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0:00So, as a man, you got to create your own
0:02luck. Okay, this is one thing that I
0:05don't think is really talked about very
0:07much is like creating your own luck and
0:10understanding that it's okay that you
0:12have desire.
0:14Okay? It's okay that you have desire.
0:17Let me give you an example. I'm going to
0:19show you a photo of me when I was real
0:21young. So, this is one of the first cell
0:24phones that I had. It was some uh
0:26Samsung Android. And here's me, okay,
0:30smiling ear to ear. That's what I wanted
0:33was hot women. Okay, now I show you that
0:36because that was me, okay? I think that
0:40that photo was about 2013, maybe 2014.
0:44Okay, so what did I do?
0:47I sat down. I looked at every area of my
0:49life real quick. And for some reason, I
0:52like knew how to do this at a young age.
0:54I don't know why. I just did. Like most
0:57guys were like partying and stuff and I
1:01did that too, but my mindset was always
1:03like, "Okay, how do I use this party or
1:06how do I host the party or, you know, if
1:09it's my party? How do I use this as
1:13status or popularity to make my dating
1:15life easier?" Okay, you've seen me in
1:18other videos talking about how you as a
1:20man, you have to stay above the
1:22conversation and not go into the
1:23conversation. This would be an example.
1:26Most guys go into the party. So, they're
1:28just looking at having a good time. What
1:30I always did was I always took the
1:31party, okay? And I was like, "Okay, if I
1:34had it and I hosted it, how can I use
1:37this to stay kind of above the party?"
1:39So, it's like they're coming to Casey's
1:41party so I can leverage this to have
1:43some status.
1:45Whether you like how that sounds or not,
1:47I don't really care. Okay? You have to
1:50actually create your own luck a little
1:51bit. So, one of the first things that I
1:54did right away, okay, at 18 years old,
1:57um, is that I became a real estate
2:00agent. This isn't something that I talk
2:02about very much, but I'm going to kind
2:04of show you how this comes full circle.
2:06What you have to stop doing is you have
2:08to stop beating yourself up so much that
2:11you're not where you want to be in life.
2:13And you have to kind of let life unfold,
2:16but always keep your nose to the
2:18grindstone and work hard. So that way
2:20you're rewarded for your efforts. Your
2:22efforts right away might not pay off,
2:25but you're going to learn what not to
2:26do. So I'll show you a couple photos of
2:28me, okay? This was me as a real estate
2:30agent. I was 18, okay? And I did this
2:34for a few years now. The reason why I
2:37show you this is because right away when
2:38I became a real estate agent, the first
2:40thing that I was telling myself is like,
2:42"Okay, I'm going to outwork everybody."
2:44Okay? I'm going to outwork everybody.
2:46That's what I told myself. I'm going to
2:47outwork everybody. So, in the office at
2:50the time, like this was a lot of years
2:51ago, but I was the only one doing
2:53content at the time. I was the only one
2:55um filming, you know, almost daily. And
2:58I was doing this because I knew that the
3:01fruits of my labor would pay off. So,
3:04I'm going to be 30 this year. Um, I've
3:08now been on camera like filming myself
3:10and speaking. Like, if I look at all the
3:12jobs that I've had for like the past 10
3:14years, okay? And this is just important
3:17because like in life, you're slowly
3:19rewarded. So, then here's a picture of
3:21me. This was at 18. This is when I got
3:23my first ever commission check. Okay?
3:26And I was just smiling from ear to ear.
3:28So, at the time then I was like, "Okay,
3:29this is what it feels like to now have a
3:31little bit of money." I was like, I got
3:33my first commission check. I actually
3:35proved to myself I could make sales.
3:37Now, what this did was this increased my
3:40confidence in business at the time. You
3:43might be saying, "Well, Casey, I watch
3:44this channel. I subscribe to this
3:46channel for dating content. You don't
3:48get it. You don't understand that how
3:49you do one thing is how you do
3:50everything." Okay. Simultaneously, as I
3:53was a real estate agent, I was really
3:56into bodybuilding. So, I'll show you a
3:58couple photos of me. Like, I was ripped.
