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0:00If she's ghosting you, there's only one
0:01thing you can do. This is a superpower
0:03that you must have. You must be able to
0:05do this because every other guy is too
0:07afraid of this. Every other guy is too
0:09weak to go through with this. But if you
0:11can do this, now you're different than
0:13all the other guys. If you can do this
0:14one simple thing, it will increase and
0:17optimize your chances of getting her
0:19back. And you know what this is? She
0:20ghosts you. She's not being responsive
0:22anymore. She disappears. You guys break
0:24up and things aren't working out. You
0:25know what you do? You know how you
0:26optimize your chances of getting her
0:27back? You do nothing. Nothing. You don't
0:32try to text her and see if she's okay.
0:34You don't try to say, "Let's fix
0:35things." You don't try to make things
0:36work. None of that. Because all she's
0:38doing right now is trying to see how
0:40desperate you are. You have two choices
0:43here. You can either text her back. You
0:45can either start pursuing and dig
0:46yourself in a hole and continue
0:47decreasing attraction, or you can decide
0:51to just be a man and continue focusing
0:53on your life. And what that's going to
0:55do is make her rethink whether she made
0:57the right decision. You see, right now,
0:59what's going on is she has lost
1:02attraction for you. So, what you need to
1:04do is you need to instill that
1:06attraction back into her. How do you do
1:09this? Well, first you have to understand
1:11what attraction is. What is attraction
1:13based off of? It's based off of your
1:15value. Your value as in your resources,
1:17looks, money, status, confidence, all
1:19those things. So, what you need to do is
1:21demonstrate value. Right now you are not
1:23demonstrating value. That's why
1:24attraction is dropping. So how do you
1:26demonstrate value? How do you regain
1:28that perceived value? Make her believe
1:29that you are valuable. I'll tell you
1:31what you do. Think about what a valuable
1:33man has that other men don't have. That
1:35valueless men don't have options. Dating
1:38options. When you increase your looks,
1:40money, and status, and all these metrics
1:41go up, your value increases. When your
1:43value increases, you can now date more
1:44women.
1:46When you can date more women, you all of
1:49a sudden, let's say you're a guy that's
1:50walking around with tens. You might not
1:52even have money, but everybody's going
1:53to think you have money. Why? Because
1:55what kind of guy can have beautiful
1:57women near him? A guy who has money, a
1:59guy who has looks, money, status, all of
2:01that thing. Value.
2:04Optimize your value or your perceived
2:07value. If you don't want to go out there
2:09and obviously it's going to take a while
2:11for you to go and build a good physique,
2:12it's going to take a while for you to
2:13make a bunch of money. You need to get
2:14this girl back now. So, how do you do
2:15it?
2:17I'll tell you. You demonstrate options.
2:19How do you demonstrate options? Very
2:21simple. A man with a bunch of options
2:24does not care to make the relationship
2:25work. He doesn't care to save anything.
2:26So what you do here is nothing. Because
2:28a man with options, right, a valuable
2:30man, a man with options wouldn't care
2:33that this girl is leaving, wouldn't care
2:34that this girl's ghosting, wouldn't care
2:35that this woman is just disappearing
2:37from his life. Why? Because he can
2:38replace her. That's it. So all you got
2:40to do is come from the frame that you do
2:42not care. So what? You let her go. You
2:44don't care. She disappears. You never
2:46talk to her again. So what? you do not
2:49show any of that [ __ ] emotional crap
2:52that you have right now because all
2:53you're doing right now is showing how
2:54weak you are. Stop being weak. Stop
2:56caring. What happens is when you don't
2:57care, she goes, "Wait a minute. Did he
3:00replace me already? Did he move on
3:01already? Did he find another girl? Did
3:02he find someone better? Now she rethinks
3:05whether she made the right decision. Now
3:07she goes, "Wait a minute. Maybe he's
3:08more attractive than I thought he was.
3:09Maybe he's more valuable than I thought
3:11he was." And as she increases her
3:12perceived value for you, now she makes a
3:16calculation and goes, "He's attractive."
