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0:00[Music]
0:06so one of the questions that we got up
0:09that came in a few different variations
0:11was Sam seems to always be working he's
0:14not ever having any fun
0:17does he take vacations like is life all
0:20about business former does he like to do
0:22other things and then we'll touch on
0:23some some other things people want to
0:25know how you wind down at night before
0:28you start the next day how do you find
0:29fulfillment outside of work and just
0:32what do you like to do in your leisure
0:33time so I guess let's start with the
0:34first one does Sam vacation just
0:37wondering haha only really like you know
0:45you I do it because because of like my
0:49girlfriend she wants to go on vacations
0:51so if it was just up to me I probably
0:53wouldn't because I you know I really
0:55enjoy what I do so I don't want to I
0:57don't need to escape you know most
1:00people use vacations as escape from
1:02everyday life most people don't like
1:05their job they don't like their life so
1:06vacation is like paradise and then they
1:09go back to hell but every day is
1:12paradise for me in so vacation is like
1:15worse i well i'm i generally am not you
1:19know as excited on a vacation i more do
1:22it because i know it's good for me to
1:25rest a bit and i do it because of my
1:28girlfriend mmm and i gotta be fair to
1:31her so that's why i do it but if I had
1:33my own way I probably wouldn't do them
1:35when you are on vacation do you prefer
1:37to work or do you prefer to I completely
1:38shut down in kind of recenter I just in
1:44one or the other like awful on so on
1:46vacation I generally will try and do no
1:48work at all because otherwise it's not a
1:50vacation it's just work in a more
1:52distracting place right yeah makes sense
1:55cool and then what do you do outside a
1:59vacation to kind of wind down at night
2:02so when you get done at night you have
2:05still a few hours left that you can do
2:06before you have to be in bed what do you
2:08like prefer to do with your time there
2:09well it takes me three hours to get into
2:11the zone
2:12and three to get out so well three to
2:15really get in and out and like to to
2:17just kind of get in and kind of out so
2:20like in the morning I have to you know I
2:23wake up and then I go to the gym for
2:24like an hour and do exercise then I'll
2:27have a cold shower then I'll have like
2:30breakfast and then I'll do meditation
2:33and that takes like two hours and then
2:37I'll start working in the first hour of
2:39work is like kind of ratcheting up
2:41towards like being right in the zone and
2:43then I'll power through the day like in
2:45the zone
2:46then to get out at the end it'll take
2:48about one hour of kind of winding down
2:50work which is typically just making sure
2:54the key things are done for the day and
2:56creating my schedule and to-do list for
2:59the next day and I'll do that and then
3:03I'll go and I have to do something
3:06that's completely not work for at least
3:08two hours before I'll be able to go to
3:09sleep if I just stopped working then
3:11tried to go to sleep nothing would
3:12happen yeah
3:13and so I will I pretty much immediately
3:17ever cold shower because that's a good
3:19way to like just snap now if there works
3:21done yeah okay so I get it's like one at
3:24the beginning and one at the end yes so
3:25it's good because they're on these like
3:27you know there's like two there's like a
3:30signal to the body in the mind like
3:32going in going out mm-hmm and so there's
3:35these two things which are there and
3:37they're almost 12 hours apart
3:38I'd like on identical hours so one
3:42happens at 8:00 when happens it's like
3:448:00 or 9:00 so they're almost on
3:45perfect balance with each other and
3:48that's really good because you it learn
3:50your like your brain and everything
3:52learns so like it becomes like a ritual
3:55and that's a good way but you're still
3:59takes me longer you know like I live the
4:02cold shower then I'll get into bed and I
4:04won't touch any work my phone goes on
4:07airplane mode and everything and then if
4:10I'm not too tired I'll read a book but
4:13if I'm exhausted
4:14I will just watch like TV and not TV TV
4:18like I'll watch a movie on my laptop or
4:22I'll watch like a documentary or a TV
4:25nothing with ads in it or any like
4:28nothing crazy like that only something
4:30which I'm I'm purposefully watching hmm
4:33because I want to and I want to unwind
4:35got it why not add what would an ad do
4:38they stimulate your brain like their
4:41design all of these things are designed
4:43to like stimulate your brain it's like
4:46you know they're kind of like drugs and
4:48so those are the last things you want
4:51what you're trying to when you're trying
