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0:00Your girlfriend says you're paranoid ,

0:02jealous , and that you made it all up .

0:04Meanwhile , your intuition is screaming

0:06that something is wrong , something is

0:09off . Today , I will break down eight

0:11specific situations and tell you how to

0:13act in each of them . Situation . I’m

0:16dating a girl who regularly puts hearts

0:18on bodybuilders and fitness models .

0:20Should I say something to her about it ?

0:23I believe that before a man makes

0:25accusations , he should take a look at

0:27himself . After all , if you watch adult

0:30films every other day , it seems strange

0:32to hold a grudge against your girl in

0:34this situation . But it is important to

0:37note that liking a person of the

0:39opposite sex and watching adult films

0:42are , well , a bit different , because an

0:44actress from California won’t write

0:47to you , " Oh , Borya , you watched my

0:49video , let's meet up . " But a like to a

0:51real person , which is what she’s

0:52doing , well , that’s already

0:53micro-flirting . It's not just looking

0:55at a picture ; it’s an attempt to draw

0:57attention to herself . Try asking your

1:00girl directly : " Why did you like that

1:02muscle guy ? " Do you think he has a

1:04self-esteem problem or something ? Does

1:06he need support from Katya from South

1:08Butovo ? Do you know what a very

1:09important point is ? Does she like those

1:11posts in front of you or not ? If she

1:14does it in front of you , meaning she

1:15isn't hiding anything , we just conclude

1:17that her moral compass is off . But if

1:19she does it secretly , so that you don't

1:21see anything . Well , that means deep

1:23down she perfectly understands that

1:24she’s doing something dirty . Let me

1:25tell you a real story . One day a guy

1:28writes to me and says , " I've been

1:29dating a girl for a long time . " And he

1:31noticed that she likes a man who is

1:33well-known in narrow circles . The guy

1:35had an analytical mind . He didn’t

1:38start throwing any tantrums . He creates

1:40a fresh account , uploads photos from

1:42locations where this famous man often

1:45goes , to evoke the right associations .

1:48He kept his first name , but used a

1:49nickname instead of a last name . Then

1:51he wrote to his girlfriend in private

1:53messages on behalf of this " alpha " : " Hi

1:55, I often see your reactions . I'm using

1:57a burner account , well , you understand ,

1:59I have a public image , but you really

2:01caught my eye . I felt like chatting .

2:04Would you mind ? " The girl naturally got

2:07suspicious and politely asked for proof

2:09, like , how will I know it’s you ?

2:11Well , the guy was ready for that . He

2:13had apparently thought everything

2:14through in advance . He had already

2:15downloaded some of this man's stories

2:16and sent them to her , like , this is

2:18what I'm doing right now . And then , do

2:20you know what happened ? The girl

2:21started actively flirting and chatting .

2:23And after a few hours of this

2:25correspondence , he says to her : " Listen

2:26, I would love to continue getting to

2:28know you , but I need to know something .

2:30I hope you don't have a boyfriend , or a

2:32husband , or kids there . " To which she

2:34tells him : " Oh no , no , I don't have

2:36anyone , I'm single . " Just like that . I

2:39don't recommend that anyone set up such

2:41tests , but you should know that this

2:43kind of thing happens in life . Scenario

2:46: a girl returns home , you hug her , and

2:48you smell men's cologne and tobacco on

2:50her hair and neck . What does that mean ?

2:53Well , look , just standing outside isn't

2:55enough for hair to get soaked in

2:57tobacco smoke , the wind just blows

2:58everything away . You need a thick cloud

3:02of smoke in an enclosed space . Now

3:05let's turn on some logic . If your girl

3:08doesn't smoke , the smell of cigarettes

3:10should be repulsive to her . Any

3:12non-smoker would move away or ask

3:14someone not to smoke in their presence .

3:17So , what was she doing ? She was just

3:19sitting there and enduring it . What was

3:21that for , or for whom ? Therefore , the

3:23first thing I would assume is that

3:24someone was driving her home , and that

3:26person was smoking . And if you smelled

3:28men's cologne , that generally requires

3:30full-on physical contact . What can you

3:33do in such a situation ? You can , as if

3:36nothing is wrong , hug the girl very

3:38tightly and , in an absolutely calm and

3:41even . slightly curious tone , ask : "

3:43Listen , who wears such cool men's

3:46cologne ? The scent is so familiar . I

3:48can't recall it . I'd like to get the

3:49same one for myself . " And this question

3:51will break her brain , because the image

3:54of that very man is currently in her

3:57head . And she has only two options for

3:59how to act . First option : she gets

4:01flustered and starts talking nonsense .

