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0:00Girl , can I introduce myself to you ?
0:02No. Have I ever told you what madness
0:07is to introduce myself ?
0:12Can I introduce myself to you ?
0:15This is the exact repetition of the
0:19same action over and over again .
0:22Girl , can I introduce myself to you
0:24in the hopes ? The hell with change ?
0:27Girl , girl , can I introduce myself to
0:28you ? No ,
0:30no ,
0:31that is madness . I
0:33would like to chat with you , to get to
0:36know you .
0:37Idiots , wherever you look , do exactly
0:40the same thing . Over and over and over
0:43and over again .
0:45And a chat to introduce myself ? It’s
0:46impossible ,
0:47what you
0:48can’t know .
0:49Okay .
0:51And they think everything will change
0:52now . No , no , no , please , everything
0:55will be different now .
0:56Girl , can I introduce myself to you ?
1:04Well , not exactly a psychologist .
1:06Not exactly .
1:07Yes .
1:09I wonder what kind of psychologist ? An
1:12ordinary social one .
1:13Well , a social psychologist .
1:15Social is the kind that’s in a state
1:17hospital .
1:18But fortunately , no . No , just social
1:21problems . That’s what social is .
1:23That’s all .
1:24Seriously ? Let’s get acquainted .
1:27Let’s .
1:28So , this was totally unexpected , but I
1:29should have said that I have a
1:31boyfriend , that I'm in a hurry , and all
1:32that .
1:33Yeah , that's what I usually say .
1:35Yeah .
1:37Okay , since we're already in this
1:39situation ,
1:39we need to move on somehow . Re
1:42Dozhdu , if you don't mind , we can
1:44message each other and then talk . Those
1:52of you who've met people on the street
1:54and have experience with it are hardly
1:56surprised by what happened in the video
1:57. And those who haven't , or are selling
1:59some kind of picard courses , will say :
2:01" Ugh , girl , can I get to know you ?
2:03That's cringe . " Who's going to give you
2:05anything after that ? You need to say
2:07this or that . You need to show what a
2:09real man you are , what a male you are .
2:11Move like an animal . And other cringe .
2:14And you already know who I am . I'm not
2:16a picard , I'm a psychologist and I've
2:17been running a channel on dating and
2:19relationships for seven years . I'm
2:20trying to bring a scientific approach
2:22to this area . Well , and to help , mainly
2:24men , of course , but women also turn to
2:26me to improve their personal lives .
2:28This video is unique because it
2:30combines both the practical experience
2:32of my work and my clients , as well as
2:34scientific data on this topic . And all
2:36the videos here , by the way , are not
2:37staged , so sometimes the sound cuts out
2:39, sometimes there is some kind of
2:40interference . Please forgive me for
2:42that . My name is Misha . I'm a
2:43psychologist . And here we go . Today
2:52we'll figure out how to increase your
2:54chances of success in street dating , if
2:55for some reason you need them . By the
2:57way , I don't think everyone needs them .
2:58And also , more importantly , how to do
3:00it without cringing , with warmth , with
3:03as much relaxation as possible , and
3:05preferably without resorting to the
3:07bottle of justice , which some ,
3:08especially zealous pickup artists ,
3:10practice and , apparently , love . The
3:12second guy in the video is Dmitry
3:14Pitsenko , a clinical psychologist . He
3:16also has a lot about dating on his
3:18channel . The link will be in the
3:20description , of course . Let's get back
3:22to question number one . What phrase ,
3:24what words , what approach will be most
3:26effective to make a girl feel inclined
3:28to talk to you from the very first
3:30seconds ? The thing is , the
3:32phrase you use when approaching isn't
3:34the most important thing . Essentially ,
3:36two things matter . First , how you look .
3:40Second , how comfortable and safe an
3:41atmosphere were you able to create ? Or
3:43choosing the right moment so the girl
3:45doesn't run away from the very first
3:46seconds . By the way , this is already
3:47the second part of the video . The first
3:49video was released five years ago , and
3:51in it , I talked about how to overcome
3:52the fear of meeting new people , the
3:54fear of approaching a stranger , using
3:55CBT methods and other scientific
3:57evidence . The video is still very
3:59popular and has almost a million views .
4:01I recommend starting with it if you
4:03haven't seen it . To record the first
4:05part of this video , I had to force
4:07myself to approach real women . Hello .
4:14Hello .
4:15And to record this video , I divorced my
4:17wife . In my opinion , such dedication to
4:19science deserves a like or even a
4:21forward to a friend so they can see
4:23what a man is willing to do for the
4:25cause . I won't dwell on appearance for
4:27very long , because I'm not a plastic
4:30surgeon or a stylist , but I also can't
4:32ignore this topic , because for street
4:34encounters to have any meaningful
4:37effect , it's important to look above
4:39average or have impenetrable
4:41self-esteem .
4:42No , I've blocked it . No ,
4:43no , don't
4:44worry , I'm not going to do it now . I
4:45have gonorrhea , syphilis , or something .
4:49Well , that's funny .
4:51Let's tell a joke .
4:52It's better , of course , to have both .
4:54Otherwise , yes , you can look average or
4:57even below average , but there will be
4:59many more rejections , they will be
5:01harsher and more unpleasant , and a ton
5:03of time will be wasted .
5:05Honestly , it's a waste of time ,
5:07yes ,
5:09and I'll say something that pickup
5:10artists usually keep quiet about , but I
5:12can't keep quiet about it , and I won't ,
5:13because , again , I'm a psychologist . If
5:15you want to meet people on the street ,
5:18the first thing you should do is invest
5:20in your appearance to start looking
5:22above average . If you're going bald ,
5:24take care of that . Or if you have a
5:26nicely shaped skull , shave it all off .
5:28If you're growing a beard and your
5:29lower jaw isn't too dangerous , make the
5:31contours of your jaw more pronounced .
5:33Get some high-heeled shoes . That's the
5:35trend now . And don't dress like most
5:37guys . Wear baggy pants underneath .
5:39These days , that's basics , or jeans .
5:41Top it off with whatever's trending in
5:43St. Petersburg right now or what girls
5:45your age like on Instagram or Pintrest .
