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0:01They say there’s no one in the world
0:04you can truly trust , and I was shocked
0:06to find out how people you’re close
0:08to can stab you in the back while
0:09hiding their true intentions . After
0:14settling everything , I felt such chills
0:16that I started rambling , wondering if
0:19any of you have had similar experiences
0:21. I’m the type of person who likes
0:26others , trusts easily , and relies on
0:28them , but this incident made me realize
0:31how worthless and trivial that mindset
0:33really is . The story I’m about to
0:37tell you is a true story that I
0:39experienced myself . My mother was a
0:43truly lucky person . Good fortune that
0:46most people rarely encounter even once
0:48in their lives strangely came to my
0:49mother time and again . Sometimes I
0:53would jokingly ask her if she had saved
0:55a country in her past life . Of course ,
1:00she wasn't someone who started from
1:02nothing at the very bottom . But she
1:04wasn't the daughter of an incredibly
1:06wealthy family from the start , either .
1:10My grandfather ran a small printing
1:12shop for a long time , and I heard he
1:14worked diligently from dawn until night
1:16to the sound of the machines . As he
1:20saved pennies here and there , he built
1:22up quite a bit of money , and as he got
1:24older , he must have thought it was
1:26better to buy the building than to pay
1:28monthly rent . So , my grandfather went
1:32ahead and bought the entire small
1:33building where his printing shop was
1:35located . Perhaps that was when the
1:38lottery of my mother's life truly began
1:40. He said that back when he bought it ,
1:44it wasn't exactly a remarkable building
1:46. However , a few years later , rumors
1:49started circulating that a subway
1:51station would be built nearby . At first
1:54, the neighbors were skeptical , but it
1:56really did end up being built there .
1:59That alone completely changed the
2:01atmosphere , and as big buildings
2:03started to pop up one by one , the
2:04commercial district grew as well .
2:08Crucially , as the area was designated
2:10for redevelopment , my grandfather's
2:12small printing shop was no longer just
2:15an old printing shop . The price started
2:18to skyrocket in a terrifying way . " Dad ,
2:21did you buy this knowing that would
2:22happen ? " "
2:24If I had known that , would I have only
2:26bought one building ? " " Then you should
2:28have bought the building next door , too
2:31. " " That's exactly what I'm saying . " " The
2:33building next door went up in value a
2:35ton , too . " As my grandfather aged , my
2:38mother took over the management , and
2:41she didn't stop there . After
2:44recognizing the true value of the
2:46building , she expanded it and started a
2:48full-scale rental business . Back then ,
2:51there weren't as many regulations on
2:53the rental business as there are now ,
2:55so the conditions were quite favorable .
2:58From that point on , my mother started
3:00accumulating wealth very quickly . She
3:02didn't just spend all the money that
3:04came in , either . On the contrary , as
3:06she saved more , my mother became even
3:08more daring . Once she had raised a
3:10certain amount of capital , she took out
3:12a loan using the building as collateral
3:13and bought another one . Rent started
3:16coming in from the second building , and
3:18Mom used that money to pay off the debt
3:20again . Whenever the debt went down , she
3:23saved up money again and reinvested it
3:25in real estate whenever the opportunity
3:27arose . She repeated the process of
3:30buying , renting , paying off debt , and
3:32saving up again . And by the time I was
3:36in my late 20s , she had somehow become
3:38the owner of three buildings . I was an
3:41only daughter , after all . I naturally
3:44lived with the expectation that one day
3:46that wealth might come to me . Although
3:50Mom raised me without lacking anything
3:52since I was young , she truly hated it
3:54when people treated others poorly or
3:56showed off just because they had money .
3:59She drilled one thing into my head
4:00until I was sick of hearing it . " Don't
4:04brag about having money to anyone , and
4:06don't ever think that the wealth we
4:08have now will last forever . " " I’m
4:12afraid you won't be able to judge
4:13people and end up getting stabbed in
4:14the back . " " I wasn't someone who started
4:18out starving in poverty , either . " " Your
4:21grandfather built the foundation , and
4:24luck was on my side , which is how I got
4:26this far . " " Even so , do you have any
4:29idea how many people tried to stab me
4:31in the back ? " " That’s why you need to
4:34be even more careful . " " Oh , stop nagging
4:36. " " It's not like I'm going to take
4:39these buildings with me when I die . " "
4:42Why are you suddenly talking about
4:43death ? " " It's the truth . " " In the end , it
4:47will all go to you , my only daughter ,
4:49but we're still a long way off from
4:50that . " " That’s why I’m telling you
4:53this far in advance . " " Choose the person
4:55you date carefully . " " Not someone
4:57who’s after the money , but someone
4:58who sees you for who you are . " At the
5:01time , I thought Mom was just worrying
5:03too much . I wondered why I had to weigh
5:06this and that like an interview just to
5:08date someone . So whenever Mom started
5:12that talk again , I would just laugh and
5:15brush it off . I just thought it was
5:19Mom’s nagging . I thought she was just
5:23worried that since the wealth she had
5:25luckily built up her whole life would
5:27eventually go to me , her only daughter ,
5:29I might meet the wrong person and risk
5:32losing it all . But strangely , as Mom
5:36accumulated more wealth , Dad’s greed
5:38began to grow as well . They said it
5:41wasn't that bad at first . As long as my
5:45grandfather was still alive , Dad didn't
5:47openly talk about the property . I
5:51suppose he felt awkward talking about
5:54his in-laws ' assets as if they were his
5:56own while his father-in-law was still
5:58around . The problem started after my
6:02grandfather passed away . As the
6:04buildings and assets fully passed to
6:06Mom and she started managing them
6:08herself , Dad’s attitude began to
6:10change little by little . Especially
6:13after Mom started making money from her
6:16rental business , buying a second
6:18building , and seeing her assets grow ,
6:20he started acting as if he was
6:22naturally entitled to half of that
6:24wealth . Do you intend to keep all that
6:28property to yourself ? Keep it to myself
6:31? What are you talking about ?
6:33Yes . We’ve been married for years ,
6:35but it’s all in your name . Isn't that
6:38a given ? It started with my father’s
6:40inheritance , and the money was invested
6:42by me . Then it should be in my name . In
6:44whose name should it be ? From my
6:46father’s perspective , it seems he
6:48thought that once married , Mom’s
6:50money was his money too . But Mom’s
6:52thoughts were completely different . Mom
6:55never once took the money Dad earned .
6:58She let Dad manage his own salary , and
7:01she actually covered much more of the
7:04major living expenses . But instead of
7:08being grateful , Dad started to take it
7:11for granted . It was a time when he
7:14thought he could spend freely since Mom
7:16had money anyway . Whenever he met his
7:18friends , he started drinking expensive
7:21liquor . Mom might have let it slide
7:24once or twice , but later on , he would
7:26spend as much as his entire salary in a
7:28single drinking session . But the most
7:31absurd part came after that . When he
7:33ran short of money to pay his credit
7:35card bills , he asked Mom for help as if
7:37it were the most natural thing in the
7:39world . Pay this month’s credit card
7:41bill for me .
