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0:00So, this is what you have to know is
0:01that women gain control through hyper
0:04fixation of detail. And when I say gain
0:07control, I'm talking about gaining
0:09control over you in a relationship when
0:11it comes to how you speak, how you talk,
0:14how you act, how you carry yourself,
0:16where you put your time, what you're
0:18supposed to do.
0:19There's a certain process that a woman
0:22uses in order to get you to conform to
0:25her life so that way you essentially
0:27spend your entire life serving her.
0:30And what women do is women gain control
0:33through hyper fixation of detail. Now,
0:36this video is so important, I even have
0:39notes. So, it's going to take me a
0:41little bit of time to talk through it
0:43all because I have to go really slow
0:46here so I can read everything line by
0:48line to teach you this because it's
0:49actually pretty tough like unless you
0:52look at your life as a whole. I have not
0:55heard any other content creator talk
0:57about this when it comes to like hyper
0:59fixation of detail.
1:01And the reason why I think you have to
1:02know this is because if you don't, your
1:04life becomes a living hell.
1:07The woman that you're dating ends up
1:09growing contempt for you.
1:11She starts despising you. She starts not
1:14liking you. Eventually, she leaves or
1:16cheats. And meanwhile, you're
1:18emasculated going, "Whoa, I just spent
1:21my entire life serving her, doing what
1:24she claimed she wanted,
1:26providing for her, giving her resources,
1:29time, care, money, or attention,
1:32even maybe having children with her,
1:33getting married with her, and she
1:34doesn't care. She doesn't care at all.
1:37That's what you're going to notice. The
1:39word reciprocity or reciprocal,
1:42you'll notice that women do not
1:43reciprocate interest when you give it to
1:46them the way that you think will make
1:48them happy. So, women gain control over
1:51your life through hyper fixation of
1:53detail. Now, let's dive in. This is
1:55often times irrelevant detail like the
1:59detail that she thinks is important.
2:02This is often times irrelevant detail,
2:04and if you don't put a stop to this by
2:07mentally and verbally checking out, it
2:10will be the countdown to the end of the
2:11relationship. You do not win
2:14this type of conversation through more
2:16conversation or talking your way out of
2:18it. You have to essentially
2:22shut off your mind when you see these
2:24things happen, and you have to act as if
2:25you don't care at all. You have to act
2:28as if you're spaced out in your own
2:29world, and you don't really care about
2:31all this little minute detail that she's
2:33going to try to get you to focus on
2:34because the more she can try to get you
2:35to focus on that, the more she can
2:37control your actions, your mannerisms,
2:39and then start arguments because you
2:41didn't answer the question the way that
2:43she wanted you to or it wasn't the way
2:45that made her feel good. I have seen
2:47guys at every age, every height, every
2:50income level run into these things.
2:52These are mannerisms, and these are
2:55certain vocal tone issues that show up
2:57in the relationship.
2:59So, let's dive in. Here's how this
3:01starts.
3:03The control and the emasculation and the
3:06hyper fixation on detail starts as a
3:09kid.
3:10It starts as a kid. It starts when
3:12you're a young boy.
3:14You put on the clothes that you want,
3:15and your mom says, "Go back in the room
3:18and change. That doesn't match." And
3:20then you come back out with a t-shirt,
3:21and you look to her for approval, and
3:23you say, "Does this work?" And she says,
3:25"No, that's not good either. Go do it
3:26again."
3:27And you look how much time you're
3:29spending doing this. As a kid, you start
3:31to get conditioned to doing what she
3:33says.
3:34And
3:35the thing is is
3:37it's irrelevant detail because the truth
3:39is if you wore whatever you wanted to,
3:41it would be fine, but this is how the
3:42control starts to happen. She says, "Go
3:44change. Go change again.
3:47Go change again. Oh, actually, you know,
3:49this looks good, but let's try this on
3:51instead. This looks better. Oh, yeah,
3:52let's go with the white t-shirt." And
3:53she just took 10 15 minutes of that
3:55kid's life
3:57to get that young boy to think that all
3:59this stuff matters when in reality it
4:00doesn't. The next thing is you're going
4:03to notice that in school,
4:05it's small things. Your teacher's going
4:07to say, "Hey, you have to raise your
4:08hand to go to the bathroom, and you have
4:09to ask for approval."
