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0:00Look, I know you're miserable, and I
0:01know this sucks. I don't know you don't
0:02want to be in this point in the
0:04relationship where things are kind of
0:05fizzling out, and you don't know if
0:06things are going to last. And now she's
0:07threatening to break break things off
0:09and end things.
0:10A lot of guys end up in this situation,
0:12and it's very simple why. They make a
0:13bunch of mistakes.
0:15They decrease the attraction that the
0:17woman has for them, and then they end up
0:19in this situation. They don't understand
0:20how they got here. So, listen. I've come
0:22up with a whole entire plan for how
0:24we're going to get this girl to be
0:25attracted to you again. You have to
0:27listen to me. You have to understand
0:29this because if you don't, this is going
0:30to continue happening to you over and
0:32over and over and over again with every
0:34woman that you go out with, every woman
0:35that you date, every woman that you say
0:37she's the one, it's not going to ever
0:39last if you don't understand this.
0:41So, look. She's threatening to end
0:42things.
0:44First, you have to diagnose the problem.
0:46Why is this happening? Because if you
0:48don't understand why this is happening,
0:49it's going to continue happening. So,
0:51you need to understand exactly why this
0:53woman has gotten to the point where she
0:55is questioning whether she should be in
0:57a relationship with you or not.
0:59A woman isn't even supposed to get to
1:01this point. She's never ever supposed to
1:03get to this point because if you can
1:04convince a woman to be your girlfriend,
1:06that is where you have the upper hand.
1:08Like, especially if you're sleeping with
1:09the woman, you've won the game. From
1:11that point on, it's very simple. You
1:13just need to understand how to maintain
1:15attraction.
1:17What you are doing is decreasing
1:18attraction through your actions. Now,
1:20what is it that you are doing that is
1:21decreasing attraction? I'll tell you
1:23right now what kind of guy you are.
1:24You're the guy that cares. You're the
1:26guy that's a good boyfriend, {quote}
1:28{unquote}. You're the guy that's loyal
1:30and sweet and kind. And you don't
1:32understand why this is happening because
1:33of that. You're You're this perfect guy.
1:35Or at least so you believe, right? By
1:38the book. You do everything right.
1:39You're always there for her. You You're
1:41always on the phone talking to her,
1:42making sure everything is okay, checking
1:44up on her, making sure her day is great,
1:46making sure that she's enjoying life.
1:48All of this. Anytime she needs you for
1:50something, you're always there for her.
1:52And this is the type of men These are
1:54the type of guys that end up in this
1:56situation. I know this. This is exactly
1:59why you're in this situation. This is
2:01the diagnosis.
2:02I'm telling you this is what it is. You
2:05need to diagnose the issue. The issue is
2:08that you are indicating
2:09a lack of value. See, attraction
2:13is for is created for one thing and one
2:15thing only.
2:16Attraction
2:18is a biology biological calculation. Can
2:21this person help me survive? If she
2:23looks at you and she goes, this person
2:25can't help me survive. This man cannot
2:26help me guarantee my survival.
2:29This man is unattractive.
2:31She looks at you. She goes, look how
2:32much he cares.
2:34And the thing is you guys think, oh,
2:36well, isn't caring the whole point? Like
2:38if you care, doesn't that make you a
2:39safe option? No, absolutely not because
2:40you're caring about the wrong things.
2:42You're caring about making her happy
2:44instead of caring about making yourself
2:45resourceful.
2:47Her happiness
2:49does not allow her to survive. Your
2:51resources allow her to survive.
2:54So, you've been fed this lie where oh,
2:56you got to buy the girl flowers and you
2:57got to be there for her and you got to
2:58be her emotional rock and all this crap.
3:01And you got to always be her best
3:03friend. No, absolutely not. What you
3:04need to do is provide resources. What
3:06you need to do is be emotionally stable,
3:09capable,
3:11and responsible.
3:13And a man who is constantly spending
3:15every single day of his life catering to
3:18a woman is not a responsible safe man.
3:20That's an emotional man because the only
3:21reason you're doing that
3:23cuz it's unnatural for a man to do all
3:24these things. The only reason you're
3:25doing that is because you're so afraid
3:26to lose her. You don't want to lose her.
3:28So, you're trying to make sure that
3:30she's always happy. The funny part about
3:31this is this is exactly how you lose
3:33her. This is why you're at the point
3:34where you are right now. Women are not
3:36supposed to be Who the hell ever told
3:38you that women need to be happy 24/7?
3:40This is the lie.
3:42This is why right now at this point in
3:45time she's threatening to leave you. So,
3:47diagnose the issue. The issue is that
3:49you're this type of guy.