7:42Why should I pay it ? You have plenty of
7:45money . Just because I have money , does
7:47that mean you can spend it recklessly ?
7:49Why are you being so calculative
7:50between husband and wife ? Then where
7:52did your salary go ? From now on , live
7:55within your means . We don't know what
7:58might happen in the future . Where is
8:00the guarantee that things will always
8:01go as well as they are now ? We have our
8:03daughter , too . She has to go to school
8:05later , and who knows what might happen ;
8:07there will be so many times we'll need
8:09a lot of money . They say the rich are
8:12the stingiest , are you going to be this
8:14petty ? Are you looking down on me
8:16because you have money ? How is this
8:18looking down on you or being petty ? I
8:20don’t even touch your salary . So
8:23spend within reason and save within
8:25reason . Don't ask me to pay your credit
8:27card bills just because you're short on
8:28cash . Mom said she had no intention of
8:31controlling Dad’s salary at all . In
8:34fact , she didn't care whether he spent
8:37that money or saved it . She just
8:40thought there should be some boundaries
8:42. But the more she said that , the more
8:44Dad felt insecure , and eventually , the
8:47two began to fight often . The fights
8:51that started over money later turned
8:53into petty arguments , and the
8:55atmosphere at home became increasingly
8:58cold . Mom said she only realized it
9:01later . That Dad was filling the pride
9:04he felt he had lost in front of Mom in
9:07all the wrong places . Only after a
9:10decisive incident occurred . I never
9:13could have imagined it , but my dad was
9:15cheating on my mom . They say what goes
9:18around comes around , and my dad’s
9:20affair was eventually discovered by Mom
9:22. He was trying to soothe his
9:26inferiority complex and bruised ego
9:28from fighting with Mom by seeing
9:30another woman . It seems like he felt
9:34ignored by Mom over money , so he wanted
9:37to feel acknowledged by someone else
9:39outside . But once he was caught , he
9:42insisted that divorce was absolutely
9:45out of the question . I guess he found
9:48it too hard to give up the assets . He
9:50even brought me up as a reason he
9:52couldn't get a divorce , but Mom wasn't
9:54having any of it . It probably wasn't
9:57just because of the affair . From the
10:00time Grandpa passed away , Dad had been
10:03pressuring Mom over the inheritance ,
10:06spending his whole salary on booze and
10:08demanding she pay his credit card bills
10:11, and picking fights accusing her of
10:13looking down on him ; all that stress
10:16had been piling up for years . So , the
10:20affair was likely the final blow that
10:22made everything explode at once . Mom
10:26and Dad eventually divorced , and if you
10:28had to pick one person who was the most
10:30devastated by that process , it would
10:32probably be me . Mom must have had a
10:35hard time too , but I still couldn't
10:37bring myself to completely hate my dad
10:39back then . At the very least , he wasn't
10:42a bad father to me . Even though he was
10:45at his worst as a husband — constantly
10:48fighting with Mom over money and
10:50eventually seeing someone else — I
10:52thought that was strictly between them .
10:56After all , he would smile at me
10:58normally , and I had memories of us
11:00holding hands and going out when I was
11:02little . I still thought things would
11:04get better as time went on . But even
11:07after the divorce , Dad couldn't
11:09completely let go of Mom . To be more
11:13precise , I think he couldn't let go of
11:15Mom's money . "
11:17I'm having a rough month , so why don't
11:19you give me some money ? " " You're acting
11:22like you're entitled to it . " " If I rack
11:25up a ton of debt and drop dead , who do
11:27you think that debt is going to go to ? "
11:29" It's all going to be inherited by our
11:31daughter . " When I first heard that
11:33conversation , I couldn't believe my
11:35ears . I couldn't understand how someone
11:38who already divorced her had the nerve
11:40to come and ask for money , and when he
11:42even threatened that the debt would
11:44fall to me , I just knew this had to
11:46stop . Mom must have felt the same way .
11:50Even the pity I had felt for him
11:52completely vanished . What’s even more
11:55ridiculous is that Dad remarried not
11:57long after . It’s not that I was
11:59against the idea of remarriage itself .
12:01He was already divorced from Mom , so
12:03whether he met someone new or got
12:05married , that was his own life to live .
12:08But the woman he remarried already had
12:11a child . And Dad started looking after
12:14that child as if they were his very own
12:16. He threatened to saddle me with his
12:20debts , yet he was so incredibly doting
12:22on someone else's child . It was
12:26sickening to see him playing the role
12:28of a good father to another person's
12:30kid when he wouldn't even reach out to
12:33me properly . He acted that way as if to
12:37spite my mother and me , which hurt me
12:39deeply . So , I gradually began to erase
12:42his existence from my mind . After that ,
12:45I relied only on my mother and lived
12:47looking only toward her . That isn't to
12:51say I lived with a great sense of lack
12:53because of my parents ' divorce or
12:55carried childhood unhappiness in my
12:57heart . Although I was hurt by the
13:01figure of my father , I never thought my
13:03entire life was unhappy because of it .
13:07Thanks to my mother's full support , I
13:09graduated from a decent university and
13:12found a job without much trouble . Even
13:16after starting my career , I didn't live
13:18a hand-to-mouth existence waiting for
13:20payday like others . I didn't have to
13:24worry about rent , nor did I have to
13:26agonize for months just to buy
13:28something I wanted . People naturally
13:31gathered around me . There were many who
13:36wanted to have lunch , grab a drink
13:38after work , or invite me out on the
13:41weekends . It’s a bit embarrassing ,
13:45but I lived thinking I was the most
13:47popular person in the world . My phone
13:50never stopped buzzing , and there was
13:52always someone looking for me at work .
13:55But then , one day , it happened . I don't
13:58smoke , but I happened to pass by the
14:00company smoking area because I had
14:02business nearby . I was walking along
14:05without a care when I heard familiar
14:07voices badmouthing me from somewhere . "
14:10She acts like she's rich . " " She's so
14:12annoying . " The people saying those
14:14things were the very ones who had been
14:16smiling and eating with me just moments
14:19before . The moment I heard those words ,
14:22it felt like I’d been hit in the head
14:24. I was angry , but mostly I felt
14:27humiliated and ashamed . It seemed I had
14:30been taking people's smiles and
14:32kindness too literally all this time .
14:35Since then , my perspective on human
14:37relationships has changed a lot .
