How To UnF*ck Your Life

0:00at 23 years old I was a bit of a loser I

0:02lived for the weekend I was living at

0:03home my mom and dad which isn't a bad

0:05thing but I wasn't overly ambitious I

0:07went to Asia for six months and got

0:08pissed every single day and I was

0:10hanging out the back of anything I could

0:11get my hands on by 33 somehow not going

0:14to list my accolades managed to unscrew

0:16up my life and be one of the most

0:18successful people to ever do the

0:19profession I've done and in this video

0:21I'm going to share with you some lessons

0:22of wisdom that I've accumulated over the

0:24last 10 years let's get into it when it

0:27comes to dating apps unless you're in

0:29the top 10% or even the top 5% of men

0:31you're screwed you won't even get a look

0:33in 90% of women are all fighting over

0:35the top 5% this isn't a pop of women but

0:38they can be quite shallow with some of

0:39the things that they want when it comes

0:40to men such as setting a prerequisite

0:43for 6 foot which quite literally means

0:45the majority of men will never even get

0:47a match introducing the delusion

0:49calculator so if you live in America

0:51there's something called the female

0:52delusion calculator so let's say most

0:55women might want someone between 28 33

0:59let's let's say exclude married of

1:01course race any race minimum height 6

1:04foot that is a big prerequisite for a

1:06lot of women out there considering the

1:08average height of a man is 5'8 it's

1:09pretty crazy exclude obese I don't think

1:12there are many women out there that are

1:13looking for a man who's obese and when

1:16it comes to minimum income you only need

1:18to spend a couple of hours on Tik Tok to

1:19realize most women in the world expect

1:21their man to be earning six figures so

1:23if you're looking for someone in that

1:24age range That's not married or at least

1:266' tall you're looking at a percentage

1:28of 0.32% I say a lot of women maybe even

1:31over half are all searching for a very

1:34very small amount of men so if you're on

1:36a dating app you're just not going to be

1:38able to capture them this way for the

1:40majority of you watching this if you're

1:41single and you think you're going to

1:42find a good quality woman on dating apps

1:44you are well you're wrong my first bit

1:46of advice would be to delete data apps

1:47not to use them and instead put yourself

1:50into positions where you have to talk to

1:51people in public when I first got to

1:52Australia I deleted dat apps on my phone

1:54and instead I would sometimes put a

1:56number on a bit of paper and carry it

1:58around on me in my backpack or even

1:59better yet if I was in a cafe I would

2:01ask them for a bit of pen and paper I'd

2:02write down my number I'd approach

2:04someone and just say hey I never usually

2:06do this I don't know if you got a

2:07boyfriend or not feel free to never

2:08message me but I couldn't leave this

2:10place without giving you my number if

2:11you are doing something at the moment

2:13and it is not working it's time to

2:14change it up and try something else if

2:16you can just commit to 3 months and not

2:18using dating apps and trying to

2:19organically meet people in person you're

2:21going to have a much better experience

2:23of finding someone that's right for you

2:25we all go through life with different

2:26things being important to us these are

2:28called values sometimes our values won't

2:31align with other people's other people

2:32just quite simply find things important

2:34that we don't and vice versa some of you

2:36will made it really far through life

2:38without really examining what those

2:39things are that are important to you and

2:41when you determine what these values are

2:43you must act accordingly and if someone

2:44has do an audit on your life of what you

2:46actually find important and then what

2:48you do on a day-to-day basis we could

2:50probably find some discrepancies between

2:52your actions and your values if those

2:53don't align chances are that you might

2:56have inherited someone else's values if

2:58you don't think about what you want from

2:59life you just kind of take them on from

3:01other people maybe even your parents and

3:03your parents might be great people but

3:05they lived and grew up in a very

3:06different generation to the one you're

3:07in for many of you watching this your

3:09values actually surround maybe Adventure

3:11traveling freedom but your parents

3:14values might be around security and

3:16having a stable upbringing so for many

3:18of you you might want to travel the

3:19world but at the same time you're saving

3:21money for a mortgage with a woman you're

3:22not really in love with that doesn't

3:23support your Ambitions and values of

3:25traveling and for some reason you're

3:26going to buy a house in a place that you

3:28don't want to live with a person you

3:29don't love to a commute to a job that

3:31you don't really enjoy and the reason

3:32you might be experiencing despair is

3:34because your actions are actually trying

3:36to fulfill someone else's values not

3:38your own and for any of you woring that

3:40you might be too old here's my favorite

3:41quote that I've ever heard from the

3:43comedian Bill bur realize that sleeping

3:45on a futon when you're 30 is not the

3:47worst thing you know what's worse

3:49sleeping in a king bed next to a wife

3:52you're not really in love with but for

3:53some reason you got married and you got

3:55a couple kids and you got a job you hate

3:58You' be laying there fantasy exz and

4:00about sleeping on a futon there's no

4:02risk when you go after a dream there's a

4:04tremendous risk to playing it safe if

4:08you want people to respect you you're

4:09going to need to respect yourself and

4:11training at least three times a week is

4:13going to be the way you're going to do

4:14that now for some of you Young Guns or

4:16maybe people that don't have access to a

4:18coach or a trainer I'm going to attach a

4:20link to this video with a free workout

4:21the last four weeks and every month I

4:24mean every month I'm going to rotate it

4:25for a brand new split if you hold up

4:27your end of the bargain of trying to

4:28make your life better I'll keep up M

4:30into the bargain and keep rotating the

4:31program people seem to think the gym

4:33memberships are expensive but they're

4:34not if you use them if you take the

4:36monthly cost and divide it by going to

4:37the gym three to five times a week it's

4:39not expensive at all the gym can then

4:41become your third place you have your

