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0:00This is possibly the most important
0:01lesson I've ever made on this channel.
0:04I'm going to teach you how to become
0:06egotistical whilst also remaining
0:08completely self-aware because most
0:10people fall into one of three categories
0:12when it comes to their ego. A lot of
0:14people are far too humble to ever
0:16succeed. They believe in being liked
0:18more than they believe in what's inside
0:20their soul and what they truly want to
0:22become. They believe more in the
0:24approval of others. The problem is, in
0:25order to ever become truly great, to
0:28become the most that you can be, you
0:31must break the rules, you must risk
0:33being hated. To ever be truly loved, I'm
0:36going to teach you exactly how to do
0:37that. You see, people fall into one of
0:38three categories. No ego at all. Very,
0:41very humble. This is your common man,
0:44holier than thou. Inside him, he knows
0:47he has something, but he feels a little
0:50bit too scared to ever go for it. kind
0:52of like going for it is wrong, right?
0:54Like going for it makes other people
0:56feel smaller around him. Like going for
0:58it would upset the people that he
1:01admires or likes. And so he remains
1:03small. But the problem with this person,
1:06the humble person, is usually that
1:09inside of them they wanted something
1:11more, but they didn't go for it. And it
1:13creates the worst type of person because
1:15then they become angry because then they
1:18see greatness in other people and they
1:19can't appreciate it and they can't love
1:21it. And anyone who's had success knows
1:24that you must first appreciate other
1:26people's success. You must first see the
1:29good in other people. You must first see
1:31the righteousness in greatness in order
1:33to achieve it. Because your mind won't
1:35let you achieve things that you
1:37internally hate. And this person gets
1:39filled with jealousy.
1:42The humble man. I'm fine doing this.
1:45This is fine for my life. I'm going to
1:47live the normal path. and they've come
1:50up with all these reasons why that was
1:52correct for them, but internally they
1:54hate other people. There's an inner
1:57turmoil. Occasionally there's not. Some
1:59people are just chill. I'm doing my
2:01thing. Fantastic. But don't trick
2:04yourself, right? Cuz the majority of
2:06people want to pretend that they're that
2:08person. But if we could actually see
2:10inside, we know that they want more.
2:13that pang of jealousy when they see the
2:15money or the Ferrari or the car or the
2:16person with the girl and they have to
2:18tear it down. They know that comes from
2:20somewhere. Then there is the man that is
2:22all ego. I've kind of skirted the line
2:24between being all ego. I've I've never
2:26been all humble as you can probably
2:28notice just looking at me. I I kind of
2:32give the impression of from my outer
2:36persona. Arrogant prick straight off the
2:40bat. That's fine with me cuz I know
2:42fundamentally I'm actually not. But I
2:44don't need you to believe me. But there
2:47is the man that's all ego. I have been
2:49that at times where you just drink your
2:53own Kool-Aid. You believe so much so
2:56egotistically in your own vision that
2:59you are not humble in your execution.
3:01This is where a lot of men that are kind
3:04of dreamers get caught because the thing
3:07about dreams is that they're wonderful
3:09in your mind and in reality they're much
3:12harder. So, it's very easy to also be
3:14all ego and say, "Well, one day I'm
3:15going to be great, but I need these
3:17circumstances and to do this thing and
3:20I'm kind of not willing to eat [ __ ] I'm
3:22I'm not willing to do this kind of hard
3:24work or eat [ __ ] in the middle because
3:26I'm bigger and better than that." That's
3:28a really dangerous place to be as well
3:31because that is like if you say you're
3:33going to be a millionaire businessman
3:35well a lot of the time like for me for
3:38example I had to start with a 9 to5 in
3:40sales that I really didn't like doing
3:42cold calls and then I saved that money
3:44and then I had to leave the security of
3:45that money I moved on a one-way ticket
3:48alone to Thailand to forge myself
3:52solo with no income coming in or very
3:56little income coming in on my savings. I
3:59had to take this risk and leave the ego
4:01of having a good job or making some
4:04money in order to forge something
4:06greater than myself and to have an
4:08element of risk, but also be humble in
4:10the fact that when I first make videos,
4:12they're going to be [ __ ] People are
4:13going to make fun of me, but I'm willing
4:15to do that work because my internal
4:18guidance, my internal ego is what I'm
4:21listening to. I'm not listening to an
4:23ego about what people think about me.
