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0:00Okay, this is 10 different types of
0:01tests you're going to get from women.
0:03This is when she wants to start getting
0:05real fresh with you. She's overly
0:07confident that you're easily
0:08disrespected and she doesn't think that
0:10you have any backbone anymore. So,
0:13because of that, you're going to
0:14experience this from time to time when
0:16you're maybe 4 months in, 6 months in, 8
0:19months in, 18 months into a
0:20relationship. The first thing that I
0:23would say almost all of you are going to
0:25get is this one right here.
0:27You're going to notice her condescending
0:29tone when she goes, "Whatever, it's
0:31fine." "No, don't come. I don't want you
0:33to anymore."
0:34Here's the situation.
0:37She's going to say, "Hey, can you come
0:39here with me?" It might be the mall, it
0:41might be to a birthday party, it might
0:42be to go shopping.
0:45And you say, "No, I'm
0:47not interested." Or you say, "No, I
0:49don't really want to." Or "No, I don't
0:50feel like it." Or "No, I'm too busy." Um
0:53or just overall you don't want to do it.
0:55And then all of a sudden she seems
0:57really mad.
0:58Okay?
1:00She'll act like you don't make enough
1:01time for her and that she's losing
1:03interest. Okay, this right here is where
1:05the manipulation starts.
1:07And what she's doing right here she
1:08wants to see if you're going to bend or
1:10break what you just said. And now you're
1:12going to attempt to please her by
1:14agreeing.
1:16So, you try to agree and please her and
1:18then as soon as you do this and you say,
1:19"Yes, I'll come." Okay? Now all of a
1:21sudden she says, "No." once you've
1:23already agreed to it. She says, "No."
1:25once you agree and she says, "No, never
1:27mind. I don't want you to come."
1:30And you notice that she's mad or that
1:31she's frustrated. So, in the back of
1:34your mind you're sitting there thinking,
1:35"Well, she doesn't really like me
1:36anymore." or something like that. And
1:37now she's going to go wherever without
1:39me. And you can tell that there's
1:41tension and now there's space apart and
1:43she's giving you in that fearful state.
1:45So, the overall rule I want you to
1:47remember with this first one is don't
1:49bend your word very easily. Okay? Don't
1:53bend your word very easily.
1:55If you upset her when you say
1:58you can say, "Babe, I got so much to do.
2:00You know I have to keep my priorities in
2:02line. You know I got to keep making
2:03money. You know I got to focus on my
2:04career. Come on, now."
2:06You know what I mean?
2:09And typically, what you're going to
2:11experience when you say like that, you
2:13know, "Babe, just like work with me a
2:14little bit here, right? Like I'm I'm
2:15doing stuff. Come on, right?"
2:19You're going to notice that there's a
2:20very high probability she says, "Okay."
2:23But when you go back on your word, she
2:25trusts you less. So, your yes means yes,
2:28your no means no. That's what you have
2:29to remember. This is the first type of
2:31test, okay? Number two, okay?
2:35Getting your care or involvement in
2:38things that you've expressed that you do
2:41not care about. Now, this right here,
2:43number two, this is what I call a
2:44congruence test, okay? A congruence test
2:47is to see if you're the same guy that
2:50you were week one when she met you
2:52versus seven months into the
2:54relationship. I've experienced this one
2:56all the time myself. I'll give you a
2:58personal example.
3:00Um me personally, I don't watch TV
3:02because I don't care. Like I really
3:04don't watch TV. And my whole uh I would
3:06say in the past 10 years, you know, I've
3:08maybe watched
3:10I don't even know, but not very much TV.
3:12I've maybe watched TV uh
3:1410 to 15 times in 10 years if I had to
3:17guess. Okay, so I don't care and I don't
3:19really watch it. I've had countless
3:21girlfriends who know this about me that
3:24I don't care I don't watch TV. I don't
3:26care what channel it is. I don't care
3:27about the movie, just like I don't care,
3:29okay? I've had countless girlfriends who
3:31try to do this. So, we're six, seven, or
3:32eight months in, and then all of a
3:34sudden she says, "Hey, uh babe, what do
3:35you want to watch tonight?"
3:38Okay?