4:00Like basically um I went from having
4:02like a really bad physique and looking
4:05really bad to like basically turning
4:07into like a Chad. Like I was just
4:09ripped. Um I had longer blonde hair. I
4:13had the pretty boy look going.
4:16And the reason why I got into
4:18bodybuilding and into lifting weights at
4:20the time at this time, you know, this is
4:22like 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017, is like I
4:26wanted a better dating life. And I'm not
4:28ashamed to admit that, right? A lot of
4:30guys they say uh
4:33they say, "Oh, I lift for me." Well, I
4:36didn't. I lifted cuz I wanted more
4:38booty. And I don't care how that sounds.
4:42That's what I wanted. Okay? But you can
4:44see like here, look at me. This was me
4:45at 17. Look at me smile ear to ear.
4:47Like, you don't even know what your best
4:49self is going to look like yet. Okay?
4:52Now, listen. I went from looking like
4:54that, okay? to looking like this in just
4:59a few short years. So like mentally I
5:02still had the image of like uh in my
5:04mind I was still like a younger guy but
5:07like on the outside like people treated
5:09me way differently. Men respected me
5:12more. Um you know dudes would want to
5:14hang out with me and party all the time.
5:16Like when they looked at me they just
5:18naturally assumed that I attracted a lot
5:20of women. And it's because in person all
5:24of a sudden my dating life changed so
5:26drastically. I was attracting way more
5:28women. Now, how does this correlate? Why
5:30am I showing you me at real estate and
5:33then me looking ripped?
5:36Okay,
5:39it's because I was doing both at the
5:40same time. So, while I was a real estate
5:42agent,
5:44despite me making money, okay, most guys
5:46they look at career as one thing that
5:48they do and they're done. me I look at
5:50life as an ever evolving kind of
5:52structure. So simultaneously as I was a
5:54real estate agent I was growing my
5:56online fitness business. I started an
5:58online fitness business and I was
5:59constantly recording myself um and I was
6:03constantly giving um fitness videos and
6:06I had you know a bunch of clients at the
6:08time and I was building that
6:10simultaneously. So I was actually doing
6:11two things at once. So like I'll show
6:14you a couple more photos here. Um, you
6:16know, I would take all the all the
6:18photos and I would do all the things,
6:20you know, to show my fitness journey and
6:23my physique progression along the way
6:26and how I was eating and how I was
6:28structuring my diet and all that stuff.
6:30Well, naturally, okay, as I was doing
6:34both of these things,
6:36obviously what happened was like my
6:39dating life started to drastically
6:41improve because
6:44how you do one thing is how you do
6:46everything. So that ambitious mindset
6:48that I had with being like a real estate
6:49agent right at 18, then all of a sudden
6:51I was like, okay, you know what? I've
6:52proven to myself I can make some sales
6:54doing this. I'm really good at fitness,
6:57too. I want to do this. Simultaneously,
6:59as I was getting better at fitness, I
7:01was obviously dating more women because
7:03I was looking more attractive. Well, as
7:05I was dating more women, I was figuring
7:07out what to do and what not to do.
7:10So, everything was tied together. See,
7:13that's the thing is like most guys, they
7:14don't actually take that first step in
7:16actually doing something. But had I not
7:20done the first two journeys, I would
7:22have not had access to going on as much
7:25dates or having as many relationships
7:28and learning what to do and what not to
7:30do. All of the mistakes that I made
7:32along the way in my dating life is what
7:35fueled these videos for me to figure out
7:38what to actually talk about, for me to
7:40figure out what to actually teach, and
7:42for me to figure out what to actually
7:43show. So, the thing is is like most guys
7:47simply
7:49do not give themselves permission to
7:51start. And you're looking at ambition
7:54the wrong way. You're looking at
7:56ambition is like you either got it or
7:58you don't. And I'm here to tell you that
8:00every day is just as hard as the day
8:01before.
8:04Every day is an ever evolving journey.
8:07And when you start to look back down the
8:09road and you start to look at your
8:11three-year progression from where you're
8:12at, I don't care what it is. I don't
8:14care if it's fitness. I don't care if
8:15it's finances. I don't care if it's your
8:16dating life. You as an individual, the
8:19older you get as a man, you start to see
8:22how everything's connected. How you do
8:23one thing is how you do everything.
