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0:00Listen, never try to hold a woman
0:02accountable for anything. Never.
0:04Do not set standards. Do not try to set
0:06your expectations. Do not try to hold
0:10her accountable, you know, for any type
0:12of behavior. Listen, the only reason you
0:14have to do that is because she doesn't
0:16view you as the guy that she actually
0:17wants.
0:18Okay, the Chad does not have to
0:21verbalize anything. In fact, by you
0:23attempting to even hold her accountable,
0:27you are essentially subconsciously
0:29communicating The only reason you have
0:31to verbally state any of this is because
0:34she's not giving you the type of
0:36treatment that you wanted in the first
0:37place.
0:39That really needs to sink in.
0:42You cannot negotiate desire. You cannot
0:44logically manufacture desire. You will
0:47never find a dude call up his friends
0:48and say,
0:49"Hey dude, yeah, guess what, man?"
0:52"Yeah, you know, I I held her
0:53accountable and I I showed her that I
0:55had backbone. And you know what? I I
0:57held her accountable. And yeah, I told
1:00her exactly how I wanted to be treated.
1:02And you know what? She just did exactly
1:04that. Oh yeah, she just did exactly
1:05that. I called her up and I told her
1:07exactly what I wanted. And you know
1:09what? She just did exactly what I
1:11wanted." No, the only reason she's not
1:13treating you the way that
1:15you want to be treated is because she
1:18thinks you're weak. The only reason is
1:20because she has now categorized you or
1:22classified you as a type of guy that she
1:24doesn't want, which is why she's giving
1:27communication friction in the first
1:29place. The reason why I'm telling you
1:30this is because I've seen other videos
1:33of dudes try to talk about this, like,
1:35"Oh, you know, hold them accountable."
1:37Dude,
1:40it's completely pointless. It is
1:42completely pointless.
1:44It's bad information. There's so much
1:46bad information in general. You cannot
1:48hold her accountable because it's funny.
1:51When she views you as the type of guy
1:53that she naturally likes, when she views
1:55you as the Chad, if you want to call it
1:57that.
1:58He doesn't have to hold her accountable
1:59at all for anything.
2:01In fact, he would never even invest
2:03time, energy,
2:05investment, um
2:08or words into the communication to even
2:11hold her accountable in the first place
2:13because he would just think it's a waste
2:15of time.
2:16Meanwhile, the other dude over there who
2:18isn't getting treated the way that he
2:19wants to be treated or maybe she's not
2:20respecting him or maybe, you know, she's
2:22going out or she's flaking on dates or
2:24she's ignoring his calls.
2:26He thinks that he's showing confidence
2:28and masculinity and showing backbone.
2:31This guy literally thinks he's showing
2:32backbone
2:34by telling her how it should go.
2:36Oh, yeah, tell me how many times that's
2:38ever worked for you. That's not going to
2:39work.
2:40That's not going to work. That guy
2:42Listen,
2:43that guy doing that
2:46completely just demonstrates that he's
2:48not a selected man.
2:50All he's doing is he is demonstrating
2:52that he's not select. He is not the guy
2:54that she's selected. By him verbally
2:56stating that he's upset in the first
2:58place,
3:00exactly just shows or confirms to her
3:03that it was the right decision to treat
3:05him this way in the first place. Listen,
3:07you cannot control Mother Nature. You
3:09can't control Mother Nature. You cannot
3:14You cannot like go against that. It's a
3:16feeling. She either has the hots for you
3:18or she doesn't. So, listen, if you are
3:20the type of guy where you're constantly
3:21text messaging, um you're always on
3:24these phone calls or you're always on
3:25these dates and then women are flaking
3:27on you, they're not giving you the time
3:28of day, they're pulling back, they're
3:30disrespecting you, they're not checking
3:32in to see how your day's going, she
3:33doesn't like you.
3:35I hate to break it to you,
3:37but you're going to have to put in, um
3:40you're going to have to put in probably
3:4118 months to 24 months of work in order
3:44to make yourself more attractive. Yeah,
3:46you're going to have to get
3:48leaner, most likely. You're most likely
3:50going to have to get to that 10 to 12,
3:52maybe 15% body fat mark. You're going to
3:54have to do that. You're going to have to
3:56level up different areas in your life.
3:58You're going to have to maximize your
3:59aura. So, that way when she's around
4:02you, you are such a character and you
4:04are such a unique masculine archetype,
4:05it's like you just absorb energy. Like
4:08she's just absorbed by your presence.
4:10It's a feeling.
4:12You're going to have to do all these
4:13things. It'll probably take 18 to 24
4:15months. You're going to have to refine
4:16who you are. You're going to have to
4:17refine your social skills. You're going
4:18to have to refine your likability.
4:20You're going to have to refine your
4:21masculinity. You're going to have to
4:23push. You're going to have to be more
4:24dedicated to your routine. Do you think
4:26an attractive man is undisciplined?