4:12And then it's hyper fixation of detail
4:13again. It's only one person at a time.
4:16I'll tell you this, in elementary
4:17school, the only teacher who didn't do
4:20this to me, the only teacher that ran
4:22his classroom the way that uh
4:24essentially was like a policy where you
4:26could just go to the bathroom whenever
4:27you wanted, and you didn't have to ask
4:29permission, was my sixth grade teacher,
4:32and he was a man.
4:35All of my other elementary school
4:37teachers
4:38were women, and all of them had a
4:40bathroom policy where you were not
4:42allowed to just go to the bathroom
4:44on your own whenever you wanted to. You
4:46had to ask permission. The only teacher
4:48that didn't have that was the male
4:51teacher that I had in the sixth grade.
4:53Keep that in mind. This is how the
4:54control starts. It starts when you're a
4:56kid constantly having to follow orders
4:58and rules that don't necessarily make
5:01sense or mean anything. Like you could
5:02wear any color t-shirt you wanted, and
5:04life would go on just fine. Another
5:07thing that you're going to notice is now
5:08as you get a little bit older,
5:10your mom is going to start to implement
5:12irrelevant rules. Let's give you an
5:14example. Let's say you go to a friend's
5:16house for a sleepover,
5:17and she says, "Call me right at 9:30,
5:20and if you don't, you're going to get
5:22picked back up. If you don't call me
5:24right at 9:30, you're going to get
5:25picked back up, and you're not going to
5:26get to have that sleepover.
5:29I don't want you to be a minute late.
5:31Do this or you're going to lose your car
5:33keys. Do this or I'm going to take away
5:35your PlayStation. Do this or I'm going
5:37to make sure that um you lose your car
5:39keys, and I'm going to give you a ride
5:40home from school every single day. This
5:42is what you're going to run into. What
5:44your mother will try to do is remove
5:46your freedoms, okay? And she'll do this
5:49through hyper fixation of irrelevant
5:51detail.
5:53It's Saturday morning. You decide to
5:55leave the house, and she says, "Why
5:57didn't you tell me you were going
5:58somewhere?"
6:00So, it starts with the mother, okay?
6:02Women choose what behavior is rewarded.
6:07And then what the mother does is she
6:08plants this idea in her child's mind.
6:11So, women decide
6:13what behavior is rewarded, and it starts
6:16with the mother. You have to understand
6:18this. Your mother or your sisters or any
6:20of your family members
6:22are still hardwired the same way when it
6:24comes to female nature. So, you're still
6:26going to run into this stuff.
6:28Okay? Now, a lot of times, this is what
6:30I can tell you. The husband often times
6:32is too stupid to even know what's going
6:34on, and I don't say that as like a bad
6:36thing. It just is.
6:38The husband a lot of times in these
6:40situations does not even realize what's
6:42occurring. He does not even realize
6:44what's going on because this is not a
6:45conversation that he would even have in
6:47the first place. He wouldn't say, "Hey,
6:48go change. That jacket doesn't match
6:50your shirt." He doesn't care. The
6:52husband in these situations a lot of
6:53times is just focused on, let's say,
6:54protecting or providing or making sure
6:56the house is maintained and there's
6:58money coming in and the heating is paid
7:00and the bills are paid and the
7:01electricity's paid and the car insurance
7:03is paid, and he becomes a workhorse for
7:05the family. That's what the husband
7:07does. And since that actually matters
7:09when it comes to the actual survival and
7:11the well-being of the family, these
7:13small conversations that are going on
7:15where the mother or where the woman is
7:17gaining all of this control over how
7:20everybody has to run their own life,
7:23that starts
7:24to just go right over his head, and he
7:26doesn't even see that happening. So,
7:28another thing that I can tell you is
7:30this.
7:31When I was younger, okay,
7:33I noticed this narrative, okay? And the
7:35narrative was like, "Oh, he's a husband,
7:37so he must be mature. He's a family man,
7:39so he must be mature.
