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0:00Never try to build a connection with a
0:01woman, ever. The best connections you're
0:03going to have are the connections
0:05that are just natural. And the thing is,
0:07you can actually make them occur
0:08naturally. The way a woman gets attached
0:11is totally different than what you've
0:13been taught.
0:13>> [snorts]
0:13>> In your mind, as a man, you think,
0:15"Okay, well, I need to find something in
0:16common." It's like the same thing you do
0:18with your buddies. With your buddies,
0:19you're like, "Oh, you like Porsches? I
0:20like Porsches, too. Oh, you like to go
0:22out to do this and this? Oh, you like to
0:24go to the gym? Oh, I like to do that,
0:25too." And then you find those things in
0:26common, and you're like, "Oh,
0:28you know, we get along." That is not how
0:30women work. You can put a man in front
0:32of them that has everything in common
0:34with them.
0:35But, they are going to find that man
0:37unattractive. They are going to be
0:39turned off by that man because it has
0:41nothing to do with things in common. It
0:42has nothing to do with, "Oh, you're from
0:45Italy? I'm also from Italy." Or, "Oh,
0:47you can speak Russian? I can also speak
0:48Russian." It's none of that.
0:50What it is is one thing. Comes down to
0:53one simple thing. If you understand how
0:54to master this one simple thing, you're
0:57going to be able to build a connection
0:58with any woman. And it's totally
0:59different than everything you've ever
1:00been taught. You see, what I'm teaching
1:02you right now is unlearning all the crap
1:04that you've been taught. Find something
1:06in common.
1:08You know, establish uh your goals and
1:10dreams and see if you guys align on
1:12those things. All those things are crap.
1:14You need to unlearn all these things.
1:16Unlearn them. Get them out of your head
1:18because they don't matter. These things
1:20are not going to help you build a
1:21connection.
1:23What is going to help you build a
1:24connection is one thing and one thing
1:26only. And you need to get her to this
1:28place.
1:29And if you don't get her to this place,
1:30she will never feel that connection. And
1:32the place that you need to get her to is
1:34pursuit.
1:36She needs to chase you. How do you do
1:39this? How do you get a girl to chase
1:41you? Well, guess what? The connection is
1:42built only off of that. So, if you can't
1:43get her to chase you, you can't build a
1:45connection. The connection is built off
1:48of her pursuing you, off of her chasing
1:50you.
1:51And this is how it goes. Here's what you
1:52want to do. Let's say you sit sit down
1:54on a date with a the girl.
1:56A lot of guys are going to do what I
1:57just said. Find something in common.
1:59They're going to try to get along in
2:01certain way and they're going to try to
2:02be nice and they're going to do all
2:03these things and they're going to try to
2:04make her laugh and they're going to do
2:05they're going to try. The keyword here
2:06is try.
2:07Try to build a connection. Try to make
2:09her laugh. Try to establish some sort of
2:10common ground.
2:12This is what you want to do to build
2:12connection.
2:14Do not try.
2:16Any amount of you trying kills
2:18attraction and kills connection.
2:21Stop trying. I want you to sit down and
2:22I want you to be like
2:24Wow, look how green the trees are.
2:27Look at how beautiful the sky looks. The
2:29weather is so nice. I want you to focus
2:31on your pasta.
2:33I want you to focus on your pasta. And
2:35now
2:36she's pursuing because now she goes,
2:38"Every other man I've ever sat down on a
2:39date with
2:41cared so much, asked me all these
2:43questions. He constantly tried to form
2:46some sort of common ground and make me
2:48feel comfortable and make me laugh and
2:50this guy just doesn't give a [ __ ] Why
2:52does he care more about his pasta than
2:54he cares about asking me questions or
2:55that he cares about me?"
2:57And now she's pursuing you. Now she's
2:59chasing you. Now she needs to prove
3:00herself to you. Now she's trying to
3:03continue the conversation. Now she's
3:05trying to get things rolling. And let's
3:07say she's not trying. Let's say you're
3:08not that attractive of a guy and she
3:09doesn't really care.
3:11She's still going to go home thinking
3:12about why did this one guy not give a
3:13[ __ ] to form some sort of connection
3:16with me?
3:17You will always be that dude that tried
3:18less than everybody else and this is why
3:20it's attractive because it indicates
3:21that you are more valuable than all the
3:23other men she's ever been with.
3:24Remember,
3:25the only kind of guy that doesn't try
3:27with a woman that's beautiful and a
3:29woman that is, you know, out of this
3:31world is a guy that already has women
3:33that are out of this world.
3:34>> [snorts]
3:34>> So, when you show her that you don't
3:36care, I'm not telling you to be a bum.
3:38I'm not telling you to be boring. I'm
3:39telling you
3:40pay attention, be present, and focus on
3:44simple things. Stop trying to build deep
3:47meaningful conversation. Just focus on
3:49the simple things.
3:50This is going to turn her on.
3:53Every other guy tried to form that deep
3:55conversation. You don't care. And she
3:57goes,
3:58"Well, he doesn't care. He must always
3:59go out with 10s. He must always have
4:01girls as pretty as me sitting in front
4:03of them on dates. He just is. He's just
4:06a man. Like, he constantly pulls other
4:08women." And this is the only thing, if
4:10you guys watch my other videos, you
4:11understand that this is the only thing
4:12that women are attracted to. They're not
4:13attracted to looks, money, and status.
