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0:00You form a connection with a woman by
0:01not trying to form a connection. All of
0:03the that you've been taught, oh,
0:05you got to find like a common ground.
0:06Oh, you got to buy flowers for her. You
0:08got to be loyal to her. And you got to
0:10never cheat on her. You got to be so
0:12nice and sweet and kind and talk about
0:14your past and have all this depth to
0:15you. That's going to create a connection
0:17because then it's like if you guys are
0:19meant for each other, you guys are going
0:20to be so connected. No, connection is
0:22attraction. That's it. First of all,
0:24understand this. You have to understand
0:26that this connection that everybody
0:28talks about is just attraction. If she's
0:30attracted to you, she feels a
0:32connection. That is the connection she
0:34feels. She's attracted to the bad boy.
0:36She's attracted to the guy that doesn't
0:38care about her. That's why she feels a
0:41connection. If there is no attraction,
0:44there is no connection. So, how do you
0:46build attraction? You build attraction
0:48on a date. on your first date. It's
0:52totally opposite of everything you've
0:55been taught. They will tell you, "You
0:56got to sit down. You got to be deep,
0:58meaningful. You got to talk about things
0:59that are interesting. You got to give
1:01her your whole backstory and tell her
1:03about the things you want to do in the
1:04future and talk about what kind of
1:06career you want to pursue." And all of
1:07this is just crap. What you have to do
1:10is you have to not form a connection. By
1:13not trying to build a connection, you
1:15build a connection. That's how it works.
1:17Because you see, if you're attractive,
1:19you don't need to chase. You already
1:21are. You already exist. You just are.
1:26You being there is enough. Your time and
1:28your energy, the fact that you're
1:29spending that night with her is enough.
1:31You at face value for you to do any
1:34amount of convincing, right? It's just
1:37you trying to convince her that you're
1:39attractive. It's just you. If something
1:41is attractive, it doesn't need to
1:42convince anybody that it's attractive.
1:44If you are attractive, you don't need to
1:47convince her of anything. You already
1:48are. You got all the options. You are
1:50the man. You are number one. Anytime you
1:53try to tell her what you want to achieve
1:54in life. It's just you trying to prove
1:56yourself. A man who is already wealthy
1:57and rich and is abundant and has
1:58everything doesn't feel the need to
1:59prove himself. He sits down on the date
2:01and this is what you do. Very simple.
2:03You sit down. You enjoy the weather. You
2:06enjoy the food in front of you. You
2:08don't get deep. You don't get all
2:10philosophical. You don't talk about your
2:12why and your ifs, ands, and buts. You
2:16don't talk about any of these things.
2:18You have to just relax. You have to just
2:20chill out. Just have fun. Keep it
2:22low-key. Keep it surface level. Because
2:24that is a man who isn't trying to prove
2:26himself. And you know what kind of man
2:27isn't trying to prove himself? A man who
2:28is already valuable. Why? Why?
2:32Everything you've been taught indicates
2:34one thing and one thing only. Low
2:37options. Buying flowers for her. Low
2:39options. Opening the car door. Low
2:40options. trying to suck up to her, low
2:42options. Doing whatever she asks for,
2:44low options. Going on the date and
2:46trying to be a good boy and trying to be
2:47nice and kind and sweet and respectful,
2:48low options. You know what kind of man
2:51is attractive? A man who has value. A
2:57man who has value is attractive. What is
2:59your value built through? Looks, money,
3:02status. That is what your value is built
3:05by. Now, here's the thing. When you have
3:07all those things, those are resources.
3:09Every woman wants resources. So if you
3:11build your looks, money, and status, you
3:13increase your value. When your value
3:14goes up, right? You have more resources.
3:17Now, when you have more resources, the
3:18more resources you have, the more your
3:20value goes up, the more women want to
3:21date you. So, as your value goes up,
3:23your options go up. Meaning, if you
3:26demonstrate that you have a lot of
3:28options,
3:29you can inflate your perceived value.
3:32This is the secret. You have to
3:34understand this. If you sit down on a
3:37date and you don't care, don't care to
3:39prove yourself, don't care to form a
3:41connection, you are now attractive. Why?