7:41He's a family man, and he's a husband,
7:43so he must be mature, and he must have a
7:45really good job or something like that
7:47because he's actually decided to mature
7:49and outgrow that adolescent mindset of
7:52just, you know, doing whatever he wants
7:54with his friends or going fishing
7:55whenever he wants or anything like
7:57that." But what I started to realize is
7:59this couldn't be further from the truth.
8:00A lot of times,
8:01what you're going to notice is the
8:02husband, this is just the guy to take
8:05care of her and essentially pay for all
8:06of her stuff because most likely in her
8:09younger years, in her college years, or
8:11in her 20s, she just decided to go bang
8:13all the hot guys. And now he's finally
8:16the guy that she's going to settle down
8:17with.
8:18This is what you're going to notice
8:19about most marriages is there's no
8:21genuine desire in the actual
8:23relationship. So, before I keep going
8:25on, I want to loop back to my original
8:27title. And my original title was that
8:30women gain control through hyper
8:32fixation of detail, and a lot of times
8:34this is minute irrelevant detail. You
8:36have to always pick up on this or notice
8:38this if your girlfriend, if your wife,
8:40if even your mom is trying to get you to
8:42do things and to conform to a specific
8:45way of living in that moment that makes
8:47absolutely no sense.
8:48Your mom might look at you in front of
8:50your girlfriend or in front of your wife
8:51and say,
8:52"Uh are we doing this at 9:30 or at 10?"
8:55And it doesn't matter at all, but she
8:56wants that answer so that way you are
8:59doing the thing on her terms. You're
9:02going to constantly notice this if you
9:03pay attention. Most guys don't even pay
9:05attention to this. So, here's what
9:07happens, okay? By now,
9:09at this point, the kid is conditioned to
9:12serve the mother and naturally taught
9:14that the female way of viewing things is
9:16correct. The female way of viewing
9:19things is correct. I will say that one
9:20more time. A kid, okay, as a young boy,
9:23he is conditioned to believe that the
9:25female way of doing things is correct.
9:28Household decorations matter.
9:30We need nicer end tables. That matters.
9:33We need nicer pottery around the house.
9:36You know, this wall color that we have,
9:38this beige, this beige just isn't good
9:40enough. We need a a different shade of
9:43tan or a different shade of blue.
9:45And then 2 months later, we need to now
9:47paint the house green. And all this
9:49little stuff matters, okay?
9:51The kids are taught
9:53that the mother's way of viewing things
9:54or that the female way of viewing things
9:56is the correct way to view the world.
9:59Okay?
10:00The truth is most men actually don't
10:02care about these little details, but
10:03women attempt to get you to care about
10:05all these little details in order to
10:07gain control and slowly emasculate you.
10:09You just have to be aware of this. So,
10:11the kids are taught that the female way
10:12of viewing things is correct, okay?
10:15Now the guy gets older, okay? And as the
10:16guy gets older, there's a relationship
10:18being formed. Maybe he is in his college
10:20years or whatever and he meets a woman
10:22or he gets a girlfriend or something
10:24like that. Maybe he's dating, maybe he's
10:25married. And essentially, here's what
10:27happens. He is now conditioned to buy
10:30things he doesn't need,
10:32to keep consuming things when it comes
10:34to we need more blankets, we need more
10:36pillows. We don't need just one coffee
10:37cup each even though we could use just
10:39one coffee cup. We need 20 different
10:41coffee cups. We need 20 different end
10:43tables. We need 20 different blankets
10:45and 20 different comforters. He's
10:47constantly caught in this loop of
10:48consumerism because the woman's way of
10:50viewing things is the right way of
10:52viewing things and that's what he has
10:53seen his whole life. So, now he's
10:55conditioned. He's conditioned to serve
10:57her for the rest of his life.
10:59And he's now conditioned to basically
11:00make more money to provide a lifestyle
11:02for her. This is why men are chasing
11:04status that deep down they don't care
11:06about. That man is now chasing excessive
11:08amounts of money that deep down he
11:10doesn't care about. He's just hoping
11:11that it brings him more dating
11:13opportunities. All this stuff.
11:15The man is conditioned to do what he
11:17thinks is best for her.
11:20The man is never conditioned to do what
11:22he thinks is best for him.