4:42home you have your work and you have the

4:43gym go there to listen to podcasts lift

4:45weights relax how many of you would sit

4:48in less traffic if you were to go to the

4:49gym for an hour before work you would

4:51only have to get out of bed half an hour

4:53earlier and then you've got your workout

4:54in before you even start work for the

4:56day the woman of your dreams that you

4:57might not even met yet she's going to

4:59want to a guy that takes care of himself

5:00training is are non-negotiable don't

5:02care who you are or what you do you need

5:03to be

5:05training sleep is the foundation for

5:07greatness you cannot build a big or

5:10grandiose Building without strong

5:11foundations no Empire was ever built

5:14being sleep deprived in your older years

5:16you're going to generate these kind of

5:19small creatures that ruin sleep over a

5:23long periods of time and some people

5:24call them kids now I'm not saying that

5:27you just disregard your kids or you know

5:30don't let them interfere with your

5:31bedtime but what I'm saying is you need

5:32to respect your sleep cycle now you

5:35can't really impact the time you wake up

5:37because I'm sure you've got those little

5:38annoying things called kids you've also

5:40got things like a job or maybe a dog

5:42like mine that bites your toes in the

5:43morning to go out for a walk but one

5:45thing we do very much have in our

5:46control is what time we go to bed we do

5:49aimlessly scroll through our phones just

5:51looking for an excuse not to go to sleep

5:53in case we might see a video that might

5:55give us a little dash of dopamine before

5:58we close our eyes set yourself a

6:00respectable bedtime and go to bed at

6:02that time now the non-negotiables for me

6:05I wear an ey mask there's a brand called

6:07alasa bear they're not expensive they're

6:09on Amazon they deliver the next day and

6:11now just even the pressure of the eye

6:12mask against my eyes lets me know it's

6:14time to go to sleep no strips I actually

6:16bought for a video so I could debunk

6:17them but I actually sleep with a no

6:19strip the majority of the evenings in

6:20the night just makes me feel like I'm

6:22breathing better then the goats of going

6:24to bed cuz your mind might be raced and

6:25you think I'm not ready for sleep I'm

6:27not tired yet not to mention the fact

6:29you been swiping through your phone for

6:30a long period of time putting a podcast

6:32on with a self timer is probably the

6:34best hack to going to bed because even

6:35if I'm not tired at 9:00 p.m. but I know

6:37I need to go to sleep I say okay lay

6:39down close my eyes put the podcast on

6:40for 15 minutes and just see what happens

6:42worst case scenario I'm still awake I

6:44just listen to my favorite podcast for a

6:46quarter of an hour I sell it to another

6:47quarter of an hour and I very very

6:49rarely make it through everyone's

6:50looking for a supplement a superpower

6:53ice baths little do people know how much

6:57impacts a small amount of more sleep can

6:59have on every aspect of your life from

7:02sex drive cognition well-being mood

7:05composition the list goes

7:07on you already know this you just need

7:10to do this when it comes to finances I'm

7:14no expert but one of my favorite quotes

7:15is from Tristan tape where he says you

7:17should spend half your money like you

7:19think you're going to live another 50

7:20years and the other half of your money

7:22is if you're only going to live for the

7:23next 50 days when it comes to finances

7:25be sensible and avoid debt I know for

7:28some of you doing this you work hard and

7:30you want recognition from other people

7:31about your hard work I've succumbed to

7:33this a lot over the years and you think

7:35that wearing a watch that costs £25,000

7:37will get strangers to be jealous of your

7:38success but at the end of the day it

7:40could be better spent the most important

7:42lesson I can tell you about finances is

7:44that wealth is subjective it depends on

7:46the person there are so many people with

7:48more money than you that are depressed

7:50about the amount of money they have and

7:51there are so many people with less money

7:53than you that are much happier about it

7:55than you are when you look at studies of

7:57happiness and wealth when you get to a

7:59certain threshold which isn't even that

8:01much it's about twice the national

8:02average there is not a linear rise

8:05between happiness and wealth just

8:06because you earn more money doesn't mean

8:08you're going to be happier so it's

8:09really important you don't get into a

8:11career that you hate with the premise

8:12that oh in 10 years time I'll be earning

8:14this amount of money and I'll be this

8:15happy because of it because what happens

8:17if that bet is incorrect you just wasted

8:1910 years of your life there are plenty

8:21of people that have millions in the bank

8:22account that still kill themselves so

8:24don't think it's a prerequisite for the

8:25good life it helps sure but it's not

8:27everything when it comes to your

8:29situation right now renting is not

8:31wasted money is not dead money renting

8:33is freedom renting is being able to pick

8:35up and move whenever you want renting is

8:37not having to worry when there's a water

8:38leak in the bathroom both owning a

8:40property and both renting both have

8:42their equal benefits so don't beat

8:45yourself up because you're still renting

8:46at 30 or 35 remember the real finances

8:49here the real currency we need to be

8:51worried about is how happy you are how

8:52much you enjoy your life because your

8:54property portfolio could be zero but

8:56you're having a good life versus someone

8:57that might own seven houses but ha their

8:59existence we need to make sure that we

9:01are aligned with the values that we

9:02spoke about before to have a better

9:04understanding of where finances sit

9:06within our daily levels of happiness I

9:08spoke about it before when I first came

9:09to Sydney I couldn't believe there were

9:11young attractive people working in

9:12coffee shops I was like why is this

9:13beautiful 24y old working for minimum

9:15wage in a coffee shop then I realized it

9:17was a cafe on Bondi Beach she got there

9:19at 6:00 a.m. she left at 2:30 in the

9:21afternoon she earned enough to pay a

9:23rent and cover her bills and she

9:24probably was sat on the grass you know

9:26watching the sunset at 5 6: p.m. with a

9:28couple of Siders with her friend

9:30that young person on a minimum wage

9:32serving coffees probably had a better

