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0:00All right, let's watch this.
0:01>> Is he gay or straight?
0:02>> I'm going to go gay.
0:03>> And then what makes you say that?
0:04>> Just the tattoos with the sunglasses for
0:07some reason.
0:07>> Are you gay or straight?
0:08>> Straight.
0:09>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:10looking at you?
0:10>> Oh, yeah.
0:11>> Do you think that guy is gay or
0:11straight?
0:12>> Probably gay.
0:13>> And what makes you say that?
0:15>> Just the way he's standing, like
0:16>> And then are you gay or straight?
0:17>> I'm straight.
0:18>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:19looking at you?
0:20>> Nah.
0:20>> What do you think that guy is gay or
0:21straight?
0:22>> Closeted, for sure.
0:23>> And what makes you say that?
0:24>> I don't like the the the
0:26fancy drinking pants and all that. It's
0:28just like you're going to go to the
0:29beach with regular shorts.
0:31>> Are you gay or straight?
0:31>> Straight.
0:32>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:33looking at you?
0:34>> I don't know.
0:34>> Do you think that guy is gay or
0:35straight?
0:36>> Yeah, he looks a little gay to me.
0:37>> And are you gay or straight?
0:38>> I'm straight.
0:39>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:40how you look?
0:40>> Yeah.
0:41>> Hey, what do you think this guy is gay
0:42or straight?
0:43>> Gay.
0:44>> And then why do you say that?
0:45>> [laughter]
0:45>> Just how he looks and how he's standing.
0:47>> And then are you gay or straight?
0:48>> Straight.
0:49>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:50looking at you?
0:50>> Definitely.
0:51>> Do you say that guy is gay or straight?
0:52[laughter]
0:53>> Probably gay.
0:53>> And then are you gay or straight?
0:55>> I'm straight.
0:55>> Do you think people could tell based on
0:56how you look?
0:57>> Hell no.
0:58>> Do you say that guy is gay or straight?
1:00>> Gay.
1:00>> And then what makes you say that?
1:01>> How he's standing.
1:02>> Okay. And then are you gay or straight?
1:04>> I'm straight.
1:05>> Do you think people could tell based on
1:06how you look?
1:07>> Nah, maybe.
1:08>> Do you think that guy is gay or
1:08straight, bro?
1:09>> Gay.
1:10>> And then what makes you say that?
1:11>> Just the way he's standing.
1:12>> And then are you gay or straight?
1:13>> I'm straight.
1:14>> Do you think people could tell based on
1:15how you look?
1:15>> Probably not right now.
1:17Probably not right now. [laughter]
1:19>> Lisa's keeping it real.
1:21>> What What do you guys think that's an
1:22example of?
1:23>> Uh
1:23>> [laughter]
1:23>> that if you sleep with men, it's an
1:25insult because if you're a girl and you
1:27have a high body count, they're like,
1:28"Oh, you sleep with too many men. That's
1:29gross." But if you're a guy and you
1:31sleep with a man, that's gross, too. So,
1:32like the problem is sleeping with men.
1:34>> Uh I wow.
1:35>> [laughter]
1:36>> The problem for both is sleeping with
1:38men.
1:38>> Yeah, like that's like the problem. Like
1:40don't sleep with men.
1:41>> That's pretty funny. Um don't have the
1:43same conclusion.
1:44Um yeah, does anybody uh anybody think
1:47What is the opposite, by the way? So,
1:48for men, when they men compete with
1:50other men for women, the way they
1:52denigrate each other is by calling each
1:53other gay. If you played high school
1:55football, you got called There were
1:57There were words that we can't say now
1:58that you would say regularly
2:00in the locker room. So, what do women do
2:02to denigrate each other? What do they
2:03call each other?
2:04>> they slap each other on the butt when
2:05they play.
2:06>> Correct.
2:07Correct.
