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0:00All right, boys. Welcome back to another
0:01video. Today, I want to talk about
0:02something
0:03that everyone does wrong. So,
0:05it's a very basic concept and it's
0:08doing less is doing more. So, a lot of
0:10you guys think that
0:12you know,
0:13the more you do for a woman, the more
0:15she's going to love you, the more she's
0:16going to reciprocate, um
0:18you know, all that attention that you
0:20give her and all that care that you give
0:22her, but it's the total opposite.
0:24Because the problem with giving her all
0:26your attention, all your care is it
0:28shows that you are not abundant and that
0:30you are desperate. And it comes off as
0:32you trying to prove yourself, even if
0:34you aren't. So, this is the thing.
0:36I want you to imagine
0:38the perfect man.
0:40What is the perfect man? The perfect man
0:41to a woman is a man that can [ __ ] more
0:43than you all than all the other guys
0:45that she's ever been with. If she is
0:47dating a guy that can [ __ ] more than all
0:48the other guys that she's ever been
0:50with, she's going to love that man more
0:51than all the other guys that she's ever
0:52been with.
0:54So,
0:55you have to understand, a guy that has
0:56been with more women
0:58than any other guy that she's been with
1:00is going to care less
1:02to try to impress her or try to do the
1:03right thing or try to give her attention
1:05than all the other guys that she's been
1:06with.
1:07So, this is why doing less is doing more
1:08because the less you do, the more
1:10valuable you
1:11seem in her eyes. So, when she looks at
1:13you,
1:15and she goes,
1:17"Oh, okay. This guy's, you know, doing
1:19all these things for me. He puts off his
1:21time to go hang out with me. Sometimes
1:22he needs to go to the gym or work on his
1:24business." And I'll tell him, "I want to
1:25go to dinner." And he'll say, "Okay.
1:27I'll put that off to the side. Let's go
1:29to dinner."
1:30And you think you're doing more. You
1:31think you're being caring. You think
1:32you're giving her your your attention
1:34and and it's a good thing. You're
1:35showing how much you love her, but this
1:37is exactly what you don't want to do
1:38because all you're doing here is
1:39decreasing your value. Why? Because you
1:41are demonstrating that you are desperate
1:43and you are demonstrating that you
1:45don't have
1:46any other women
1:48around you. Because if you did, you
1:50wouldn't care if she was a little bit
1:52upset about you telling her no. We're
1:54not going to go today. I'm going to the
1:55gym. I got things to do. It's going to
1:57have to wait for another day.
1:59The the objective
2:01is that no matter what, you never
2:03prioritize her.
2:05Because when you prioritize her, this is
2:07only going to do one thing.
2:09What it's going to do is it's going to
2:11decrease your value.
2:13And it's going to give her the role of
2:14being the boss.
2:16And this is a role that she doesn't
2:17want. You have to understand this. A
2:18woman does not want to be the boss.
2:21She is the employee. She is the
2:24assistant. She is the soldier.
2:26You are the general.
2:28She doesn't want to be the boss.
2:29She might tell you she wants to be the
2:30boss. She might tell you she wants to be
2:32your whole world. But what happens is
2:33when you make her the your whole world,
2:35if she is your priority, she now leads
2:37your life.
2:39She now decides how your life plays out,
2:41right? If she has the power to tell you
2:43she wants to go to dinner on a Friday
2:45night when you need to go to the gym and
2:47you need to come home later and work on
2:48your business.
2:49But she wants you to quit those things
2:51and go to dinner with her.
2:53She's controlling your life. She
2:55literally has control over your life.
2:57She's the boss of your life because you
2:59putting those things off to the side are
3:00going to totally change the direction of
3:02your life. You're not going to achieve
3:02the success you want to achieve. You're
3:04not going to
3:05um embark on the missions you're
3:07supposed to embark on to achieve that
3:09the success that you want to achieve and
3:10become the person you want to become
3:11because why? You're not prioritizing the
3:13right things. You are not now
3:14prioritizing her instead of prioritizing
3:16your future and your success.
3:19And here's the thing about this. When
3:21women do this,
3:22I've seen this countless times. Women
3:23will ask on the exact day when you are
3:26busy
3:27to go and do something with them and put
3:29whatever it was that you were supposed
3:30to do off to the side. This is a test.
3:32This is the most sneaky test that they
3:36do.
3:37And this is a test to see one thing and
3:39one thing only. It's a test to see is
3:41this man safe for my future? And safety
3:43has nothing to do with you making her
3:45happy. It has nothing to do with you
3:46being loyal to her. It has nothing to to
3:48do with you being a good boyfriend to
3:50her and letting her have her
3:53You being safe for her future has
3:54everything to do with you
3:56making logical daily decisions. So, if
3:59you wake up every day of your life and
4:01the decisions you make are emotional,
4:04I'll give you an example. If she wants
4:05to go out on that Friday night and
4:07instead of
4:08going to the gym, you go out with her
4:11because you are emotional, you're
4:13thinking emotionally because you're
4:14going
4:16"I don't want to upset her. I'm afraid
4:17to upset her." That that fear of
4:18upsetting her is emotional thinking.