14:39Especially after turning thirty , I
14:41stopped trying so hard to be a good
14:44person to everyone . Consequently ,
14:46without realizing it , I ended up
14:48locking the doors to my heart very
14:50tightly . It wasn't that I disliked
14:52people . I just didn't want to get close
14:54to anyone anymore . I figured if I
14:57didn't get close to people , I wouldn't
14:59be disappointed , and if I didn't have
15:01expectations , I wouldn't be hurt . The
15:04person who made me open those doors to
15:06my heart that I had locked so tightly
15:08was my husband . My husband was someone
15:11who originally had no connection to me
15:13at all . We worked at different
15:15companies , had no mutual friends , and
15:18definitely weren't introduced by anyone
15:20. Meeting my husband was a pure
15:23coincidence . Ever since I started my
15:26career , I've barely exercised . In the
15:30mornings , I was too busy getting to
15:32work , and after a full day , I didn't
15:34want to lift a finger when I got home .
15:36But once I passed thirty , my body
15:38started reacting immediately . I’d get
15:41winded walking up a few stairs , and my
15:43shoulders and back were constantly
15:45stiff . So , I finally signed up for a
15:48gym near my house . The problem was that
15:51I didn't know how to use the gym
15:52equipment properly . I tried to mimic
15:56others by glancing at them , but it felt
15:59off . That was when my husband came over
16:02to talk to me . Excuse me . That will
16:04make your shoulders hurt . You need to
16:07support your lower body here so the
16:08center of gravity shifts and it doesn't
16:10put a strain on you . Oh , this feels
16:13much easier , doesn't it ? If you don't
16:16fix your posture , you could get hurt .
16:18Try it again . My husband was a former
16:21soccer player and was working as a
16:23coach at a local soccer center , but I
16:25had no idea about that back then . He
16:28was just a guy with a nice build
16:30working out at the gym , so I mistook
16:31him for a personal trainer . He kept
16:34showing me how to use the equipment
16:36while I was working out , so naturally ,
16:37I had no choice but to think that . But
16:40he said he was just someone there to
16:42work out . I thought you were a trainer ,
16:45so I was considering getting some PT
16:48from you . You ? Yes . Until just a moment
16:52ago . Ah , that's a shame . I almost made
16:55some money . That made me burst into
16:58laughter . That's how my husband and I ,
17:01who had no connection whatsoever , first
17:04got to know each other because he
17:05meddled a bit at the gym . Since that
17:09day , I started running into my husband
17:11at the gym quite often . I guess since
17:14we were both working , our gym times
17:16ended up being roughly the same . After
17:20work , I’d have a quick dinner and go
17:22to the gym , and he was often there
17:24working out in the corner . When I was
17:27hovering in front of a machine , he
17:29would help me , and as I learned one by
17:31one , I started enjoying exercise a
17:33little more . So , you started exercising
17:37to build up your stamina , right ? Yes .
17:40My stamina really dropped so much . Then
17:43, would you like to try soccer ? Soccer ?
17:47Why would a woman play soccer ? Thinking
17:49about it now , I really sounded like
17:51someone from a different era . But back
17:53then , women playing soccer as a hobby
17:56was a bit unfamiliar to me . The only
18:00soccer I knew was just players on TV
18:03running their hearts out and kicking
18:06the ball . My husband started explaining
18:09as if he had been waiting for that
18:10moment . He said that thanks to TV shows
18:13, women are forming clubs and even
18:16playing in matches . He kept pitching
18:18how fun it was , and before I knew it , I
18:20was completely sold . There’s nothing
18:24as boring as running on a treadmill at
18:26the gym , so the idea of a sport I could
18:28play with other people really piqued my
18:30interest . I thought about giving it a
18:34try , and like my husband said , if it
18:36wasn't fun , I could just stop going .
18:39But guess what ? It was so much fun .
18:43Even though I had no fundamentals and
18:46was just running around half-heartedly ,
18:48it was strangely really fun . Chasing
18:51after the ball here and there , my mind
18:53just went completely blank . I didn't
18:56think about work , and I forgot about
18:58all the headaches caused by my
19:00relationships . My body was exhausted
19:04and I was panting , but I felt like I
19:06was floating on air . I really wondered
19:09if this was what a dopamine rush felt
19:11like . From that day on , I started
19:14playing soccer consistently . Naturally ,
19:16the time I spent getting coached by my
19:18husband increased too . We’d meet to
19:21exercise , joke around , and sometimes
19:23grab a drink afterwards to chat , and we
19:26naturally grew fond of each other . It
19:29turned out we were around the same age ,
19:31too . Above all , since we were both
19:34single , there was no stopping our
19:36feelings from igniting in an instant .
19:38At some point , I started to get
19:40confused about whether I was going
19:42there to work out or to see my husband .
19:46If I didn't see him , the gym felt
19:47boring for no reason , and I kept
19:49looking for him whenever I went to play
19:51soccer . All that time , I had lived with
19:54my heart firmly closed , not wanting to
19:56give it to anyone . But my husband
19:59didn't try to force that door open . He
20:02just stood by my side teaching me the
20:04exercises , laughing together , kicking
20:07the ball , and talking to me naturally .
20:10Because of that , I ended up opening the
20:12door to my heart first . I found out he
20:15had feelings for me too , and that's how
20:17we became a couple . Once I opened my
20:20heart , everything moved really fast .
20:23When we were together , we didn't even
20:25know how time was passing , and it felt
20:27even more awkward when we weren't in
20:28touch . That’s how we became a couple
20:32who only had eyes for each other , and I
20:34even started thinking about marrying
20:36him . Of course , when I told people
20:38around me that I was getting married ,
20:40not everyone congratulated me . My mom
20:43didn't really feel much differently
20:45than my friends did , either . While
20:48preparing for the wedding , I sometimes
20:50wavered seeing my mom ask if I was
20:52really confident and if I would be
20:55happy , but I truly loved my husband so
20:57much . My mom clearly wasn't pleased at
21:01first , but in the end , she didn't try
21:03to go against my decision . Our married
21:06life , which started that way , was
21:08smoother than I thought and not bad at
21:10all . We weren't fighting over money
21:13every day like people around us had
21:15worried before the wedding , and my
21:17husband was quite devoted to our family
21:19as well . I thought quite simply about
21:22it at first , too . I figured that if we
21:25both earned money , we’d save twice as
21:26much compared to when I was on my own .