8:25Okay? I was like the only one doing
8:29content when I was a real estate agent
8:30and I was working hard at it every day.
8:32That same mindset of like I will go hard
8:34every day translated into the gym. Well,
8:37when it translated into the gym and
8:39people saw my work ethic, it was super
8:41super easy at the time for me to get
8:42fitness clients, no one at the time was
8:44doing this. See, nowadays, there's a
8:46bunch of fitness influencers and stuff.
8:48In my hometown at the time, I was the
8:50only one that I even knew of who was
8:51doing this. So, I was just constantly
8:54coaching people, helping, and it was
8:56easy because how you do one thing is how
8:58you do everything. and that success that
9:00I had of really really busting my ass in
9:04real estate and making those sales and
9:06figuring out what to do and like being a
9:08teenager entering into a market like
9:10that. Well, all of a sudden I was like,
9:12"Okay, I can use that same work ethic
9:14and I can build my body." Well, now I
9:16can use that same work ethic and I can
9:18build my fitness business because I
9:20built the body. Well, hey, I'm getting
9:22way more choosing signals and way more
9:24women interested in me. Well, guess
9:27what? All of a sudden, I can use all
9:29this stuff that I built to now figure
9:31out how to have a better dating life.
9:33And I'm now getting access to way more
9:35dates. Whoa, I can now see mistakes that
9:37I'm making and mistakes that I haven't
9:38made. And the wins that I had and why
9:40those wins occurred.
9:43You're not where you want to be because
9:45you think that ambition and you think
9:47that success is something that you
9:48either have or you don't. And I'm here
9:50to tell you that it is an ever evolving
9:52journey. And most guys don't look at it
9:55that way. they don't look at it that
9:57way, which is why they're not where they
9:58want to be. I started to notice
10:00everything. It was like my fitness
10:02journey. I was like, now I notice like
10:03my face transformation, okay? How I
10:05look, you know, now all of a sudden I
10:07notice like um,
10:10you know, different different style and
10:12different things that goes into, you
10:14know, the shape of my body and what
10:16clothes looks best on me, things like
10:19that. All these things connect. But you
10:21got to understand that at one point I
10:23was just like you.
10:25I struggled with the exact same things
10:27just like you did. I didn't like how I
10:29looked. I didn't like how my voice
10:30sounded. I didn't think that I really
10:32had any skills. I didn't think I was
10:34good at anything.
10:36And it's because at the time I wasn't.
10:38But I had that raw material. And as long
10:41as you have a mind and a body that's
10:44able to do the things that you want to
10:45do, it is your job to put those steps in
10:47place and do them. And it will be hard
10:50and it's going to be really tough and
10:51it's going to be really bad and it's not
10:53going to feel good. But listen, I know
10:54what it's like to be at the complete
10:55bottom. I know what it's like to be at
10:57the bottom and hate your life and hate
10:58how you look and wish that life was
11:01different and not have the type of money
11:04that you want to be making and not have,
11:06you know, the dating life that you want
11:07to have. And I know what it's like to
11:09look in the mirror and not like how you
11:10look and not like your body. And I know
11:12what it's like to completely have the
11:14opposite effect.
11:16And all of that came from understanding
11:18that life's a journey, okay? It's not
11:21just a destination. And I understood
11:23that ambition bleeds over into
11:26everything that you do. Okay? How you do
11:29one thing is how you do everything. A
11:31lot of times what I've noticed is like
11:32if you take a guy and like let's say
11:34he's had success in one area, a lot of
11:36times he can learn different principles
11:38that he can copy paste over into a
11:40different area in his life. But you're
11:42going to have to humble yourself. You're
11:44going to have to humble yourself and
11:45tell yourself that, you know, it's not
11:47going to be easy and that it's okay to
11:48start from the bottom because we all do.
11:51We all do. Don't let anybody fool you
11:54because anybody that you see, okay, who
11:58has success at something, it was not
12:00easy.
12:01And the thing that I want all of you to
12:03know who is watching this video is I
12:05want all of you to know that God blessed
12:07you with different skills. God blessed
12:09me with a certain set of skills. And
12:12your skills might look different. In
12:13fact, they probably will look different.