4:04Well , you will immediately see that she

4:05has become worried about something .

4:07Well , and the second option , she will

4:08try to make up a plausible excuse . She

4:10will have to mention that very guy . And

4:13now you have a specific name . You know

4:16exactly whose communication with her .

4:18You now need to monitor . Scenario . A

4:21girl talks about her new boss with

4:23admiration for the third time in a week

4:25. You have no idea how smart he is .

4:27There is so much to learn from him . At

4:2935 , he is already running a branch . How

4:31much would that bother you ? Well ,

4:33that's like a seven out of ten ,

4:35especially if it hasn't happened just

4:38once . But I have a question for you .

4:39Have you ever heard a girl talk like

4:41that about her female boss ? " Oh , Marina

4:43Petrovna is so smart , at 35 she runs a

4:46branch , there's so much to learn . " But

4:49I haven't heard that . About a woman ,

4:52she will say : capable , demanding , fair .

4:55Period . No sparkle in her eyes . Any

4:57admiration expressed toward another man

4:59is a direct devaluation of you . If a

5:02girl says , " He's so charismatic , " the

5:04question arises : who is she comparing

5:05him to ? He’s charismatic ,

5:08professional , successful . Compared to

5:10whom ? Me . Well , the " wow " effect always

5:13works through comparison . So , what

5:15actually happened ? The girl came up and

5:17told you , " You know , honey , there are

5:19men better than you . " Well , thanks for

5:21the information . Great . Obviously , she

5:24hasn't slept with him yet , or she

5:26would’ve kept quiet , but the process

5:28has begun . Admiration is the best

5:29lubricant for the female psyche . First ,

5:32she just admires him , then she starts

5:34staying late at work to " learn from his

5:35experience . " Then they have coffee

5:38together , and eventually , he’s

5:39tearing her tights off in a car . And

5:42when you catch her cheating , she’ll

5:44say , " Oleg Viktorovich is such a deep

5:46person ; he understands me so well . " And

5:49as experience shows , explaining

5:50anything to a woman in that situation

5:52is simply pointless . You only have two

5:55options for how to act , and both are

5:57bad . If you say , " Why the hell are you

5:59praising another guy in front of me ? "

6:02You’ll just be painted as a loser

6:04who’s terrified of competition from

6:05the boss . " I'm evaluating him solely as

6:08a professional , " but in her voice , you

6:10hear something else . But if you stay

6:12silent , it means admiring and sleeping

6:14with the boss is okay , and she’ll

6:15just keep doing it . So , no matter how

6:17you act , both options are total crap .

6:19Situation . A childhood friend sent my

6:21girlfriend a gorgeous bouquet of

6:22flowers for her birthday . She accepts

6:24the gift with a squeal of delight . How

6:25should you act in such a situation ?

6:27Well , I’ll say this : in 80 % of cases ,

6:29this so-called " childhood friend " is an

6:32ex . But even if that's not the case ,

6:34let’s assume it’s truly a friend

6:36who has a wife and family . Well , even

6:38in that case , it’s still unpleasant

6:40for you . But what does a man feel at

6:42that moment ? Another male has entered

6:45your territory and pissed on your shoes

6:47. He gave your woman a romantic gift .

6:51And most importantly , bro , he didn't

6:53even ask you . " I want to send Sveta

6:56some flowers . " " Do you mind ? " No. He

6:58simply presented it as a fact . " Look , I

7:01can please your girl , and there’s not

7:03a damn thing you can do about it . " It

7:05turns out your girl doesn't care that

7:08you feel like a cuckold . For her ,

7:10emotions and bouquets are more

7:12important . And there are even women who

7:14manage to start a fight with their

7:17boyfriend over it . They start yelling ,

7:19" You’re a sick , jealous freak , it’s

7:21just Dima , we’ve known each other

7:22since the sandbox . " What is she doing

7:24at that moment ? She devalues you and

7:27elevates Dima . She tells you that

7:30Dima’s comfort and her right to get

7:32perks from him are more important than

7:34your feelings . You know what surprises

7:36me most in these situations ? I mean , in

7:38fact , who is Dima anyway ? Just some

7:39random guy , some childhood friend . And

7:41you are the person with whom she is

7:43supposedly building a future . You would

7:46think the priorities are obvious to any

7:49normal girl , but instead , she starts

7:52acting up . Saying that you’re ruining

7:55her whole holiday . I am absolutely

7:57certain that you will never receive

7:59respect from a woman like that .