5:47And then just give it a try , because
5:49your effectiveness will increase . And
5:51what's more , even if there are
5:52rejections , they'll simply be warmer
5:53and more pleasant . By the way , I can
5:55demonstrate the importance of this
5:56thesis in the wild , so to speak . I
5:59recently had a hair transplant . I don't
6:02know how visible it is on camera , but
6:03this is one of the most pathetic stages
6:05, because this part has already grown
6:06back . There are still some sparse hairs
6:09here that , for some reason , haven't
6:10fallen out . Moreover , this part , it's
6:13reddish . Most likely , it's not visible
6:16on camera , but believe me , it simply
6:17looks like ringworm . And look at the
6:19reactions to me in this state .
6:21Good evening . Can I meet you ?
6:28Hello .
6:29Can I meet you , girl ?
6:33No.
6:36And to be fair , one of the girls seemed
6:38to be predisposed , although we didn't
6:40end up talking , but she was older . And ,
6:43apparently , she's used to men her age ,
6:45well , that kind of crap . or even worse ,
6:49regularly dating .
6:50Hello . Can I meet you ?
6:54Can I meet you ?
6:58My name is Misha .
6:59Nice to meet you .
7:01I appreciate the high ...
7:03Ah , not good . We can talk later , if you
7:07want .
7:08No , no , I ... Ah ,
7:09no , of course , then . Yeah , okay . Okay .
7:12Okay . Rejections , by the way , are
7:15normal , and most of your approaches
7:17will end in rejections . But pay
7:19attention to the quality of these
7:21refusals on their faces . And by the
7:23intonation , we see both fear and even
7:25some rejection . And , of course , now
7:28pick-up artists and red-pillers will
7:30come running , who will say that you
7:31simply spoke uncertainly , said the
7:33wrong thing and approached somehow
7:34rudely . And she sensed that inner
7:37depression and that's why she refused .
7:40Well , look at the rejections from other
7:42girls , to whom I said roughly the same
7:45thing and with the same uncertain
7:47intonation , as I often hear in the
7:49comments . But when my powerful forehead
7:52was hidden by a cap .
7:53Hello . Sorry to bother you . I was just
7:57passing by . I liked it , I would like to
7:59meet that .
8:01Well , basically , an argument .
8:03Yeah , okay . I'll be
8:06smart , and you too . Hi . Sorry to bother
8:12you . I was just passing by ,
8:14yeah , I saw you , wanted to chat , get to
8:16know you better .
8:17Oh , well , that's an argument . Have a
8:19happy relationship .
8:20Thank you very much . Have a good
8:21evening .
8:22Thank you . Bye .
8:24Rejections , but much warmer , softer ,
8:27and the girls like it . What's more ,
8:29some even seem sorry to have to turn
8:32him down . By the way , just in case , I
8:35have a boost , where I'll post the full
8:37dating version so this video doesn't
8:38drag on for hours . Well , of course ,
8:40I'll keep it confidential . You won't
8:42find out any contact information or
8:44faces from the girls who gave me theirs
8:46, unfortunately . But you'll find out a
8:48lot of interesting things , and in
8:50general , I post a lot of stuff on boost
8:51. The link , as usual , is in the pinned
8:53comment and in the description . So ,
8:55yeah , guys , looks are incredibly
8:56important . If you're all set with her ,
8:59move on to the next part , namely , how
9:01to create a comfortable atmosphere and
9:03how to meet people in context , which is
9:06extremely important . Then let's move on
9:09to that part , because even here , even
9:12if the girl likes you , you can make a
9:14series of gross mistakes that can
9:16either scare her off — which , in
9:17principle , is not so bad — or you can
9:20act like an and end up in jail ,
9:22and deservedly so . And you shouldn't do
9:25that . This video , as you noted , has
9:38theory , and you can't do without it .
9:39But if you only want to watch street
9:41pickups , the timestamps , as usual , are
9:43in the description . That said , if you
9:45want to learn something , I recommend
9:46not skipping the theory . In terms of
9:49street dating , the pickup scene of the
9:512010s really screwed us over , because
9:53many people still associate street
9:55dating with these guys , with Leslie and
9:58Ermes ' trainings . This old-school
10:00pickup line had the idea that ordinary
10:02guys were boring and dull , and that to
10:04be successful , we needed to stand out .
10:06That's why they dressed like roosters .
10:08And I'm not insulting them now . In the
10:10West , this style is called peek-a-boo ,
10:12meaning being as flamboyant as a
10:13rooster to attract attention . If they'd
10:16stopped at just clothes , everything
10:17would have been cool . But they also
10:19acted like roosters . I'd even say ,
10:21roosters . They'd grab girls by the
10:23shoulder and carry them somewhere ,
10:25spank them on the ass without even
10:26asking their name , start a conversation
10:28with an offer to suck , or just ask
10:30weird questions , which , in theory ,
10:32should have convinced the girl that you
10:33were a strong , confident male , but
10:35instead , you were immodestly patient .
10:38When I was 17-19 , I believed this , but
10:40fortunately , I was cowardly enough to
10:42pull off the above . I was only brave
10:45enough to ask weird questions . I
10:47remember once approaching two girls and
10:48asking something like , " What do you
10:49think about meditation or something
10:51like that ? " And they replied that I
10:53seemed like a cute guy , but I was
10:54asking such weird , stupid questions .
10:56And that was the first warning sign for
10:58me that something was wrong with the
11:00first wave of pickup . And as for
11:02grabbing strangers ' butts ? You could
11:04end up in jail now , and quite
11:06deservedly and fairly . We condemn
11:08harassment . And female arousal works
11:11differently in the vast majority of
11:12cases . And suddenly touching a random
11:16girl's intimate parts is more likely to
11:18evoke fear and disgust than to arouse
11:20her desire . Well , I already talked
11:22about how female arousal works in this
11:24video . Oh , and there's also a bit about
11:25pickup there . Watch it if you're
11:26interested . In short , this kind of
11:28invasion of personal space doesn't
11:29appeal to girls . What's more , it's not
11:312005 or 2010 anymore . You can get a
11:34drink for that . Women are actively
11:36talking about it and now turning such
11:37guys in to the cops . Yes , even if they
11:39didn't , please don't do that . And
11:41starting in 2012 , pickup began to
11:43change , and so-called second-wave
11:46pickup emerged . The idea is that when
11:48meeting a girl on the street , we don't
11:51try to impress her . Our goal is
11:53different : to show that you're not a
11:56jerk , even if you are . Forgive me for
11:59using this word , but I can't describe
12:00it more accurately . And I agree with
12:02second-wave pickup in this regard ,
12:04because meeting a girl on the street is
12:06already a stressful situation . You
12:08approach a girl , tear her out of your
12:10plans and thoughts , and intrude into
12:12her personal space . There's no need to
12:14create additional stress with groping ,
12:16stupid questions , and intimate
12:18proposals . On the contrary , you need to
12:20show that you're reasonable , that
12:21you're not trying to rape her , that
12:23you're not trying to sell her anything ,
12:24that you're sober , that you're neat ,
12:25and that you're not conducting surveys
12:27that always end with you buying
12:28something . She needs to understand that
12:31you approached her to get to know her
12:33better and see if you could potentially
12:35be interested in each other .
