do
6:09you come from? What part of the world?
6:11What are you into? Oh, those are sick
6:13shoes. Where'd you get them? Oh, cool.
6:15No way, my brother has the exact same
6:16shoes. Oh, no way, I got an aunt that
6:18works in finance, too. Oh, no way, I got
6:20an uncle that works in finance, too. Oh,
6:22no way, how often do you come to this
6:23sports bar? You're going to just ask
6:25them questions. You're going to ask them
6:27questions and minute for minute, what's
6:29going to happen
6:30is they're going to smile through that
6:32conversation because now they get to
6:34talk about themselves. And that's why I
6:35started off with this video telling you
6:37that people only typically care about
6:38themselves. Do you understand how it
6:40comes full circle? Since people
6:41naturally only care about themselves,
6:43you make it come full circle and you
6:44just give them exactly what they want.
6:46What's going to happen is the law of
6:48reciprocity or the law of reciprocation
6:50starts to kick in.
6:52And what's going to happen is then
6:53they're going to ask you something
6:54because they don't want to seem rude.
6:56So, if you ask three questions in a row,
6:58eventually they're going to say, "Oh,
6:59where are you from? How long you been
7:00out here for?" And this is how the small
7:02talk evolves into something bigger. This
7:04is how you get all the dudes to like
7:05you. This is how you get all the people
7:07to like you is you ask them questions to
7:08make it feel like you care. Maybe you
7:10don't care.
7:11Maybe you even care for your own selfish
7:13reasons so that way you uh elevate your
7:15own popularity in the group. It doesn't
7:16matter, and I'm here to say the stuff
7:18out loud that most people don't say, but
7:20like this is what you got to do. This is
7:21what you have to do to become socially
7:24capable. Because what you got to
7:25remember is this,
7:27the reason why I want to make this
7:28series, too, is because I think it's
7:30different. I think I don't talk about
7:32stuff from this angle very much. And on
7:34top of that, like let's be real.
7:36Let's just imagine for a second that
7:38cell phones disappeared. Let's just
7:39imagine. Let's just imagine something
7:42happened and cell phones disappeared and
7:44all of a sudden there's no screens and
7:45there's no TVs and you have to actually
7:47just live and communicate as a person.
7:50Well, what's going to happen is
7:51everything would revert back to how
7:52stuff probably was 500 years ago. And
7:55that means humans would have to make
7:56social connections, humans would have to
7:58fit in, humans would have to find their
8:00place because you don't want to be
8:01ostracized by the other people that
8:03you're around, which means you're going
8:04to have to have a common sense of
8:05camaraderie. Only today are men a lot of
8:09times able to be completely isolated,
8:10still get ahead in like every single
8:12area, and then maintain this digital
8:14facade of pictures and media to still
8:16connect with other people and have a
8:17good dating life. This is new.
8:20Because of that,
8:22what I want to help you with is I want
8:25to help you with the other stuff too
8:26that comes along with being a
8:27well-rounded human being because listen,
8:29if a woman sees that also, let's say you
8:31do start dating a woman and she sees,
8:32"Wow, he's actually socially capable.
8:34Wow, when we're out or when I do go out
8:36with him, other women and other men like
8:39him as a person." No, I'm not saying
8:41other women like him in this weird
8:43preselection way that every single
8:44dating coach and dating videos talking
8:46about, let's just talk like everyday
8:47people who don't sit and watch a bunch
8:49of dating videos for a second. Listen,
8:51she's going to say, "Wow, people respond
8:52positively to him. He seems like he's
8:54socially popular." And even if it's just
8:55at a table of five or 10 people, seems
8:58like people like him, seems like people
8:59respond to him, seems like people are
9:00smiling when they talk back to him,
9:02seems like they're interested. Okay,
9:03well, I know that he's a winner.
9:05That's how women determine if you're a
9:07winner.
9:08So, this video should also, um,
9:10this video should also help another type
9:12of guy. All of you out there that
9:14basically wear your whole personality on
9:16your sleeve of your corporate success
9:18and your financial status or your
9:20financial income thinking that that's
9:21the end all be all because there's a lot
9:23of guys right now who probably feel
9:25inadequate because of social media. You
9:28feel like you don't make enough money or
9:29you feel like you're not cool enough or
9:30you don't feel like you're
9:32having all the millions of dollars that
9:33everybody else is having, so then you
9:35don't feel good and you have lower
9:36self-esteem. Well, good news for you is
9:38when it comes down to it in that group
9:40setting, in that social setting, you
9:41don't even need any of those things. And
9:43if you just know how to make a presence
9:45known with your aura and with who you
9:47are, you're going to start to win. I
9:48want this video to be
9:50a light of hope and I'm here to be that
9:53light for you instead of
9:55uh you know because like everybody's
9:56hoping that someone else is going to be
9:57the light at the end of the tunnel.
9:59And I'll be that for you in this case so
10:01that way you can be it for somebody
10:02else. And what you're going to realize
10:04is you as the man, you as the masculine,
10:06you as the lead, you are the active
10:07initiator of the conversation. You push
10:09the conversation and the energy forward,
10:11right?
10:15And that's where I want to leave off
10:16with this video. Join us inside the
10:17community so that way I can help you
10:18learn, understand, and master the
10:20language of women. I'm going to be 30
10:21years old this year so don't make my
10:23same mistakes, right? Don't make my same
10:25mistakes. What I did was
10:27I chased my own personal goals.
10:29Okay? But as I've gotten older, guess
10:31what happens? Even I have to come back
10:33to the basics and I got to say, "Hey,
10:34you know what? When I was 22, yeah, why
10:36did that house party work so good?"
10:38Yeah, when I was 23, why did that party
10:40that we had out on the river
10:42why did that work so good socially? What
10:44was actually going on? Because I think
10:47as we get older, like I'm getting older
10:48now,
10:50people pair off and have families.
10:52People don't prioritize social lives as
10:53much. So listen, like
10:55you got to come back to the basics
10:56sometimes and you got to come back to
10:58the fundamentals. And some of you might
10:59be watching this and you might realize
11:00that like you're not taking active
11:02enough interest in other people. So to
11:04sum up the video, you got to ask other
11:06people questions. You got to make it
11:07seem like you care about their life,
11:08too. And you will get them to open up,
11:10you will get them to talk. As they talk,
11:12they're going to feel like they know you
11:14simply because they're opening up to
11:15you. Hit the like button, comment, and
11:17subscribe and we'll see you in the next
11:19one.
11:39>> Mhm.