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0:00You know, I've been separated from my
0:01husband for like a year and eight
0:03months.
0:04We don't speak at all. The last time
0:06that I talked to him was December 30th
0:09of 2025, and it is now January 30th,
0:142026. 30 days.
0:16>> I want you to listen to this lady's
0:18account of how she left and blocked her
0:20husband of 15 years from contacting her
0:23because of reasons best known to her.
0:26You're going to hear these reasons of
0:27hers, and you'll find out what her
0:29husband did that made her to leave and
0:31block him. Listen to her account of how
0:33the whole thing played out. This one is
0:36really interesting.
0:37>> The last time that I talked to him was
0:40December 30th of 2025, and it is now
0:43January 30th, 2026. 30 days. And it's
0:48very reminiscent of the first 30 days of
0:50when I left him because when I first
0:52left, I blocked him for like a month.
0:56Because I felt like he deserved it. I
0:57felt like he was being so
1:00disrespectful and
1:02perceiving me so improperly that I just
1:06wanted to take myself away from him.
1:07>> She left him and blocked him for 30 good
1:10days. What are her reasons again? He was
1:13disrespectful and perceiving her
1:15improperly.
1:16>> So improperly that I just wanted to take
1:18myself away from him. So maybe he would
1:22see what he's missing. But instead,
1:24[ __ ] this [ __ ] went across the
1:26country. So whatever, that's another
1:27story. I've been separated now for a
1:29year and eight months. And
1:31>> You left him, you blocked him, and you
1:33expected him to come back crawling and
1:35groveling at your feet. Instead of that,
1:38he went across the country, and you
1:40haven't seen or heard from him for a
1:42year and eight months. Something tells
1:44me that man is feeling alive for the
1:46first time in a very long time, and he's
1:49not in a rush to come back crawling and
1:51begging as you expected.
1:53>> Frankly, I really don't feel like
1:54getting a a
1:55but I also don't feel like going back
1:59because I know what I left and I I
2:00really don't think that it would change,
2:02you know, cuz people's character is
2:04people's character and once he showed
2:06it, I mean, I tried to deal with it, but
2:08it it it wasn't good for me. So, I had
2:10to go. But anyway,
2:13what do you do? Like, how long can
2:15somebody stay separated without
2:17speaking, you know?
2:18>> They put themselves in these very
2:20unnecessary and avoidable situations and
2:23at the end of the day, they want to know
2:26how to get out of it.
2:27>> That's the question. That's the question
2:29that I have because don't get me wrong,
2:31I miss him and I do love him,
2:33but
2:34the relationship was so unhealthy, it
2:36would be crazy for me
2:39to go back.
2:40>> I don't really know the kind of
2:41unhealthy she's talking about because
2:43she never really said anything tangible
2:45or damning that the man did. She said he
2:48was disrespectful and perceiving her
2:50improperly. What does that mean? What
2:52does that even mean?
2:54>> Is it even crazier for me to not get a
2:57divorce? Just to be separated this long?
3:00I don't know. I don't know what to do.
3:02It's really a tough place to be when
3:04you're when when you were married and I
3:06was with this man for 15 years and then
3:08now to be separated for over a year and
3:11a half
3:12and not have any direction on what I'm
3:14what what I'm doing because I'm not
3:16seeing anybody else.
3:18I think about my husband all the time,
3:21but the relationship was toxic and I
3:25know I can't go back.
3:26What am I going to do? What do I do? How
3:28long do you stay separated from
3:29somebody,
3:31you know? And I don't want to be
3:32committing adultery. That's not what I
3:34signed up for, honey. I don't know what
3:35he's doing, but
3:37anybody got any advice for me? Anything?
3:40I'll take anything at this point.
3:42>> Well, my advice for you is this. You're
3:44the one that put yourself in this mess.
3:46You never really specified anything that
3:48was toxic about the man. You even said
3:51you still love him and you think about
3:52him all the time. You're the one that
3:54left and blocked him. So my best advice
3:56for you right now is to get off your
3:58high horse, swallow your pride and call
4:01him or text him. I'd prefer you call.
4:04You don't have to beg him or anything.
4:06Just ask him how he's been. Try to know
4:08where his mind is at and try to spark
4:10things up again so you can reunite with
4:12him. It's over a year and a half now.
4:14You spent 15 years together with him.
4:16It's still possible that he still loves
4:18you just as you still love him. So
4:20swallow your pride and make the call.
4:23>> I think I don't give myself enough
4:24credit for how brutal it has been the
4:26one to end your marriage or
4:28relationship.