3:18Her attraction goes up. And let me tell
3:20you, a lot of guys will say, "Well, I
3:22did that and it didn't work." I'll tell
3:23you, this is not a magic trick. It's a
3:26system. If she found someone better than
3:28you, who's indicating more value than
3:30you, even if you don't care,
3:33guess what? He probably cares even less
3:34than you do. There's nothing you can do
3:35in that situation. You have already
3:36lost. She has already moved on. You've
3:38already dug yourself into a hole and
3:39it's already screwed you in the butt. So
3:42that's what it is. Forget about it. Let
3:44it go. But the point being, no amount of
3:48text messaging, no amount of trying to
3:49save things, no amount of trying to make
3:51things work is going to help you here.
3:53The best thing you can do will always be
3:56nothing. Nothing. You don't care. You
3:58don't start posting on your story. By
4:00the way, when I tell you guys options, a
4:01lot of guys will misinterpret this and
4:02go, "So, should I tell her that I'm
4:03talking to other girls or should I
4:04should I show her that I'm with other
4:06women or post other women on my story?"
4:07No, because that shows that you care.
4:09You would only do that because you care.
4:10You're doing it because you want you
4:11care so much that you want her to see
4:12that you have other girls and you have
4:14options and you're only doing it because
4:15you want to get her back. That also
4:16shows that you care. Any amount of care
4:18shows a lack of options.
4:20Any amount of care for trying to get her
4:22back shows a lack of options. You do not
4:24do anything. If you usually do not post
4:25women on your social media, you don't
4:27start doing it now just because this
4:28girl left you or just because this girl
4:30is unresponsive. I don't care. I don't
4:33care how much you want to do that. I
4:34don't care how desperate you are to get
4:35her back. You don't do any of these
4:36things. You just continue living your
4:37life. You go to the gym. You continue
4:39making your money. You continue leveling
4:40yourself up. That's it. That's all you
4:42can do.
4:43Nothing else. You do absolutely nothing.
4:46You continue living your life. And let
4:48me tell you, every single second of your
4:49day that you spend thinking about her,
4:51you give power to her. And giving power
4:54to her is giving leverage to her. And
4:56every single text message you send,
4:58every time you fold, every time you
4:59break, every time you respond to her
5:00story, every time you tell her how much
5:01you wish things worked, you just keep
5:03digging yourself into that hole. Why?
5:04Because it shows how much you care. The
5:06more you care, the less options you must
5:07have. Cuz if you had options and you had
5:08the option to replace her, you wouldn't
5:10care to let her go. You only care
5:11because you think she's the best. You
5:13only care because you think you can't
5:14replace her. That's exactly why you are
5:16never going to be able to get her back.
5:17Because you think she's the best and you
5:19think you can't replace her. Let's say
5:20that's true. Let's say you can't replace
5:22her. Let's say she is the best. Let's
5:23say she's the most beautiful woman of
5:24all time. If you operate from that
5:27mindset,
5:28one, that just tells me that you believe
5:31you will never be better, that you will
5:33never level up in life and be able to do
5:34better than her. Two, that right there
5:38gives her the power and takes away the
5:39power from you to actually keep the
5:41woman because now you're in this
5:42mindset, this scarcity mindset and this
5:44fear of loss mindset where every little
5:46thing that she does gets under your
5:47skin. Every little breakup text, every
5:49little nuisance is a big deal to you.
5:53It's a big problem and it emotionally
5:55manipulates you and it gets you to go
5:56weak. And now she looks at you and she
5:58goes, "This man is not safe." You see,
6:00the funny part is you think that showing
6:02her how much you care, you think that
6:03showing her how much you want to make
6:05things work is you being a good
6:06boyfriend, but it's not. It's you being
6:07an unsafe, dangerous man. Because a safe
6:09man,
6:11ask yourself, does he focus on himself
6:13or does he focus on a woman? A man that
6:14has resources and can provide. Does he
6:16get there by focusing on a woman or
6:17focusing on himself? He focuses on
6:20himself and that's what allows him to be
6:22a safe man. She's trying to survive.
6:24Attraction is built for one reason, one
6:25reason only. It's to duplicate. It's for
6:28reproduction.
