Full transcript
0:00You have to understand, the only way
0:01you're going to get her back. Right now,
0:02she's saying, "I'm going to break up
0:03with you. I don't know if things are
0:04going to work out." How do you win? How
0:06do you win her? How do you get her back?
0:07How do you get her obsessed with you? If
0:09she is at this point in the relationship
0:10with you, this means that you failed
0:11every single test. It means you screwed
0:14everything up. Right? Every single time
0:16she tried to see if she could get under
0:17your skin with this petty that
0:19she always does. Like, she hangs out
0:21with her guy friends, or she goes to the
0:22club, or she dresses some way. You know,
0:23she's disrespecting you because she
0:24doesn't care to lose you.
0:26Let me tell you what this is. This final
0:28test is the breakup test. This means,
0:31"Honey, I'm on the way out. I'm going to
0:33give you one more chance." But, let me
0:35tell you, she hasn't lost all interest
0:37yet. It's not all done. Right? Because
0:39if a woman really had nothing, like if
0:40she if she had nothing for you, like she
0:42had no interest in you left, what she
0:44would do is she would just disappear.
0:47You wouldn't hear from her. She would
0:48just disappear from your life. She
0:49wouldn't take the time out of her day to
0:50text you this entire message about how
0:52she doesn't think things are going to
0:53work out. So, you're fine here. You just
0:55got to proceed with caution cuz you've
0:57messed everything up up until this
0:59point. And so, if you continue things
1:01up, and you dig yourself in a hole here
1:02because this is it's very easy to dig
1:04yourself in a hole
1:05at this point in the relationship, then
1:07it's over.
1:08You can get to a point where there's no
1:09recovering. What you do here is you say,
1:11"Okay, no problem."
1:12That's what you want. And you let her
1:13go. And this is what's going to allow
1:15her to regain that attraction for you to
1:17come back. Because you see what's
1:19happened right now is she's lost
1:20attraction through you failing all these
1:22tests because you showed her how much
1:23you cared about every little thing that
1:25she did and got under your skin. And so,
1:27now what you got to do is you got to
1:28regain that attraction.
1:29So, look, how does attraction work?
1:31Attraction is based on your value. Your
1:33value is measured based on how many
1:34options you have. How many options you
1:35have is based on how much you care to
1:38make the relationship work. The less you
1:39care to make the relationship work, the
1:41more options she thinks you have. Why?
1:44The only kind of guy that doesn't care
1:45to make the relationship work, he's not
1:46going to try super hard to save the
1:47relationship, is the kind of guy that
1:49can easily replace the girl. The kind of
1:51guy that can easily replace the girl is
1:53the kind of guy that has a bunch of
1:55value. But, you got to be a valuable man
1:57to have a bunch of options, to be able
1:58to snap your fingers and replace the
2:00girl.
2:01And so, if you just walk away, you say,
2:03"Listen, that's fine. If that's what you
2:04want." And you walk away, she goes, "Can
2:06he replace me? Does he already have
2:07other women waiting for him?"
2:09If her idea of how many options you have
2:12increases, her idea of how valuable you
2:14are increases. And this is all that
2:16attraction is based on. It's based on
2:18how valuable you are.
2:20And her perceived value for you goes up.
2:24And so, that means attraction goes up.
2:26And the only way you can do this, stop
2:27by sitting down and trying to make
2:28things work. Stop by scheduling coffee
2:3010 minutes, let's try and figure out why
2:32it why we don't feel that spark anymore.
2:33It's none of that. Any amount of you
2:35trying is going to turn her off. It's
2:36never going to work. Only way you're
2:37going to make this work
2:39is you say, "Okay, that's fine by me. If
2:41that's what you want. I like you, but I
2:43totally understand." And you let her go.
2:46Bang, she's going to come right back.
2:47She's going to beg for you to take her
2:49back. Just wait. 2 days, 3 days, 4 days.
2:51I don't care how long it takes. She's
2:52going to text you back. She's going to
2:53call you back. No guy has ever done this
2:55to her. This works every single time.