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0:00Look, you've got to stop being
0:01desperate. I don't think you understand
0:02how far this goes. You guys hear this
0:03advice all the time, but the thing is
0:05the way it's put is in a generic way.
0:07Oh, just don't double text her. Oh, just
0:08But why? Why? Don't double text her.
0:11Why? Don't show her love. Why? You want
0:13to buy her flowers. You want to call
0:14her. You want to be with her all the
0:16[ __ ] time. So why? Why should you not
0:18do it? You have to understand the
0:20fundamental reason why you should never
0:21do these things. Listen, if you're going
0:23to double text her right now, it's not
0:25showing how much you love her. It's not
0:27showing how much you care about her.
0:28It's just showing one thing and you
0:30demonstrating this one thing is
0:33destroying all of your value. You have
0:34to understand the core. I'm going to
0:35tell you what the core is. If you do not
0:37internalize this core, you will never
0:39ever ever have a successful
0:40relationship. You have to always monitor
0:42this core. You can never turn your
0:44yourself blind to this core. And the
0:46core the core it's not looks, money, and
0:49status. It's it's none of those things.
0:51The core is options. A man's value is
0:55determined by how many options he has.
0:58If you look at a man with a 100 women
1:00versus a man with no women, the man with
1:02a 100 women is perceived as higher
1:03value. A woman calculates your value
1:06based on your amount of options. Now
1:09look, when you double text, that shows
1:10desperation. When you sit there and you
1:12get emotional about something that she
1:14told you or you tell her what to do and
1:16what not to do, or you tell her you have
1:17a problem with her going to the club or
1:18you have a problem with her hanging out
1:20with guy friends, she looks at you and
1:21she goes, "You don't have options. If
1:23you don't have options, you don't have
1:24value. If you don't have value, you
1:26cannot be attractive. Everything is
1:28transactional. You have to get this out
1:30of your mind that love is like it's it's
1:32either meant to be or it's not meant to
1:33be and it just like this is like this
1:35magical thing in the universe. No, it is
1:37a system. It is a biological it is a
1:40system. Attraction is created to help us
1:43reproduce to ensure our survival.
1:45Meaning there is a structure. Something
1:47is better than another thing. There is a
1:50certain trait that is better than
1:51another trait. and she filters these
1:53things out and figures out which man has
1:55the best traits. Now, she can't go into
1:56your DNA. But you know what she can do?
1:58She can see how intelligent, competent,
2:01smart, and resourceful is this man.
2:04Because guess what? If you are
2:05intelligent, smart, and resourceful, you
2:08most likely are wanted and desired by
2:10many women. And if you're desired by
2:12many women, guess what? You aren't going
2:15to be desperate and send that text
2:16message. You're going to hold off on it.
2:18You don't care. This girl leaves, fine.
2:20I can replace you. Now she looks at you
2:22and she goes, "This guy is not
2:23desperate. Every other guy I've ever
2:24been with begged begged for me not to go
2:26to the club. Begged for me not to hang
2:28out with my guy. Always got emotional
2:30when I sent him paragraphs. Always
2:31always had an issue with the things I
2:33did and always got emotionally
2:35stimulated. He double texted me. He
2:37always pursued me. Always chased me.
2:39That's why she's not with that guy.
2:41That's why she's not with that dude."
2:43Because she looked at him. She go she
2:44went, "This guy doesn't have options.
2:46Cuz if he did, he would never ever do
2:48this." Now, this is the thing. Women
2:49don't understand this. This is all
2:50subconscious.
2:52But that's why they tell you, "Oh, I
2:55want flowers. Oh, I want you to call me
2:56all the time. Oh, I want you to be my
2:58best friend. And I want you to always,
2:59you know, care about everything." You
3:01know what she's doing by saying those
3:02things? She literally just wants to see
3:04if you are or you aren't high value.
3:08A high value man would never listen to
3:10what a woman says she wants. He wouldn't
3:13listen to her criteria because he
3:15doesn't have to. Because why? Why? for a
3:18very simple reason that he has options.
3:21He's busy. He's got things to do. If a
3:24woman comes to him and goes, "I need
3:25flowers and I need this and at this time
3:26I need you to do this, this, this, this,
3:27this, this, this." He goes, "I have
3:30other options." Girls just as pretty as
3:33you. Okay? Just as funny as you that
3:35don't require me to do all those things.
3:36Save me time and allow me to continue
3:38focusing on what I'm doing. I don't need
3:40you. You know what the funny part is
3:41about that? That's actually going to get
3:43her the change. All of you guys that
3:44tell your girl don't go to the club. All
3:46of you guys that tell your girl, "Don't
3:47hang out with guys." You sit her down.