9:33life than most humans have ever had in

9:35the existence of the human race yet if

9:37we just looked at her salary we could

9:38point out the babbe she wasn't earning

9:40enough who's to say remember you are the

9:42curator of your life and you get to

9:44determine how your life looks if you

9:46compare your bank account to someone

9:47else's it's earning more it's the same

9:48as comparing your physique to someone

9:50else's it's in better shape you're just

9:51going to make yourself feel worse about

9:52it I just trained this guy called

9:53Russell and he was a self-proclaimed

9:55millionaire and used to come into the

9:56gym and show off about the cars or oh

9:58I've accidentally won this watch oh this

10:00leather on the strap is the same leather

10:02on the inside of my Rolls-Royce oh look

10:04James this watch was engraved by Harolds

10:06I'd never think he was fully happy old

10:08Russell because he was always having to

10:10try and prove to me how much more money

10:11he had than me and he kept telling me

10:13about a friend that he had that lived in

10:14a place called Worthing in the UK and

10:16the guy had a smaller house than him a

10:1710-year-old car and just lived with his

10:19dog and he couldn't understand why that

10:21guy was happier than he was if you rely

10:23on money is the only thing that's going

10:25to make you happy I just don't think

10:27it's the best place to spread your bets

10:28when you're progressing in life be

10:30sensible when it comes to money but it's

10:32not the be all and end all of

10:34life when it comes to ambition everyone

10:37thinks that ambition is having this

10:38massive mountain in front of you that's

10:40bigger than everyone else's and that

10:41your Peak is the highest and you just

10:43spend your whole life reaching for the

10:45peak but if I'm honest about ambition

10:47it's about appreciating there never is

10:49going to be a peak because every time

10:51you try and get close to it you're just

10:52going to see another one on the horizon

10:54ambition is having an understanding of

10:56something called the honic treadmill

10:58where whatever level you set for

10:59yourself you're going to get used to it

11:01eventually you've already experienced

11:03this where you're like oh when I get

11:04this car I'm going to be so happy 3

11:06months after buying the car you get in

11:07it you shut the door and you're like w I

11:09used to be really excited by this and

11:11now I feel nothing I feel numb to it the

11:12same when you bought your first house

11:14maybe or you moved into the new

11:15apartment that got you super excited or

11:17when you bought that watch you've

11:18already experienced the adonic treadmill

11:20something that you were so excited for 3

11:22months later you feel numb to it you

11:24think you're broken you think you're

11:25like what am I messed up am I a

11:26psychopath true ambition should be about

11:28wanting to do better to perform better

11:30to think better not just for yourself

11:33but for your friends for your family for

11:34the family you might not even have yet

11:36and one of my key hacks when it comes to

11:38ambition would be something that I've

11:39coined touching a future there's going

11:41to come a time where there's something

11:42that you want to do and on paper you

11:44can't really afford it maybe it's flying

11:46business class maybe it's renting a

11:48luxury car for the weekend maybe it's

11:49going on holiday somewhere or buying a

11:51pair of trainers that is out of your

11:53reach but you should do it and the

11:55reason you should do it is because that

11:57brief period of time you can experience

11:59what your future might be like first

12:00time I flew first class I couldn't

12:02afford it but I thought this is a great

12:03opportunity to touch a world that I

12:05could live in in a few years time if I

12:07do the work when I sat there I sat on

12:09the plane I looked around and I thought

12:11wow I felt like I'd won it I felt like

12:12I'd won this in some kind of raffle I

12:14was like I don't deserve to be here this

12:15is a weird experience but then as I had

12:18my meals and I slept on the plane as I

12:20had a shower and ate the expensive food

12:22and got treated like royalty I thought

12:24whether or not I come back to this area

12:25in the plane whether or not I revisit

12:27the part of my future that I've touched

12:29is dependent on what I do tomorrow when

12:31my alarm goes off when I get offered the

12:33opportunity to do something when I have

12:36the choice of playing video games or

12:37knuckling down on the project that I

12:38should have worked on the fact that I

12:41touched my future motivated me so the

12:43next time you're booking a trip or even

12:45a hotel for something you're doing with

12:47your misses and you're looking at the

12:49hotels you could afford maybe you booked

12:51the five star hotel when you experience

12:53how they treat you and the service and

12:55now clean your R is and the fact that if

12:56you have an afternoon nap you come back

12:58to your room after dinner and they made

12:59your bed again this is all a part of

13:02touching your future if you can

13:04implement this right you get enough

13:06taste of that you make your future

13:08happen because again you're the driver

13:09in control of your life everyone seems

13:12to think it's external things they're in

13:13control of everything it's not now I'm

13:16not saying everyone can be successful

13:18enough to fly first class and to stay in

13:20five star hotels but your chances of

13:22doing so are going to be probably quite

13:24a bit higher if you can experience it in

13:26the short term you want to be Ambi you

13:29should definitely touch your future I

13:30know some people are going to go oh it's

13:32all right for you it's all right for you

13:33just over 10 years ago I was knocking on

13:35doors to make a living in gler I'm was

13:37signing on the doll at the job center I

13:39used to work in shopping centers asking

13:42people to stop so I could sign them up

13:43and get my 7 pound commission and for so

13:46many people watching this when it comes

13:47to being ambitious half of you are just

13:49going to shut down your own Ambitions

13:51going oh my life's harder than everyone

13:53else is I can't do this but the other

13:55half of you that actually make it happen

13:56are going to be the ones that can

13:57succeed Way Beyond beond what you could

13:59ever even imagined at the end of the day

14:01ambition shouldn't be derived on whether