4:15They're attracted to what those things
4:16indicate. If you have looks, she knows
4:18you can attract women. If you have
4:19money, she knows you can attract women.
4:21If you have status, she knows you can
4:22attract women. If you don't care on the
4:24date,
4:25and you don't care to form some sort of
4:27connection, and you don't care to try,
4:28she knows you already attract women.
4:30Women measure your value based on how
4:32many options you have. She's going to
4:34pursue you if you position yourself as
4:36the man with more options than every
4:38other man in her roster.
4:40Now she's chasing you, and now there's a
4:42connection.
4:43The connection is she's going to reach
4:44out to you. She's going to want to text
4:46you. She's going to want to start a
4:47conversation. She's going to want to go
4:48on a date. And everything now is up to
4:51her to pursue. And now she feels like
4:53this tension, where it's like, "Why
4:55doesn't he care? But I want to see him.
4:57But he doesn't care. He doesn't call me
4:59a lot. But I want to see him." And
5:00that's the connection you need. That is
5:01the connection. When women talk about
5:03connection, they're not talking about,
5:04"Oh, you want to go to Italy? I also
5:06want to go to Italy." No, they want that
5:08pursuit because now they feel like
5:10they're winning.
5:11They feel like there's a prize. And
5:13every time they spend a day with you,
5:14it's like, "I I did it. I got him to
5:17spend a day with me." And every time you
5:18pick up the phone, it's like, "Oh my
5:19god, I'm so happy that he picked up the
5:21phone." It's like, that's the
5:22connection. And it's now she values the
5:25time you guys spend together, which is
5:26what the connection is. Is that every
5:29time she calls you, she values every
5:30single minute. Every time you guys hang
5:32out, she values every single minute.
5:34That's it. Why? Because you are a man
5:36that has has other options. So, you
5:38choosing her makes her feel like she's
5:40been given a gift.
5:42And this is the connection. That gift of
5:45your time, your attention. It's scarce.
5:47She's getting it.
5:48This is everything. That's it. There's
5:51no connection through anything else.
5:52It's just you satisfying the fact that
5:56you are her best option
5:58by showing her that you can attract more
5:59women than everybody else.
6:01And you do this by not caring. Any
6:04amount of you trying, remember, just
6:05makes you seem like you're not enough. A
6:07man who has everything would never try
6:09to prove to her that, "Oh, I'm going to
6:11have this job and this career and I want
6:13to do this. I want to No, if you had
6:15everything and you were the man, you
6:17would never ever try to prove yourself.
6:19You would never ever try to connect with
6:21her or or or give her all these stats
6:23about yourself because you wouldn't have
6:24to because you are the man. That's the
6:26way you got to approach the date.
6:27That's it. If you don't do that,
6:31then she looks at you and she goes, "Oh,
6:32he's desperate. Oh, look how hard he's
6:33trying. Oh, he must never get laid. Oh,
6:35this might be a This must be a
6:36once-in-a-year type of thing for him to
6:38sit down on a date with a girl." And
6:40this [snorts] is the most important
6:41part.
6:42Another reason why trying to connect
6:44kills attraction
6:48and kills your ability to actually
6:50connect with her is because when you try
6:52to connect, you turn her brain on. When
6:54you talk about all these things, work,
6:56career, "What school do you go to? What
6:58do you want to do in the future?" Her
7:00brain starts to work. She starts to
7:02think about the future. She starts to
7:04stress. Women are stressed about the
7:06future. They're anxious about the
7:07future. They don't know where they're
7:08going. You don't want her to think about
7:11any of this. You want to be her escape.
7:12You want to be the guy
7:14that when she's with, she doesn't think
7:16about anything. She thinks about the
7:17pasta the same way you're thinking about
7:19the pasta. That's why all these guys
7:20that think and get intellectual and get
7:21super deep, they're a turn-off because
7:24they make life serious and now
7:26they're not their the woman's escape.
7:28Now they're just pulling her back into
7:29the real world.
7:30Like, they're a escape. This is why
7:31women watch all these TV shows and they
7:33constantly sit in bed watching Netflix
7:34is because they want that escape. They
7:35want to escape from the real world. They
7:37don't want to be anxious. They're loyal
7:38to their emotions. Remember, they want
7:39to feel good.
7:41And you pulling her back into that
7:43consciousness of this is the world and
7:46what do you want to do and where do you
7:47want to go and what do you do for work
7:48and all these logical questions you ask
7:52make her turn on again. They turn her
7:54brain on. She thinks, she stresses, and
7:56now you she doesn't get that emotional
7:58spike from you.
7:59She gets nothing. What she gets is
8:02thoughts.
8:03Just her mind starts to race again. Oh
8:05my god, I'm stressed about job
8:07and now she doesn't enjoy the
8:07conversation and now she sees how hard
8:09you're trying and now she doesn't enjoy
8:11the conversation, her emotions aren't
8:13spiked, and she sees how hard you're
8:14trying, and she sees how desperate you
8:16are, and now there's no connection.
8:18You want to build a connection,
8:20stop trying to build a connection.