12:37Incidentally , I and many other more or
12:38less reasonable pickup artists came to
12:40this conclusion somewhat intuitively .
12:41But in fact , there's even research
12:43confirming that direct expressions of
12:45romantic interest are more effective
12:47than complex constructs . A good street
12:50pickup artist should demonstrate from
12:51the very first seconds : " I'm interested
12:53, but you're under no obligation to
12:55interact with me . " Incidentally , if
12:57free videos and materials on my
12:59Telegram channel aren't enough for you ,
13:01I run groups on working with social
13:02anxiety . There , a group of 10-12 people
13:05and I learn how to overcome discomfort
13:07and anxiety in social situations that
13:09are important to us . Each participant
13:11chooses one to three such situations .
13:14This could include meeting new people
13:16in any circumstances , communicating
13:17with management , asking for a promotion
13:19, dealing with conflicts with
13:20colleagues , and even sorting things out
13:22with relatives . All these interactions ,
13:25while important to us on the one hand ,
13:27can also be uncomfortable on the other .
13:29Girls , by the way , are also signing up ,
13:31so if you've somehow managed to see a
13:33girl this far , our doors are open . All
13:35the links are in the description and
13:36pinned comment . Basically , if you're in
13:39St. Petersburg , we can work on your
13:41fears and connections in person . We'll
13:44do it with warmth , understanding , and
13:45without the pickup artist drill , so
13:47you'll start to like me . Of course , you
13:49could book me to Moscow for the same
13:51purpose , but with all the travel
13:52expenses , I'll cost you the same as an
13:54average escort . But let's get back to
13:56our topic . Therefore , contextual
13:58introductions will work best . Well , for
14:00example , where you're sitting in a cafe
14:02with a book or at your laptop , and you
14:04notice a girl reading a book . You can
14:06go up to her and say , for example ,
14:07sorry to bother you , but I was reading
14:09this book too . Do you think I should
14:11finish it , because I gave up halfway
14:14through . By the way , Dima and I seem to
14:16have managed to capture the approach .
14:17Unfortunately , some of the sound is
14:18lost . But such are the perks of
14:21fieldwork . The girl turned out to be a
14:28show . And I thought for
14:41the first time they came up with such a
14:44method .
14:44No , I often do this .
14:48Wow . Well , that's
14:49totally great . I didn't even think that
14:53from here you can sunbathe and read a
14:56book . And by the way , the sun doesn't
14:58interfere , because I think reading is
15:00difficult now .
15:01No , in the wrong place .
15:04Well , great . And my name is Dmitry , by
15:07the way . And what's yours ?
15:08My name is Lisa .
15:09Oh , yeah , nice to meet you .
15:11Yes , well , by the way , I'm getting
15:12married , by the way .
15:13Oh , damn , well ,
15:14just , yeah , I say ,
15:15well , you can tell your husband that
15:17he's very lucky .
15:18Thank you very much . Yeah , well , thank
15:20you for the little chat . Well ,
15:22thank you very much too .
15:23Yeah . So , enjoy your reading and
15:24contemplation , how about that ? Yeah .
15:26Have a nice day .
15:27Yeah , thank you . Okay then .
15:29Or you have such cool high-platform
15:31sneakers . It's clear you have a sense
15:32of style . Do you think any of this
15:34would suit me ? Well , and show me your
15:37Pintrest selection on my phone . Or just
15:40completely randomly overhear the
15:41conversation , like I did in this
15:43segment .
15:44Because the fight here is worth my
15:47other fingers digging . I say he's
15:50scared . I hid and stood there . And now ,
15:53I'm sorry to bother you .
15:54Yeah , you apparently have a very active
15:56life .
15:57And you ?
15:59You too . Yeah .
16:00Well , at least you have a dog . Yeah .
16:02That's
16:05motherhood . What am I motherhood ? My
16:09mom is a
16:10boy with a dog . Damn , then yeah , then
16:14there's no chance of a good night out .
16:19Contextual dialogues certainly work
16:21better . And conversations with girls
16:22are much more enjoyable ; they respond
16:23better . But , as you can see , it's far
16:25more important whether a specific girl
16:27likes you and whether she's single . In
16:28both cases , no amount of context or
16:31preparation will help . Also , if a girl
16:33likes you and doesn't scare her off
16:35right away , even a stupid pick-up line
16:36can work . This way , we solve three
16:38problems at once . First , we start the
16:40conversation without romantic interest ,
16:42which reduces the tension . And the girl
16:45can first talk to us as a person , and
16:48then decide how suitable we are as a
16:50romantic potential object . Because even
16:53if a girl likes you , but not so much
16:55that she's madly in love , she can often
16:57say , " No. " Simply because on the street
16:58, you're often approached by inadequate
17:00people , all sorts of strange people ,
17:02guys she doesn't like and who don't
17:04know how to take the word " no . " So it's
17:06safer to say no and walk away than to
17:08take a risk , even if the guy is
17:10generally okay . Contextual dating
17:13solves this problem . It also solves
17:15this problem well when you approach two
17:17or three girls , because they feel safe
17:19there , it's easier for them to open up ,
17:21and they have more fun and excitement .
17:23Well , there are downsides , too . You'll
17:25probably feel more scared and not have
17:27more fun if you've been with one girl
17:29before .
17:29Hello . Hello .
17:31Hello .
17:31Great . I think this is the
17:34third time I've seen you . I think it's
17:36destiny . It's worth getting to know
17:38each other .
17:38And I'm a young man , of course . Yes ,
17:40I don't have a boyfriend .
17:45Sorry .
17:46Emilia ,
17:46Misha ,
17:47nice to meet you .
17:48Nice to meet you .
17:49Yes . What are you doing here anyway ?
17:51We were just taking some stupid photos .
17:55And uh , she's chasing after her . What
18:01else ? We're not doing anything .
18:04Convenient .
18:04And what are you doing ?
18:06No , nothing either . I came to a place
18:09to see people doing nothing .