21:28After all , I had a job , and my husband
21:31was getting a steady salary at the
21:33soccer center . I thought if we combined
21:36our efforts to pay for living expenses
21:37and saved the rest , we’d be able to
21:39build up a decent amount of money . But
21:41once we got married , that was a huge
21:43mistake . It wasn't just that there were
21:46two people earning money ; our expenses
21:48also more than doubled . On top of that ,
21:51things got even worse once our first
21:53child was born and then the second came
21:55along . Every diaper and every can of
21:59formula cost money , and as the kids
22:01grew , there were clothes , education
22:03costs , and other expenses . Whenever
22:06that happened , my mom would help us out
22:08a little bit . Mom made sure not to make
22:11my husband feel left out , either . " You
22:14need to have some pocket money , too . " "
22:17The burden of being the head of a
22:18family is no joke . " " Oh , really . " " It
22:21makes me feel guilty that you keep
22:22taking care of us like this ,
22:24Mother-in-law . " " We should be the ones
22:26giving you money , but those who have
22:28more are supposed to look out for
22:29others . " " Just being a wonderful father
22:32to my daughter and your kids is enough
22:34for me . " Though my husband initially
22:37tried to decline , he eventually started
22:39gratefully accepting the pocket money
22:41Mom gave him . In fact , my husband only
22:44found out exactly how much property my
22:46mom had after we got married . That’s
22:49because I didn't see any reason to
22:51bring it up while we were dating . It
22:54felt weird to tell my boyfriend that my
22:56mom owned buildings , and I didn't want
22:59to test whether he was seeing me for
23:01that reason or not . Then , after we got
23:05married , it just came out naturally .
23:07That my mom owned not just one , but
23:10three buildings . Living life in such a
23:13blur , at some point , I realized I was
23:16approaching forty . Sometimes when I
23:19look back on my situation , I feel like
23:21I've been running in place all this
23:23time . Taking maternity leave naturally
23:26set me back in terms of promotions at
23:28work . No one said anything to my face ,
23:32but while I was away , others were
23:34continuing to build their careers . When
23:38I returned to work , colleagues who used
23:40to be at my level had already moved up
23:42ahead of me . My salary wouldn't rise ,
23:46but prices kept going up , so I couldn't
23:49help but feel like life was tough . My
23:52husband's situation wasn't much
23:54different . Compared to the past , there
23:56were definitely more people playing
23:58soccer as a hobby . Women were learning
24:00to play , and more families were sending
24:02their children to soccer centers . But
24:06since my husband was just a hired coach
24:08and not the center owner , his salary
24:10didn't increase just because there were
24:12more members . " I wish I could have my
24:16own center someday . " "
24:18I know . " " It would be great if we saved
24:20enough money to open a center for you . "
24:23" It would probably cost quite a lot . " " I
24:26really feel like I could run one well . "
24:30At the time , we just laughed it off ,
24:32but as time passed , I felt his words
24:34becoming more and more concrete . " Honey
24:37, how would you feel if I really opened
24:39my own center ? " " Suddenly ? All of a
24:42sudden ? " " No way . " I’ve been working
24:44for several years , and I think I could
24:46make a fortune if I just opened my own
24:48place these days . My husband consulted
24:50with me about it several times . He said
24:53he was confident in managing members
24:55and could do much better than now if he
24:57designed the program himself . I didn't
25:00doubt my husband's ability , either . The
25:03problem was the money . My husband
25:06couldn't easily give up his ambition to
25:08have his own center . When I kept
25:11refusing , saying it was unrealistic , he
25:13eventually bypassed me . He started
25:17meeting with my mom directly . He knew
25:20that my mom owned three buildings . He
25:23laid out detailed plans and ended up
25:27asking my mom for support . Naturally ,
25:31my mom didn't just hand over a unit the
25:34moment she heard his request . Even if
25:37he is a son-in-law , business is
25:39business , and she thought he should at
25:42least have the money he could manage
25:44himself to run a soccer center . How
25:47much have you saved up for the center ?
25:51I need to start saving from now on .
25:54Well , let's say the deposit is covered
25:55by using an empty spot in your
25:56mother-in-law's building , but what
25:58about the facility costs ? I heard
26:00there's a lot to consider for the
26:02interior .
26:03Mother-in-law . If I start in your
26:06building , I don't think I would
26:07actually need that much money . Upon
26:11hearing that , my mom explained step by
26:13step how much the rent would be and how
26:15much the deposit should be . She meant
26:19that if he really wanted to run a
26:20center , he had to have at least that
26:23much capital . But my husband took my
26:26mom's words in a completely different
26:28way . As soon as he came home , he
26:31started complaining to me about how
26:33upset he was . Isn't your mother being
26:36too harsh ? She said she would charge me
26:38rent . Isn't that obvious ? You'd be
26:41signing a contract to move in . No , I'm
26:43not a stranger , I'm her son-in-law .
26:45Isn't it natural for her to just give
26:47it to me for free ? I never thought
26:48she’d say she wanted money from her
26:50own son-in-law . Honestly , I thought he
26:53might feel a little hurt from his
26:56perspective . Since his mother-in-law
26:59owns three buildings , he might have
27:01expected her to show some leniency for
27:03his new venture . But expecting her to
27:06give him a building for free was a
27:08completely different story . Who would
27:12trust and give space to someone with no
27:14financial plan , only empty talk ? I
27:17actually understood my mom's position
27:19better . A business doesn't run itself
27:23just because you have a location , and
27:25if you run into a deficit , rent ,
27:27maintenance , and staff salaries are all
27:29costs ; it was strange that he wanted to
27:31start without any preparation . Besides ,
27:35my mom's buildings already had tenants .
27:39The " space " my husband was talking
27:41about didn't mean there was an empty
27:43shop ; he meant for her to kick out
27:45current tenants to make room for him . I
27:48think it started from then on . I
27:51started to see a side of my husband I
27:53didn't recognize . Still , I tried my
27:56best to think positively . I thought he
27:59was just being greedy for a moment
28:01because his desire to own a center had
28:04grown so large . But I no longer had the
28:07luxury to care about such things , as my
28:09mother suddenly became ill . At first , I
28:13thought it was just low stamina due to
28:16her age , but when I took her to the
28:19hospital for tests , it turned out to be
28:22blood cancer . I couldn't calm my heart .
28:26Because to me , the existence of my
28:28mother was different from anything else
28:30. After agonizing over it for days , I
28:33talked to my husband and told him I
28:35wanted to quit my job . I didn't know
28:38how much time she had left , so I wanted
28:40to stay by her side and take care of
28:42her . If you quit your job , what are we
28:44supposed to do for a living right now ?
28:48But she has blood cancer , I have to be
28:49there to look after her , I can't just
28:51leave her alone . Our kids are still
28:54young too , so I thought it would be a
28:57good time to quit anyway . Honey , I
28:59can't handle our living expenses on my
29:02own . Maybe if I were running a center ,
29:04it would be different ? I expected him
29:08to tell me not to worry and to put my
29:11mother first , but he only had a center
29:14on his mind , spouting nonsense that we
29:17needed to open one to cover our living
29:20expenses . He spoke so confidently that
29:24we wouldn't have to worry about money
29:26if he just opened that center , and I
29:28honestly wondered if he had lost his
29:30mind . Instead of that , let's just ask
29:32for the building in advance . It’s
29:35going to be yours when your mother
29:36passes away anyway , so it’s better
29:38for both of us if we get it now . You
29:40can focus on caring for her , and I can
29:42open the center . Is that really what
29:44you’re saying to me right now ? I’m
29:46just talking about this realistically .