2:07>> Well, I mean okay, so let's let's let's
2:09just explain that a little bit more. The
2:10reason why the reason why the reason why
2:12guys call like if
2:14you're in a group of people and guys are
2:16there and another guy comes in and he's
2:17very, very good looking. People will
2:19look the guys and instantly say, well,
2:21you know, guys that look like that are
2:22probably gay. That guy's probably gay.
2:23>> Which is a compliment cuz it means you
2:24take care of yourself.
2:25>> Well, I exactly. But the but see the
2:27thing is is that what happens is those
2:28guys so that's this is a form of
2:30intra-sexual competition.
2:33So, what is what is a guy trying to do?
2:34He's trying to disqualify the good
2:36looking guy from any consideration of
2:38the women that are happen to be within
2:40earshot.
2:41Guys that look like that are probably
2:43gay.
2:43>> I was listening to well, William
2:44Costello was literally talking about
2:45this. He was talking about looksmaxers
2:46and clavicular and the number one thing
2:48people are saying is that he's clearly
2:50gay. Well, I don't know if he's clearly
2:51gay, but what I do know is that that's
2:53the number one way There it is right
2:55here.
2:55>> They said Peter Thiel's a sugar daddy.
2:56Do you know about that?
2:57>> Huh?
2:57>> They said they said that Peter Thiel's a
2:58sugar daddy.
2:59>> His sugar daddy? I don't know.
3:01>> Yes, you Yeah, you went down that rabbit
3:02hole.
3:02>> Okay. All right, so listen. Listen.
3:03Well, my question is what do women do?
3:06Do women have the same they have the
3:07same denigration pattern, but what do
3:09they do to denigrate each other? What do
3:11they call each other? Anybody?
3:13>> That's an old
3:13>> Again, I didn't even have to ask. It
3:15took you 1 second. That's exactly right.
3:17This
3:17>> This is straight This is straight out of
3:18evolution psychology.
3:18>> that do? Disqualify from the
3:20reproductive pool.
3:21>> So, so
3:22>> Cuz the worst you can do is sleep with
3:23men. That's what you're saying.
3:24Consequence.
3:24>> That's it.
3:26Hey, you want to know something funny?
3:27Uh
3:28Heterosexual couples, uh they get
3:29divorced about 48%. Gay couples get
3:32divorced about 21%.
3:34Lesbian couples get divorced about 75%.
3:37So, it doesn't seem like men are the
3:38problem. Isn't that interesting? But men
3:40>> But no, no, but just the insult is if
3:42you sleep with a man. It's not the
3:44public
3:44>> Sure. So, let's just all stop sleeping
3:45with men. Got it. I will I can I can do
3:47that. I can handle all of it.
3:49All right, so what's the the way that
3:50women denigrate other women is by
3:52calling each other a you're right. By
3:54saying by saying those words that have
3:55they try to keep of the guys like oh
3:57man, this is going to hurt my reputation
3:59if I make this girl my girlfriend.
4:00That's the plan. By the way, this is not
4:03an American thing or a Western thing. If
4:05you read evolutionary psychology or if
4:07you read anything uh Dr. David Buss's 37
4:09culture study with like I believe he did
4:10it with 10,000 people. In the study, it
4:13did didn't matter if these people were
4:14aboriginal in Australia. It didn't make
4:16make make any difference if they were in
4:17the Yanomamo tribe in Venezuela. They
4:20all the idea of women denigrating other
4:22women and men calling each other
4:23homosexual was something that was
4:25worldwide that people were doing. It's
4:27not a cultural thing. Men and women
4:29denigrating one another in order to in
4:32order to try to level up because again,
4:34the guy's better looking than me and
4:35taller and like she more women are
4:37looking at him. I got to It's You want
4:39to know what women do also do? Um
4:41there's a group of women uh they're
4:43bachelor party. They come to Las Vegas.
4:45Uh they go out to a club and a good
4:47looking guy comes up to the prettiest
4:48girl in the group. What happens next,
4:50guys?