3:39And what she's trying to do is she's
3:41trying to get you to choose something or
3:43to watch something or to now get your
3:45involvement. Okay, so don't appease and
3:48just pick a channel, okay, or a movie to
3:51watch. A lot of guys will do this.
3:53They'll just like appease and they'll
3:54just pick something and they'll say,
3:55"Hey, let's watch this." But the problem
3:57is like every time you don't say this,
4:00"Hey, you know I don't watch TV." Every
4:02time you forget to say that, you forget
4:04that who you are has to stay the same.
4:06This is where the congruence test sets
4:08in and now all of a sudden she starts
4:10pulling away. Okay, so keep that in
4:12mind. Who you are day one has to be the
4:14same guy that you are a year into that
4:16relationship. Now, number three, telling
4:19you
4:20to your face that you are not nice
4:22enough or that you need to be nicer.
4:25This is one that you're going to
4:26experience, okay? You're probably going
4:28to experience this especially if you're
4:30a dude with pretty good concept and
4:31understanding of frame. You're going to
4:34notice that women will try to get you to
4:35adapt and bend your personality away
4:38from who you were when they first met
4:39you, ultimately seeing if you will be um
4:43changed, which will lower your
4:44attractiveness. So, at this point she's
4:47almost acting like your mom. Now, the
4:49second that you start being nicer, she
4:51now thinks that you're a pushover. So,
4:54what you want to do is you just want to
4:56give the words, okay, but let your
4:58actions still stay consistent and not
5:00change anything. So, just give the
5:01words. If she says, "You need to be
5:02nicer." You say, "Oh, of course, babe.
5:05You know I'm always nice."
5:07Of course, babe. I'm always nice, right?
5:10And then you just go on like nothing
5:12happened and you go about your day and
5:14you're still the same guy, okay?
5:17So, it's better to just
5:20get through some of this with just like
5:22an easy to understand sentence. Like,
5:24"Oh, babe, you know I'm a nice guy,
5:26okay?" You say it and then you move on.
5:29Now, the second that you try to start
5:31backpedaling and saying, "Oh, why do you
5:32always say this?" and all that and now
5:33there's this argument, she sees that
5:35you're moved off center, okay? You have
5:37to always be aware of frame and frame a
5:39lot of times is
5:40what is the verbal sentence structure
5:42that will determine the outcome of this
5:44entire day or this conversation, Okay.
5:48So, number four, the fourth female
5:51nature test that you will most likely
5:52encounter is this right here.
5:54You're 8 to 12 months in
5:57and you're talking to her and she just
5:59flat out ignores you.
6:01There's something wrong or something
6:02happened and you're sitting there or you
6:04two are on the couch and you're sitting
6:06there talking to her verbally and you're
6:08saying something
6:10and she just doesn't respond and she
6:11keeps looking at her phone or looking
6:13away from you. So, she senses that you
6:16no longer have the power to walk away
6:19and this one right here, this typically
6:20only happens when she's too comfortable.
6:24Which means what's actually happened is
6:26you've started talking too much. You
6:28started talking too much about your
6:31personal life, how you think, what
6:33you're up to that day, your career. It's
6:36like in the beginning there was all this
6:38mystery and unknown between both of you
6:41and that's what she was attracted to and
6:43it's like what happens is you get more
6:45comfortable.
6:46Okay, and she sees that you're more
6:47comfortable to just start speaking
6:49freely about really anything that you
6:50think at that time and then what you
6:52notice is she senses that you're more
6:54invested than you used to be and now she
6:56pulls away. What I can tell you is you
6:58can never get attached. Never get
7:00attached. You can't.
7:02Okay, the second you get deeply attached
7:04where like your internal emotions are so
7:06invested in that other person
7:08you have to understand that a lot of
7:10times that's like your worst nightmare
7:11because that's when the bad behavior
7:12really begins. Number five, okay, this
7:15is one you really have to watch out for
7:18and women love doing this. This is also
7:19why I don't plan dates. I'm just more
7:21spontaneous. Want to grab food tonight?