29:49If we handle it after she passes , we
29:50have to pay inheritance tax and all
29:52that — it's just too complicated . As he
29:54said that , I felt my affection for him
29:57completely disappear . It turns out that
29:59spending a lifetime together based on
30:02love alone isn't as simple as I thought
30:04. I never imagined that even he would
30:07give me such a deep disappointment . My
30:09husband’s remarks didn't end there .
30:13Once I mentioned I might quit my job ,
30:16he began to openly express the greed he
30:18had been hiding inside . But it’s
30:22still a bit of a problem even if
30:23you’re given them . How will you
30:25manage those buildings while caring for
30:27your mother ? That’s for me to figure
30:30out . So let’s think about this
30:32realistically . There are three
30:34buildings , right ? Just give one of them
30:36to me . What ? What did you say you
30:39wanted ? I’m saying I’ll take care
30:41of one of them . I can manage it and
30:43open a soccer center there ; that would
30:45work , right ? Why should that building
30:48be in your name ? We’re married , why
30:50are you being so calculating ? If I run
30:52the center properly and make money , our
30:54family can live well and be full . You
30:56can just quit your job and take care of
30:58your mother-in-law comfortably . I was
31:01stunned when I heard that . It sounded
31:04like he was making a huge sacrifice for
31:06me , but it all boiled down to one thing
31:09. I was to quit my job to nurse my
31:13mother while he used the chance to get
31:15one of her buildings for his soccer
31:18center . My husband didn't seem
31:21interested in how devastated I was by
31:24my mother's illness . He never once
31:27hugged me and asked if I was okay . All
31:31he talked about was buildings , soccer
31:33centers , and living expenses , and
31:35that's when he started to look so
31:37selfish . But as if to add to my worries
31:41, my mother's condition worsened faster
31:44than expected . We tried to hold on with
31:47treatment , but she eventually had to be
31:50admitted to a hospice ward . I was so
31:53overwhelmed back then . I had to go to
31:56the hospital , look after the kids , and
31:59handle the housework . After watching my
32:02mom get weaker every day , I didn't want
32:05to do anything when I got home . Yet , my
32:08husband never once visited her while
32:11she was in hospice . How can you not
32:15visit my mom even once when she's so
32:18sick ? Honestly , I'm disappointed in
32:21your mother . What did you say ? It's
32:24true . Your mother is greedy . She didn't
32:26even sign over the building to us in
32:27advance . You're suffering so much , and
32:29she doesn't even acknowledge it . It
32:31would have been better if she'd just
32:32given it to us before she passed . "
32:34Before she passed " ? Stop it . I'm so
32:37angry I can't take it anymore . My
32:41composure snapped at his words about my
32:44mother , and that day , I decided to get
32:46a divorce . I couldn't imagine living
32:50with this man anymore . But he didn't
32:54stop there and kept showing his greed ,
32:57so I finally told him I wanted a
32:59divorce . He thought I was just
33:03momentarily upset because of my mother ,
33:06but I told him I was serious . For the
33:10next few days , he seemed to be walking
33:12on eggshells around me . He answered
33:15cautiously whenever I spoke , probably
33:18thinking it would blow over since I
33:20didn't bring up the divorce again . Then
33:24, my mother finally passed away . It
33:26felt like half of my world had been
33:29torn away . But after my mother died , my
33:32husband actually became even more
33:34shameless . Your mother has passed on
33:37now . Why do we still have to get a
33:39divorce ? Do you still not know why I
33:42asked for a divorce ? You were just out
33:45of it back then . Now that we have
33:48assets and kids , let's just live well .
33:52After hearing that , I truly couldn't
33:55stand it anymore . To my husband , my
33:59mother's death didn't seem like
34:01something to grieve , but just the
34:03moment when her assets would be
34:05transferred . In the end , I hired a
34:08lawyer . My husband jumped out of his
34:10skin . If you won't agree to a divorce ,
34:12I'll file a lawsuit . What did I do so
34:16wrong ? You still don't know ? I cheated ,
34:20so I apologized . Why go as far as
34:22divorce ? My husband acted as if he were
34:26the victim . When he heard from the
34:29lawyer that the inheritance from my
34:31mother was unlikely to be subject to
34:33division , his reaction worsened . Only
34:37then did it become clear to me why he
34:40was resisting the divorce so much . He
34:44eventually made an excuse that we
34:45needed time to think , and ran off to
34:47his parents ' house just before signing
34:49the divorce papers . Between wrapping up
34:54my mother’s affairs and taking care
34:56of the kids , a few days flew by , and
34:58then my husband contacted me to talk . I
35:02intended to settle this , so I agreed ,
35:05and he showed up at the house with wine
35:08. It was the wine I usually liked .
35:12I’ve been so indifferent to you all
35:14this time . Let’s have a glass of your
35:18favorite wine and talk it out . I'm not
35:21in the mood to drink with you . Just
35:24have one glass . I even bought the
35:26cheese you like . Honey , I’m sorry . I
35:30hurt you with such cruel words . Let’s
35:33forget everything and start fresh . Yeah
35:35. After asking to get back together , my
35:39husband kept glancing at the wine glass
35:41in front of me . I was suspicious of him
35:45and didn't touch the wine , answering
35:47him curtly , yet he insisted I drink
35:49with strange persistence . Just have one
35:53glass . I bought this especially for you
35:55because I know you like it . He kept
35:58pointing at my glass with his eyes , and
36:00at that moment , it hit me . It was an
36:04unsettling feeling that’s hard to
36:05describe . Thinking back , there was
36:08something strange . Usually , when you
36:10drink wine , you open the bottle and
36:12pour it right in front of the other
36:14person . But the wine in my glass wasn't
36:18poured in front of me . After he arrived
36:22, I had briefly stepped away to wash my
36:24hands . When I returned from the
36:28bathroom , there were already two
36:30glasses on the table , and mine was
36:32already filled . At first , I didn't
36:36think much of it . But as he kept
36:39obsessing over my glass and urging me
36:42to drink , that scene suddenly flashed
36:44through my mind . The thought that he
36:48poured it while I was away hit me , and
36:51a chill went down my spine . Of course ,
36:54I could have just been being too
36:56sensitive . After my mother passed away ,
37:00I was mentally exhausted and constantly
37:02clashing with my husband over our
37:04divorce . But I couldn't just drink that
37:08wine right away . How did I know what
37:11was in it ? Oh , right . There are
37:14crackers in the kitchen pantry .