4:26I'm listening to what's inside of me,
4:28which is very important. And the one
4:30that we want to achieve is that you are
4:33entirely egotistical in your vision and
4:36your dream for the future, but you're
4:39also incredibly self-aware and you are
4:42humble in your execution, willing to eat
4:44[ __ ] knowing that your internal
4:47compass, internally your personality,
4:50internally your essence is greatness.
4:55Therefore, the opinions of others
4:57doesn't matter. What you have to do to
4:59get there doesn't particularly matter.
5:01And you are willing to be a beginner.
5:03You're willing to learn. You're willing
5:05to step down a step in order to rise up
5:09is what we want to build inside of
5:12ourselves. And inside of all of this,
5:15you must understand that in order to
5:17become the greatest you can possibly be,
5:19you will skirt the line between hero and
5:22villain on a tight rope. are kind of one
5:25or the same because in every ounce of
5:28greatness there is some darkness. In the
5:30darkest of dark there is some greatness.
5:32And the ying and yang philosophy is
5:35combining that. How we must combine
5:37that. And that's exactly what we're
5:38doing here to bring the kind of humble
5:41side together but also at the same time
5:43the egotistical the villain. Look at any
5:46hero you look at Spider-Man. I know
5:48these are just typical um superheroes
5:52but it relates to real life. It really
5:54does. Look at Spider-Man. Look at
5:55Superman. Look at Batman. In a way, the
5:59world can sometimes paint them as
6:00villains. They have to be vigilantes.
6:03Even though they're doing what is right,
6:05they're very close on the line between
6:07love and hate. And you have to be
6:10willing to become the greatest version
6:11of you. You really have to be willing to
6:13risk being hated. And for that to not
6:15bother you, for you to not need that.
6:18It's only once you let go of who you
6:20are, you can become who you might be.
6:23This is kind of what I did when I moved
6:25to Thailand, and I've done it many times
6:27since. You have to base your ego not off
6:30of what you have, what you earn, who you
6:35are on an internal level, and the
6:38discipline you keep with yourself, the
6:41way you look after yourself, and the way
6:43you commit to what you say. That is
6:44where an ego must be truly born through
6:47the solving of problems for yourself
6:49without the opinions of others. I could
6:52have all the [ __ ] in the world, right? I
6:54could have the best cars, best houses,
6:56but I could fundamentally be a piece of
6:58[ __ ] if I don't keep that word to
7:01myself. And at the same time, you could
7:03be the greatest man on earth with no
7:05belongings and have that innate
7:07confidence in yourself. You do not need
7:09things. And your ego should not be based
7:11on things. should be based on who you
7:12are, the problems you can solve, and
7:14your belief in yourself and your vision
7:16and what you do and what you believe is
7:18right. That's where the ego should come
7:21from. You have to let go of a lot of
7:23that stuff on the outside. Your job
7:24right now, you might be making 10K a
7:26month at a job that you hate, but you
7:28like the fact that you're in the
7:30corporate world and you have some status
7:31and you make this money. You must burn
7:34that in order to become the man you want
7:36to be. If that's a multi-millionaire or
7:38a creative endeavor or your own
7:39business, you must be willing to destroy
7:42that. That's the trade-off.
7:45In order to become great, you must let
7:47go of everything you feel you have
7:48become so far. Number two, let me help
7:52you reverse analyze some of this stuff
7:54on why it can feel difficult to believe
7:57in yourself. The praise reward trap.
7:59From a very young age, for most people,
8:01you have been raised to believe that if
8:04you do what other people say, then you
8:06get love. Words of affirmation built up,
8:11right? Your parents say you follow the
8:13rules, you do this, do your homework on
8:15time, do this. Nothing wrong with this
8:18style of parenting, right? It's normal.
