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0:00All of you in a long distance
0:01relationship need to chill out. You guys
0:03are at a disadvantage. You got to
0:04understand you're going to lose the girl
0:05here. Unless you carry the relationship
0:07the correct way. And there's only a few
0:09different things that you have to do to
0:11make sure that you can maintain this
0:12relationship. You see,
0:14the problem is when you're in a long
0:15distance relationship you're instantly
0:16at a disadvantage because what kind of
0:18man would put up with seeing a woman
0:19only once every few months? Well, I'll
0:21tell you what kind of man, a low value
0:23man. A man who can't find a woman just
0:25as pretty with the same qualities in his
0:27city.
0:28That's all it is. So, this is the thing.
0:30It instantly puts you at a disadvantage.
0:32This type of relationship makes it very
0:34difficult for you to maintain
0:37attraction.
0:38Because she looks at you and she goes,
0:40"Oh, he's so desperate that he's willing
0:41to wait months just to see a woman? He
0:44must have no other options."
0:46This is why realistically the only way
0:48to make this work is to just not care
0:51because you see, the way attraction
0:52works
0:53is it is demonstrated through your
0:56value. It is raised through your
0:58perceived value. And the way you raise
1:00your perceived value is through
1:02indicating options. Like you can date
1:04anyone in the market.
1:06How do you indicate that you can date
1:07anyone in the market? All you have to do
1:09is have a lack of care. See, the guy who
1:10can date any woman and can easily
1:12replace the woman that he's dating that
1:13long distance relationship,
1:15that guy has a lack of care for losing
1:17her.
1:18So, all you got to do is have a lack of
1:19care for losing her. Have a lack of care
1:21of the things that she does. See, a lot
1:23of you guys are getting disrespected by
1:24these women that are in a long distance
1:26relationship. They feel a little bit
1:27more free.
1:28They feel less entitled to have to
1:30listen and behave. Why? Because
1:33they look at you and they see you as a
1:34man with a disadvantage. He is so low on
1:37options. He doesn't have any other women
1:39interested in him, so he's putting up
1:40with me miles away from him, thousands,
1:43whatever, however far it is, right?
1:45Obviously, it isn't convenient. It's
1:46long distance.
1:48Meaning I must be really special and
1:50important to him. So, if I do something
1:52out of line, he's not going to leave me.
1:54Because he can't replace me. That's the
1:56calculation that she's making. Now, you
1:58got to revert that. How do you revert
2:00that? You have to understand, there's
2:02only one way to do this, and it's by
2:03having a lack of care.
2:05She's going to go and do things that are
2:06get going to get under your skin. All
2:07you have to do is not allow them to get
2:09under your skin. She's going to go hang
2:11out with her friends. Maybe she's in
2:12college. She's going to go out with
2:14people that maybe you don't want to go
2:15out with. Doesn't matter. Let her do it.
2:19See, now what happens is when you let
2:20her do it and you pull back how much
2:22you're texting and calling her and you
2:24release all of that need, that desire
2:27for having to con- constantly
2:28communicate because you're insecure and
2:30you're afraid of losing her, what
2:31happens is
2:33you guarantee yourself
2:35the relationship. You guarantee that
2:36you're not going to lose her because now
2:37she goes, "Wait a minute. Is he seeing
2:39other women? Is he losing interest in
2:41me? Am I not good enough?
2:44Why does he not care anymore?
2:45Every other guy I've ever dated cared so
2:47much if I did something out of place."
2:50And now she looks at you and she makes
2:51the calculation and goes, "I might lose
2:53him if I continue to do what I'm doing."
2:55And she stops.
2:56Now, if she doesn't stop, she doesn't
2:57like you in the first place.
2:59She never did.
3:00Or maybe she did, but because you've
3:01been putting up with this long distance
3:02relationship for so long, the attraction
3:04has decreased. So, this is the only
3:06thing you can do, and the only way that
3:08you can make this work is by releasing
3:10all of that need for communication. Just
3:13let it go.
3:14All that necessary information you need
3:16about what she's doing and where she's
3:17going, stop.
3:19And let me tell you, the biggest thing
3:20you can do
3:21and this is the biggest, best thing that
3:24you can implement right now, which will
3:25change the entire dynamic, is to stop
3:27initiating contact. Use the distance to
3:30your advantage.