4:51What happens next?
4:52>> The refrigerator
4:53>> blocks.
4:53>> The
4:54That's right.
4:56The fridge The fridge protects the
4:57snacks. That's exactly right.
4:59>> [laughter]
5:00>> It's
5:01It's It's always a It's always a
5:02situation.
5:04Right. Because because I want you to
5:06consider this. Evolutionarily, the girl
5:08who's second, third, fourth, fifth, or
5:09sixth most attractive in the group, if
5:11she lets things play out as they as the
5:13status quo, the best looking guy is
5:15always going to pick the best looking
5:16girl in her group. So, she must throw
5:18chaos into the wind. She must throw a
5:20monkey wrench into this operation.
5:21Otherwise, she's always going to get
5:23second, third, fourth, fifth best
5:24looking guy. Does that make sense?
5:25>> Yeah.
5:26>> And so, that's that's essentially what I
5:27see you ladies agreeing here cuz this
5:30Do any of you ladies ever have a friend
5:32who just like start blocking on a
5:33dude that you actually kind of liked?
5:35>> No.
5:35>> like there's always I feel like anytime
5:37you're in a group of women, regardless
5:39if it's someone you're close or you're
5:41doing a comp group here in Las Vegas cuz
5:42those are so common, that there's always
5:44going to be that one or two girls that
5:46are going to be the oddball out and
5:48anytime you are asked to go to a
5:49different table or to be with a a
5:52certain demographic of people, there's
5:54always going to be those one or two
5:55girls that will cause block even if you
5:57try to include them
5:58in this in the scenario.
6:00>> Yeah. Scarcity mindset.
6:01>> Yeah, I feel like even if you try to
6:03integrate these in like the girls who
6:05might not be the first ones chosen,
6:06they're still going to be the ones that
6:08are going to be like, "No, no, no."
6:09There's going to be a reason that they
6:10don't want you to go. There's going to
6:11be a reason that they don't want you to
6:12>> So,
6:13here's something interesting. Um So, so
6:15me as a man, it is an advantage for me
6:17to be extroverted. It is. I can network
6:19with more people. I really don't have a
6:20lot of approach anxiety. It actually is
6:22a pretty significant um advantage for
6:24men, especially because men are the ones
6:26who generally approach women, for men to
6:28be extroverted. It is something that I
6:29have to do when I coach my clients who
6:30are introverted is try to help them out
6:32with that. If a woman is introverted or
6:34extroverted, but she's really, really,
6:36really beautiful, it's not really that
6:38much of a disadvantage for her for her
6:40from a
6:40marketplace. In fact, if a woman is
6:42autistic and really attractive,
6:44it's not that big of a disadvantage for
6:45her. If a man is autistic and he's not
6:47and he's of average attractiveness, it's
6:49very, very I I have clients who are on
6:52the spectrum and haven't had sex in 10
6:54years when they come to me. And so that
6:56there's a very big disadvantage when it
6:58comes to that. So, what you were talking
6:59about before, I do think there are women
7:02who don't have to be the most socially
7:04adept, but because they're really pretty
7:06in a social situation, there's a there's
7:07a ton of studies and I have to go
7:09actually look up the the metadata on
7:10this. But women who are really
7:11attractive just have a ton of advantages
7:13and it's not just with men. In general,
7:15other women follow them. That that's
7:16another thing that I found. So, that is
7:18a really interesting observation that
7:19you had there. Do we have this one
7:20pulled up?
7:21>> I'll get it in just a second after I ask
7:22this Yeah, go ahead.