14:03or not you make a million pounds whether

14:04or not you buy a mansion or any of these

14:06things but one day you're going to die

14:07you're going to be laying in your

14:08deathbed and you're either going to be

14:09proud of all the work you put in or

14:11you're not and ultimately you have the

14:13choice to how you're going to feel when

14:14that day comes and that choice is up to

14:16you it's not up to me and if more people

14:18could see ambition like that could

14:19probably make their life a lot

14:21easier when it comes to diet and

14:23supplementation I'm not going to be here

14:24to lecture you about fiber targets that

14:26you should have but why I'm going to say

14:28is this

14:29our body is regenerating on an ongoing

14:31process you can feel it when your nails

14:33are growing and your hair is growing

14:35every single bit of skin that you have

14:36now in a few months time will regenerate

14:38into a new piece of skin we cannot get

14:41the nutrients required for those

14:43regenerative

14:44processes from the air we need to get

14:47them from things that we eat so when we

14:48look at fueling that regenerative

14:50process of how our skin our nails our

14:52hair our bones our gut all of these

14:55things are going to be formed we are

14:56going to need to give oursel the

14:57adequate nutrition to do so so I'm not

14:59asking you to eat like a saint I'm just

15:01saying fruit vegetables meat hitting a

15:04proper protein

15:07Target staying

15:09hydrated I drink electrolytes because I

15:11sweat a lot when I train I have creatine

15:14in this because not only do I want the

15:15gains from a sport performance

15:17standpoint I want the cognitive benefits

15:19that come from taking creatine every one

15:21of you watching this should be hydrating

15:24supplementing creatine and looking into

15:26other forms of supplementation maybe if

15:28you have a defici iy if you've had blood

15:29work done maybe you're going to be

15:31taking things to supplement your

15:32testosterone which will'll get into in a

15:33bit you might be taking Tonka Ali and

15:35many of you should be trying to lever

15:37your ability to find New Tropics that

15:38help you cognitively I truly believe

15:40that productivity is going to be the new

15:42fitness and your ability to work to

15:44hustle to get things done to get ahead

15:46of other people your Tropics are

15:47performance enhancers for the mind they

15:49could be the very difference between you

15:51doing enough work to just get by or you

15:53doing enough work to get ahead so take

15:55your diet seriously and this is all I

15:56ask be honest with yourself and ask

15:58yourself how good is your diet out of 10

16:00and if it's a four I'm not here to say

16:02that's bad I'm just here saying what can

16:04you do and Implement to make that diet a

16:06four a five then once you identify what

16:08that thing is let's make it a five then

16:10we can spend the next period of time

16:12however long it is making it go from a

16:13five to a six there not too much to ask

16:16if you think about the amount you want

16:17to change your life from where it is to

16:19where you want it to go you're going to

16:21have to fuel that process properly so

16:22you might as well start now so your diet

16:25is what you eat your Tech diet is what

16:28you cons assume people seem to think

16:30that they're not influenced by the world

16:31they take in around them digitally but

16:34they are you need to make sure that

16:36you're not absorbing negativity from the

16:38internet that's going to make your life

16:39worse here's one for you for instance I

16:42live in Australia everyone goes you must

16:45be scared of sharks I have to remind

16:47them that when I swim in the sea I'm way

16:49more likely to drown than I am to get

16:51bitten by a shark in fact hundreds of

16:54people drown each year on Bondi Beach

16:55yet my mom's not calling me up going oh

16:58son please be safe in the water and

16:59don't drown statistically speaking

17:02sharks are the least of my problems when

17:04I put a foot in the ocean in fact most

17:06British people can name five different

17:08types of shark but we can't even spot a

17:10rip in the ocean which is the part

17:12that's going to drag us out to our death

17:14but it's because when there's a drowning

17:15the news don't put it in front of people

17:17but when there's a shark attack they do

17:18let's look at flying for instance we see

17:20a lot of people that get nervous on

17:22planes shaking in their seat hoping that

17:24the plane's going to be all right

17:25statistically speaking one of the safest

17:27methods of travel yet my mom the person

17:29who's afraid of flying is the same

17:31person that doesn't put a seat belt on

17:32when I start driving in the car and I

17:34get the ding ding ding ding mom come on

17:37statistically speaking she's way more

17:39likely to die in the car than she is on

17:40the plane being in a car traveling the

17:43same distance you would fly is over 10

17:45times more likely to end up in fatality

17:47yet again when there's a car crash and

17:48people die it doesn't make the news but

17:50when a plane goes down it's everywhere

17:51the information you take in through your

17:53technological diet has a massive

17:54influence on what you think is actually

17:56capable and possible still don't believe

17:58me let's look at the lottery the chances

18:01you winning the lottery are less than

18:02you getting struck by lightning in fact

18:04the chances you winning the lottery are

18:05more rare than you getting strupped by

18:07lightning whilst being eaten by a shark

18:09whilst the plane crashes on top of your

18:11head yet why do people believe and still

18:13go out and buy the lottery ticket

18:15because they are programmed to by people

18:17taking the lottery winner and putting

18:18them on TV today we've got Dave and he

18:20won the Bingo jackpot Lottery of 145

18:23million how do you feel Dave shut up

18:25technology and media will convince you

18:27the world is a certain way that it wants

18:28you to believe it is algorithms will

18:30serve you content that they believe you

18:32will watch platforms want to keep you on

18:34it they don't want to keep you happy so

18:36if you're absorbing negativity it will

18:38make you negative if you're absorbing

18:41pessimism it will make you pessimistic

18:43you must not just control the diet of

18:45the food you put in your mouth but you

18:46must control the technology that you put

18:47into your brain we've known for years

18:49that you are what you eat I'm here to