8:01Relationship situation , 2 years in . The

8:04girl regularly posts photos on social

8:06media in micro-thongs and leggings

8:08highlighting her butt , racking up

8:10hundreds of likes . When asked to behave

8:11more modestly , she says , " I'm beautiful

8:12. " " What's wrong with that ? " " I'm proud

8:14of my body . " Let’s take this one step

8:15at a time . It’s not like a woman who

8:17was posting photos from church in a

8:19headscarf for two years suddenly

8:21started showing off her butt once the

8:23relationship started . She was doing

8:24that before you , too . You opened her

8:27profile , scrolled through — butt , butt ,

8:29butt — and you ended up messaging her

8:31anyway . And then , men just fall into

8:33two categories . First are those who are

8:35happy about it . Like , let everyone look

8:37, I’m the only one who gets to touch

8:39her . Meaning , the man is satisfied

8:41until the moment she cheats on him .

8:43That’s when someone else touches her ,

8:44and he won't like it . Right . Though ,

8:46that's not guaranteed . Right . And the

8:48second category is those who start

8:49forbidding everything . It’s the

8:51dumbest male fetish , the most common

8:53one : find a girl with an incredible

8:55backside , pumped-up lips , looking like

8:57she’s from an adult film , and then

8:59try to isolate her so nobody else can

9:01see her . I mean , everyone understands ,

9:03we’re all adults here . You can’t

9:05solve the problem that way . If you cut

9:06off her likes , she’ll put on

9:08micro-shorts and go collect stares on

9:10the street or at the gym . If you dress

9:13her in a baggy shroud , she’ll

9:14secretly sign up for dating apps and

9:15collect matches while sitting on the

9:17toilet . Or she’ll just go to work and

9:20make sure the entire male staff is

9:23drooling over her . And if it’s an

9:25all-female workplace , some former

9:27classmate will pop up , and she’ll

9:29call him a friend . You’re just trying

9:31to plug a colander with your fingers .

9:34Remember , if a woman’s self-esteem is

9:36built on male lust , it is impossible to

9:38tame her . Situation : my wife's fitness

9:41trainer , when he spots her or corrects

9:43her form , keeps his hands on her hips

9:45and lower back . That’s normal . Let's

9:47start with the fact that there is a

9:49category of men who see no problem with

9:51this . They treat the trainer like a

9:54gynecologist or a massage therapist ,

9:56like a doctor . For them , it’s the

9:58norm . But there is another category .

10:01These are men for whom it is , well ,

10:02categorically unacceptable for some

10:03other guy to be grabbing their waist or

10:05touching their hips . I believe that if

10:08a woman knows it’s unacceptable to

10:10you but allows it to happen , then that

10:12is a problem . And in such a situation ,

10:15questions arise primarily for her , not

10:18the trainer . But I was once sent this

10:20story . A guy found out that his

10:22girlfriend’s fitness trainer was

10:24touching her , spotting her very closely

10:25. He decided to play detective . He goes

10:28up to the girl and says : " Listen , did

10:30your trainer even ask for permission to

10:31touch you like that sometimes ? " She

10:34tells him : " No , he didn't ask . " " Well ,

10:36he works with everyone that way . " After

10:39that , the guy got aggressive , goes to

10:41the fitness trainer and asks : " Did you

10:42ask my girlfriend if you could touch

10:44her or not ? " He says : " Well , of course .

10:47" I asked her , and she gave the

10:48go-ahead . The guy returns to the girl

10:51and says : " So it turns out you lied to

10:52me , you allowed him to touch you , you

10:54gave the go-ahead . " She says : " No , I

10:56don't remember that . " But the question

10:58arises : which one of them is lying ?

11:00Well , anyone could be lying . Because

11:02the trainer doesn't need any trouble or

11:04complaints . Naturally , he will say he

11:07followed protocol . It’s also not in

11:09the girl's best interest to tell the

11:10truth . I think this is a very stupid

11:12situation because , well , it just should

11:14have been foreseen . If she had been

11:16training with a female coach from the

11:18start , there wouldn't have been such a

11:20problem . That’s all there is to it .