37:16Crackers ? Yeah . You know , the ones I
37:19like . The ones that go well with wine .
37:22You even bought cheese , so let’s have
37:23some crackers with it too . My husband
37:27looked a bit annoyed , but since I asked
37:29, he went to the pantry to get the
37:31crackers , perhaps to appease me . And
37:34the moment he opened the pantry door , I
37:37made my move . I quickly swapped the
37:39glass in front of me with the one in
37:41front of him . The switch happened in a
37:44flash , and my husband , knowing nothing ,
37:46set the crackers down in front of me
37:47and sat back down . I deliberately
37:50picked up my glass first . Sure . Let’s
37:53have a drink and talk things out . Yeah .
37:57Let’s clear the air . Drink up . Seeing
38:01me drink first , my husband downed his
38:03glass without suspicion , all the while
38:06watching my reaction . But then ,
38:08something unexpected happened . About
38:11five minutes after my husband drank
38:13from my swapped glass ? He suddenly
38:16started dozing off . I got goosebumps at
38:19that moment . That’s strange . I’m
38:23tired . Why am I so sleepy ? Have you
38:27been overworking yourself lately ?
38:28Let’s rest a bit and then talk . Of
38:31course , he wasn’t the type to be
38:32affected by just one glass of wine . I
38:35knew exactly how much he could drink .
38:39It made no sense for him to suddenly
38:40fall over , claiming to be sleepy after
38:43just one glass . As I had suspected , did
38:46he do something to the wine ? At that
38:50moment , I felt a fundamental question
38:52as to why this person would do such a
38:55thing , so I called my lawyer and asked
38:57to drop the divorce suit . My lawyer was
39:01bewildered and asked what I meant , and
39:03although I debated whether to be honest
39:05, I spilled everything . " This man seems
39:09to be doing something behind my back ,
39:11and you want to find out what it is ? " I
39:15think I need to find a bit more
39:17evidence . What kind of evidence ? I
39:20don’t know exactly yet either . But
39:22there is definitely something going on .
39:25I realized that I might need some time
39:28to uncover all of this man's dark
39:30intentions . It seemed I needed to
39:34confirm what was happening behind my
39:36back , rather than just worrying about
39:38his greed for my assets . After my
39:41husband fell asleep , I decided to take
39:44a look at the bag he had brought , just
39:46in case . And I discovered something
39:49even more suspicious inside . The moment
39:52I saw it , I understood everything . I
39:55realized that something much bigger
39:58than I had imagined might be going on .
40:01One thing is for sure , there was
40:04nothing wrong with the wine itself . I
40:08drank the same wine and I was
40:09completely fine . My husband must have
40:12done something to my glass , and since I
40:14switched our glasses , he was the one
40:16who suffered . And in my husband's bag ,
40:20I was able to find out exactly what he
40:22had done . A medicine envelope popped
40:25out . It was a prescription from a
40:28hospital , and it contained a drug meant
40:30to induce sleep . What on earth was he
40:33planning to do to me after putting me
40:36to sleep ? He couldn't have just wanted
40:39to put me to sleep to avoid talking ,
40:41and it made no sense to drug someone
40:43just to dodge a conversation about
40:45divorce . Then , I found other things
40:49inside the bag . I saw an ink pad and
40:52some legal forms . I held my breath as I
40:56flipped through them , but strangely ,
40:58none of them were completed documents .
41:03I would have been better off finding
41:05perfectly forged documents right there ;
41:07then I wouldn't have had to worry . If I
41:10had found a document with my name on it
41:13, fake consent forms , or even my seal
41:15stamped on it , I would have taken it as
41:18evidence immediately . Then there would
41:21have been no reason to withdraw the
41:23divorce suit . With the evidence already
41:26in my hand , why would I bother stalling
41:29for time ? But the problem was that they
41:31were blank forms . No matter how I
41:34looked at it , I couldn't be sure of his
41:36intentions right then . That was what
41:39scared me even more . I had no way of
41:41knowing what would be filled into those
41:43blanks once I fell asleep . I also had
41:46no idea why he even brought the ink pad
41:48. Once my thoughts reached that point ,
41:51I thought of the children . My mother's
41:54inheritance would come to me , and if I
41:57divorced my husband as planned , God
42:00forbid something happened to me , my
42:02assets would go to the children , and
42:05then my husband would be the only one
42:08left to be their legal guardian . He
42:11would end up managing the children's
42:13assets as their guardian . In this
42:16situation , it would be stranger for me
42:18to trust my husband . I still planned to
42:22get divorced , but I decided that before
42:26cutting ties legally , I had to find out
42:30what exactly he was thinking . If he
42:34really had even darker intentions than
42:36I imagined , I had to expose that first .
42:40The only problem was that I lacked the
42:43ability to uncover everything on my own
42:45. I can't watch his phone all day , nor
42:50can I follow him everywhere he goes .
42:54Above all , if I made a move and got
42:56caught by my husband , it would be over .
42:58The next day , I woke up my husband , who
43:00had no idea what was going on , and sent
43:02him out . I started reaching out to
43:04people I’d heard about through the
43:05grapevine to inquire , and eventually
43:07got the contact info for a fairly
43:08famous private investigator . What I
43:10especially liked was the fact that he
43:13was a former detective . I heard he
43:16spent a long time in the police force ,
43:18and even after retiring , he had many
43:20former colleagues and connections ,
43:22making him quite skilled at
43:23investigating people . I had no time to
43:26hesitate , so I contacted him
43:28immediately and explained the situation
43:30. The PI told me it was his specialty
43:33and not to worry . From then on , I was
43:36determined to have someone properly
43:38look into it . What was my husband
43:40trying to do after putting me to sleep ?
43:43What was he planning to fill into those
43:46incomplete documents ? And just how far
43:49did his true intentions go that I still
43:51didn't know about ? And a few days later
43:55, I began to learn little by little
43:57what my husband had been doing behind
44:00my back . Did you find something on my
44:03husband ?
44:04Yes . But it might be a bit more serious
44:07than you thought . The detective said he
44:10discovered something strange while
44:12tracking my husband's movements . Among
44:15the members of the soccer center where
44:17my husband worked as a coach , there was
44:20a psychiatrist , and my husband was
44:22meeting with that person quite often .
44:25At first , I wondered what was so
44:26strange about that . Didn't you say he
44:29was a member of the center ? Couldn't
44:31they just have become friends ? That
44:34could be . But it wasn't just a matter
44:36of meeting while exercising at the
44:38center . According to the detective , my
44:41husband was meeting that doctor
44:42privately outside the center as well .