4:53to like unplug and unwind you can't have
4:56any of that stuff and you don't want
4:58your phone buzzing you don't want new
4:59stimulus coming into your world so even
5:03if some like my phone goes in airplane
5:04mode at the moment I have that cold
5:06shower so if anyone has any crisis after
5:09there's I'm out but you can't reach me
5:12because you have to be like that if you
5:14want to unwind if you read an email in
5:17it you're like you're not gonna be able
5:19to have you're not gonna be able to go
5:20to sleep mmm so you have to detach from
5:23everything and then if you're
5:25purposefully watching something then
5:28it's you know it's the way it happens
5:31with your brain it's like I'm going to
5:33watch that then go to sleep and then if
5:35you watch there and go to sleep you've
5:36got control of like the situation but if
5:39you watch TV where it has ads and people
5:41are flicking between channels there
5:43misses the brain up because it's like
5:45it's changing and it's jumping and it's
5:47it's thinking should I watch this new
5:49thing should I go that way should I go
5:50that way it's they're actually
5:51stimulating their brain and they're like
5:54they're tempting themselves to watch
5:57like longer things and go into and do
6:00things which they weren't they didn't
6:01have the intention to do mmm
6:03so it's very important that like you say
6:06I'm going to do this and then go to
6:08sleep and when you when you're watching
6:11movies before sleep blue light blocking
6:13glasses or something else now I just
6:16have the flux at computer it just makes
6:21the screen like yellow earth like it
6:23becomes like yellow or orange at night
6:25which is good because they're white
6:27light it can is supposed to let me suck
6:29asleep right yeah what's the best
6:34documentary or series that you've seen
6:36in the last month
6:39this documentary there's lots of good
6:44ones I don't know about a clear absolute
6:47winner yeah but I mean the one that
6:51stuck out to me the most probably this
6:52year would be like watching the Michael
6:54Jordan documentaries mm-hmm just because
6:57he's so good showed me just because he's
6:59so good you you what you know there's
7:02some stuff there's some like there's
7:04some learning yeah right you know anyone
7:07who become anyone who climbs to a level
7:08they're high if you look at this story
7:11and listen to what they did and
7:12everything in get to know the person
7:13you're gonna learn a lot mm-hmm so
7:15that's typically like the higher the
7:17person is and the more they've achieved
7:18the more you're gonna learn if you start
7:21digging right and so I started watching
7:23like all of his documentaries there is
7:25way more than I thought you sent me like
7:2712 and I was like I didn't know this
7:28many existed on Michael Jordan yeah and
7:32it's amazing what you learn by watching
7:34those things like like he taught me a
7:38lot about like focus and not falling out
7:43of love of the game and falling for it's
7:47distractions so what happens typically
7:49is when you get into something like
7:50business right you you want to like get
7:54really good at this and have the best
7:55product or have the best service and and
7:57beat your competition on all of that and
7:59when you first go into basketball like
8:01to use that as a parallel example you
8:04want to be a really good basketball
8:05player you want to get points you want
8:07to you want your team to win but as you
8:09start getting really good all of these
8:12things start getting drawn to you like
8:15you know with basketball like girls like
8:18they start coming in like the thousands
8:20or hundreds of thousands and then you've
8:22got all of these offers from everyone
8:24but people want you to be the face of
8:26their brand they want you to do a deal
8:28with them and all of this there's like
8:30advertising opportunities like
8:33endorsement opportunities and then
8:36you've got all of these fans social
8:38media like you know the public opinion
8:40the
8:41and the meteor and interviewers and all
8:44of this just starts like just
8:46swarming around you and the people that
8:50fall for it they always end up losing
8:53because what happens is like though
8:55they'll get into basketball in the
8:56beginning because they love the game and
8:58they want to win but then comes the
9:00girls the lifestyle and the money and
9:03the cars and the parties and they forget
9:06and they start attaching to that and
9:09then by attaching to that they neglect
9:12this the game and then they suck at the
9:15game then they end up losing and then
9:17this disappears as well mmm and it gets
9:19everyone because like it distracts you
9:23and then you lose both things when you
9:26fall for the distraction so like when
9:29Michael Jordan quit basketball for like