11:22Situation . I've been dating a girl for

11:24a year and a half . During all this time

11:26, she hasn't posted almost a single

11:27photo of me . She says happiness loves

11:29silence . This is a red flag . Well , let

11:33me put it this way : I’m willing to

11:34believe the silence version if a girl

11:36keeps her social media minimal , logs in

11:38once a month , and posts a landscape or

11:39a cat . And that's it . Yes , there are

11:43people who don't want to show their

11:45life , but if she posts five stories a

11:48day showing her breakfast , the gym , her

11:51manicure — in other words , she details

11:53her life down to the smallest detail ,

11:56and you are not in that life , then that

11:58is strange . I mean , you’ve been

12:01together for a year and a half , and you

12:03occupy a huge part of her life . So , the

12:05girl has to make a conscious effort to

12:08keep you hidden everywhere . You know ,

12:11the thing is , people rarely change

12:13their basic habits . That's why you need

12:15to find out what her social media

12:17looked like in past relationships . If

12:20it was the exact same picture with her

12:22ex-boyfriend , not a single photo in

12:24several years . Well , okay . Okay . But if

12:26her feed was full of pictures with her

12:29ex , and in her relationship with you ,

12:31she says , " I don't like showing off , "

12:34then she’s lying straight to your

12:36face . Apparently , there is some reason

12:38why she is intentionally broadcasting a

12:40status of being a single woman . And the

12:43most likely scenario is that she still

12:46loves her ex and wants him to come back

12:48to her . Well , and if her ex sees you ,

12:50or that there's something in her life ,

12:52then , most likely , he won't text her .

12:54Situation . My girlfriend wears a thin ,

12:57tight top without a bra for a walk in a

12:59crowded place . The fabric is

13:01see-through , and men are turning their

13:02heads to look at her . To my calm remark

13:04, she rolled her eyes and said that her

13:06bra is tight , it's hot outside , 30

13:08degrees , and there's nothing wrong with

13:10her look ; how should I react in such a

13:12situation ? But you won't prove anything

13:14to a girl like that . The only thing you

13:17can do is create a situation where her

13:19dishonesty — and I believe it is

13:21dishonesty — regarding her " everything

13:23is fine " claim becomes obvious . So you

13:25just take a few of her photos , or snap

13:27a picture of her outfit , load it into

13:29an AI , and enter a prompt . Like ,

13:31objectively evaluate this look . What

13:33details should a man pay attention to

13:35first ? Rate the level of

13:38provocativeness on a ten-point scale .

13:40Will this appearance trigger

13:42instinctive desires in men ? If so ,

13:45which ones ? What should the girl change

13:49about her appearance so as not to

13:50attract unwanted attention ? And I will

13:53say this , AI , at least at the moment ,

13:55analyzes this issue very accurately .

13:58And after this analysis , it will be

14:00hard for her to deny that her

14:02appearance is provocative . But if she

14:06still tries to , she will just look

14:08unconvincing , and everything will

14:10finally become clear to you . Then she

14:13just likes dressing that way . She likes

14:16being looked at , and she’s just

14:18playing you for a fool . Situation : the

14:20girl has a work chat with a colleague .

14:23I accidentally saw him write to her : "

14:25Good morning , gorgeous . " She replies

14:26with a smiley face : " Nothing more ,

14:28purely work-related questions afterward

14:29. " How much would this bother you ,

14:31Maxim ? Well , that's a 10 out of 10 . Why

14:33? Because almost all the stories of

14:36infidelity that I’ve seen , that I

14:38know from consultations in life , how

14:40did they start ? With the fact that

14:43you’re in a relationship with a girl ,

14:45some guy hits on her , and she plays the

14:47fool . I don't see anything , I don't

14:49hear anything . He’s just smiling at

14:51me for no reason . He just suggested

14:52getting coffee for no reason . He just

14:54said , " Hey , gorgeous , " for no reason .

14:56He just gave her flowers for no reason .

14:58He just — he’s touching your thigh

15:00for no reason . No , no , not the thigh .