6:29If it doesn't ensure her survival, it is
6:31not attractive. All the things you're
6:33doing trying to make things work, that
6:35doesn't ensure her survival. What does
6:37ensure her survival is you increasing
6:38your value. Right now, you're decreasing
6:40your value because you are showing
6:41scarcity. You are showing a lack of
6:43options. The only kind of man with a
6:44lack of options is a man with a lack of
6:46value.
6:47And when you have a lack of options, you
6:49know what happens? You operate the way
6:50you're operating right now with this
6:51mindset where you feel like you'll never
6:53be able to get her back. And you're
6:54begging for her to stay and you're
6:55begging to make things work. And this
6:57just keeps digging you further and
6:59further and further down this hole and
7:00you will never ever be able to get out.
7:02It gets to a point where the ground
7:03collapses on you and you're done. Now
7:05you have no chances. The second that
7:08breakup text goes through, the second
7:09she ghosts you, that is your time to use
7:12that test as an opportunity to raise
7:15attraction. Because you see, the funny
7:16part is if she is testing you, the only
7:18reason why women test in the first place
7:20is because you aren't attractive enough
7:21in the first place and she doesn't fear
7:22losing you. If she really feared losing
7:24you and you were her number one option
7:25and she was obsessed with you and you
7:27were the man of her dreams, she wouldn't
7:28even test you to begin with. But the
7:29reason why this girl is testing you is
7:31because you don't watch enough of my
7:32content. You don't listen to me. But
7:34it's fine cuz now you're here. So now
7:36you're going to listen and it's not
7:36going to happen again next relationship
7:38or this relationship. If it ends up
7:39working out, you're not going to be
7:40tested anymore because you're going to
7:41know how to operate. So the reason she's
7:44testing you is because attraction is
7:45decreasing. The thing is every test is
7:48an opportunity to raise attraction
7:50again. Why? Because if she says we're
7:52breaking up and you say okay and you say
7:54no problem, all of that care that you
7:57had for her, all of those times where
7:59you were a good boyfriend and all this
8:01stuff, now she rethinks and goes, "Maybe
8:03he wasn't being desperate. Maybe that's
8:04just who he is because he doesn't fear
8:06losing me. So obviously maybe he wasn't
8:08operating off of a fear of loss. Maybe
8:10he wasn't buying me flowers and taking
8:12me out because he feared that if he
8:14didn't do those things he would have
8:15lost me. Maybe he just did those things
8:17cuz he wanted to do those things. Even
8:18though that's some pathetic [ __ ] But
8:20let's say maybe you are that kind of
8:21guy, right? You've been brainwashed. But
8:24whatever. Maybe you are that kind of
8:25guy. That kind of guy doesn't exist. But
8:27let's say you are
8:29now because she's threatened you with
8:31this. She thinks you care so much
8:32because all those things you did and all
8:33that cuck stuff you did, but now because
8:35you're willing to let her go so easily,
8:37you're just like, "Okay." She goes, she
8:38rethinks all of it and she goes, "Okay,
8:39bang." That right there, you don't
8:42understand. Your girl will do a 180. A
8:44lot of you guys that have listened to
8:45me, a lot of men that have come to me, a
8:47lot of guys that I've coached have told
8:49me she's done a whole 180. A whole 180.
8:53And this puts you in a tricky situation
8:54because what happens now is she starts
8:56to ask you, "Why are you acting this
8:57way? What's going on? What's changed?
8:58What the This is what the guys that I
9:00coach always tell me this. They always
9:02start nagging. That's fine. You know
9:03what you do? You just say, "Hey, I've
9:05been busy. Oh, I've been doing things."
9:07Pass the test. That's the most important
9:09thing. Pass the test. She's ghosting
9:12you. Let her go. She's going to come
9:14right back. She wants to break up. Let
9:16her go. She's going to come right back.
9:18Because you passed the test. You show
9:19that you don't care to lose her. Showing
9:21that you don't care to lose her shows
9:22that you have the option to replace her.
9:23Having the option to replace her means
9:25your value is high. High value is what
9:29attraction is based off of. You now
9:31increased attraction. You regained
9:32attraction.