44:45It wasn't just a case of bumping into
44:46each other for a meal once or twice ; he
44:48said the meetings had been continuing
44:50around the time I brought up the topic
44:51of divorce with my husband . As soon as
44:54I heard that , I had a bad feeling . And
44:57what the detective told me next was
45:00truly chilling . That psychiatrist had a
45:04history of being punished for violating
45:06medical laws in the past . But it wasn't
45:10some simple administrative mistake . He
45:13had a record of diagnosing someone who
45:15didn't have dementia as a dementia
45:17patient . What ? He was involved in
45:21framing someone with normal cognitive
45:23abilities as a patient and having them
45:25sent to a care facility . A perfectly
45:27healthy person ? The doctor had also
45:30been involved in family property
45:32disputes . He had a history of
45:35manipulating medical records to help
45:38children acquire or manage their
45:40parents ' assets . He said there was even
45:43a period where he couldn't work as a
45:45doctor because of that incident . After
45:48hearing that he couldn't practice
45:50medicine for a full three years , I
45:52couldn't help but be suspicious of why
45:53my husband was continuing to meet such
45:55a person . I immediately remembered the
45:59things I had found in my husband's bag .
46:02The prescription medication related to
46:04sleep , and the document forms that
46:06hadn't been filled out properly at all .
46:09Have you ever visited that hospital for
46:12treatment ?
46:13Which hospital ? The doctor's hospital ?
46:16No. I don't know who that is . Are you
46:19sure ? Of course . I've never even been
46:22to a psychiatrist . Then I recommend you
46:25check your medical records yourself .
46:28The moment I heard that , my heart
46:30started pounding . I thought , " No way ,
46:33right ? " I didn't think he would ever go
46:35that far . But as the detective
46:38suggested , I called the health
46:40insurance office and checked my medical
46:42history . And for a while , I couldn't
46:45say a word . The records were there .
46:48Medical records for treatments I had
46:50never even received . What was even more
46:52horrifying was the content of the
46:53diagnosis . It was a medical record
46:56related to psychiatric illness .
46:59Everything from why my husband was
47:01meeting that doctor to what he was
47:03planning to do to me — it felt like
47:05separate puzzle pieces finally clicking
47:07into place . Is it common sense to think
47:10about hospitalizing your wife in a
47:12mental institution just for a building ?
47:14Everyone , my husband knew that if we
47:16divorced , it would be difficult for him
47:18to get the property I inherited from my
47:21mother through a division of assets . So
47:23he looked for another way . He was
47:27trying to make me look like someone
47:29incapable of sound judgment . Someone
47:33with mental issues , someone incapable
47:35of normal judgment on their own , and
47:37therefore someone in need of protection
47:39and management . He was building those
47:43records bit by bit so he could claim he
47:46was my guardian . The moment I realized
47:49that , my body trembled uncontrollably .
47:52He was the person who was so sweet when
47:55we were dating , the person I laughed
47:57with while playing soccer , the person I
47:59married and had two children with , and
48:01the person I’d spent nearly ten years
48:04with . But now , that same person was
48:07trying to take my property by making me
48:10appear unable to make normal judgments
48:12by any means necessary . And only then
48:16did I know for sure . I couldn't even
48:20guarantee what would have happened if I
48:22hadn't swapped those wine glasses that
48:25day . I met with my lawyer and the
48:29detective to start piecing the whole
48:31story together . I don't think this is
48:34something that can just end as a
48:36divorce case . Let’s organize
48:38everything , from the items found in
48:40your husband's bag to your medical
48:42records . I have truly never once been
48:45to that hospital . These are the records
48:48from my surveillance . The detective
48:50also organized the information he had
48:53confirmed . Armed with that evidence , I
48:56no longer stood by idly . After
48:58consulting with my lawyer , I filed a
49:01lawsuit against my husband , including
49:03charges of document forgery and
49:05violations of medical law . My husband ,
49:07of course , went ballistic . Are you
49:09suing me right now ? How can you do this
49:12to your own spouse ? " Couple " ? How can
49:15you even use that word with me right
49:18now ? What did I do wrong by wanting to
49:21try and make things work ? Can you
49:24explain why there are medical records
49:26for me at a hospital I've never even
49:27been to ? And why were those pills and
49:31the seal found in your bag ? There's a
49:33reason for all of that . Everything will
49:36come to light once the investigation
49:37begins . Fine , then get investigated . I
49:41had no intention of listening to any
49:43more of my husband's excuses . But the
49:45most crucial evidence emerged while he
49:48was under investigation . Evidence was
49:50discovered on my husband's cell phone .
49:54I got goosebumps all over again after
49:56seeing what was on it . My husband
49:58hadn't just come up with this plan
50:00overnight . It looked as if he had been
50:03preparing for it little by little , even
50:04before my mother passed away . He kept
50:07building up records to make it look
50:09like I was acting strangely . That was
50:12when a few scenes from the past came
50:14back to me . One day , while I was
50:17frantically taking care of my mother at
50:19the hospital , he suddenly got angry and
50:21claimed I was acting like a crazy
50:23person , bringing up chores I’d never
50:25even been asked to do . At the time , I
50:28just thought he was saying those things
50:30because he was worried about me . It was
50:33true that I was overwhelmed trying to
50:34care for my mother and look after the
50:36children . So , I just assumed I’d
50:39forgotten a request he’d made , but it
50:41turns out that was all a setup . What
50:45was even more shocking was that he’d
50:47even involved the children . His phone
50:50even contained traces of him
50:52questioning the kids about me . It was
50:55unforgivable that he didn't stop at
50:57targeting me , but tried to drag our
50:59young children into his scheme . He was
51:03trying to get them to say that their
51:05mom was acting weird . And that wasn't
51:08even the end of it . My mother-in-law
51:11was in on it too . Evidence was found
51:14confirming that she , too , had been
51:16making comments implying that I seemed
51:18mentally unstable . " My daughter-in-law
51:21seems a bit strange lately . " " She seems
51:24to have become mentally unstable while
51:26nursing her mother . " That’s the kind
51:28of thing she was saying . Once I found
51:30out , it went beyond anger ; I just had
51:32to laugh at the absurdity of it . I
51:34thought it was something my husband had
51:36done alone , but that wasn't the case .
51:38The moment I realized that , I was
51:41absolutely fuming . That was when I
51:43truly realized one thing . That there
51:46wasn't a single shred of affection left
51:48in my heart for my husband . He didn't
51:52just plan on taking the building my
51:54mother left behind and putting it in
51:56his name . It seems he knew that if he
52:00just took it outright , I could easily
52:03file a lawsuit and take it back once I
52:05came to my senses . So , he decided to
52:08rig the entire game on a much larger
52:09scale . He wanted to paint me as someone
52:13incapable of managing my own assets ,
52:15using his role as my husband to take
52:18control of my finances . " My wife is
52:21mentally unstable , so I'm managing
52:23things for her . " That was the picture
52:25he wanted to create . Once he got his
52:28foot in the door with managing the
52:30building , it seems he intended to start
52:32meddling with the sales , leases , and
52:34loans one by one . Among the materials
52:38the detective found were conversations
52:40my husband had with a real estate agent
52:42. It turns out one of the members at
52:45his soccer center worked in real estate
52:47. How far was he actually planning to
52:51go ? That’s why I think it’s
52:54actually a good thing you didn't act
52:56rashly from the start .