4:20Logical thinking would dictate, "My life
4:22is going to be better if I go to the gym
4:24and I work on my business." Because
4:25that's going to grow me as a person and
4:27that's going to do a lot for me. This
4:28dinner is not going to do anything for
4:29me. It's not going to do [ __ ] for me.
4:32And that emotional thinking
4:34when you go to that dinner shows her
4:36that you are weak. Shows her that you
4:38are not a safe option for her future.
4:39Let me ask you this very simple
4:40question.
4:42Two men, exactly the same, look the
4:43same, make the same amount of money,
4:45everything is the same about them.
4:46They're the same on paper.
4:48But the way they act, their actions are
4:49totally different. So, we have one guy
4:51right here
4:52who no matter what happens, no matter
4:56what she says or what she does, no
4:57matter how upset she is that he didn't
4:59want to go with her to the to the
5:01dinner, he stuck to his agenda and what
5:04he was supposed to do.
5:07He He went to the gym. He did what he
5:10needed to do
5:11regardless of how she was going to feel.
5:14Who is more likely versus this guy
5:16who is thinking based on emotion,
5:19doesn't want to upset her, so he's going
5:20to keep her happy by going to the dinner
5:23with her and quitting the gym? Which guy
5:25is more likely to achieve monumental
5:28amounts of success? Which guy is more
5:29likely to make more money? Which guy is
5:30more likely to be more stable in the
5:32future? It's the first guy.
5:34You need to be that first guy, even if
5:36it's going to upset her.
5:37You need to be that first guy.
5:39And the funny part about this is that
5:41she's actually more attracted to that
5:42first guy because that first guy didn't
5:44let her get away because
5:46most guys are too afraid to say no.
5:49Most guys are too afraid to tell her
5:51that things aren't going to be the way
5:53she wants them to be.
5:54Most guys are too afraid to say, "You
5:56know what? I'm going to do what I need
5:57to do because it's logical and it makes
5:58sense and I need to do it regardless of
6:00what you want to do."
6:02That man is the man that she's going to
6:03choose.
6:04Because again, that man is safe for her
6:05for her future. She knows if she has
6:07kids with that man, that man is going to
6:09be able to provide.
6:11Cuz he has more resources, because he
6:12makes logical decisions. That man is
6:14going to be a lot further ahead in life
6:15because he makes logical decisions.
6:17Imagine thinking
6:19that you it's more attractive if you do
6:22things her way just because she sees
6:24that the only reason you are conforming
6:26to her and doing things because
6:29doing things her way is because she has
6:30something between her legs. This is
6:32pathetic.
6:33And she looks at you and she goes, "You
6:34are pathetic. Just because I have
6:36something between my legs, you are so
6:37afraid of losing
6:39what's in between my legs
6:41that you are going to put off your
6:43future and your success and retirement
6:45and your parents and financial stability
6:46and achieving your goals and dreams to
6:47take me out?"
6:49And you don't do this once, you do this
6:50every week. Of course she's not going to
6:52respect you. Of course she's going to go
6:53to the club. Of course she's going to
6:54hang out with other guys. Of course
6:56she's going to do whatever she wants to
6:57do.
6:58Your time has no value, you don't know
7:00how to say no, and she looks at you and
7:01she goes, "This man is pathetic. He's
7:03desperate for me. He needs me." No man
7:05that needs a woman
7:07is a man that a woman wants to stay with
7:09on the long term because that man is not
7:11strong. He's not capable. He's doesn't
7:14have anything
7:16that's special.
7:17Any man is willing to do that. Any man
7:19is willing to put off everything to the
7:21side
7:22and go out with his girl cuz he doesn't
7:23want to disappoint her. The one guy that
7:24she's going to choose
7:26is the guy
7:27that sticks to his mission and sticks to
7:29his purpose regardless
7:33regardless
7:35of what what how she feels or how it
7:37makes her feel. If that upsets her,
7:39that's fine. She's going to have to deal
7:40with it. And the funny part about it is
7:42she's actually going to be more
7:43attracted to you.
7:44Let her be upset. Don't try to make her
7:46feel better. Don't try to fix things.
7:47Let her be upset. She's going to be
7:49attracted to you because you don't care.
7:51Doing less is doing more. Don't try to
7:53explain yourself.
7:54Don't tell her why you're going to the
7:56gym instead of taking her out. Just do
7:58what you are doing. Stick to your
7:59purpose because you can never make her
8:01the priority. You have to be led by
8:03something else in life. She doesn't want
8:05to be the boss. The boss in your life
8:06needs to be your goal, your goals, and
8:09your success, and your future. That is
8:10the boss in your life. That is what
8:12leads you.
8:14That has to lead you every day.
8:16So, do less for her.
8:18And in return, she will do more for you.
8:20She will respect you more. She will
8:22value your time more. She will love you
8:25more.
8:26You will be more rare in her eyes. You
8:29will be more desirable to her.
8:33Less is more. Stop trying to be a good
8:36boyfriend cuz you don't know what the
8:37[ __ ] that means. Your idea of a good
8:40boyfriend is totally wrong. A good
8:43boyfriend, a good man
8:45is a man who sticks to his purpose and
8:47his mission regardless of whether it
8:48makes her happy or not because that man
8:51is a man who's going to be safe for her
8:52future, going to be able to provide for
8:53his family, and going to make
8:56every single one of his dreams come
8:58true.
9:00That's a good man.