18:51tell you you're also what you absorb

18:55online testosterone is a hormone that we

18:57produce men produce more of it than

18:59women and after the age of 30 it's going

19:01to decline about 1% a year if you're

19:03lucky now testosterone is a big player

19:05in sex drive muscle mass composition

19:08it's a very complex hormone but it's

19:10fleeting if you do not support an

19:12environment congruent to it being able

19:14to be produced in layman's terms you

19:15must protect your testosterone

19:17production men with low testosterone

19:19often have low libido low mood it can be

19:22a big causor of mental health disorders

19:24and there are even going to be some men

19:26that have something called hypogonadism

19:28which is where their testicles just

19:30don't work in the way they should to

19:31produce adequate testosterone those men

19:33can medically go on testosterone therapy

19:35known as trt now trt is very fashionable

19:38because suddenly due to a 45 and really

19:40into fitness can manipulate their

19:42testosterone levels to be of the same of

19:44a 21y old with extreme levels of test

19:46this is people kind of manipulating the

19:48system a little bit but ultimately what

19:5045y old doesn't want to have the

19:51testosterone of someone a lot younger

19:54there are considerations to make the

19:56supplementation like Tonka Ali getting

19:58getting more sleep getting sunlight

19:59Vitamin D fish oils all of these things

20:02that are very important for production

20:03of

20:04testosterone this helps us produce test

20:07endogenously it allows our body to

20:09produce more of it however when we look

20:12at things like trt and anabolic steroids

20:13you're having this

20:15exogenously which is taking it from the

20:17outside and bringing it in whether it's

20:19through pills or injections or cream

20:20whatever it is when we take on

20:22testosterone exogenously our body's

20:24production will halt it will stop this

20:26is why people do Cycles in smaller

20:27periods so they can Kickstart their

20:29system afterwards if you were going to

20:30consider going on testosterone

20:32replacement therapy you will probably be

20:33on it for a very long period of time you

20:35probably will be injecting or taking the

20:37pills or putting the cream on for the

20:38rest of your life when it comes to

20:40anabolic steroids and this debate of

20:41exogenously taking testosterone whether

20:43in smaller amounts or larger amounts we

20:45must think about the ethical situation

20:47of performance enhancing the analogy

20:50that I use with a lot of my clients is I

20:52say to them look I've got a gol far if I

20:54tune that engine I'll get better

20:56performance out of it similar to taking

20:57on a b stor but we must be mindful that

21:00there is a reason that the manufacturers

21:02made the car in a certain way and if we

21:04wish to get more horsepower more talk

21:07more performance out of it we must take

21:09on the fact that we are going to put it

21:11at risk of potentially not being able to

21:13handle that performance which is where

21:15we can see ill adverse effects from

21:17testosterone use and testosterone abuse

21:20however I think it's imperative that

21:21everyone watching this takes it upon

21:23themselves to protect their production

21:25of testosterone and try and optimize it

21:27the best they can increase sleep reduce

21:29alcohol lift weights eat a good diet get

21:32sunlight and if you're not sure about

21:34the levels of testosterone you're

21:35producing get blood work done make sure

21:37you do it fasted on an empty stomach at

21:40the same time and do it several times

21:41over the period of a few months so you

21:43can determine where your Baseline of

21:44testosterone is it's more important than

21:46anyone's given it credit

21:48for I know there's a lot of wankers out

21:50there on the internet that like oh you

21:52should read uh CEOs read one book a week

21:54they don't and then there's other people

21:56like Chris Williamson that shares a

21:57reading list of of 100 books and you're

21:59like mate I don't need a list of 100

22:00books I haven't even read one suddenly

22:02when you see a list of 100 books it

22:03makes you want to read none but what we

22:05need to appreciate is when someone

22:06writes a book they are sharing a

22:08lifetime of wisdom within a few hundred

22:11Pages often an audio book that's 6 hours

22:14long so in 6 hours you can access more

22:16than a Year's work from someone if you

22:18were to think about how much it would

22:20cost to hire me let's say it would be

22:22very expensive by the hour even more so

22:24when I wrote any of my last books when

22:26you think about the amount of hours of

22:27work I put in into it and the fact you

22:29get it for £450 and a hard copy from

22:31Amazon or you can get the audio book for

22:33free on Spotify audio books are now free

22:36on Spotify as part of what you're

22:38already paying to listen to Joe Rogan or

22:40listen to your favorite

22:41playlist you get to access huge amounts

22:45of people's work boiled down into one

22:47succinct editorial overlooked piece of

22:50work yet we Overlook it and we don't

22:53appreciate the value in that you can

22:55become an expert in any field with

22:57within a matter of days or weeks by

22:59absorbing the information from the most

23:01knowledgeable people you've then got say

23:04you got 100 people that have written a

23:05topic about one subject you can see the

23:08reviews of which book did the best and

23:10resonated best with the audience you've

23:11got not only the person at the top to

23:14write about the subject for years on end

23:16to put it into a book you've then got

23:17thousands of people that have read the

23:19book for you to then review you and tell

23:20you how good it was so you can decide

23:22which book you read yet you don't do you

23:25understand how insane that is I get

23:27rainers well over six figures to write a

23:29book on a subject sometimes subjects I

23:31don't know that much about like my last

23:33book how to be confident do you know

23:34what I did I read the five top books on

23:37confidence I agreed with some things I

23:39disagreed with others I then emulated it

23:41and succinctly put it into one book I

23:44read five books so you didn't have to so

23:45you needed to read one and walk away

23:47more knowledgeable than most people that

23:48you could ever meet at a pub quiz I love

23:50Joe Rogan I do his podcasts are 3 hours

23:53long but you need to consider if there's

23:55a subject that you want to become more

