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0:00Hello everybody. I'm a practicing
0:02therapist and a doctoral student of
0:04psychology. Today I wanted to go over
0:06nonverbal signs a woman is attracted to
0:09you. This was requested. The and the
0:12research is going to be in the
0:13description box and we're going to go
0:14over some of the points as well, but
0:16overall this is some research that I've
0:18already used on this channel before so
0:19you guys are pretty familiar with some
0:21of this. However, we're going to still
0:23dissect it together in this video cuz a
0:25lot of you guys will be new. The first
0:27one is that actually she speaks in a
0:30more softer and higher pitched tone
0:33{slash} register. So you're going to
0:34register it as higher pitched. Now we've
0:36talked about this particular point
0:38before in a couple different ways. One
0:40research we had discussed is the
0:41voicemails where when a lady leaves a
0:44voicemail with a man she's attracted to
0:47to a man she's attracted to, we can see
0:48the pitch is higher. But we also see
0:50that there are some subconscious signals
0:53that women do this to appear more
0:55friendly and non-confrontational,
0:58which allows men to feel more
0:59comfortable initiating or being more
1:01comfortable being around her. So there
1:03are two different ways that it can be
1:05looked at cuz some of sometimes it can
1:07be on purpose, but I don't think on
1:09purpose is necessarily
1:12always true for women. Sometimes it
1:14happens
1:16subconsciously or perhaps even
1:17biologically. The next one is that
1:19actually she's finding reasons to be
1:21near you. And we can see a lot of
1:23research. This one was 2011 and the
1:25first one I talked about was 2011 as
1:27well. Um the same research. What we're
1:30seeing is that she's going to find
1:31reasons to be near you and both men and
1:33women do this, but I will say that women
1:36do this a little bit more often simply
1:38because as a lot of folks know, women
1:39are a little bit less direct and so
1:43they're going to be a little bit
1:44indirect socially as well, which means
1:46that she's going to be behaving in this
1:48way because she finds you attractive
1:49even if she's not ready to accept that
1:51yet or she's still figuring out how she
1:53wants to feel about you or that she's
1:55waiting on you to actually go ahead and
1:57say something. And so, an example will
1:59be that maybe she sits next to you while
2:02doing some of these other things as
2:03well. So, if she's doing all these
2:04things while other aspects as well, it's
2:06likely that she's attracted to you. We
2:08never want to take just one point
2:10because that can be that can be set up
2:12for miscommunication,
2:14misconception, and it may just make it
2:16more confusing for both you guys. So, if
2:18she's finding reasons to be near you
2:20frequently as well as other of these
2:22points, that can be helpful. So, like I
2:24was going to give an example. Let's just
2:26say
2:28I don't know, you use a public
2:29transportation. I don't use public
2:31transportation, so I'm not 100% familiar
2:33with the paradigm, but that's an example
2:35that I just thought of. Perhaps you guys
2:37are always seeing each other, you use
2:39the same public transportation
2:41uh every I don't know, morning before
2:43work, you always see her, and often she
2:46tries to find seats near you or next to
2:49you. And maybe she glances up at you and
2:50smiles, or maybe she looks in your
2:53direction often. This is probably person
2:55that finds you attractive. The next one
2:57is more animated expressions than she
2:59normally has. This research was 1993,
3:02and then some of these points are also
3:03the research in 2011. So, examples of
3:06animated expressions are smiling more
3:08often, nodding,
3:11laughing during interactions that are
3:12positively associated. And so, this
3:14doesn't have to mean she's laughing at
3:16your jokes necessarily. She's just
3:17laughing in your presence in a positive
3:19way. She's happy, um and we can see that
3:22the research does show that people do
3:25positively associate when folks are
3:27laughing or smiling. And so, on the flip
3:28side, subconsciously a lot of folks are
3:30also doing this when they find you
3:32attractive, particularly women,
3:34because it's more perceived as she's
3:37warm and inviting, which allows you to
3:39also feel more relaxed around her. The
3:41next one is that
3:43um there is some relaxed open body
3:46language. And this is interesting
3:48because some women don't always have
3:50this point, which is why I'm
3:53uh putting this caveat. Some women are
3:55very nervous and anxious. Like if she
3:57has social anxiety, she might not be so
4:00relaxed. However, as you get more
4:01comfortable with her and build more
4:03rapport, you can see that she's
4:04incredibly relaxed. Open body language
4:06will be more like shoulders back and not
4:09with her arms um across her chest there.