15:01It’s the knee . So he’s touching

15:04your ... No , no , he was just fixing my

15:06collar . And all this nonsense . This " I

15:09don't see it . " He’s touching you , " I

15:10don't see it . " He’s pulling you close

15:11. " I don't see it . " This all continues

15:13exactly until the moment they finally

15:15sleep together . That’s it . This is

15:17the most popular strategy . Therefore ,

15:20of course , if you see open flirting

15:22directed at her , if a woman admits , "

15:25Yeah , it seems he's into me , " well , she

15:27should turn him down , say , " Hey , hold

15:30on , " increase the distance , and tell

15:32you . Listen , well , obviously , but that

15:35never happens . And will he just stop

15:36with this " gorgeous " act ? What is he

15:38writing ? No , he won't stop . He will

15:40continue . And she will allow it , right ?

15:44Therefore , in such a situation , I

15:46understand the tactics of a potential

15:48cheater . That’s why I asked : " Are you

15:50, are you seriously ? " " I mean , are you

15:52seriously not realizing right now that

15:54he's hitting on you ? " She says : " No , I

15:57don't realize it . " " So you don't see

15:59that he likes you ? " And she’s like : "

16:01Yeah , yeah , no . " Then I would ask : " Are

16:04you sure about that ? " She says : " Yes ,

16:06yes , I’m sure . " Well , she can't back

16:07down now . And that’s when I would say

16:09: " Listen , let's put it to the test . " "

16:10Are you in agreement right now , pay

16:12attention . " " Do you agree with me that

16:14if he really likes you , has designs on

16:15you , wants to touch you , then you need

16:17to keep your distance from him ? " " Well ,

16:18you’re in a relationship , do you

16:20agree with that ? " If there were

16:21confirmation . She’s like : " Well , well

16:23, what is she going to say ? " She’ll

16:24say : " Well , yes . " I say : " Fine , text

16:26him , make a suggestion . " It doesn't

16:29matter , later it can be written off as

16:30a joke , anything . Just text him to see

16:32if he's willing to meet outside of work

16:33hours . I mean really , you have a

16:35husband , but maybe it’s no big deal .

16:37Write it , you'll see what he replies ,

16:39and he will agree . Okay , professional

16:42relationship . Yes , exactly how a woman

16:44would say : " Okay , I understand . "

16:46Meaning , a " beauty " doesn't hinder a

16:47professional relationship . The fact

16:49that he talks to you like that , while

16:50your proposal gets in the way . Fine ,

16:52just ask him straight , point-blank . I

16:53mean , you guys are so close , you have

16:55such a great connection . Ask , say , "

16:57Kostya , can I ask a direct question and

17:00get a full , honest answer from you ? " I

17:03just need to know . He'll say , " Yes , of

17:05course . " Say , " Listen , do you like me

17:07as a woman , do you want me as a woman ? "

17:09Well , phrase it however you want , and

17:11he’ll admit that you like him . And

17:12she knows that . That's why she won't

17:15want to text him anything . He'll say , "

17:17Stop it , just stop . You're going to

17:18ruin our whole relationship . You're

17:20crazy . " Why should there be hearts or

17:23any visual appraisal of a woman in a

17:26chat with a colleague ? How is that

17:30possible ? Show me at least one instance

17:32where you increased the distance . "

17:34Beauty , " he writes . And what do people

17:36do with beauties ? Open up an AI , ask it

17:39. A man writes that I am a beauty . What

17:40does he want to do with me ? No need to

17:43play games here . Pretending you don't

17:45understand anything . You understand

17:47everything very well . You sense the

17:49situation very well , but I’m just a

17:50little bit smarter than you think . Just

17:53a tiny bit . The complexity , do you

17:54understand where it lies ? Here's the

17:56main , key thing . If you've already seen

17:58this in chats , you won't find peace

18:00anymore . Why ? Well , even if she agrees

18:03to something , though she probably won't

18:04. You don't know what's happening at

18:06work , do you ? Fine , okay , she'll stop

18:07talking about this topic . But what’s

18:08happening at work ? Who knows , because

18:10there's no trust . Meaning , when your

18:13woman deceives you , ignoring reality ,

18:14and quite foolishly , how can you trust

18:16her after that ? It’s a maximally

18:19unpleasant situation , because breaking

18:22up with her , well , who knows . And what

18:25if you have children , how do you break

18:26up with her then ? And so , to prevent

18:28such a situation from happening , you

18:30need to ask screening questions when

18:33you first meet . And I explain this in

18:36detail in my course , The Dating Dad . I

18:38have this four-hour lecture on my

18:41website . The link is right there in the

18:43first comment . Take a look .