18:11Ah , well , everyone doesn't do anything
18:12anymore ,
18:13because , yeah , there aren't enough days
18:14off . And why did everyone take so many
18:17photos ?
18:19They just turned out really stupid . Not
18:21like what we planned .
18:23Ah , well , in principle , I don't know
18:24how to take photos .
18:26In principle , a normal man shouldn't be
18:28able to take photos , in my opinion . But
18:31if a man can take photos , then he's
18:33probably gay . Or a photographer .
18:35A photographer is allowed . Well , either
18:39he's an actor ,
18:40or an actor . We're
18:41just actors .
18:42Ah , yeah ,
18:43yeah . Are you
18:44working yet or not ?
18:47No. Are
18:47you thinking sideways how old I am ?
18:50Mm ,
18:52let's say
18:53between nineteen and twenty .
18:59Yeah . Got it .
19:02How old are you ?
19:0332.
19:05. 32 years old , this one .
19:09What do you do ?
19:11Well , I generally consult people for
19:13money , and I work as a psychologist .
19:16I was just talking about them recently .
19:19In a good way .
19:20In a good way . Well , I hear very few
19:24good reviews from , well , psychologists ,
19:26men .
19:27Well , at least from girls .
19:31Well , for some reason it's considered
19:33that a man who's a psychologist should
19:34be kind of weird . On average .
19:38Well , yeah , there's something to that .
19:44That's
19:44why , when
19:46you studied psychology , did you study
19:47medicine or did you go into it ?
19:49No , no , in a regular pedagogical school
19:52.
19:53Yeah .
19:53No , medicine , of course , would have
19:55been cooler .
19:56Well , yeah , yeah . Psychology is a
19:57slightly different field . Yeah . Well ,
20:00that's also true , but it's more
20:01annoying there .
20:02Well , yeah ,
20:03although you probably get it even more .
20:05And are you studying to be actresses in
20:07both of them ? Not as doctors .
20:09Yeah , not as doctors . It's just that my
20:11parents are dentists . Well , in short ,
20:13it's third generation . Well , you have a
20:17family history , right , suffering ,
20:19right ? We all love to do that .
20:23Yeah . Well , it seems to me , well , at
20:26least , as people who studied to be
20:28actors tell me , that they do break down
20:31the personality so that later , so that
20:33later you can adapt to anything .
20:36That's it . And then , actually , come to
20:38me to somehow fix it , adjust it .
20:40Yes , that's what we do partly ,
20:43unfortunately .
20:45Yeah , well , I'm not a clinician ,
20:47unfortunately , that's why I have all
20:49this stuff — self-esteem , relationships
20:51, and all that . Yeah , listen , I should
20:54probably wait for a friend . If you
20:57don't mind , we can text each other ,
20:59then we can talk . Phone number
21:04now .
21:16Outline , yeah , it worked well before .
21:19Yeah . Okay , then good for you to do it .
21:26I'll wait for a friend too , I'll do
21:29nothing either .
21:30Bye .
21:32Bye . The
21:34second advantage of contextual dating
21:36is that it doesn't look like a conveyor
21:38belt , because it's clear , well , at
21:39least it seems like you approached her
21:41specifically . Girls much prefer the
21:44story that you were just going about
21:46your business , noticed her , even if you
21:48were a little nervous and hesitant , and
21:50then approached her specifically and
21:52met her . Than the story where you're so
21:55confident and don't give a damn , and
21:57then approach the tenth girl ? I'm her
21:59tenth . And her uniqueness lies only in
22:01the fact that she might not say no to
22:03you , and most likely she will for this
22:05very reason . And I want to believe in
22:07the first story , I want to be a part of
22:10it .
22:10Sorry to bother you . And how do you
22:13decide which book to take and which not
22:14? Which is worth it ?
22:16Well , I mostly take books that are ,
22:18well , online , that I've read about .
22:23Or about , like , what interests me ,
22:26about , how can I say , not diagnoses ,
22:28but how to
22:30complete the structure .
22:30Oh ,
22:32and you're studying , right ? Well ,
22:33something like that .
22:34No ,
22:35no .
22:35Well , and thirdly , we eliminate the
22:37rush . Well , and here , it seems to be
22:39both an advantage and a disadvantage :
22:40in a cafe , in a park , in a store , it
22:42works quite well . But if it's the
22:44subway , a station just outside , a bus
22:46stop there , or somewhere else , then
22:47contextual acquaintance will work less
22:49well simply because we don't have time
22:51for it . Well , the girl doesn't have
22:53time for that . Therefore , in this
22:55situation , a directive approach works
22:56better . Disobedient ,
22:58disobedient .
23:00Damn , that's a shame .
23:01I repeat , it's much more important
23:03whether the girl liked you from the
23:04very first seconds , physically , or not .
23:06Well , whether she's in a relationship
23:07or not , whether she's looking for
23:09someone , also plays a big role . So even
23:11if the girl is in a hurry , it doesn't
23:13mean you don't have a chance . It just
23:15means your chances will be slimmer
23:17there . And with a contextual
23:18acquaintance , where you have time , your
23:20chances will be better . Hi .
23:23Let's go .
23:23I don't know how to do this properly ,
23:25but I'd like to get to know you .
23:27I'm 15.
23:28Okay .
23:32Yeah , that happens too . Nothing wrong
23:34with it . A person doesn't have their
23:36age written above their head . You come
23:38up to her , find out how old she is ,
23:40turn around and walk away . No , I'm
23:42serious . You turn around and walk away .
23:43Well , unless you're 16 or 17 yourself .
23:46This , by the way , is another
23:48peculiarity of personal encounters ,
23:50because most girls on the street ,
23:52especially if it's a weekday and not
23:55too late in the evening , will be , well ,
23:58between 17 and 20 years old . And the
24:01second fairly common category is 35-40 .
24:05I wonder why this happens ? My guess is
24:08that those who are 25-30 are simply
24:10working hard at work . And this point is
24:13important to consider , well , depending
24:15on what age category you're aiming for .