23:56well versed in are you you better off

23:58listening to two Joan podcasts or one

24:00complete Book on a subject not to

24:02mention the fact that you can listen to

24:04the audio books at 1.2 or 1.3 times the

24:07speed you can shave nearly an hour off

24:09the podcast and absorb it in a faster

24:11way where you don't feel like you're

24:12getting bored you can never

24:13underestimate the impact of a good book

24:15I had a million pound idea quite

24:16literally multi-million pound idea from

24:18a 7 pound book even if you were just to

24:21commit to every time you were in your

24:22car on your own driving somewhere that

24:24you listen to an audio book your

24:26self-development could Skyrocket and

24:29that one idea that one concept that one

24:31thing that you thought you were going to

24:32do that book in one little sentence

24:34might give you just the inkling of

24:36information you needed to make change I

24:38was sat at home August 2016 in my

24:40parents Garden listening to an audio

24:43book of the 4-Hour Work week and I

24:44couldn't understand why I was feeling

24:46the way I was feeling in life and there

24:47was one sentence by Tim Ferris that

24:49changed my life forever the opposite of

24:51happiness is boredom within 3 weeks I

24:53was on a plane oneway to Australia it

24:55was the best single decision of my life

24:56without that book I would not be here

24:58recording this video for you think about

25:01that all truly great ideas are thought

25:04of while walking do you know he said

25:05that Frederick

25:07nche so whenever you need to think about

25:10something or even call down hey go walk

25:12it off walking is a great tool I think

25:14it's great for clarity for ideas for

25:17thinking about things it's a nice

25:19distraction I think walking is massively

25:21overlooked I think that people should

25:23have more work meetings out on a walk

25:25rather than sitting in an office like

25:26hey you want sit down and discuss what

25:28we're going to do for the week why don't

25:29we do it whilst walking walking to me is

25:32just a great thing that people should be

25:33doing more of I know a lot of you during

25:35lockdown got sick of the fact that you

25:37were walking everywhere with dates

25:38because places were closed I still think

25:40this is an incredible tool that you

25:42could utilize you see walking allows us

25:45to do something that makes us feel very

25:47natural so when we share that experience

25:48with someone else it's a bit like being

25:50in the car with someone you're doing

25:51something on autopilot that allows you

25:53to have a nice flow to conversation

25:55nothing is more Awkward than sitting in

25:57a bar in an interview style es sitting

26:00opposite each other that's another thing

26:01if you're going to go on a date with

26:02people sit next to them not opposite

26:04them unless you are trying to interview

26:05them walking is something that you

26:07should be doing not just for exercise

26:09not just for your body but for your mind

26:10and it can sound super creepy but if

26:12you're going to meet someone on a date

26:13rather than getting pissed with them

26:14especially when you don't think they're

26:15that hot but you do four pints and end

26:17up banging them anyway say let's meet

26:19for a date it's less time of yours less

26:20time of mine we don't have to commit to

26:22going to a busy bar in the evening let's

26:23just get a coffee walk around the block

26:24I'll walk you to the tube station after

26:26work so we can get to each other out you

26:28ever noticed that dogs just need to

26:30sniff each other's bums to see whether

26:31or not they're interested and I think we

26:33could learn a lot from dogs when it

26:34comes to that so maybe next time you're

26:36penciling in a date but you got a busy

26:37diary so she by the way just say hey

26:39look we both work in the same part of

26:41the city why don't I walk you to a train

26:43station we can meet each other for 10

26:44minutes but don't mention sniffing each

26:46other's bums because I've said that

26:47before to girls they never really like

26:51it I could talk about Jiu-Jitsu all day

26:54every day but at the end of the day we

26:56could say it's about putting yourself

26:57outside inside your comfort zone or we

26:58could say it's about making new friends

27:00or really the reality is with jiu-jitsu

27:03you can make yourself a flipping weapon

27:05you can massively improve your

27:06competency when it comes to compatitive

27:09situations I saw a study recently about

27:11women and attraction to men and

27:13apparently the man's ability to fight

27:15was a bigger predictor of the sexual

27:17attractiveness than almost anything else

27:19so maybe getting a couple of scars on

27:21your eyebrows and little cauliflower it

27:22could be exactly what you need and I'm

27:24not saying that you ever need to require

27:26this skill so you can fight people in

27:27public but we know it's better to be a

27:29warrior in a garden than it is to be a

27:31gardener in a war and Jordan Peterson

27:33famously said that you should be a

27:34monster an absolute monster and then you

27:37should learn how to control it yeah sure

27:40lifting weights and doing all that is

27:41really fun but so is [ __ ] up people

27:43that are twice your size I could be

27:44wrong about Jiu-Jitsu it could be the

27:46worst experience of your life but I'm

27:47heing this video saying stop being a

27:49[ __ ] and give it a go if you go to

27:51Jiu-Jitsu you actually tried it out for

27:53a session or two then you can use the

27:54comments and say that I was wrong but

27:56until then I'm right until prove them

27:58wrong so how about you go inquire in

28:00your local gym and give it a go you

28:02[ __ ] me joking chances are you're going

28:06to go bored or at least you're going to

28:07experience hair loss quite a bit of hair

28:09loss a receding hairline for sure how do

28:11I know that because the majority of men

28:13do it's a part of life if you go to

28:15somewhere in Eastern Europe you look

28:16around literally 75% or more men are

28:18bored but for some reason social media

28:21has led us to believe that we shouldn't

28:22be experiencing her loss most of the

28:24celebrities that we follow from Jordan

28:25Peterson David Beckham or or any

28:27Hollywood actor has had a hair

28:29transplant so we suddenly look at

28:31hairlines around and go what's happening

28:33to me shouldn't be happening now you can

28:35do your best like I do sometimes I push

28:37the hair across because you can use the