7:23Let's grab food tonight. Okay,
7:25spontaneousness. And then if she says,
7:27"Oh, I'm busy tonight." I'll just heart
7:29the message and not reply. What I found
7:31is that three, four, five days later
7:32since I didn't reply, now she asks me if
7:34I want to go get food that next day.
7:36Okay, very simple. What women will do,
7:38what I found is like women actually
7:40prefer a lot of times to do the
7:42planning. But, you got to watch out for
7:44this one. Number five, excessive
7:46planning. Okay?
7:48She might get a calendar. She might get
7:50a shared calendar between both of you.
7:52Doesn't matter. She's going to attempt
7:54possibly to start micromanaging every
7:57part of your life and coming up with all
7:59these event obligations. Oh, we got
8:02dinner Wednesday here. Oh, Friday we got
8:04to do this. Oh, we got dinner plans
8:06here. What do you mean you don't want to
8:07do this? But, I already planned this for
8:09us. Okay? What she's doing is she's
8:11attempting to gain control over your
8:13time. So, what's happened at this point
8:16is you're essentially a dude with no
8:18plan or fun outside of spending the time
8:21with her. Okay, this is not necessarily
8:23good. Okay? You need to be able to say
8:25no. You know, no babe, I got to do this
8:28tonight. No babe, I'm going over here
8:30and I'm doing this tonight. I'm hanging
8:31out with my friends tonight or, you
8:33know, I'm going and I'm working on that
8:34project that I've been building,
8:36whatever. You have to be able to say no
8:37from time to time and understand that
8:40that time apart is okay.
8:42If she actually
8:45is invested in you and she likes you on
8:48an emotional level, she's not going to
8:50stray just because you went and did
8:51something else.
8:54What makes her want to stray is when she
8:56sees you don't have the strength to go
8:58and do anything else with your time in
9:00the first place.
9:01So, number six, the sixth
9:04test that you might encounter is girls
9:06night out. Now, she turns her phone off.
9:08Okay? And what's happened now is she has
9:10shifted to just blatant disrespect. And
9:13the reason being is because she is
9:15bored. She is bored of the relationship.
9:19That's what's happened right here. Most
9:21guys think, oh there's another man. Oh,
9:23there's a different dude who she met
9:25when she was out. No, no, no. A lot of
9:27times she just wants to sit there with
9:29all of her girlfriends that night and
9:30say, hey I
9:32I'm bored right now and I want to make
9:33his mind go haywire all over the place.
9:36Okay? She's bored. If you see that
9:39you're dating a woman,
9:41you have to understand that if she's
9:42willing to do that,
9:44like once she's willing to do that, she
9:46no longer has any fear of loss of losing
9:49you at all. Like
9:51what I would do personally if this was
9:53me, if I was in this situation, is I
9:55would never talk to her ever again. Most
9:57guys don't have the strength to do that,
9:59but me personally, I would never talk to
10:00her ever again. Because this is how you
10:02have to look at this. Why on earth would
10:04you want to be with someone and spend
10:06your time with someone who actually
10:08wants to be mean to you? It makes no
10:10sense. You would not tolerate that from
10:12any of your dude friends. If you call up
10:14your friend and you say, "Hey, you want
10:16to go get lunch somewhere?"
10:18and he just tells you on the phone, uh,
10:20you know, that he hates you and why are
10:21you even calling him in the first place,
10:23you would be like, "This makes no sense.
10:25I'm not going to talk to this guy
10:26anymore." Well, you have to have that
10:28same mindset. Just because she's your
10:29girlfriend or she's your wife, like if
10:31she's willing to do this, you have to
10:32understand that like it's completely
10:33over at that point, most likely. Like
10:35why on earth would you try to talk to
10:37someone that's actually trying to be
10:38mean to you? Most guys don't have much
10:40self-respect, but you have to shift your
10:42mind into being that type of guy. Number
10:45seven, okay? Telling you that you are
10:48going to have to prove to her how you're
10:51going to change. This is a massive
10:53manipulation test a lot of times.
10:56She will verbally tell you to your face
10:58how you're going to have to change in
11:00order to please her so that way she'll
11:02stay with you. This is rooted in fear.
11:05She wants to put you into a fearful
11:07state, okay?