7:23>> Cuz sometimes like okay, so sometimes
7:25like I go with like really, really good
7:26girlfriends I haven't seen in a long
7:27time and we're out Actually, this
7:29happened at Donny Fox's funeral
7:31actually. And we're at a Commonwealth
7:32and everyone's, you know, the whole
7:34city's
7:36you know, the whole industry's kind of
7:37like grieving him, but we're having a
7:39good time because we're connecting and
7:41there's a couple like um
7:43couple guys that were outside of the
7:44group that was trying to holler at some
7:46of my home girls. And this is just one
7:48example. And we're all gorgeous and it's
7:50fine, but like we were there bonding,
7:51connecting, and like my girls were not
7:53going to go home with him. I never see
7:55them. And, um,
7:58>> Andy, sorry
7:58>> That was okay. Um, and so I kind of like
8:01up like cuz I'm like, "Hey, bud. Like, I
8:03haven't seen my girlfriend in a long
8:04time. We're catching up. Like, this is
8:06our space. Like, we're in the middle of
8:08a, you know, a an emotional night." And
8:11of am the ugly friend where I will
8:13block, but it's not like the guy was
8:15going to get laid by me anyway.
8:17Because I miss my friend.
8:18>> I also think that if I befriended you,
8:19you'd make a great wing girl.
8:21>> Oh, of course. Are you kidding me? It's
8:22my homies love me.
8:23>> So maybe maybe maybe guys need to
8:26instead of being like, "I need to figure
8:27out a way to snake through the group of
8:29women to extract the one girl I want."
8:32Maybe making friends with the group of
8:34women
8:35might actually be a better strategy.
8:39>> crazy
8:40>> crazy Someone Someone should teach a
8:42course on this.
8:45>> [laughter]
8:45>> Imagine.
8:46>> No, I swear. They're watching this right
8:48now. Hi, Zaddick. Hi, Ian. Hey, guys.
8:50We're talking about you.
8:51>> Hey, like one time it was like, "Hey,
8:53come with me to this event. Like, I need
8:54two tall
8:55>> walking in with me.
8:57>> [laughter]
8:57>> They're like
8:58>> I'm like, "Are you serious right now?"
8:59>> No, for real. Yeah. They move exactly
9:02how y'all trained them.
9:04>> Ladies, who who shames more shames women
9:08more, women or men?
9:10>> women
9:10>> Women 100%. Women like I feel like love
9:13to bring other women down, especially
9:15when they're like more attractive than
9:17them or they feel insecure. And I
9:19honestly like I don't get it. Like, I'm
9:22a girls girl, so I love a pretty like
9:24woman. I keep looking at your eyes cuz
9:26they're like so pretty.
9:27But women definitely shame women a lot
9:30more, and I've done it before, don't get
9:32me wrong, but I honestly don't see the
9:34point of it. Like, who cares how many
9:36people they
9:36>> No, no, the the point of it is so that
9:39you have a an advantage in the
9:40marketplace with with other men. Do you
9:42understand?
9:43>> Well, yeah, I understand what I'm
9:45saying.
9:45>> this is kind of a double standard. If
9:47you guys date a guy who's very
9:49successful, professional athlete, or
9:50whatever, and he's been with a lot of
9:51women, that doesn't really hurt your
9:53reputation. Right? You guys understand
9:55that. If I'm if if I'm a guy who's
9:57successful and I'm with a girl and then
9:59beyond behind my back she starts filming
10:01with other dudes on OF, that's really
10:03bad. I'm on the I'm on the front page of
10:06No Jumper, TMZ. I'm just getting run
10:09through the I'm a cos thing. I'm
10:10basically a cos thing at that point. I'm
10:12just getting destroyed. And so there's a
10:14massive difference. So why is it what So
10:16what did they say? For women they're
10:18like, well, he's gay. He's secretly gay,
10:20which turns off a lot of women. Some
10:21women are really into that. And then the
10:22other what do what do women say? She's
10:24actually a intimidating, hey, you're a
10:26high-status dude. She might embarrass
10:28you in the future not be You might You
10:30might get cuckolded. This is just a, you
10:32know, kind of an evolutionary response.
10:34So that's where that whole thing stems
10:35from.