3:48You have a logical conversation with
3:49with you. The way you get her to stop
3:52doing things is you make her fear losing
3:54you if she doesn't stop. You do not tell
3:57her, "I'm going to leave you if you
3:59don't stop." That doesn't make her fear
4:00losing you. Because you would only say
4:03that, "I'm going to leave you if you
4:04don't stop." If you care about losing
4:06her, if you didn't care to lose her, you
4:07wouldn't tell her anything. You would
4:09let her go. And what you would do is you
4:10would go talk to other women. And then
4:12she would look at you and she goes, "Oh
4:14my god, he every guy I've ever been with
4:17had such an issue with me going to the
4:18club or hanging out with other guys. And
4:20this guy doesn't care. Is he talking to
4:21other women? Is he losing interest? Is
4:24he about to break up with me?" Bang.
4:26You've raised attraction because you've
4:28demonstrated options through a lack of
4:30care. The fact that you don't care to
4:31lose her demonstrates you must have
4:32options. You must be able to replace
4:34her. And if your options go up, your
4:36attraction goes up. Why? Because the
4:37more options you have, the more value
4:38you have. The more value you have, the
4:39more attractive you are. That's it. You
4:41have to understand this. Stop telling
4:42her what to do. Stop telling her where
4:44to go. Stop telling her how to act. If
4:46you just stop caring. Cuz look, think
4:48about it. If you were a man who was
4:50valuable, the more valuable you are as a
4:52man, the more dating options you have.
4:54The more dating options you have,
4:57the less you would care about one girl,
4:59you wouldn't care what this girl is
5:00doing because you could replace her
5:01because you have a bunch of options. You
5:03can switch her out. So, you wouldn't
5:04care. Oh, but she's doing this and I
5:06need her to This is disrespect. She's
5:08not even disrespecting you. This is the
5:09thing. Guys need to stop blaming women.
5:11You need to stop being mad at her. She's
5:12just a woman. She's testing to make sure
5:14that you are a valuable man. The only
5:16way she's going to make sure that you
5:17are valuable is by testing and seeing
5:18how desperate you are. Because if you
5:20are desperate, she goes, "This man
5:22doesn't have options." And if you don't
5:23care, she goes, "This man does have
5:24options, and I want him cuz he's
5:26valuable." Look, let her go do whatever
5:28she wants. Stop tripping about it. Stop
5:32sitting there and worrying about it.
5:33Relax. Calm down. Most of the time, it's
5:36just a test. It's just a test. She
5:39doesn't understand. She's testing you,
5:41but you need to be above the situation.
5:43You see, guys always tell me, "If you
5:45guys really loved each other, you
5:46wouldn't have to play all these games.
5:47You're not playing games cuz you are do
5:49you're you're you're lacking action. I'm
5:51not telling you to go talk to her. I'm
5:52telling you to do nothing. That is not
5:54playing games. That's doing nothing."
5:56Well, but that's manipulation. No, it's
5:57not manipulation. You know what is
5:59manipulation? You buying her flowers and
6:00always being there for her and being on
6:02FaceTime with her all the [ __ ] all the
6:03all the [ __ ] time. You giving her all
6:05the time in the world. That's
6:07manipulation to try and get her to like
6:08you. You just pulling back and you're
6:10doing nothing. When she doesn't act
6:12right, you go and sleep with other
6:14women. That is not a game. That's just
6:16you being a man and you're not falling
6:20victim to her tests. That's it. Stop
6:22falling victim victim to her tests. Most
6:24of the time, she isn't even doing it out
6:26of a place of disrespect.
6:28She just doesn't value you enough. So,
6:30what you need to do is you need to
6:31increase your value through incre
6:32increasing attraction. And the way you
6:34increase your value or your perceived
6:36value is through demonstrating options.
6:38You can sleep with another girl. You can
6:40cheat on her. That does demonstrate
6:41options and that does raise attraction
6:42and that does get her to act right
6:43regardless of what you heard. If you
6:44watch my other videos, you know what I'm
6:46talking about. But another way you can
6:47do it is just by having a lack of care.
6:49Just stop caring so much about
6:50everything. Just relax. Live your life.
6:52Focus on what you're supposed to focus
6:53on. Focus on retiring your parents.
6:55Focus on your future. Focus on your
6:56finances. Focus on your life. That's it.
7:00Easy. Finished. Done. Now you're winning
7:03every single time. She acts right. She's
7:04respectful. She fears losing you. So she
7:06never steps out of line.
7:09You You got to understand any amount of
7:11chasing, any amount of you having a
7:13logical conversation with her is you
7:15pursuing her. Any amount of you pursuing
7:16her shows that you have a lack of
7:18options. Or maybe you don't have a lack
7:19of options, but you have a lack of
7:20options better than her, which has the
7:22same effect. If she knows you can't do
7:24better than her, she goes, "I have all
7:25the power." She has all the power. She
7:27knows you can't do better than her. So
7:28she goes, "He can't afford losing me
7:30because he can't replace me. If I'm
7:31irreplaceable, I can do whatever I want
7:33and there's nothing he can do. What is
7:34he going to do? Leave me. He doesn't
7:36want to leave me because there is nobody
7:38better. This is why marriage is
7:39obsolete. All of you guys want to get
7:40married. When you marry a woman, she
7:42goes, I'm the best. You not you're
7:44telling her I am, you're telling her
7:46that she is the best by marrying her.