3:51Change this.
3:52And a lot of guys are going to say,
3:53"Well, what if I'm I'm naturally like
3:55that? What if I just want to take care
3:56of her and be all sweet and kind?" No,
3:58you're not naturally like that. Society
3:59has told you that's what women are
4:01attracted to, and that's why you're
4:02doing it. If I told you right now that
4:03that was unattractive, all those
4:05flowers, all those gifts, all that time
4:06you spend with her, if I told you it was
4:07unattractive, and it actually didn't
4:09make her happy, and it actually
4:12caused dissatisfaction because now she
4:14looks at you and she goes, "You're weak,
4:15and I no longer trust you, and I no
4:16longer think that you are a good option
4:18for me," you would stop doing it. You're
4:20only doing it because you think that she
4:21likes it. She doesn't like it. I got
4:24some news for you, buddy. She doesn't
4:25like it. So, change.
4:27Fix this.
4:28The natural essence of a man is not to
4:30cater to a woman. It's to cater to
4:31himself, cater to God, cater to his
4:33purpose, cater to something greater and
4:34bigger than life. What happens then is
4:36he becomes so powerful and so capable
4:38that every woman in this world just kind
4:40of gravitates towards him. You become
4:42like
4:43you become the gravitational pull.
4:44That's what you need to be. That's
4:45attraction. You're attracting. You're
4:47not chasing. You're not trying to prove
4:48yourself. You're not trying to do
4:49everything for her. You're doing
4:50everything for yourself so you become so
4:52monumentally valuable that women just
4:54want you.
4:56So, diagnose the issue. That's the
4:57issue. So, common mistakes. What do you
4:58not do?
5:00I'll tell you. You do not try to save
5:01the relationship. You do not try to make
5:03things work. You do not try to sit her
5:04down on a coffee date for the last time
5:07and try to figure things out or talk
5:08things out. None of that. None of that.
5:11You do not ever try to make things work
5:12because all this does is shows her how
5:14desperate you are for her. It gives her
5:16all the leverage, gives her all the
5:17power, and this is just you pursuing a
5:19relationship again, which is pushing her
5:21away. You need to re-attract her. The
5:23goal here is to bring attraction up so
5:25that she decides, "You know what? I
5:27don't want to break up with this guy. I
5:28want to stay with this guy. I can't
5:30afford to lose this guy." You need to
5:32understand the fundamentals. You need to
5:33understand exactly how you get her to
5:35that point. How do you get her to the
5:36point where she becomes so attracted to
5:38you again? You reinstill that attraction
5:39where she goes, "I don't want to end
5:41things with this guy. I'm sorry. I take
5:43my word back." She unsends that
5:44paragraph, or she goes, "I didn't mean
5:46any of that." Or she starts panicking
5:48and stripping and sending you all these
5:49paragraphs and text messages about how
5:51she didn't mean anything she said. I'm
5:52going to tell you exactly how you do
5:53that. But first of all, you need to
5:55understand what you don't do, and that's
5:56fix things. You do not ever try to fix
5:58things. You don't try to make things
5:59work at all ever.
6:02So, what do you do? I'll tell you, this
6:04is the secret. Nothing. You do
6:06absolutely nothing. You let her go. She
6:08want wants things to end, you let her
6:10go. You know what kind of man can do
6:11this?
6:12A strong man.
6:14A man who is a options, a valuable man.
6:16You currently have decreased your
6:18perceived value in her eyes. Attraction
6:20is low because you don't seem valuable
6:22to her anymore. You failed all the
6:24tests. You've gone desperate for her.
6:26You sat on FaceTime with her a little
6:27bit too long. You did all the things in
6:29the book that you shouldn't have done,
6:30and now attraction is at an all-time
6:32low. What you need to do is raise it
6:33again. How do you do this? Attraction is
6:35directly correlated to how valuable you
6:37are. The more valuable you are, the more
6:39attracted she's going to be to you. Now,
6:42of course, this can be done through
6:43looks, money, and status, but this is
6:44the thing, you don't need looks, money,
6:45and status because you could indicate
6:47that you're valuable through a lack of
6:48care.
6:49You don't care if she leaves. You do
6:51nothing. You let her go. Let her walk.
6:53She thinks she can find a better life
6:54without you? Good luck.
6:56Let her go try and figure that out. Let
6:57her go figure it out. Let her go see if
6:59she can do that.
7:00And the thing is, she's never even going
7:02to try if you just let her go.
7:04She's going to send you those paragraphs
7:05expecting you to break because you've
7:07been breaking up until this point, and
7:08you haven't been watching my videos, so
7:09obviously you don't know what the hell
7:10you're doing.