4:30Um I think in the past
4:32every ex has done something wrong.
4:34They've done something wrong and it's
4:35been fairly easy to be like, "No, I
4:37deserve more."
4:38I love my
4:39ex now husband, I guess. Um
4:43He's a great guy. So many great things.
4:45Our life is great.
4:47But it's not the life I want.
4:50>> is you can't make this [ __ ] up, people.
4:51You cannot make this [ __ ] up. This is a
4:52case of another lady similar to the one
4:55we just watched. According to her, her
4:57husband is a great guy and she loves
4:59him. But she still ended the marriage.
5:02Why?
5:02>> is great.
5:04But it's not the life I want.
5:07>> The one kudos I'll always give to women
5:09like this is that they admit that the
5:11man that they left was a great guy. They
5:14don't really come up with any bad thing
5:16that the guy does. But somehow they
5:18still end up leaving him just for their
5:21own selfish reasons.
5:22>> And so
5:24I have to choose that and I have to
5:26remember
5:27that
5:28life is so short. Life is so short and I
5:31don't want to
5:32live with regret
5:35of not
5:36living life how I want.
5:38>> This you can't make this [ __ ] up,
5:39people.
5:42You cannot make this [ __ ] up.
5:45>> My dog is snoring. That is perfect
5:47timing.
5:48So, I'm taking a chance and a huge leap
5:51of faith and potentially ruining
5:55so much
5:56to follow my dreams.
5:59>> She's following her dreams, guys. She's
6:01following her dreams. They always think
6:03the grass is greener on the other side
6:06until they reach the other side and they
6:08realize it was all just an illusion. You
6:11had a great guy. He was good to you, did
6:13everything a man should do, but you
6:16wanted more. They always want more.
6:19>> I just left my husband of 23 years and
6:21tell me why I was in the garage
6:23unloading the groceries and my ex had
6:26pulled up to drop off the twins.
6:29And he sees me unloading the groceries.
6:33Did he offer to help? Absolutely not. He
6:36stood and he watched though.
6:37>> Oh, boo-hoo.
6:40Let me play a sad song for you on the
6:42world's [screaming] smallest violin.
6:46>> And so, I obviously wasn't going to give
6:49him the satisfaction and asking for help
6:52because, you know, we are independent
6:53over here.
6:55And so, you bet your ass off that I
6:58picked up all 15 bags of groceries, milk
7:03and everything in one go because we are
7:07strong.
7:08>> Part of divorcing him means he's not
7:10your man anymore. He doesn't come
7:12running when you call. He doesn't get
7:14the groceries. You're not entitled to
7:16any free labor from him anymore unless
7:18he chooses to avail himself to help you.
7:21You don't get to complain. That's the
7:23deal you signed up for.
7:25>> If you're considering getting divorced,
7:27one of my best pieces of advice for you
7:30is to prepare yourself that your spouse
7:33is going to move on and they're possibly
7:36going to move on
7:37much quicker than you're comfortable
7:39with.
7:39>> Here we go again. Another woman who
7:41didn't really understand the
7:43implications of getting divorced before
7:45she asked her husband for it. It seems
7:47as if they don't really think it through
7:49before they conclude they want it. I
7:51don't know.
7:52>> My ex-husband and I when I told him I
7:55wanted a divorce in May,
7:57we you know
7:59decided we were going to sell the house,
8:01you know, we started separating our
8:03assets.
8:05Um we sold our house in August, moved
8:08out in September.
8:10And he was already
8:13out and about
8:14around July.
8:16So, we were not even out of our house
8:18and he was already
8:21moving on.
8:21>> You told the man that you wanted out.
8:23You told the man you wanted a divorce
8:25and you're surprised he's listening to
8:27you and granting your wish. What a very
8:29strange and unexpected thing for a man
8:32to do.
8:33>> Um
8:35but
8:36it was something that I accepted.
8:38When I decided that I wanted to divorce
8:40this man, it wasn't a hasty decision. I
8:44really thought about this decision for a
8:46long time. I had actually told him I
8:48wanted a divorce 2 years before I
8:50divorced him. He, you know, begged and
8:52pleaded and cried and, you know, let's
8:55work things out and, you know, so I gave
8:57it a chance and then inevitably, you
9:00know, we came to a place where I was
9:03just like I don't want to do this. Like
9:04I
9:06I also didn't want him to even try. Like
9:09I I ended up writing him a letter and in
9:12my letter I was just like, please just
9:13like
9:14let it go. Like let's just move on, you
9:17know.
9:17>> You can't make this up. So, you told him
9:19what you wanted for 2 years straight.