52:58That was true . It was horrifying that
53:02he tried to frame me as mentally ill
53:05before our divorce was finalized just
53:07to get his hands on the inheritance my
53:10mother left me , but I was most furious
53:13at the fact that I was right there and
53:15had no idea what was happening . What if
53:20I had completely trusted him ? Come to
53:24think of it , pausing the divorce suit
53:26ended up being a stroke of genius . Even
53:30if it takes time , there is a world of
53:32difference between knowing his true
53:33intentions and being in the dark . So ,
53:36before filing the suit , I deliberately
53:39gave him an excuse to come back home
53:41and started showing signs of weakness .
53:45I’ve been struggling so much lately .
53:47With my mom and the kids , I feel like
53:50I'm losing my mind . I told you , you
53:53need me as your anchor . As I showed
53:57weakness , my husband gradually began to
53:59reveal his true colors . He seemed to be
54:02under the illusion that his plan was
54:03working perfectly . He slowly started to
54:07reveal the things he’d kept hidden ,
54:09and eventually , he even lost all
54:11caution . Because he started bragging
54:14about his plans to acquaintances , it
54:16became much easier for the detective to
54:18gather evidence . The fact that he tried
54:22to take my stamp , replace the building
54:24manager with his own person , and even
54:27change our tax accountant all became
54:29evidence . I had no reason to wait any
54:33longer . I gathered all the evidence
54:36I’d collected and finally sued him .
54:39But do you know what’s funny ? He
54:42completely forgot that he was the one
54:44who tried to stab me in the back , and
54:46instead , he started making a scene . "
54:50How could you do this to me ? " "
54:52What did I do ? You were the one who
54:54dropped the divorce suit just to trap
54:56me from the start . " " You even hired
54:58someone to follow and investigate me ! " "
55:00You were the one who tried to paint me
55:02as mentally ill . " How can someone who
55:05created fake medical records in my name
55:07, asked our kids if their mom seemed
55:09strange , and tried to take my stamp
55:11even talk about being betrayed ? " I only
55:15did it to protect our family . " Is
55:17messing with my assets your way of
55:19protecting the family ? I was completely
55:21speechless . It got to the point where
55:23even my mother-in-law joined in ,
55:25spewing all sorts of nonsense about me
55:27being greedy and stabbing my husband in
55:29the back . She insisted that her son had
55:32done nothing wrong , and the moment I
55:34heard that , I realized there was no
55:36point in talking to them anymore . It
55:39was already way past the point where
55:40words could fix anything . No matter how
55:43much my husband threw a fit claiming he
55:46was innocent , the remaining evidence
55:48clearly showed what he had actually
55:50done . In the end , my husband was
55:53punished for violating the Medical
55:54Service Act related to forging private
55:56documents and was even slapped with a
55:58fine . That psychiatrist didn't get off
56:02the hook , either . The fact that he had
56:05a history of similar issues and got
56:07involved in this type of thing again
56:10became a major problem , and he
56:12eventually had his medical license
56:14suspended . When I heard the news , I
56:17didn't feel relieved as much as I felt
56:19empty . Yet , my husband still hadn't
56:22come to his senses . When the topic of
56:24the fine came up , he contacted me , and
56:26what he said was truly laughable . Pay
56:29my fine for me .
56:31What kind of fresh , crazy nonsense is
56:33this ?
56:34We’re still legally married , aren't
56:36we ? The one with the money should be
56:38able to cover it . You want me to pay
56:40the fine you got for what you did to me
56:43? If we're a married couple , we should
56:45be able to forgive and move past this .
56:48You’re the one who caused this mess ,
56:49so you solve it . Hearing that , I knew
56:52for sure I had to move on . Seeing him
56:54so clueless about his own wrongdoings
56:56and trying to push them onto me looked
56:58so pathetic , so I didn't hesitate to
57:00file for divorce . This time , I had
57:03absolutely no reason to look back . I
57:05didn't overlook the situation regarding
57:07the children , either . Because there
57:10were traces of my husband forcing the
57:12kids to agree that their mom was " weird
57:14" for his own schemes , I took the
57:16necessary steps to keep him away from
57:19them . The same went for my
57:22mother-in-law . I took measures to
57:24ensure she couldn't show up in front of
57:26me or the children whenever she pleased
57:28. Still , I felt anxious . Just because I
57:31blocked them legally didn't mean my
57:33mind was at ease . So , I eventually
57:35packed up and moved away with the
57:37children . To a neighborhood he doesn't
57:39know . Now , I’m living quietly with my
57:42kids in a place where he can't find us .
57:45I’ve heard he’s still going around
57:48telling people how unfairly he was
57:50treated . He claims he did it all for
57:52his family and that I’m the one who
57:54blew things out of proportion . His
57:57mother is also saying that her son’s
57:59life was ruined because of me . Now ,
58:02hearing such things doesn't really
58:03evoke any emotion in me . Whatever they
58:07say , it doesn't change what I went
58:09through , and it certainly doesn't make
58:11the evidence disappear . I heard that
58:14the doctor , too , is unable to work like
58:16he used to after his license suspension
58:18. I choose not to look too closely into
58:22those people’s lives anymore . I’ve
58:24already looked into it long enough . The
58:28time I spent tracking where my husband
58:31went , who he met , and what he was
58:33planning was just horrific for me . Now ,
58:37the only things I want to look at are
58:40my children and my life . I’m also
58:42managing the assets my mother left me
58:45much more carefully than before . I
58:48don’t just leave things to others ; I
58:51check everything myself as I go .
58:54Sometimes I think about what my mother
58:56used to say . Those words about being
58:58careful who I choose to be with . I
59:01heard it so often since I was young
59:03that it’s engraved in my ears , but in
59:05the end , I made one huge mistake . But
59:08there was something else my mother
59:10taught me , too . How to protect what is
59:12mine while living on my own terms .
59:15There was a time when my husband nearly
59:17destroyed my entire life , but he
59:19couldn't in the end . I switched the
59:23wine glasses at the last moment , didn't
59:25ignore the suspicious signs , and found
59:28the evidence until the very end . Now ,
59:31there is something more important to me
59:33than three buildings . It’s for my
59:35children to live in peace , no longer
59:38exploited by the greed of adults . And
59:41for me to live my own life with my own
59:43mind , without worrying about what
59:45anyone else thinks . Now , I really
59:47intend to live well with my children
59:50while protecting what my mother left
59:52behind .