7:12But it's fine, you're good now. I got
7:13you. And now you're going to switch
7:14everything up. You're going to stop
7:15chasing. You're going to let her go.
7:17She's going to come right back to you. I
7:18guarantee you. I want you to come back
7:20to this video in the comments section
7:21and tell me about all the text messages
7:23she sent you and how crazy she went and
7:25how many times she called your phone
7:26because you just did nothing. You know
7:28what you do? You just say, "Okay, if
7:30that's what you want." And you let her
7:31go. You don't get mad. You don't get
7:33sad. You don't do anything. No emotion
7:35at all.
7:36Calculated. Logical. Okay, fine. No
7:38worries. Cuz remember, you cannot raise
7:40attraction by chasing her. The more you
7:42chase her,
7:44the more you devalue yourself. Because
7:45if you're above her in value, right? If
7:47you're more valuable than something,
7:49you do not have to chase what's below
7:51you. And you cannot chase something
7:53that's below you. You can only chase
7:54something that is above you. You can
7:55only chase something that is in front of
7:57you.
7:58Ahead of you. So, the second you chase
8:00her and you try to fix the relationship
8:01and you pursue trying to keep her, she
8:04looks at you and she goes, "You are not
8:05valuable. You are less valuable than me,
8:08right?" You're less valuable than her.
8:09And that's it. It's done. From that
8:11point on, that's the closure she needed.
8:12She goes, "I knew it."
8:14And she moves on.
8:16You do that, it's done.
8:18So, what do you do? You raise attraction
8:20by not trying.
8:21You don't do anything. You don't try to
8:23save anything. Then she goes, "Wait a
8:24minute. He's not trying to save me? He
8:26must have girls just as pretty as me
8:28waiting for him, trying to date him. He
8:30must be able to easily talk to another
8:32girl and get another girlfriend. He has
8:34options." You know what kind of man has
8:35options?
8:36A man who's got looks, money, and
8:37status. You know what kind of man has
8:39looks, money, and status? A valuable
8:40man.
8:41You You know what kind of man is
8:42attractive? A man who's valuable.
8:44See, you don't even have the looks,
8:45money, and status, but your lack of care
8:48doesn't matter if you have all those
8:49things, because then she infers that you
8:50have all those things. Or at least it
8:51tricks her mind the same way as if you
8:53did have all those things to think that
8:54you are valuable, because you just have
8:56a lack of care. The only guy that
8:57doesn't care to lose her, the only guy
8:58that doesn't care to let her go, is the
9:00guy that can easily replace her. The guy
9:01that can easily replace her is the guy
9:03who's valuable, because he has options.
9:05The guy who has options can easily
9:06replace her. The guy who has options is
9:07valuable. The guy who's valuable
9:09attractive. He's more attractive than a
9:11guy that's less valuable. That's it.
9:14Let her go. This is what you do.
9:16And the thing is, most men are not
9:17capable of this. They're not strong
9:18enough to listen to this advice and go,
9:20"Okay, I'm going to just go to let her
9:21go. I'm just going to let her go. I'm
9:23going to say, 'Okay, if that's what you
9:24want, I still care about you, but
9:25listen, I totally understand you want to
9:27end things. Fine.'" And you let her go.
9:29Most men cannot do that. You
9:31differentiate yourself. She's never,
9:32ever had that before in her life. No guy
9:34has ever had the balls to do that. You
9:36do that?
9:37I'm telling you, you do that and you
9:39reframe
9:40and you fix the relationship. You start
9:42listening to what I'm telling you. And
9:43let me tell you, if you want to get this
9:44done fast, cuz some of you guys are in
9:46this situation where it's almost
9:48impossible for you to fix it unless you
9:50have somebody guiding you, sign up
9:52one-on-one consultations right now. Link
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9:55And we can get things done quicker than
9:57you just going through all these videos
9:58and trying to figure it out by yourself.
9:59But let me tell you, if you are in this
10:01in a situation where
10:03you just kind of feel it fizzling out,
10:04maybe she hasn't sent you that message
10:06yet, you have a little bit of time to
10:07fix things. Reframe.
10:09Reframe. Stop doing all the things I
10:10told you earlier in the diagnosis.
10:13Okay?
10:14Relax. And for those of you guys, for
10:16those of you guys that are in this
10:17situation right now where she's sending
10:19you this breakup and she thinks, you
10:20know, oh, I don't know if things are
10:21going to work out, you got to act fast.
10:24Fast.
10:25Because this is the point where it
10:27determines whether she's gone for good
10:30or you get to keep her and get her
10:31obsessed.