28:39hair here to cover this bit or what

28:40Barbers do is they grow you a bit of

28:42hair here to cover that bit but

28:44ultimately it's just something that's

28:45going to happen you can book a flight to

28:47Turkey and go get a hair transplant

28:49where they take the follicles from the

28:50back and put it to the front but you'll

28:51notice that they only replace it to a

28:53certain line not further back and the

28:55reason they do that is because after the

28:57surgery they're going to put you on

28:58finasteride and man aidil which are two

29:00different compounds that are going to

29:01prevent any more hair loss from

29:02occurring now not everyone but I believe

29:05a fairly significant chunk of people

29:07will get side effects from these drugs

29:09whether it is low libido erectile

29:11dysfunction or just causing any type of

29:14disruption to the endocrine system

29:16including testosterone and other factors

29:18so you need to make an informed decision

29:20on that but personally when I look down

29:22the rout of what things were available

29:23for me to potentially get thicker hair

29:25get my hair back or whatever I decided

29:27I'd rather go Bard gracefully keep in

29:30mind that the majority of things we're

29:31trying to do with our appearances

29:32impress other than men not women the

29:34reason we want big peex is to impress

29:36other men not women the reason we want

29:37the latest rose gold Daytona is to

29:39impress other men not women Daytona

29:42comes up a little bit smaller on the

29:43wrist that's why I've got AP but the

29:45reason so many things we're doing with

29:47our Aesthetics are actually to impress

29:48other dudes the majority of women

29:51couldn't give a [ __ ] about your hairline

29:52when looking at other things that you

29:54can work on everything was spoken in

29:56this video health diet financial

29:58situation ambition all of these things

30:01are going to put you in much better

30:02stead with women than having a solid

30:04flipping hairline that goes across the

30:06front of your head I'm not saying it's

30:08nothing to worry about for some of you

30:09the idea of being a skin head might

30:11[ __ ] you and fill you with anxiety

30:13but just to remind you there are a lot

30:14of hyp successful men The Rock Jason

30:16Stan Bruce Willis Joe Rogan chances are

30:20if you shaved your head people will

30:22remember you as having a shaved head it

30:25would take a few months similar to the

30:26adonic treadmill

30:27you shave it oh my sh within three

30:30months I can't remember what you look

30:31like wearing hair wearing hair can't

30:33remember what you look like with hair

30:35it's just the reality same as buying a

30:37new car within three months you'll be

30:38bored of it same as shaving your head

30:39within three months no one remember what

30:41you look like before you can wear hats

30:43as often as you like you don't need hair

30:44product you don't need to wash your hair

30:47some women find it really sexy to dat a

30:49guy who a skin head I would 100%

30:51recommend dudes shaving their head then

30:54if you hate it and you do want to have a

30:55hair transplant and take them an ex on

30:57fin Tried by all means do it because

30:59guess what they need to do just before

31:00you have the procedure they shave your

31:01head Bolding embrace it happens to the

31:04majority of men so what imagine you sit

31:06down with a woman who loves you for who

31:08you are but then her one thing was oh if

31:11you start losing your hair I'm not going

31:12to love you she's the type of person you

31:14want to flip and get out of your

31:19life and

31:22what when it comes to porn you need to

31:24be careful because you in 1 hour on porn

31:27can access more vaginas than hundreds of

31:30years of lineage of all your ancestors

31:31that came before you and that must have

31:34some kind of impact on the brain now I'm

31:36not here telling you to never have a

31:37wank or to never watch porn just to

31:39think that there will be repercussions

31:41of you doing so the issue with being a

31:42man is how easy it is to bypass so many

31:44things that make it important to be a

31:46man and coming with that so many things

31:48that drive you to be a man a man has

31:50sexual desires which he can

31:51self-medicate by wanking to porn a man

31:54has desires to be held in regard and to

31:56have status and to get recognition which

31:58he can get from video games one of the

32:00only things left to be a man is to have

32:02a full belly and suddenly you're sitting

32:04at home wanking playing video games and

32:06eating takeaway pizzas and you're trying

32:09to bypass the system to find happiness

32:11as a human being yet you're not doing it

32:13quite right my advice especially if

32:15you're in a single man is to stop

32:16watching porn to maybe dial back on the

32:18wanking because you're going to need a

32:20bit of fire in the belly when you

32:21approach a woman in public to very

32:22politely ask her for a number because

32:24remember people don't mind being sold to

32:27it's the means and manners in which

32:28they're sold to which is the best to

32:29remember let's say you stop from wanking

32:31you get a bit horny and you think Jesus

32:33I really need to sort my life out when

32:34it comes to dating suddenly you're in a

32:35Starbucks you're getting a coffee you go

32:37approach a woman and you say hey look

32:39really sorry here's my number saw you

32:41from afar I think you're beautiful I'd

32:42love the opportunity to take you out for

32:43a drink or maybe go for a walking date

32:45with a coffee you have the opportunity

32:47to give a woman a compliment she might

32:48not have had in months or years you have

32:50quite literally the ability to make

32:51someone's day even if they decline your

32:53date but if you're having a wank every

32:54morning to Pornhub and you're medicating

32:56that part of your body that wants sexual

32:58desires you are not going to feel

33:00inclined to do anything outside your

33:01comfort zone when it comes to being

33:03proactive to get closer to going on

33:04dates with people that you could

33:06actually have a long and fulfilling

33:08relationship with so there are many

33:10dangers to masturbation and to porn and

33:12they could have long serving issues to

33:13psychology and again if you're someone

33:15that wanks infrequently maybe just wank

33:17less to this crazy porn because again

33:19like we spoke about in the tech diet

33:21what kind of information whether it's

33:23news media social media or hardcore porn