9:31a year to go and play baseball part of
9:34why he stopped is because he said that
9:37he had fallen out of love with the game
9:39of basketball and he knew if he kept
9:40going like that he would lose and we had
9:44ruined his legacy so in part of what
9:47made him distracted was that he had
9:48started doing all of these TV
9:49commercials he started like polluting
9:53the pureness of his practice so his
9:56practice used to be so pure and now it
9:59had become polluted with all of this
10:00stuff
10:01and he didn't like it anymore because of
10:03all this so he quit and then just
10:05started playing baseball then when he
10:07started to crave it again he went back
10:09and then he won again and so you've got
10:13to be careful not to fall for the
10:14distractions of your work because the
10:17more money you make the more money
10:18you've got to spend and you don't want
10:21to fall in love with like buying things
10:23when your main goal is to get better at
10:26what you do mmm
10:27right that makes sense it took him from
10:30going like to baseball for a few years
10:32to realize that he actually did miss it
10:34or maybe when he went to baseball to
10:37because I know that was like one of his
10:39old like his first love was in sports
10:42was that was he thought maybe this is it
10:44maybe I'll find more fulfillment in
10:46baseball than I would in basketball but
10:49ultimately yeah I mean that makes a
10:52complete sense
10:53do you have you ever seen that in your
10:55life where you are like you know I don't
10:57I don't think I am in love with this
10:58anymore and then you left it alone for a
11:01little bit and you're like oh yeah I
11:02really was like some like quite a lot of
11:06the time I'd say once every month or
11:08something
11:09I'll just get kind of drained and then
11:12I'll just decide like I'm just not going
11:14to work for like the next two days and
11:16I'll just like lie on the couch and
11:19watch documentaries and just do that for
11:22like two days and then when it comes
11:25back that feeling that I really want to
11:27work it in then I'll jump back into it
11:29we've got to be very careful that like
11:33you learn when it is actually real
11:36versus like an illusion but when you're
11:38starting out it's always just an
11:40illusion
11:40but you're not burnt out yeah because
11:42most people aren't doing anything so
11:45it's just an illusion that they're that
11:48they should rest in everything because
11:51it takes you know it takes working like
11:5415 hours a day for 30 days straight to
11:57really get even near fatigue and burnt
12:00out so unless you've done that then you
12:02know that you're falling for an illusion
12:04yeah you have to have some sort of
12:05baseline to judge to know if it's real
12:07or not again got it that makes sense but
12:11that pretty much Oh fulfillment outside
12:13of work too so you kind of touch on that
12:14but just in general like is what what's
12:18fulfilling outside of work for you
12:19besides besides watching shows or
12:23reading just really just doing like
12:28nothing like I don't have to wean I stop
12:31working I don't really want to do so I
12:34don't want to do an activity I just want
12:35to like be like you know just have a
12:38conversation just do whatever I don't
12:41want to like fill it up with another
12:44like action thing you know what I mean
12:46mmm but outside of work like my favorite
12:49things to do would probably be reading a
12:52book like watching documentaries I like
12:55things where you can cheat a little bit
12:56like you can be relaxing and taking time
13:00off but really you're learning
13:02and like you're getting better so I like
13:04those ones that's like books
13:05documentaries or just like socializing
13:09with with people who you know have good
13:14things to say then you're not just
13:16talking like they've they've got
13:18good insights and they're doing
13:20interesting things themselves because
13:23those are ways to recharge and learn at
13:25the same time mm-hmm
13:27yeah and yeah that makes sense do you
13:30ever find motivation from going out from
13:32others and they they're telling you
13:33about the things they're doing only if
13:35the person is really good mm-hm like if
13:38they're if they've given everything for
13:40something then then they're generally
13:43good to talk to but if they're just
13:45thinking about it is agonizing and if
13:50the worst one is when it's fake because
13:53that's just the worst it totally depends
13:56how like dedicated someone is to their
13:58thing but it doesn't even have to be
14:01business that's why I look into sports a
14:03lot and athletes and all of this stuff
14:05because it's all the same
14:07they've just mastered something they've
14:09mastered like a game and you know
14:12business is pretty much a game