24:27" Evening in the hut , " I would say , if I
24:29followed the advice of many high-school
24:31pickup artists like Leslie . Because ,
24:32unlike me , they don't believe that a
24:35low rejection price is necessary when
24:37dating . We need to make it easy for the
24:40girl to end the conversation with us ,
24:42unlike what old-school pickup artists
24:44teach , where they block the way , don't
24:46take rejection , and try to prove to the
24:48girl that they're worth talking to ,
24:50even to the point of following them and
24:52keeping up . By the way , creating an
24:55atmosphere of trust and safety is
24:56important not only when you're just
24:58getting to know each other , but also
24:59during the intimacy phase , including
25:00sexual ones , even if you're not meeting
25:02someone on the street but using an app
25:03like Pure , where people seem to be in
25:05the mood for it . The more you hint at
25:07sex , the less likely you are to have it
25:10, and vice versa . But that's a whole
25:12other , very interesting topic , which
25:14I'll discuss later . The problem here
25:16isn't just that the girl becomes
25:17intimidated and uncomfortable , and she
25:19becomes convinced that meeting someone
25:20on the street is inappropriate , but
25:22that under such pressure , they feel
25:23threatened . And even if she likes you ,
25:26but you're being too pushy and
25:28sexualized , it's easier to dump you
25:30just in case , even if you're
25:32potentially good , than to potentially
25:34endanger the health of that other
25:36person . And that's exactly how you look
25:39when you keep following her , blocking
25:41her path and making it difficult for
25:42her to leave you . Or rather , you craft
25:46your lines in a way that makes it
25:47awkward for her to refuse and dump you
25:49outright . Or when you're simply trying
25:52to convince her otherwise . And there's
25:54another point . The thing is , unless
25:56you're a psychopath , this pushiness and
25:58coercion is completely irrelevant , and
26:00it doesn't go away for you either ,
26:02because the more you push , the more the
26:04girl wants to distance herself and
26:06defend herself . And the more you push ,
26:08the more aggressively she'll do it , to
26:10the point of telling you off . And the
26:12aftertaste isn't the most pleasant , you
26:15know . It's important to understand that
26:17a girl's initial " no " is often
26:18automatic , because many are used to the
26:20idea that when someone approaches you
26:21on the street , nothing good awaits you .
26:23Heck , when someone approaches me on the
26:25street , I try to back off . I expect
26:27them to try to give me a tea tasting
26:29for half my salary , or ask me to buy
26:30Japanese knives that cost three times
26:32as much , or something else where I'll
26:34lose money . Recently , two hot girls
26:36stopped me downtown and wanted to take
26:38a rough photo of me . I resisted and
26:40tried to leave , but I didn't . Again ,
26:42looks matter . They were flattering me ,
26:44complimenting me . And the blonde was
26:46wearing a push-up bra under her shirt .
26:48Anyway , guys , I had no chance of
26:49refusing . So , if after your first
26:51sentence you hear " no , " it's important
26:53for the girl to understand that you
26:55heard and understood her refusal . But
26:57at the same time , if she doesn't run
26:59away from you , if she stands still ,
27:00it's worth saying something like , " Got
27:02it ? I don't want to force myself on her
27:03. " For me , meeting someone on the
27:05street isn't the most common situation
27:06either . Well , most likely , for you ,
27:08that will be true . So , if you really
27:10don't want to talk to me , just turn
27:11your head to the left , and I'll calmly
27:13leave . And I won't bother you . By this
27:16time , the girl will have had time to
27:18watch you speak , take a good look at
27:19you , make sure you're not drunk — and I
27:21hope you're not drunk — and can put
27:23words together . She understands that
27:25she can end the conversation with you
27:27at any moment , and if she's even
27:29slightly interested in you , she might
27:30well give you a chance to talk , if she
27:32has time . Or , conversely , after looking
27:34you over , she might realize that she
27:36doesn't want to talk to you . And that's
27:38good , too , because it saves both your
27:40time and hers .
27:40Hello . Hello .
27:42Hello . I was just going , so I'd like to
27:45talk to you . Agreed . No , unless you
27:50just don't want to ask questions . Yeah .
27:53That's
27:54how we can contact each other later . No
27:56, we need to get acquainted . No ,
27:58I understand you . Good . Having
28:00already agreed , so it's all around .
28:02Well , let's go then . Have a good
28:04evening . Bye . Paradoxically , when you
28:08give a girl the option to leave , when
28:11you explicitly state this , your chances
28:13of a successful encounter increase
28:15because you relieve the pressure , and
28:17the girl finally has the opportunity ,
28:19for once , to rely not on her fears and
28:21self-defense , but on her curiosity . If
28:24you act differently , like a pickup
28:26artist from the 2000s , you'll make her
28:29feel like a Hare Krishna trying to sell
28:31you the Gavad Gita or whatever it is
28:33they sell . Or , perhaps , someone who
28:35conducts social surveys , but in reality
28:37, they don't conduct any social surveys
28:40, and at the end of those ten questions
28:42, they'll also try to sell you some
28:43useless book . And by the way , I think
28:47you ( and I've sometimes been led astray
28:48by such stories ) , but if you're a
28:50reasonably attractive girl , pick-up
28:52artists and other strange people have
28:53approached you dozens of times in your
28:55life with such advances , and you learn
28:57that , just in case , it's better to say
28:59" no " and not communicate with these
29:00people , because later it will be
29:02difficult and awkward for you to refuse
29:04. You've already been there . That's why
29:08, when we create a sense of safety , we
29:10break this pattern . And how exactly
29:12will you create this sense of safety ?
29:14It's not that important . You can use
29:16any phrases , you can use mine . Again ,
29:18the main thing is to make it clear that
29:20the girl can always end the
29:21conversation with you without
29:22explanation . I wouldn't make
29:25superficial decisions between us .
29:30And then suddenly , unexpectedly for you
29:32, the girl doesn't run away , looks at
29:34you with interest and is ready to
29:35continue the conversation . What should
29:37you do and what should you talk about
29:38to maintain this interest ? Actually ,
29:40about anything , because that's in apps ,
29:42if you write : " Hi , how are you , what
29:43are you doing ? " It seems boring and
29:46unpleasant not because the phrases
29:48themselves are bad , but because dozens
29:50of guys besides you have already
29:52written the same thing . And you just
29:54don't want to answer everyone the same
29:56thing . And while these questions are
29:59boring on apps , when you're just
30:00chatting one-on-one , it doesn't evoke
30:02the same emotions . You already feel a
30:05slight thrill from the sheer discomfort
30:07of the situation . Getting to know each
30:09other isn't the most comfortable
30:10situation for both her and you . And
30:12there's no competition in the form of
30:14dozens of other conversations right now
30:17. And , actually , conversations are like
30:19this : Everyone's
30:20kind and looking great , wouldn't you
30:21like to meet them ?
30:22Oh , well , I don't know .