11:09At this point, you're so weak. You're so
11:12weak at this point. So, at this point
11:14right here, she knows that you do not
11:16have the strength to just say,
11:19"Fuck it. I'm not going to change." and
11:21leave. She knows you don't have the
11:22strength to do that, okay? So, because
11:24of that, now what you're running into is
11:26you're running into all of these games
11:28and tests where she wants to really make
11:30you feel bad about yourself. Stay away
11:33from people who are trying to make you
11:34feel bad on purpose.
11:37I don't care if it's a friend. I don't
11:38care if it's a girlfriend. Stay away
11:40from those people.
11:41If you're with someone who's actually
11:43trying to cause you emotional pain,
11:47there's absolutely no point in talking
11:48to them. Number eight would be
11:51nitpicking your personal life. You're
11:54going to notice women do this to gain
11:55more control and try to change you into
11:57the type of man that they think they
11:59want. Let me give you an example.
12:02You're there in your truck or in your
12:04car and you get a phone call and it's
12:06your mom. It says mom right on the
12:07phone. And she looks at you and she
12:09goes, "You're really not going to uh
12:10take that call right now? You're not
12:12going to take that call from your mom?"
12:14Then she starts telling you how, "You
12:15know, one thing I've noticed about you
12:17is you just don't talk to your family
12:18enough. You don't talk to your family
12:20enough. You know, there's something
12:21wrong, I think.
12:22You know, you're just not You're so uh
12:25You're not sensitive enough." She'll
12:26start saying this stuff, okay? Or um
12:29another thing is like around the house,
12:31you know, if she's around uh let's say
12:32your apartment or your house, you know,
12:35and she gets too comfortable around you,
12:36she'll start saying things like, "Oh,
12:37you're really just going to leave your
12:38dirty clothes right there? Oh, that's
12:40disgusting. How could you?" Even though
12:42they're your clothes and it's your
12:43house. What she's trying to do is get
12:45you to change for her, okay? So,
12:49another thing you might notice is she
12:50might say like, "Oh, you need better
12:51manners." Okay, all this stuff you have
12:54to understand, this just comes with
12:56dating women. When you're dating women,
12:58this is just stuff you're going to run
12:59into. What I would advise right here is
13:01just not change any of your behavior.
13:03You know, if she says something like
13:04that, I might say, "Yeah, that's how it
13:06is." You know, and I'll just act like I
13:08don't really care cuz honestly, I don't.
13:10Like I just I don't.
13:13You know, like you got to get to a point
13:14as a man where like
13:17you're you're replaceable.
13:19You really have to.
13:21You have to get to a point where it's
13:22way harder for her to replace you than
13:24it would be for for to replace her in
13:25that relationship, or else you don't
13:27have a lot of leverage.
13:29Um number nine,
13:30promising you that she will love you
13:32forever. Oh my gosh, if I had
13:35if I had a nickel for every time I've
13:37heard this one, okay?
13:39What happens here is she wants you to
13:41fully drop your guard, so that way
13:43you're easier to manipulate.
13:46She wants you to believe this, so that
13:48way you change your behavior and you
13:50soften. As you soften, now she realize
13:52you can be changed and altered, and now
13:54this is when she pulls away. This is
13:57what you're going to notice, okay? If
13:59she says something like this, "Oh, you
14:00know, I'm going to always love you
14:01forever, right?" and all this stuff, you
14:03just smile and you say, "I know, babe."
14:05Okay? You just say, "I know, babe."
14:08But don't fully believe it. When you
14:10fully believe it, that's when things go
14:11south.
14:13Okay? Don't fully believe it. Number 10,
14:15comparing you to actors or musicians or
14:18people on TV who have more status than
14:21you that she claims that she has a crush
14:23on. If you notice that she does
14:26something like that, you're sitting
14:27there watching TV and she goes, "Oh,
14:29that dude on TV, he's so hot." Okay?
14:33You need to just have the strength to
14:35look at her and say, "Hey, you know, I
14:36think it's time for me to leave."
14:38And you just leave.
14:40Okay?
14:42She has way too much confidence to
14:43disrespect you.
14:46And she wants to test you at this point.
14:48She wants to test you. So, she's going
14:50to see if you're going to tolerate
14:51something like that. If you want to
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