3:43Because attraction is based on how
3:45valuable you are. The more valuable you
3:47are, the more attracted she's going to
3:50be to you. How do you make yourself
3:52valuable? Well, you can do it the hard
3:54way. You can go out there for 10 years
3:57and build a multi-million dollar
3:58company, hustle, looks, money, status,
4:01go to the gym every day of your life for
4:02three years straight. Yeah, you can do
4:04all of that.
4:05But there's a way to bypass all of this.
4:09How do you do that? How do you bypass
4:11all of this? I'll tell you, it's very,
4:13very simple. All you have to do is not
4:17care. Because you see, if you had a
4:19bunch of options and you sat down on a
4:20date, you have a bunch of options. You
4:23always go out on dates with tens. You
4:26always say whatever you want to say. You
4:29don't care because you have a bunch of
4:30options. You can easily replace girls.
4:32If someone has an issue with something,
4:34fine, replaced.
4:36So now what happens is you sit down on a
4:38date and instead of proving yourself,
4:40you just you're you're in the moment.
4:41You're enjoying the weather. You're
4:42talking about the food. Surface level
4:44stuff. Nothing deep. You're not trying
4:46to prove yourself. Not trying to talk
4:47about your goals and dreams. She thinks
4:48you already accomplished your goals and
4:49dreams. When you don't try to talk about
4:51your goals and dreams, she thinks you
4:52already accomplished your goals and
4:53dreams. She thinks you're already
4:54valuable. She thinks you're already
4:56successful. Why? Because a successful,
4:58valuable man is a man who has a lot of
5:01options. A man who has a lot of options
5:03is a man who doesn't care to prove
5:04himself. It's a man that doesn't care to
5:06connect. It's a man that doesn't care
5:07he's on a date with a 10 because he
5:08always goes on dates with tens cuz he's
5:10got options.
5:12So, if you just act like you don't care,
5:15if you just don't take care in any of
5:18these things that everybody tells you to
5:20care about, well, guess what? Now she
5:22goes, "Oh, he must have a lot of
5:23options. Oh, he must go out on dates
5:25with women all the time, as pretty as
5:27me, if not prettier."
5:29And now she goes,
5:32"He's valuable." Even though you're
5:35broke, you live in your mom's basement,
5:37and you smoke weed all day, she still
5:39thinks you're valuable. I'll give you an
5:40example. A guy with looks, money, and
5:42status, can go on a date, 6'5,
5:46good-looking guy with the same woman.
5:48You go on a date with her, too. You live
5:50in your mom's basement, smoke weed all
5:51day. You have nothing going for you. You
5:52go on that date, and that guy goes on
5:53that date. That guy after the date goes,
5:55"I had such a great time. We should do
5:57this again." And on the day he was
5:58trying to connect and he was talking
6:00about all these deep things and why he
6:01is the way he is. You just sat down. You
6:03came ate your food.
6:08Tastes so good. Oh, the weather is so
6:10beautiful today. Got up and left after
6:13the date. Didn't text her. Nothing. Not
6:15know. Oh, we should do this again. None
6:16of that. For a week you didn't talk to
6:19her. Guess what? She's going to text
6:21you. She's not going to text that other
6:23guy because that other guy showed that
6:24he never goes out on dates with girls as
6:26pretty as her. Because if he did, he
6:27wouldn't care about, "Oh, we should do
6:29this again. It was so nice that he
6:31wouldn't. He wouldn't care. It's just
6:32another day. It's just another day. Who
6:34cares? He doesn't care." But you you
6:38actually didn't show that you care. You
6:41actually show that you didn't care. You
6:43showed a lack of
6:47care. And now she goes, "Oh, he always
6:49does this. Oh, he always goes on dates
6:50with tens. Oh, he must always get laid.
6:53He must have so much abundance, so much
6:55attention from women. That's why he
6:56doesn't care to say, "Oh, let's do this
6:57again." He doesn't pursue me. Obviously,
7:00she doesn't make all this conscious
7:01calculation. But what she does is she
7:02goes, "Why doesn't he care? Why does all
7:05all why do all these other guys care so
7:07much? They always want to reschedule.