30:26I can , Dima , it's a pleasure . Yeah , I
30:30just saw them passing by and I was like
30:31, " Damn , on such an autumn day ,
30:36yeah ,
30:37and
30:39to see a pretty girl . Great !
30:41Thank you very much .
30:42Yeah . Are you waiting for your friend
30:44or not ? I'm
30:44here alone . Do you
30:46mind being informal ?
30:47No , I don't mind .
30:48Yeah , yeah . I was walking with a friend
30:50and , well , we decided to visit this
30:51place for the first time . This is my
30:53first time here , by the way . Me ,
30:54yeah , me too .
30:55Yeah . So I was thinking , this , what's
30:58it called , my God . New Holland . I've
31:00heard so much , but I've never been .
31:02Then I'll just sit here for a bit .
31:04Oh yeah .
31:06Where are you from anyway ? I'm
31:08more of a local . I'm from St.
31:10Petersburg .
31:10And
31:11I , well , I was actually born in Estonia
31:13. My parents , in short , lived there .
31:15But I'm not Estonian . My dad served
31:17there . And then we moved to St.
31:18Petersburg . So , I'm more of a dacha for
31:20me . And
31:21from Rostov ?
31:22Oh , damn , Rostov . And I'm Rostov , By
31:24the way , I went there often .
31:25Yeah ,
31:25yeah . The last time I went there , there
31:27was a hurricane . Maybe you heard about
31:28it . Yeah ,
31:29on the second day . I arrived on the
31:31second day . Well , more precisely , that
31:32hurricane happened on the second day .
31:34Totally unlucky . We usually have stable
31:37weather . It rarely rains there , it's
31:39mostly hot , sunny , generally very cool .
31:41Well , it's a southern country , yeah .
31:43Yeah , I felt with my St. Petersburg
31:45skin what 37 ° heat was like in the
31:47region .
31:48I was shocked .
31:4937 is still low . It's 50 there . Yeah ,
31:52normal ,
31:53right ? Yeah , 50. No , then I left in
31:56time .
31:56Yeah . No , then there Yeah . It was
31:58hotter . I arrived here , I think it's
32:00somehow cool here . I'm not used to the
32:02south at all .
32:04The further north you go , the more
32:05layers of clothing you have on every 6
32:07hours .
32:08Something like that .
32:09I also took this with me Uh-huh .
32:11a
32:12sweatshirt , like . Uh-huh .
32:13Because I don't know how It will be
32:15further . It was also supposed to rain
32:17here .
32:18Yes , that's for sure . Rain is a common
32:20thing here .
32:21Yes , I'm really surprised that I came .
32:23Yesterday it was sunny , today it's
32:25beautiful . I was looking at it , it's
32:27going to rain tomorrow .
32:30Well , yes , unfortunately , it's a common
32:31thing for St. Petersburg .
32:32Yeah . But it's still really cool here .
32:34I feel really , really
32:35cool . I'm totally stunned . I'm just
32:37saying this to Alexik . Wow , how did I
32:39not know this place for so many years ?
32:40It's
32:41really wonderful . It's been here for a
32:43long time , even on New Year's Eve .
32:46Oh , yeah , I've been here for about an
32:47hour , probably , somewhere . I walked
32:48around , sat , and even ate . By the way ,
32:50you can grab a good bite there , there's
32:51a good place like that . There . So if
32:53you get hungry , it's
32:54great there . There's some kind of
32:56Jewish cafe . Yes ,
32:57really Jewish . I only realized later
32:59from the posters with Jews that it was
33:01a Jewish cafe .
33:02Cool ,
33:03right ? Cool . I like it here . In general
33:06, how Europe is made in general .
33:07Yeah , Yes , yes , yes . It's really cool .
33:09Very beautiful . Firstly , it's like an
33:11island . And secondly ,
33:14you can , well , really relax here . It's
33:16a
33:16blast .
33:17Yeah .
33:17After the hustle and bustle of the city
33:19, you're welcome to come here . Mm-hmm .
33:21Yeah . And you , it turns out , study or
33:24work here ? Are you here ?
33:26Oh , mm , you came as a guest or as a
33:29visit , yeah .
33:30And for how long ? I'm
33:33leaving soon , I literally had a
33:35vacation , and I decided to come here
33:37and have a look , to unwind .
33:38Mm-hmm . Do you want to hug me on
33:40Telegram ? I still go to Rostov from
33:42time to time . I have , well , close
33:44people living there , yeah , so to speak .
33:46I've been to Rostov , well , this year
33:48I've been three or four times and I'll
33:49go again later . Oh , cool ,
33:50yeah , maybe somewhere in October ,
33:52November . Well , also for about a month .
33:54For a month ,
33:55well , or more , yeah . Well , I go there ,
33:57back and forth , back and forth .
33:58Study , work ?
33:59Not just with friends . It's like a
34:01vacation for me . I work as a
34:02psychologist , so sometimes , yes ,
34:04sometimes I need the Rostov air , so I
34:06don't have to leave .
34:08Yeah . No , well , it's cleaner , better
34:11and more pleasant ,
34:13yeah . Well ,
34:14it's just fresher here , or something ,
34:16because it's north , maybe I don't know .
34:19Well , I don't know , maybe it depends on
34:20the area . I'm already in this one in
34:22Rostov , in the very east , where I
34:24forgot this one , where else is this
34:26alpaca park .
34:27Yeah , I get it . It's , well , I get it .
34:29Proletarsky district , towards Aksai .
34:31Somewhere around there . Well , I thought
34:33it was fine . Well , like , okay .
34:35Okay . Yeah .
34:36And , Dania , do you want to hear from me
34:37on Telegram ? How do you like it ?
34:38Yeah . Go ahead .
34:39Yeah .
34:45The internet connection won't be great
34:47here . If I show you the cool stuff ,
34:51it'll be fine .
34:52Yeah , let's do the tests . Now I'll see
34:54if I can get there right away .
34:58Oh , and right now the internet is slow ,
35:06as usual . By the way , this jamming is
35:08really bad here . Really bad . It's
35:11really bad here in Rostov . I'm
35:12surprised how good the internet is . I
35:14don't even turn it off with a VPN .
35:15Everything works . Wow .
35:17No , well , it's here , yes . Okay , I mean ,
35:18it's jamming in Holland for some reason
35:20. Well , I'm actually switching right
35:23now , by the way , it seems .
35:26Yeah .
35:29And I also need to switch this VPN .