8:21For a young mind, it shapes you because
8:24you think that breaking the rules leads
8:27to hate or not being loved. You break
8:30the rules with your parents and they
8:33take away their kindness or their love
8:35and you follow the rules and they give
8:36you kindness and the love and the
8:38belief. So you start to base your
8:39feelings of selfworth on the opinions of
8:42somebody else. This then happens through
8:44school for by design. This happens
8:46through school. You follow the rules in
8:48school. You do things on time. You don't
8:49question the book and you are filled
8:51with ego. You become higher status in
8:55that school in that model. You break the
8:59rules or you disagree with the rules and
9:00you become lower status and any ego from
9:03other people is taken away. So
9:04inherently inside of you from a very
9:06young age your ego becomes tied to what
9:08other people think of you rather than
9:11what you think of yourself. And that is
9:14what we must change. Because in order to
9:17become something extraordinary, you must
9:20break the common rules. I don't mean
9:22breaking the law. I don't mean being
9:24horrible to other people. I just very
9:26simply mean not following the common
9:28trap. The entire system that most people
9:31are born into is designed to make a
9:33worker that follows rules. An
9:36entrepreneur or somebody who builds
9:37greatness in their life cannot follow
9:39that same model. So you must be
9:42comfortable with having this bulletproof
9:44ego inside of yourself that believes I
9:47can do anything and I do not need the
9:48approval of others. But at the same
9:50time, and this is very important, you
9:53must become radically self-aware. You
9:55must understand why you are doing
9:56things. You must understand how it
9:59impacts other people. You must have an
10:01implicit understanding of your driving
10:03forces inside of yourself. Otherwise,
10:06you become the villain. You have to be
10:09radically self-aware. You have to notice
10:11tendencies in your personality and you
10:14also have to be radically self-aware
10:16about other people. I find it very
10:18difficult to dislike anybody or to blame
10:22anybody. And I think that's a good thing
10:25and you can have it too. You can't
10:26dislike anybody when you understand
10:28yourself or when you understand other
10:30people because you understand people's
10:33motives and why they do things and
10:34usually it's just because they're less
10:35self-developed than you. For example, if
10:38somebody's if somebody helps you, right?
10:41Let's imagine this. This is very common.
10:44Your boss helps you become very good at
10:46your job. And after two years working
10:47for that guy, making him a load of
10:49money, you decide, well, I've become
10:50very good at this now. I'm going to go
10:51out and do it on my own. A radically
10:53self-aware man and somebody who is
10:56incredibly enlightened and probably a
10:58hero, the boss would encourage that
11:01because he knows that your continued
11:04greatness feeds him. That that's the
11:07greatest thing you can do is inspire and
11:10grow somebody else, change somebody's
11:12life. People don't understand how
11:14fundamentally changing that is to a
11:16person and how much respect, honor, and
11:19love they have for you when you allow
11:21them to go that way. But the egotistical
11:23man, the egotistical boss without
11:25self-awareness believes he is the
11:27greatest thing on earth. He has made
11:28you. He believes he has made you. So
11:31when you start to go and do your own
11:33thing, he then hates you. He believes
11:35you are taking from him. But that's not
11:37how it is. He has grown and watered a
11:40seed.
11:42It doesn't mean that he made the tree.
11:46Okay?
11:47He has grown and watered that seed and
11:49it has become great and it wants to be
11:51something bigger. And the man who is
11:53self-aware can understand that this is a
11:56great thing that I've done to push that
11:58person on. The egotistical man without
12:00self-awareness, he will then try and
12:02destroy that. He tries to hate you. He
12:04goes, "No, you can't become that. You
12:06are [ __ ] me over. I made you. I built
12:08you. I gave you all of this and now
12:10you're taking it away from me.
12:12Can't think that way." And when you
12:15become self-aware of why as humans we do
12:17these things because inside why would
12:20the boss do that because inside he feels
12:21insecure because inside he requires
12:24other people's praise and attention in
12:26order to feel powerful. So as soon as he
12:29starts to let something go that was
12:30giving his outsized results from the
12:32outside. As soon as that's taken away
12:33his ego is damaged. The ego cannot be
12:36that fragile. It cannot be tied to
12:37things like that because then you start
12:39making bad choices start making bad
12:41decisions. You start treating people
12:42wrong. It all comes from an element of
12:44fear. Fear must be destroyed early on.
12:47Fear is destroyed by relying solely on
12:49yourself.
12:50Feeling love for yourself. Feeling love
12:53internally for who you are, not for your
12:56results on the outside and certainly not
12:58for what other people think of you. And
12:59that leads us onto the destruction of
13:01hate. You destroy your own vision with
13:03hate. Your vision is immune to doubt if
13:06you don't give doubt power.