4:11So, that's an example of an open body
4:12language. The next one is subtle and
4:15reciprocal touch. This one is
4:18This one alone might be
4:21Like this one might be the only one that
4:22might be stand-alone depending on her
4:24personality. But if she is having some
4:27sort of light I would say like informal
4:29touches like your arm or your shoulder
4:31or even your leg, that's usually
4:33associated with increased feelings of
4:35trust,
4:36interest, attraction, and also safety.
4:41And so, she's able to feel those ways
4:42around you.
4:44Of course, attraction is one of the main
4:45ones we're touching on today. This
4:47research was in 2007. And what we also
4:49found in this research is this is also
4:51some form of courtship, and it's not
4:53always intentional. But from the
4:57Basically, this research is basically on
4:59female behavior in comparison to male
5:01behavior, and courtship is still very
5:03common with humans. Yes, it's more
5:05common Well, I don't know if it's more
5:07common, but I think it's we're more
5:08aware of it in terms of other mammals,
5:11but humans do it as well. And just like
5:13with a lot of mammals, a lot of females
5:15do some sort of indirect behaviors to
5:18which males will usually either fight
5:21over this particular person or try to
5:24initiate, etc. It's dependent, but a lot
5:26of women tend to have these behaviors
5:28that are grained into their biology to
5:30some extent. That doesn't mean that
5:31women are not going to approach you or
5:33they're not going to communicate
5:34directly. It just means it's a little
5:36less often is all I'm saying, cuz I know
5:38some of you guys are would be more
5:39comfortable if a woman is initiating,
5:41which I can appreciate and I understand.
5:43It just is not going to be as common,
5:45and I don't want to lie to you.
5:47And you guys know that. Um and the last
5:49one is that it's
5:52she's going to be fidgeting, and
5:54particularly it's going to be fidgeting
5:56when having discussions. And so this is
5:59why this is research was in 2010, and
6:02this one is not something that you want
6:04to take just in and of itself because it
6:06can be a little bit misleading. So we're
6:08going to touch on why it can be a little
6:10misleading as well as
6:12when it's more of a flirtatious or
6:13attraction type of behavior. Now, if
6:16she's fidgeting with something and she's
6:19always like that or she's not making eye
6:20contact and it's not during a
6:22conversation and it's not seemingly
6:24warm, it can be that she's uncomfortable
6:27with social interactions in general. It
6:29doesn't mean you're doing something
6:30wrong, but she might have social anxiety
6:32or generalized anxiety disorder. It may
6:34have nothing to do with you. And
6:36especially if it seems like she's
6:37detached or uncomfortable, sometimes
6:39what can happen if you're in like a
6:41relationship with this person, which
6:42obviously hopefully she finds you
6:44attractive, sometimes women do this when
6:46they want to say something and they're
6:47afraid if they say it that it's going to
6:50make you mad or upset. And if you guys
6:52are in a relationship, maybe you're
6:53already aware of that behavior. So they
6:56might be fidgeting because they're
6:57thinking, "Should I say this? Should I
6:59not say this?" And so bridging that to
7:01the attraction portion, sometimes women
7:03do this because they are nervous around
7:06you, but sometimes it's because they're
7:07they're thinking, "Does this person like
7:09me? Does this person not like me?" And
7:11you're seeing that
7:13conflict showing up physically with
7:16she's fidgeting, etc. She might just be
7:18nervous in front of you in general
7:20because maybe she feels like you don't
7:21like her, maybe she just likes you and
7:23she is not ready to accept that right
7:24away. And so there is some sort of
7:26internal conflict whether it's between
7:28her and herself or between her and how
7:30she's perceiving you, and you're going
7:32to see those behaviors. But it is
7:33important that most of these things in
7:35conjunction means that she's attracted
7:37to you.
7:38As I've mentioned before, women can be a
7:40little bit more indirect than men, not
7:42all the time. And so, that's why these
7:43points are really important cuz I don't
7:45want you guys to be in a situation where
7:50you're trying to initiate something and
7:52you're trying to
7:54connect with her and then you get
7:55yourself rejected or hurt. It's going to
7:57happen. Rejection is normal in life, but
7:59you don't want to be in a situation
8:00where it turns out to be
8:02something completely off, right? You
8:04don't want that. And so, that's why
8:05these points are important. The research
8:07is going to be in the description box. I
8:09hope this video has helped somebody.
8:10Please like, subscribe. I'll see you in
8:11the next one.