7:08They always try to form this connection.
7:10They all try so hard. And this guy
7:11didn't care. He sat down on the date. He
7:12paid for it. He didn't care. He had fun.
7:15He just talked about surface level
7:16stuff. He ate his food. He enjoyed it.
7:18He enjoyed the weather. And he just
7:20left. And he went about and he's
7:21continuing to live his life like as if
7:23it never happened." And she goes, "That
7:25man must have so many options." What
7:27does that mean? If you have a bunch of
7:28options, it means you must be valuable.
7:30And if you're valuable, the higher value
7:32you are, the more attractive you are.
7:35That's it. Now, she looks at you as the
7:36most attractive guy. This is all it is.
7:39You don't text her after the date. You
7:41don't tell her how great it was on the
7:43date. You don't try to connect. You
7:44don't try to form any amount of deep
7:46conversation. Nothing. You just don't
7:48care. It is just another Friday evening.
7:51You sat down 10 out of 10, but you
7:54always go out on 10. So to you, she's a
7:56three. To you, she's a three. Now she
8:00wants you. Because if she's the three
8:01and you're the 10, she wants you. She
8:03wants you. Cuz every other guy is a
8:04three just like her. Pursues her, gets
8:07on his knees, does everything for her,
8:08buys her flowers at the beginning of the
8:09date. Oh, here you go. Cuz she's so
8:11beautiful, right? And her beauty
8:14controls these men. Her beauty
8:16influences these men to act in a way
8:19where they show desperation. everything
8:20you've been taught. Buy her flowers, be
8:22nice to her, be respectful. Look, it's
8:23not that women hate men who are
8:25respectful. It's not that women hate
8:26nice guys. It's that when you're nice,
8:28what it indicates is that you never get
8:29laid. Because you see, if you always got
8:31laid, you wouldn't care to be nice. You
8:33would just say whatever comes to your
8:34mind. This is why the bad boys are
8:36attractive. It's not because they want
8:37men that are they it's not because women
8:40are attracted to men who are
8:41disrespectful. Women are not attracted
8:42to disrespect and all this The
8:44reason is if a man shows a lack of
8:48empathy, a lack of care, and a lack of I
8:50don't like I don't care if I hurt your
8:52feelings. What does that mean? That he's
8:54not afraid if she likes him or not. He
8:56he's not afraid of her rejecting him.
8:59He's not afraid of this girl going, you
9:00know what? I don't want to talk to this
9:02guy anymore cuz he's rude. And now she
9:04looks at him and she actually wants him
9:06now. Now she actually does like him
9:08because she goes, "Well, if he doesn't
9:09care to appeal to me, then that means he
9:11can just easily replace me. He doesn't
9:12see anything special in me, which means
9:14he has girls like me around him. He has
9:16girls as pretty as me around him. All of
9:19this caring that you're doing. And you
9:21guys, you guys take this into your
9:22relationship. Like after the first few
9:24dates, after you actually start to see
9:25the woman, like midame, endgame, you
9:28guys still care about everything. And
9:29all this does is it lowers your
9:30attraction because the more you care,
9:32the lower amount of options you
9:34demonstrate you have. And the lower the
9:36less options you have, the less
9:38perceived value you create. And the less
9:40perceived value you have, the less
9:42attraction there is. Your attraction,
9:43her attraction for you is directly
9:45correlated to how valuable she thinks
9:46you are. If she thinks that you have no
9:48value, she has no attraction. Therefore,
9:50there is no connection. You form a
9:52connection by not pursuing. You form a
9:53connection by not trying to form a
9:54connection because then you are
9:56attractive. Because you see, an
9:57attractive man doesn't need to form
9:59anything. An attractive man is abundant.
10:00An attractive man exists. He just is.