7:47Now she goes, I have all I have all the
7:49power over you. I have full control over
7:51you. I can do whatever I want. I can say
7:52whatever I want. What are you going to
7:54do? Not only do you not want to lose me
7:55because I'm the best. You can I can also
7:58now take your money and I can take your
8:00entire life away from you. So you've
8:04given her legal power and you've given
8:06her psychological power. It is obsolete
8:08this entire idea of marriage. So look,
8:10do not send her that text message.
8:12Relax. I promise you she's going to text
8:14you back. Another thing that guys always
8:17mess up. A woman will text you all these
8:19paragraphs cuz if a lot of you guys
8:21don't don't have haven't been watching
8:23me and don't understand what I'm talking
8:24about. If a lot of you guys look, if you
8:26haven't been watching me, you've been
8:27making all these mistakes because I'm
8:28the only one that understands this full
8:30circle, understands this to this level.
8:32So listen to me. Listen to me because
8:33you are not going to find this anywhere
8:35else. You are making all the mistakes.
8:38Up until this point, you didn't
8:39understand that everything is a test. So
8:41now that you know everything is a test
8:42and now that you understand how to play
8:43the game and you understand how to
8:44react, let me tell you this. The reason
8:47why she's sending you those longass
8:48paragraphs talking about, I don't know
8:49if things are going to work out, talking
8:50about, oh, you know, maybe we should
8:51take a break is because you've been
8:53failing all the tests. So now she's
8:54thinking, I don't think this man is the
8:56best man I can have. I think I should
8:58exit. So now she's looking to see. She
9:00still likes you. So you still have a
9:01chance here. But the reason she's doing
9:03this is because she doesn't really want
9:05to leave you because maybe she does like
9:07you a little bit. But she goes, "You
9:09know what? He's failed all the tests.
9:10I'm going to give him one more chance to
9:12see if if to test if he's really
9:15strong." And what you're going to do,
9:16what most guys do is they get all
9:17reactive here. No, let's fix things. No,
9:19let's let's make things work. No, no,
9:20no. It's okay. I can spend more time
9:21with you. I'll take some days off work.
9:23Nope. All wrong. That's it. That right
9:26there every single time will end the
9:27relationship for good, permanently. I
9:30have never had a client come to me with
9:32that situation where they said, "Let's
9:35fix things." And it didn't fall apart.
9:37It always fell apart. So, here's what
9:40you do. Listen to me because I want this
9:44to work out for you. So, listen. All you
9:47do, she sends you that long ass
9:48paragraph talking about I don't know how
9:49things are going to work. The only way
9:51to get her back into I want to stay with
9:53this man is to become attractive. You
9:55become attractive through demonstrating
9:57value. You demonstrate value through
9:59demonstrating options. You demonstrate
10:01options through a lack of care. The text
10:03message you send to reply to her is
10:07okay.
10:09Okay. And if you're really really
10:12pathetic and you really feel like you
10:13want to say a little bit more, because a
10:15lot of you guys I'll tell you to say
10:16okay and you guys will say okay and then
10:17you'll send another paragraph after
10:18that. No, you literally just say okay.
10:20And if you really want to add a little
10:21bit to it, you can say okay if that's
10:24what you want. Done. You do not
10:26communicate after that. She's going to
10:28start blowing up your phone. She might
10:31not even she might not even text you for
10:32two or three days because she's still
10:34texting you. And then watch, she will
10:36break. If you just leave it at that, she
10:39will break every single time. Every
10:42single person that I have taught, every
10:44single person that I have coached
10:47100% success rate me 100% success rate.
10:51This ideology, this entire
10:55psych psychological,
10:58I don't even know what to call it. It's
10:59gold. It is unreal that I have put
11:02together has never failed once. You are
11:06going to do this. You are going to
11:07implement this and it is going to play
11:09out exactly how I just told you.
11:11Exactly. Word for word. Watch. I dare
11:17you. I promise you. I have put my life
11:20on it that this is 99%
11:25of situations. So listen, listen to me.
11:29Do not send that text message. Don't
11:32send that long paragraph. Do not double
11:34text. Do not try to fix things.
11:36Stop getting reactive. Stop telling her
11:38what to do. Stop
11:40giving a [ __ ] about whether she goes to
11:42the club or whatever the hell she does.
11:45Let it all go. I want you to stop
11:47caring. When she texts you and she wants
11:51to communicate with you, fine.
11:52Communicate back to her. I'm not telling
11:53you to ghost the girl. I'm saying only
11:56communicate when she initiates
11:58communication. If she isn't texting you,
12:01there's no reason for you to text her,
12:02"How's your day?" D. Just shut the [ __ ]
12:05up.
12:06and just let things go. Lack of care.
12:09Watch. You're going to start winning the
12:10relationship. You're going to start
12:11having all the leverage. You are going
12:13to be the man. I promise you.