11:24Keep that in mind. So, now he's
11:25conditioned.
11:26And now he gets to the point where he's
11:28ready for a relationship or he's dating
11:30a woman or something like that.
11:32And he's conditioned to say, "Okay, I'll
11:33buy it."
11:35She says, "We need these things. We need
11:37more wall decorations. We need more
11:38candles. We need more pottery. We need
11:40more end tables." All this stuff and he
11:42says, "Okay, yes, I'll buy it. Yes, I'll
11:44keep working harder. Yes, this might put
11:46me in a financial bind or it's really
11:47hard because there's all this excessive
11:49spending, but I'm designed to now serve
11:51you."
11:54What happens now
11:56is you're going to notice that if he
11:57doesn't decide to do that, she's going
11:59to claim to herself or to her friends or
12:02to her parents or to the rest of the
12:04world that he's a bad dad or he's a bad
12:06man because
12:08um
12:09you know, instead of uh
12:11instead of staying home that extra half
12:12hour, um you know, because we wanted to
12:16make dinner time or supper time last a
12:18little bit longer, he packed up early
12:20and went to the gym. Because he did
12:22these little things, because he still
12:23prioritizes himself, he's too
12:25self-centered, he's too inwardly
12:27focused, he's a bad dad. This is going
12:29to be the narrative. And once again, men
12:31are very susceptible
12:33to being looked at negatively in a
12:35woman's eyes, so they constantly want to
12:37do better to serve her because this is
12:38what they were conditioned since they're
12:40a kid is to serve mom.
12:42If mom's not happy, nobody's happy. So,
12:44this is the constant loop that he's in.
12:46And then as he gets older, he gets
12:48overweight.
12:49He's not as strong, he doesn't go to the
12:51gym, he prioritizes only her and only
12:53the kids, only to be completely
12:54emasculated. And she says, "We need
12:56this. We need more wall decorations,
12:57more candles, more pottery." And he
12:59says, "Yes, okay. Okay." And he spends
13:01his whole life working to buy it.
13:03The next step that happens once this
13:05relationship has been formed for
13:06multiple months or years
13:09is she starts gaining more and more
13:11control by detailed lines of
13:13questioning.
13:15Detailed lines of questioning. What it
13:17looks like is this. She looks at the man
13:19and she goes, "Well, why didn't you call
13:20me right away when you got off work?"
13:23Either he didn't know that he was
13:24supposed to, he didn't know that there
13:25was anything that had to be said, and he
13:26didn't know that it would make her upset
13:28if he didn't.
13:30So, he just didn't call. He just drove
13:31right home.
13:32And she picks up that phone and she
13:33says, "Why didn't you call me when you
13:35got off work? Why didn't you call me?"
13:37And he tries to say something. He's in a
13:39good mood, but now she's not and he
13:41tries to say something to appease her.
13:43And this is her attitude. She goes,
13:44"Yep.
13:45Whatever." And she hangs up.
13:48That's what she does.
13:50And now any conversation he tries to
13:52have, she shuts it down right away.
13:54She shuts it down right away and she
13:56turns
13:57away from him. She turns a cold shoulder
14:00to him. She gives him the cold shoulder
14:01over and over and over even though he's
14:03working as hard as he possibly can to
14:04serve her. This is the loop that every
14:07husband is caught in.
14:08This is the loop that every uh
14:10man is typically caught in when there's
14:12a separation or a divorce happening.
14:15And she hangs up.
14:17She acts as rude as possible.
14:19And she does this in front of the kids.
14:21And then what she does is she'll turn
14:22and she'll look at the kids and say,
14:23"Your dad does nothing right."
14:27And now she's going to slowly condition
14:28the kids that either he is bad or he um
14:31doesn't speak the correct way or he
14:33doesn't do the right things even though
14:34he's working as hard as he possibly can.
14:37Most of the time the woman becomes very
14:38unappreciative. These detailed lines of
14:40questioning keep coming.
14:43What you might notice is she'll now
14:44focus on super irrelevant details.
14:46She'll look at the man.
14:48It's a Saturday.
14:49And she says, "Are we going to the mall
14:51at 11:30 or 12:30?"