35:31Right , it won't work yet . I need to
35:33turn on Switzerland , Japan , and then
35:37Africa . By the way , there's no Africa ,
35:39by the way , for some reason .
35:42Now we're waiting . Is
35:45there Wi-Fi here , right ? I'm not sure ,
35:48by the way , he was in that cafe .
35:51Oh , I'm right . Yes ,
35:53yes , I'll send you that funny sticker
35:56there , the drug-addicted crocodile . I
36:00like sending them . Okay , I sent it . By
36:03the way , you barely recognize me there .
36:05The internet is gone . There's just no
36:07connection .
36:09Well , that's it , I'm saying , here .
36:10Something's going on here . This isn't
36:13just Holland . Yeah . Yeah .
36:15So , Oh . Okay , let's go then . I'm
36:19keeping your friend waiting here , so
36:21yeah .
36:22You can go over to him . I'm here .
36:24Yeah , well , we're going to have to go
36:26somewhere now . So ,
36:28if anything , write to me anyway .
36:29And over there , my crocodile has
36:30already arrived . Everything's great .
36:32Good .
36:33Yeah . So , just in case , I just ... Yeah ,
36:35I , as they say , different times and
36:36different things , yeah , but at the same
36:38time , it was time to get to know each
36:39other .
36:41As you can see , when the approach is
36:42successful , the girl herself joins the
36:44dialogue , asks questions . Sometimes she
36:46even draws him in when you're being
36:48slow . And that's exactly what you
36:50should focus on , and not try to wriggle
36:52like an eel in a frying pan or a
36:53professional pick-up artist whose goal
36:55is to make contact and win the girl
36:57over at any cost . And now it's time to
36:59write me comments that you're
37:00attractive and , damn , a psychologist .
37:02Well , all girls are interested in
37:04psychology . First of all , I'm all for
37:06it , definitely include it . And secondly
37:08, yes , I do have an interesting job
37:10that girls are interested in , but if
37:12you don't have one , at the very least ,
37:14maybe you have some hobbies , interests ,
37:17or interesting stories from your life
37:19that could also be interesting . If you
37:21don't have any of that in your life ,
37:22it's worth thinking about . Plan a
37:24spontaneous trip to Kazakhstan with
37:25friends for gas and a watermelon . Take
37:27a Highhills or massage course . Live in
37:29a Siberian village without a phone or
37:31electricity for 2 weeks . Take a
37:32videography or photography course . Work
37:34as a cosmetics salesperson for 2 months
37:36. Get a job with a fire or rescue
37:38department . Start learning Chinese . Go
37:40mushroom picking in the Carpathian
37:41Mountains . Get lost and accidentally
37:42cross the border into Romania . Add
37:44facets to your personality that can be
37:46connected to , so that it's enough for
37:47at least 2-5 minutes of conversation .
37:49Miracles , unfortunately , don't happen .
37:51And I don't I'm an infidel , promising
37:53you that even with personal work with
37:55me , a psychologist , you'll start to get
37:57things going . If you're bored with
37:59yourself , how will you be interested in
38:01a girl ? To be fair . Many of my clients
38:03have interesting life stories , and even
38:05interesting jobs , but they constantly
38:08devalue their achievements , their life
38:10path , focus on failures , or simply
38:11don't know how to present it
38:13interestingly . If that's your situation
38:15, then working here will be much easier
38:17. But if you have nothing going on in
38:19your life besides your home and a
38:21default job , I would start with that .
38:24Actually , if you just came to a
38:25psychologist , that's already an
38:27interesting story , and even more so if
38:28you go regularly . But enough
38:30self-promotion for today . And why am I
38:32even talking about all this ? Because
38:34there are guys who meet people on the
38:36street , but then start to panic in the
38:38situation itself , not knowing what to
38:40say next . So they say , " Oh-oh-oh , I'm
38:42in a hurry . " " Please give me your
38:43contact information , and we'll message
38:44each other later . " I've been like that
38:46myself . You can do that , but the impact
38:48of that kind of introduction will be
38:50significantly lower than if you've
38:51talked to a girl for at least three to
38:52five , or preferably even 10 minutes .
38:55That is , you've had a mini-date and
38:57become more than just a random guy to
39:00her , but at least somewhat familiar . In
39:03general , if you have time , and she has
39:04time , a mini-date over coffee at a
39:06nearby coffee shop is a perfectly good
39:08option . That is , your next meeting , if
39:11it happens , is essentially on her mind ,
39:13and will effectively be the second . So ,
39:16either her interest in you will greatly
39:18increase , and therefore , the chances of
39:19a second meeting will be much higher ,
39:21or , conversely , you'll find out you're
39:22not compatible , and that's also good .
39:25Because you won't be sitting there
39:27ruminating about , " Damn , what should I
39:28text now ? I got her contact information
39:30, but what should I do ? " Because I've
39:32also regularly found myself in this
39:34situation where you're really nervous ,
39:35like : Damn , I really need to get in
39:37touch so I don't completely melt in
39:38front of her . " You get in touch with
39:41the last of your strength , and then
39:42you're nervous for another two days ,
39:44wondering what to write about . You
39:45write some and painfully watch
39:47it fade away . Moreover , you don't
39:49necessarily have to fight the anxiety
39:50itself . You can accept it within
39:52yourself and even partially enjoy it as
39:54part of your existential experience . We
39:56discuss this topic in more detail in
39:58the social anxiety group . And in
39:59personal consultations as well . Alas , I
40:01can't drag this video out indefinitely .
40:05But okay , even if you don't have any
40:06funny stories from your life , and
40:08asking personal questions right off the
40:10bat is scary , I have a couple of tricks
40:12that I recommend to both clients and
40:14those people who contact me for various
40:16services . Eh , in general , of course , I
40:20should have created a Telegram bot ,
40:21warmed up some short course for 100
40:23rubles , so that you would then buy it
40:25and tune in to what I need to give
40:27Money . But somehow a decent education
40:30doesn't allow me to do such crap . Looks
40:32like I'll have to die in poverty . But
40:34let's move on to techniques . The thing
40:36is , meeting a girl doesn't have to be a
40:38one-way street , where you're trying to
40:39impress a girl , and she's leaning back
40:41in her chair like a judge on a voice
40:42show , wondering whether to press the
40:44red button or not . You can both play
40:45this game . For example , in my first
40:49successful meeting , I started the video
40:51when the girl had already said that she
40:53was basically in . I said , "
40:56Let's get acquainted . "
40:57Let's do it . Okay , that was totally
40:59unexpected , but I should have said that
41:01I have a boyfriend , that I'm in a hurry
41:03, and all that .