10:03And that's enough. And that's it. That's
10:05what attraction is. attracting is you
10:07bringing things to to yourself, not you
10:09chasing, not you trying to validate, not
10:11you trying to say, "Here's here's who I
10:13am. Here's how I grew up. Here's what I
10:14believe in." D none of that. And then
10:18you guys will get into a relationship
10:19with a woman and then now it's like it's
10:22endgame, right? It's like it's backend
10:24game where it's you maintaining the
10:25girl. she's already her girlfriend and
10:27she'll do something like go to the club
10:29or she'll dress provocatively and all
10:31she's doing is just testing to see if
10:32you're still the valuable man she fell
10:34in love with and you always prove that
10:37you aren't you aren't that guy. It was
10:39all a facade, right? Like you guys can
10:41do this right at the first few dates and
10:42then later because you've known her for
10:44a while you start to care and then she
10:45does something like go to the club or
10:47hang out with another guy or something.
10:48You get what I'm saying? Of course. Yes,
10:50it's disrespectful. Yes, there's a
10:52limit. Like if she's one-on-one with
10:53another dude, cut her off cuz that's
10:55like a ridiculous amount of disrespect
10:56being tolerated. If she cheats on you,
10:58yes, you can never talk to her again.
10:59But let's say she does something petty.
11:01Like she goes out with her friends to
11:02the club. She knows she's not supposed
11:04to do it. She texts you, "Hey, can I
11:05go?" Look, you say, "Okay, you let her
11:07go." Cuz any amount of you saying, "No,
11:09don't do it." Shows what? A lack of
11:11options. You're afraid. You're afraid.
11:13You care. You care. Any amount of care
11:15shows that you lack options to replace
11:17her. Like, if you had a bunch of girls
11:19around, you wouldn't care what she does.
11:20You just let her do it. And then that's
11:21what will get her to stop doing it.
11:23That's what will get her to stop doing
11:24it. That you don't care. She goes, "Why
11:26doesn't he care?
11:27Does he have other options? Is he losing
11:30interest in me? Is he going to replace
11:31me with another girl? Is he Is he
11:32cheating on me that he doesn't care
11:34anymore for me to be the perfect girl
11:35because he found someone better?" That's
11:37it. Because as long as you demonstrate
11:40options, you increase your perceived
11:42value, and you grow attraction, she'll
11:44act right. She won't disrespect you.
11:46She'll stop going to the club. She'll
11:48stop doing all these things that get
11:49under your skin. But every time you try
11:50to convince her to stop doing something,
11:52every time you try to convince her to
11:54act a certain way, you show her that you
11:55care. When you show her that you care,
11:56you show her that you lack options. You
11:58lack options better than her. Because
11:59this is the thing, you wouldn't care how
12:01she acts. You wouldn't be afraid to lose
12:02her. You wouldn't be afraid to let her
12:03do whatever the hell she wants to do if
12:04you could just replace her. You would
12:06not care. The more you care, the more
12:07you indicate you're low on options. The
12:09more you indicate you're low on options,
12:11the more you indicate that you don't
12:12have a lot of value. And the less value
12:14you have, the less attractive you are.
12:15And then there's no connection. And then
12:16she goes, "Ah, I don't know. I don't
12:18feel the spark anymore. She sends you
12:20that long paragraph. I don't know if
12:21things are going to work out. And then
12:22you get all jittery and you get all, "Oh
12:24my god, no. Let's make this work." And
12:26then now she leaves you permanently
12:28because again, now you demonstrated a
12:30lack of options again because a man with
12:32options, what would we do? He just say,
12:33"Okay, you want to end things? Fine.
12:34Just replace her." You fail everything
12:36because you constantly demonstrate a
12:38lack of options. And you're always
12:40trying to build this connection. You
12:41think you're like in a movie. You think
12:43you're in a Disney in a Disney fairy
12:46tale. You think like if you do all these
12:48romantic acts, it's going to attract the
12:50woman. No, because it drops your value.
12:52Because you would only do all those
12:53things if you care. And any amount of
12:55care shows a lack of options. Lack of
12:58options equals unattractive. That's it.
13:01That's all you got to understand. form a
13:03connection by not trying to form a
13:05connection