33:26is is influencing your state of the

33:28world and that can't be taken lightly

33:30I'm not saying never wank the porn again

33:31but I'm saying if you did your life

33:32would probably be considerably better

33:34and you might be thinking what's the

33:36problem with having dudes that sit at

33:37home that wank and play video games and

33:39eat pizzas while those people become

33:40losers and losers are a bad thing not

33:43just for society and not for the losers

33:45in general but for the fact let's say

33:47there are hundred losers in your

33:48neighborhood we know statistically

33:50speaking that one in a 100 people is

33:51probably a psychopath so the more losers

33:54that we have in the world that are

33:55disconnected from society that are

33:56living in their own little worlds of

33:58video games masturbation and junk food

34:00that have no connections to real people

34:03those people start getting disgruntled

34:04with the rest of the world and people

34:05being happy and families going on little

34:07trips and people being on Happy dates

34:09they're the type of people that end up

34:11taking an assault rifle to their school

34:12so the better that you can understand

34:14the fact that these integral and

34:16important parts of your human psychology

34:18need to be fed and not bypassed with

34:20proper things like striving for a family

34:23life a serving relationship and a job

34:26that br brings you personal pleasure and

34:29fulfills your values as a human being

34:31the better you can get on with it when

34:33it comes to playing video games some

34:34people say you should you shouldn't how

34:36about this this is your Golden Rule if

34:37you want to play Call of Duty you want

34:38to play fortnite or you even want to

34:40play World of Warcraft here's the rule

34:42you cannot play video games until you've

34:43made the day you're [ __ ] if you've made

34:45the day you're [ __ ] and you've

34:46conquered everything you get home you

34:48want to have a few games then by all

34:49means do it but if you're going to wake

34:50up without doing the things you need to

34:52do on a daily basis start playing video

34:54games that puts you in a close vicinity

34:56of being a loser so don't do

34:59that and the last lesson we're going to

35:01talk about is mental health and I know

35:03that a lot of people on social media of

35:04the last few years has used this as an

35:06opportunity to see who's got the worst

35:07mental health oh but you've never tried

35:09killing yourself so what do you know to

35:10lecture me about mental health this

35:12isn't a competition or [ __ ] off to see

35:13who's been more depressed I'm here to

35:15remind you I see mental health being

35:17like a table that has many legs that

35:19need to be propped up by many of the

35:20things we spoke about before values

35:22stress diet relationship sleep there are

35:25so many and you might be able to kick

35:27one leg out and the table's fine but if

35:29you kick enough of them out it's going

35:30to topple over and it's going to fall to

35:31the floor and crash down around you

35:33there are two components when it comes

35:35to mental health that I think are

35:36vitally important you have happiness and

35:39you have pleasure and the quicker that

35:41you can understand that drugs are in

35:43pleasure booze is in pleasure wanks is

35:45in pleasure happiness is enjoying your

35:48work it's having a dog it's being in a

35:50serving relationship as it's raining on

35:51a Saturday night and sitting at home and

35:53watching a Netflix series with you

35:54Misses the problem is if you do not

35:57distinguish the two of these and you

35:59feel like you have a low in your life

36:00you might turn to pleasure and you might

36:02turn to boozing doing drugs going out

36:05but really what you're trying to do is

36:07fill your quoter of Happiness now if you

36:09do not appreciate or have a good

36:11understanding of what makes you happy in

36:12life and you start trying to fill that

36:14quota with this you will end up with

36:15Despair and we've all seen the people

36:17that constantly party and their mental

36:19health just gets worse and worse and

36:20worse the most important lesson that you

36:22all need to learn from this is you can

36:23live a life with happiness without

36:25pleasure remember the girls that worked

36:26in the coffee shop that went to work at

36:286:00 a.m. and finished at 2: p.m. they

36:30didn't have a lot of money they didn't

36:31have Gucci handbags they didn't have

36:32expensive things but what they did have

36:34was purpose meaning job getting up in

36:37the morning probably watching the sunset

36:39go down with their friends having a CER

36:41in the evening what they didn't have was

36:42pleasure but if you neglect happiness if

36:44you neglect relationships neglect the

36:47importance of what you absorb in a diet

36:49if you neglect all the things we spoke

36:51about today you cannot live a life of

36:53pleasure without happiness and that's

36:55why some people on a mediocre income in

36:58a strong family house with kids are

37:00happier than people that have got all

37:01the money in the world if you can go

37:03through life abiding to the lessons that

37:05I taught you before and distinguishing

37:06between happiness and pleasure and

37:08appreciating that mental health is

37:10fleeting it's like Fitness you have to

37:12work to get fit then you have to

37:14continue doing the work to remain fit

37:16and all it takes is one slip up and a

37:18few months out of it for your health

37:20markers to take a dip when it comes to

37:22physical health and the same will go

37:23when it comes to mental health if you

37:25take a pay cut at your Cur current job

37:27to go after a job that you actually are

37:28going to enjoy that means less pleasure

37:30for more happiness that's a good deal if

37:32you decide to stop drinking and doing

37:34drugs and snorting coke at the weekend

37:36that's less pleasure for more happiness

37:38that's a good deal well whenever there's

37:40an option in life to give up happiness

37:42for pleasure whether it's doing a job

37:44that's more stressful for more money bad

37:46deal whatever decision you make in life

37:48from this point on ask yourself are you

37:50giving up happiness for pleasure or

37:52pleasure for happiness and they're the

37:54best lessons I can give you for my last

37:5510 years on this plan it if you apply

37:57them right I think you can do better

37:59that's all I'm asking you to

38:00do do better thanks for

38:04watching