14:53And in reality, it doesn't matter.
14:54They're going to just shower and get
14:55ready and then go to the mall when
14:57they're both showered and ready.
14:59But here's what happens. He knows that
15:01it's irrelevant detail, she knows that
15:03it's irrelevant detail, but she wants
15:04him to make a decision anyway. So, she's
15:06going to start to ask a bunch of
15:07irrelevant stuff. Maybe he gets
15:09frustrated and he says that it doesn't
15:11matter. And now she looks at him and she
15:12goes, "See, you just can never make a
15:13decision. You can't make a decision."
15:16And once again, he's penalized for just
15:19doing the things necessary and living
15:21each day in the present moment instead
15:23of micromanaging every single minute
15:25plan that she thinks is important. Now,
15:27the common theme as well with all of
15:29these men who end up in these types of
15:32situations is that the guy becomes too
15:34weak to walk away. Another thing, okay?
15:38She gets you to question your own
15:39certainty.
15:40Why can't you make a decision?
15:42Uh
15:44why don't you plan the stuff for us? Why
15:46is this not taken care of?
15:49Even though everything is solid,
15:52the sentences are formed to gain control
15:54and emasculation.
15:55Another thing that you're going to
15:56notice when you're in these
15:57relationships is the woman, okay? If you
15:59notice that a woman
16:01>> [snorts]
16:01>> is doing excessive amounts of planning,
16:04this is to get you to conform to her
16:05lifestyle and to condition you to
16:08constantly do what she wants. Excessive
16:09planning looks like this.
16:11At 9:00 a.m. we got to do this. At noon
16:13we got to do this. Then the reception is
16:15at 3:00 p.m. Then at 3:30 we're doing
16:17photos here. Then at 4:00 o'clock we're
16:19doing this. And then by 5:00 we're going
16:20to go to this venue. That's what it
16:22looks like and the man looks at her and
16:23goes, "Oh yeah, okay."
16:26And the reason why he says okay is
16:27because he didn't even think how his day
16:28was going to go at at all. He was just
16:30living in the moment. That's why I'm
16:31telling you these things go right over
16:33the husband's head. These things go
16:35right over most guys' heads and they
16:37don't even realize that this is
16:38happening. Excessive planning.
16:40Another thing that you're going to
16:41notice is it's all to serve her. So, she
16:45says, "January, I want to go on this
16:47trip. And then February, I want to go on
16:49this trip. And then May, we're going to
16:51this trip. And oh my god,
16:53we have to be home by May 9th because
16:55that night I have a girls' brunch. So,
16:57make sure you book the flight right then
16:58for that."
17:00And this is how it happens.
17:03What I can tell you is this.
17:05Women gain control over you through
17:08hyper-fixation of minute detail.
17:11And this is why it is so drastically
17:14important
17:16that you start to learn, understand, and
17:18master the language of women.
17:21I have a whole process that I have shown
17:24thousands of dudes to help them master
17:27their dating life, to help them attract
17:28the women that they want,
17:30and maintain the proper relationship
17:32dynamic.
17:33I built a whole community around this
17:35and I advise you to go and check that
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17:38Because I've had so many student
17:40successes, so many student testimonials.
17:42If you even just see all the results on
17:44that page, you're going to look at it
17:46and be like, "Wow, this is pretty cool."
17:48That's what you're going to see. You're
17:49going to see a bunch of cool stuff.
17:51The reason why I call it the language of
17:54women is because the man has to undo all
17:57of these preconceived notions and all of
17:59these limiting beliefs that were
18:01basically
18:03planted into his mind since childhood.
18:05And he doesn't even see that these
18:07things happened. So, because of that, I
18:09give you an exact process to have a
18:11really good dating life. And I give this
18:13to you in an exact step-by-step process,
18:15so you know what to do when you first
18:16meet the woman, when you've went on the
18:18first few dates, and then how to
18:20maintain the proper dynamic long-term.
18:22Because if you don't master this stuff,
18:24emasculation will come your way and then
18:26your entire relationship dissolves. And
18:28this is where I see most guys like the
18:30worst pain in the world that they go
18:32through is heartbreak.
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