12:15And that's okay.
12:17They probably will look different.
12:19They're going to be different. That's
12:21okay. It's your job to find those
12:22skills. It's your job to dig deep and
12:24find those skills. And every single day,
12:26you ask God for the strength. You say,
12:27"God, show me my path.
12:30Show me my path.
12:32Show me my skills. Give me the strength
12:35to to fortify
12:37myself to get to where I need to be."
12:39You actually become someone
12:42um not of [clears throat] influence, but
12:43you become someone that other people
12:47see that there's certain things that
12:49they should emulate. And that's
12:50powerful. It's powerful because the
12:52people around you actually start to
12:53uplevel. The people around you start to
12:55uplevel. That's what you're going to
12:57notice. So, where am I going with this
12:59video? Okay. You're going to have a lot
13:02of people, a lot of different I don't
13:04care if it's dating coaches, I don't
13:05care if it's influencers, you're going
13:07to have a lot of people over the next 5
13:09years tell you a lot of different
13:11things. You're going to hear about the
13:13latest trend. You're going to hear about
13:14the latest tactic. You're going to hear
13:15about the latest stuff. This stuff that
13:18I'm talking about stays true forever.
13:21This is not built on some quick fix. Oh,
13:24just text message this. This is not
13:26built on some tactic of, oh, just say
13:28this.
13:31This is like the internal guts of what
13:32the man is made up of. And you as a man,
13:35your masculinity journey, if you want to
13:37call it that, it's ever evolving. But
13:39you have to be the one to initiate these
13:43things in life. Nobody went out and took
13:45the real estate exam for me. I studied
13:47that whole summer by myself and I passed
13:50on the first try. Nobody did that for
13:51me. Nobody built the online fitness
13:54business for me. Nobody spent the
13:55thousands of hours in the gym for me.
13:58Nobody spent the hundreds or thousands
14:00of hours of tracking their macros for
14:02me. I had to do all this.
14:05Even if you look at this channel, every
14:06single video that I made on it, you
14:09know, thousands of videos. No one did
14:10that for me. I did all that by myself. I
14:13sat here and recorded all of them. And
14:16the fruits of your labor pay off and
14:17you're rewarded in life when you just
14:19keep chipping away at things. See,
14:21that's the other thing, too. I think
14:22that, you know, a lot of guys, too,
14:24you're in this shortterm mindset where
14:27you think you either got it or you don't
14:28based on the next like influencer who
14:31maybe blew up, right? The next
14:33influencer who maybe blew up. Like, um,
14:36you know, you get there's a new dude
14:38every month, right? or every couple
14:40months who just like, oh, it looks like,
14:41you know, they just had this instant
14:43success. And maybe that's true for some
14:45people, but you got to remember in life
14:46since life is ever evolving and how you
14:49do one thing is how you do everything.
14:51You will see the most life ROI by just
14:54keep chipping away. You keep chipping
14:56away on your goals. You keep chipping
14:57away on everything and you don't give
14:59up. And when you have that mindset, you
15:01don't need instant success
15:04because you just keep chipping away.
15:06Every day you wake up, keep chipping
15:07away. Next day you wake up, keep
15:09chipping away. The sun goes up, you
15:11realize like it's another day and
15:12everything's going to be just fine. And
15:13you keep going. You keep going and you
15:15keep going and you keep going and you
15:16don't give up cuz you have no choice.
15:21If you are anything like me, you
15:23understand what I meant by this video.
15:26You understand what I meant by this
15:27video.
15:29And if you're a young guy watching this,
15:32understand that if you can just look
15:34long term, if you can say, "Hey, what
15:36are the things I got to do every day of
15:38my life for the next 10 years to
15:41hopefully have character traits and
15:42discipline that last me a lifetime?"
15:45That right there, my friend, is how you
15:47get ahead. And that right there is how
15:48you actually start to win.
15:51What I advise you to do is join us
15:53inside the community that I built. I
15:55built a whole community so you can
15:56learn, understand, and master the
15:58language of women. And I give you a
16:00process to help make your dating life
16:02way easier. So check that out. You can
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