3:32Use the distance to your advantage
3:34to let her paint
3:37a fantasy about the relationship. See,
3:40women are going to fill in the gaps. If
3:41you don't tell her everything about your
3:42life and what you're doing on a daily
3:44basis
3:45and you let her fill it in, she's
3:46automatically going to fantasize about
3:48what women are attracted to. She's going
3:50to fantasize about what she's attracted
3:52to. This is why women
3:54always assume that if a guy pulls away,
3:57he is cheating on her.
3:59Women are attracted to that. That's
4:00proof that women are attracted to men
4:02who sleep with other women.
4:04Women only find men attractive when they
4:06are valuable. Value is demonstrated
4:08through showing options. A man who
4:10cheats is a man who has options. A man
4:11without options can't cheat. This is why
4:14when a woman
4:15feels that distance,
4:17she automatically fills that void with
4:20her own fantasy of you being with other
4:22women because this is what they are
4:23attracted to.
4:25Let her feed into this by letting her
4:28fill in the gaps
4:29by not telling her everything that
4:31you're doing.
4:32And let me tell you, I'm not telling you
4:33to ghost her. I'm not telling you to
4:34stop talking to her because you see that
4:36would be reactive as well. That would
4:37show that you care. See, a man would not
4:38react. If you had all the women in the
4:39world and you were fully abundant, you
4:41wouldn't care that she's going to ghost
4:43you. You wouldn't ghost her back. That
4:45is reactive. That's the same as
4:46constantly communicating with her on the
4:48daily.
4:49What you do is you reciprocate. If she
4:52texts you, text her back. Don't play
4:54games. If she ghosts you,
4:57and then she texts you,
4:59don't ghost her. Text her back. You need
5:01to reward the good behavior. If she's
5:03texting you back, why would you punish
5:05her for that?
5:06See, first she's ghosting you and you
5:08get all upset and you go, "Why are you
5:10ghosting? What's going on? Why are you
5:11being distant?" So, you're rewarding her
5:13by giving her attention for the bad
5:15behavior. And then when she texts you,
5:16now you go, "I'm going to ghost her."
5:17You're you're disciplining her in the
5:19incorrect way. You are now
5:23punishing her for texting you. She
5:25texted you. Text her back.
5:27When she texts you, text her back. But,
5:29if she doesn't text you, leave it.
5:31You don't care. You got things to do.
5:34You got business to take care of. You're
5:36busy being a man.
5:37You're busy messing with other girls. Or
5:39at least she thinks. Cuz some of you
5:41guys don't have the balls to be with
5:42multiple women. You're not man enough.
5:44So, it's fine. You don't have to do
5:45that. All you got to do to demonstrate
5:47the same amount of value through
5:49demonstrating options is by not caring.
5:51Cuz you know what kind of man doesn't
5:52care to contact a woman every day? You
5:54know what kind of man doesn't care if
5:55she stays or if she leaves? You know
5:56what kind of man doesn't need that
5:57constant communication? Is a man who can
6:00easily replace her. And a man who can
6:01easily replace a woman is a man who's
6:03valuable. Because only valuable men have
6:05options. Meaning if you demonstrate you
6:06have options, you're automatically
6:08perceived as a valuable man. You don't
6:09have to have looks, money, and status.
6:10It automatically creates this illusion
6:12in her mind. And you know what
6:13attraction is based off of?
6:15Value. So, let me tell you, if this
6:17woman is currently disrespecting you,
6:18she's not doing things the way she's
6:20supposed to be doing things, she's not
6:21acting right, you do not set boundaries,
6:23you do not communicate this to her, you
6:24do not threaten her with oh, I'm going
6:26to break up with you if you don't stop
6:28doing this. No, because all that does is
6:29show how much you care. And the only
6:31kind of man that cares is a man who's
6:32low on options, who can't replace a
6:33woman.
6:35And a low-value man is an unattractive
6:37man. All you have to do here, your
6:38issue,
6:39which you have to address, is that
6:40attraction is decreasing.
6:42How do you raise attraction?
6:44Through demonstrating that you are more
6:45valuable than all the other guys she can
6:46date. How do you demonstrate you are the
6:48most valuable man? By demonstrating
6:50options. How do you demonstrate options?
6:52By not caring.