13:10You must let go of hate and operate from
13:12a place of love. You cannot let what
13:13other people say about your vision
13:15affect your vision. If other people's
13:18hate can affect you, it will destroy
13:22your vision. But your vision is immune
13:24to hate and it's immune to doubt if only
13:26you do not doubt it yourself. And this
13:29all comes from that self-awareness. If
13:31you have a fantastic vision for your
13:32life, why would somebody try and tear
13:35that down? We can ask ourselves that
13:37question. So you have this great vision
13:38for your life. You tell it to your mom
13:41or your dad, right? I'm going to become
13:42this this great thing and they go oh
13:45that that won't work don't do that
13:47that's a terrible idea and and a lot of
13:49people will give
13:52weight importance to that opinion to
13:55that decision of their parents and they
13:57let it deter them from their path but if
14:00you actually think about it they are not
14:02doing that to tear you down they just
14:04don't understand that's all it is and as
14:07soon as you view people's hate or
14:09people's doubt in you as a
14:12non-understanding rather than an attack,
14:14it loses all its power. Your mother will
14:17not want you to become the greatest
14:18thing you can become. She wants you to
14:20become the safest thing you can become
14:22because inherently she loves you. She
14:24doesn't want to see your hopes
14:26diminished. She doesn't want to see you
14:28mentally or physically hurt in the
14:30things that you do. If we understand
14:33ourselves, we understand people. We can
14:35see that in our mother. And you can say
14:37to her when she doesn't believe your
14:39vision, she doesn't want you to do it.
14:42She doesn't believe in you. You say,
14:44"Don't worry, man. It's okay. It's what
14:46I've got to do." But I I understand
14:48where you're coming from. You become
14:50very powerful in that place. Whereas a
14:53lot of people then take that hate. My
14:55mom doesn't [ __ ] even believe in me.
14:57Why does my mom believe in me? No, it's
15:00not. It's nothing to do with that.
15:02That's just how some people are. People
15:04don't mean to tear down your vision. A
15:06lot of people will tear down vision
15:07simply because the vision is bigger than
15:10anything they could ever imagine because
15:12they're stuck in a cycle of fear, a
15:15bubble of fear and hate for themselves
15:18because they had a vision once,
15:20something that they wanted to go for.
15:22They decided to be humble and they
15:24didn't have an ego. They didn't go after
15:26what they wanted and they feel it's
15:28unfair that other people can. You must
15:31understand that this is how the game
15:33works. that you must have an in innate
15:36belief in your own vision and you must
15:37prove it to yourself on a daily basis
15:39with small disciplined action and that
15:41what other people say to you is of
15:45little consequence on your vision and
15:48that it can be treated with kindness
15:49that that all people can be when you
15:52understand someone and you understand
15:53yourself and another area just a final
15:56bonus tip this is something that I
15:59struggle with is uh taking advice so I
16:01become quite egotistical quite high in
16:04my belief in my own vision. Especially
16:06when you've kind of built something for
16:08yourself. You this will stop you from
16:10learning. I have to battle this. If
16:13you're somebody that hasn't achieved
16:15what you want to achieve gives you
16:16advice, you're probably right to take
16:19your own advice instead if you've
16:20achieved more. If somebody has achieved
16:23far more than you in the area that you
16:25want to achieve something,
16:27it does you a lot of good to forget your
16:30ego to become a student again and listen
16:33to that person if they have better
16:35results and the life that you desire. I
16:37have to watch out for this one. I can
16:40sometimes think that my idea is the
16:42greatest. Occasionally it is. Other
16:45times I would be much better listening
16:46to the advice of those above me. So I
16:48work on that and and I see this a lot.
16:50We obviously run
16:52very high level entrepreneurs network
16:53new elite and we teach how to build
16:57freedom in your life through personal
16:58brand and we often see sometimes when
17:01guys come through that they have such a
17:03big ego that they will not follow my
17:04advice even though they have not built
17:06anything yet and they might not they
17:08might do their own thing for six months
17:10and then they come back and they say
17:11okay I've eaten [ __ ] now I saw my idea
17:13wasn't great what's your path Jack and
17:16they finally listen and they get the
17:17result happens to me happens to our
17:20students
17:21somebody's done more than you and they
17:22live the life you want to live, it makes
17:25sense to heed their advice. But there
17:27you go. Personally, I think that's one
17:29of the most important videos could
17:31possibly make on this channel. You're
17:32probably too humble to succeed or too
17:34egotisticalistical to succeed. You must
17:37find yourself somewhere in the middle
17:38between the ying, yin, and the yang. See
17:42you on the next one.