4:28Absolutely not. A lot of times in his
4:29personal life, she can't see this
4:31because all she sees is the byproduct of
4:34what that attraction looks like. All she
4:35sees is the byproduct of the physique,
4:37the byproduct of the jawline, the
4:39byproduct of the muscle mass. She sees
4:41the end result. She doesn't see that 7
4:43days a week you hit your macros perfect.
4:45She doesn't see that 7 days a week you
4:47hit your calories perfect. She doesn't
4:48see that 7 days a week you pushed new
4:50limits in your social life and met new
4:52people that you were uncomfortable to
4:53meet. She didn't see that it was hard
4:55for you to be the life of the party or
4:56become the life of the party, but you
4:58stepped outside into your comfort zone
4:59or out of your comfort zone, I should
5:01say, and you did it anyways. She doesn't
5:02see none of that.
5:04Nah.
5:06She sees you existing right now as is.
5:09But you can't set no expectations. You
5:10can't hold her accountable for nothing.
5:12Man, you can't hold her accountable for
5:14nothing.
5:15Funny how when she views you as the Chad
5:17or funny how when she views you as the
5:18type of guy that she actually likes.
5:21She just calls him back every time. He
5:22never has to double call ever.
5:25She text messages him back every single
5:26time. He never has to double text ever.
5:29It's funny how she just naturally will
5:31call him up and say, "Hey, good night.
5:33Thinking about you. Good night. I hope
5:34you sleep good." And then in the morning
5:36she'll say, "Hi, how'd you sleep? Okay,
5:38I love you. Have a great day."
5:40That's the expectation that he gets
5:42without even verbally stating it. That's
5:45the behavior he gets without verbally
5:46stating anything. You have to become
5:49Listen, a woman looks at you and you
5:51either are or you aren't. So, for all
5:54the dudes out there, you're staring at
5:55another dating app thinking, "Oh man, if
5:57I just rearrange these messages that
5:59way. Oh man, if I would just, you know,
6:01text if the sentence structure would
6:03have looked like that instead of that.
6:04Oh man, then I'd have her. Oh man, you
6:06know, if I wouldn't have been so excited
6:07on that phone call." Listen,
6:10I hate to break it to you, but a lot of
6:12these are just bad beliefs. A lot of
6:14these are just bad beliefs because you
6:16don't fundamentally understand
6:17attraction. A lot of times guys, like
6:19you don't understand you have a bigger
6:20issue here. You have a bigger issue and
6:22the issue is that you're not select.
6:25Okay, the only reason you lose a woman
6:28is because she has now categorized you
6:30as the type of guy that she doesn't
6:31want.
6:33There is men with masculine temperament
6:36and there is guys who slowly become
6:39weaker. The more she gets to know him,
6:41the more she gets to know him, the more
6:43she gets to find out how he actually is.
6:45And sadly, she thinks that he's more on
6:47the softer side and that's not the type
6:49of guy that she wants then.
6:52Right? Like
6:54when you get to a point where you're
6:55attempting to set a boundary, when you
6:58get to a point where you're setting
6:59expectations, you have already so much
7:02lost. You have subconsciously
7:04communicated, "Hey, I am upset or I'm
7:06disappointed or I feel disrespected and
7:08you made me feel bad. So, because of
7:10that, I feel the need to verbally
7:11address it." When in reality, she
7:13already knows what she did. She already
7:15knows she gave you the cold shoulder.
7:18She already knows that she's pushing you
7:20away. She already knows
7:23that you feel bad. She already knows
7:25this. She doesn't care. She She even
7:27maybe does it on purpose just so
7:29hopefully you stop texting her. Like she
7:31wants you to exit.
7:33Or she wants to see that you have the
7:34strength to sit silent and do nothing.
7:37See, but the second that you verbalize
7:39anything, the second you try to set a
7:40standard, the second you try to set
7:43an expectation. The second you try to
7:45hold them accountable, dude,
7:47the guy who's a Chad, the guy that she
7:49really wants, he didn't have to do any
7:50of that. He can kick back, right? And
7:52he's sitting here and he's eating a
7:53steak or a piece of pizza. And when he
7:55gets that phone call or that text
7:57message, he picks it up, picks up the
7:58phone, he goes, "Hey, babe, how are you
8:00doing?" And that's it.
8:03And she knows to use a blush emoji at
8:05the end of it and put a smiley face
8:07because she wants to be nice to him.
8:10We have a generation of men that think
8:12that like um
8:14it's like normal for you to go through
8:16all this. It's not normal. She will be
8:19nice to someone. It's just not you. So,
8:22you need to commit to making the change,
8:25and it might take 18 to 24 months.
8:29Like
8:31it might take 18 to 24 months of you
8:33becoming an attractive man
8:35to get the type of treatment that I'm
8:37discussing.
8:39Might be tough.
8:40Might be real tough.
8:42It might be painful. Or you might grow.
8:45You might grow in different ways that
8:46you didn't even know that you could. You
8:48might grow in different ways that you
8:49didn't even know was possible. You might
8:50actually become something
8:53or become the type of man that God has
8:55called you to be. If you like this
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