41:04Yeah , that's how I usually say it .
41:06Yeah . Well , okay , since we're already
41:09in this situation , we
41:10need to move on somehow . No ,
41:12yeah . There can be many variations of
41:14this phrase . And what do people usually
41:15do in this situation , maybe say ? Or
41:17maybe I should ask the right questions ,
41:19invite her for coffee ? Do you have Any
41:21ideas on how we can get out of this
41:22situation ? You include the girl in the
41:24game . You both find yourself in an
41:26unusual situation , and you're both
41:27looking for a way to resolve it . By the
41:30way , if it seems to you that I'm shy
41:31and embarrassed when approached in
41:32certain ways , and don't look like an
41:34alpha-dominant man , you're not
41:34imagining things , that's true . I'm
41:37really nervous , and meeting someone ,
41:38even though it's not a big deal , is
41:40still stressful . But at the same time ,
41:42it's also a pleasant excitement . And
41:43when it disappears , when guys start
41:45approaching you without a care , the
41:47effectiveness usually drops . By the way
41:49, not only effectiveness , but also
41:50pleasure , because you're not nervous at
41:52all in front of something that , as a
41:53rule , you don't need . Under the last
41:56video , there were quite a lot of
41:57comments of this kind , although not the
41:59majority , about how , yes , who would
42:00give in to such a reserved loser who
42:02doesn't talk about relationships ,
42:04doesn't talk about sex , but about some
42:05general things and doesn't come across
42:07as a dominant male . Well , how can you
42:09even want that ? As a rule , such
42:11Commentators only get to know each
42:12other in their imaginations and seduce
42:14the right and left hands in turn . So ,
42:16if I were the right hand , I would
42:18demand a slightly more lively foreplay .
42:20The left hand usually doesn't have such
42:22questions . She's easily accessible . You
42:24don't have to be an alpha male . Be dumb
42:27, be embarrassed , be shy . That's normal
42:30. Getting back to the topic , yes , you
42:32can use the phrases I mentioned , but
42:33it's better to come up with your own .
42:35The goal is to engage the girl in the
42:36game , to go beyond the conditions where
42:38you're some kind of dancing bird , and
42:40she sits and thinks , " Well , maybe yes ,
42:41maybe no . " Because you never know ,
42:43maybe this video will get as many views
42:45as the previous one , and a lot of
42:47people will start using this phrase : "
42:48But clichéd phrases don't work well . "
42:51Well , when they're repeated several
42:52times by different guys . But please
42:54leave a like and a comment anyway ,
42:57because then I can release a third part
43:00and give some more unique templates and
43:02techniques . And then you can like and
43:04comment . There's no need for this
43:06information to be purely for you . So
43:08discuss work , school , where you're
43:10going , tell her where you're coming
43:11from , how you even ended up in this
43:13square or country . Everything is fine
43:15in this country .
43:16The dragons have come . And you've come .
43:19Where did you come from ? From the south
43:21. You've come . That's good .
43:24Yes , at first it will be scary ,
43:25uncomfortable , and you might even
43:26forget some topics and facts from your
43:28biography , and even your name . But over
43:30time , the fear and anxiety will subside
43:31, and the effectiveness of your
43:33connections will increase . Ideally , you
43:34should reach a state where , like a
43:36child , you live in the moment : " Oh , I
43:38saw a girl , you liked her , you
43:39approached her , started talking to her .
43:41" Well , if she agreed , while you're
43:42having fun and interested . " It stopped
43:44being fun and interesting , I politely
43:46said goodbye and left . It's still
43:47interesting to communicate as much as I
43:48want . And if it remains interesting ,
43:51then you take contact , accepting your
43:53own stupidities , your discomfort , your
43:55anxiety , and even her nervous giggles ,
43:57embarrassment , and so on . Of course ,
44:00I'm giving an idealized picture to
44:02strive for , and I don't always succeed ,
44:04but it's worth keeping in mind . Yes , of
44:07course , after the actual meeting , there
44:09is correspondence and messaging . This
44:11topic is also important , and I will
44:13cover it in the future . And getting to
44:15either problem-free and warm
44:17acquaintances on the street or to
44:19adequate , pleasant correspondence for
44:21both of you is still a long journey .
44:23And what I've just voiced is more of a
44:25skeleton , onto which you will need to
44:27add flesh from your own experience and
44:29mistakes . Well , let's wrap this up . Let
44:31me remind you of the main points . First
44:32: what matters most isn't the phrase a
44:34guy approaches , but what kind of guy
44:35approaches . If you can invest in your
44:37appearance , hairstyle , and style to
44:39start looking above average , do it .
44:41Second . There will be rejections . There
44:43will be a lot of them , and that's
44:44normal . But it's important for both you
44:46and the girls that the rejections are
44:47gentle , so that the girls get used to
44:49the fact that guys can approach people
44:50on the street in a reasonable manner ,
44:52and so that you get positive reactions
44:53from girls even if you refuse . Third .
44:55Dating in context works best . If you
44:57can start a conversation with the book
44:59she's reading , with the anime on her
45:01hoodie , with what a nasty old man is
45:03standing in front of you at the clinic ,
45:05that's good , because such an
45:06acquaintance looks random , not forced ,
45:08and you want to believe in such a
45:09spontaneous story of acquaintance , you
45:11want to be a part of it . Fourth . Being
45:13shy , being stupid , and not being a
45:15confident alpha-salian is not only
45:16possible , but also beneficial . Our goal
45:18is not to appear cool when meeting
45:19people on the street . Our goal is not
45:21To seem like a dunce . Fifth . It's
45:23important to give the girl the
45:24opportunity to end the conversation
45:25with you without any problems . This
45:26gives her a sense of security and
45:27increases the chance that her curiosity
45:29will be piqued , rather than her fear of
45:31a stranger and intrusive person . Sixth .
45:33You can talk about the most ordinary
45:34and boring topics . It works well when
45:36you engage the girl in a game . So ,
45:38we've met , but what do people do next
45:40in this situation ? And seventh . If
45:42possible , talk to the girl for at least
45:445 minutes before making contact . I hope
45:46the video was helpful . Links to all my
45:48services , as usual , are in the
45:49description . If you want to see part
45:51three , well , I'll tell you by the likes
45:53, comments , and , basically , engagement .
45:55In this video . And until next time ,
45:57friends .