9:22You told him you wanted the divorce for
9:242 good years. He cried, he begged and
9:26told you to work things out and you
9:28refused. Yet you're still surprised that
9:31he's moving on.
9:32>> But when I came to this decision, I also
9:36accepted
9:38that he's going to move on
9:40and I have to accept that. And the other
9:42part of it is I honestly accepted that
9:45there's a possibility I could end up
9:47single for the rest of my life.
9:48I could possibly not meet someone and
9:52even if though that's of course not what
9:54I want or wanted, I still like
9:58accepted that it's a possibility
10:01and that choice to me was better than
10:03staying in the marriage that I was in.
10:08But yeah, that's probably my best piece
10:11of advice to you is if this is something
10:14you're seriously considering,
10:17you need to consider that he will find
10:19somebody else. He absolutely
10:23likely knows how to be a husband. He
10:25knows how to date. He knows how to treat
10:27a woman
10:28and
10:30he's going to use those skills that you
10:32taught him on someone else and
10:35>> [laughter]
10:36>> GOD DAMN IT.
10:37YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS [ __ ] UP.
10:41>> you have to accept that. If you can't
10:44accept that, if you can't see it, if you
10:46can't see other women around your
10:48children or other men around your
10:50children,
10:51then
10:52try counseling. You know, this is not
10:54like a hey everybody go get divorced.
10:57Like it's a hard decision. There's a lot
11:00that comes with it. I'm often asked like
11:02how did you do it? How did you do it?
11:05And for me, one of the things I did was
11:07I accepted this. Like I don't care if I
11:10see him with someone else. Doesn't
11:12bother me. To this day. Doesn't bother
11:15me.
11:15>> So that was a [ __ ] lie. I'm not a
11:17body language expert, but I can tell
11:19when someone is quietly regretting the
11:21decision they made. You can tell she's
11:23clearly bothered. She's bothered because
11:26the man she left moved on quickly and
11:28she's seeing him happy with another
11:30woman. She's clearly bothered.
11:32>> Doesn't bother me to this day. Doesn't
11:35bother me. Like I literally don't care
11:38because I accepted it long ago. So,
11:41that's um one of my pieces of advice if
11:43you are thinking about it, like
11:45seriously consider that and consider
11:47that you also might not meet anyone
11:49because let me tell you dating culture
11:52is trash. Like it's we're not joking.
11:56It's seriously trash.
11:57>> Dating culture is trash. That's the only
12:00meaningful thing she said throughout the
12:01video. You can't walk out of a good
12:04marriage in the hopes of finding
12:05something better in this present times
12:07and actually find it, especially if
12:10you're a woman. Nothing is out here in
12:12the streets for you. You're just going
12:13to be passed around and you'd hardly
12:15find someone that will commit to you. At
12:17least she knows the reality today that
12:20the dating culture is trash. She should
12:22have kept the man that was begging to
12:24keep her happy.
12:25>> My ex-fiancé was not a bad man. He was
12:27actually an extremely extremely good
12:29man. And I will maintain that until the
12:32end of my days. He was a good man.
12:35But even good men are conditioned into
12:37entitlement.
12:41>> I think it's [ __ ]
12:44Wait.
12:44>> I seriously think this is turning into
12:46an epidemic. An epidemic of women
12:48destroying their good relationships all
12:51in the name of looking for the perfect
12:53man. You all heard her say it with her
12:55own mouth. Her ex-fiancé was a good man.
12:58She even prefixed it with the word
13:00extremely. She said he was an extremely
13:02extremely good man, but she still walked
13:05away looking for Mr. Perfect. This must
13:08be an epidemic by now. Let's listen to
13:10her.
13:11>> And all women are are conditioned into
13:14servitude.
13:16My partner
13:17did all the things he's supposed to do.
13:20He worked a hard job and he provided the
13:23financial means for our house. He was
13:24our main breadwinner. He fixed things in
13:27the house. He showed up. He played
13:29occasional dates. Like he did all the
13:31things he was supposed to do.
13:33But there was something missing in the
13:35day-to-day that I really did not
13:39give credit to how important it was.
13:43>> [laughter]
13:45>> And that really was just like the
13:46emotional capacities that we had.
13:48I saw someone comment on one of my re-
13:50recent videos of like feeling exhausted
13:53because she was having to beg for that
13:55emotionality in her relationship. And it
13:58brought me back to so many conversations
14:00where I was sitting across from my
14:00partner like begging him to just be
14:03emotional and open with me in a way that
14:05he could not access.
14:07>> What?
14:09Bro, what are you talking about, man?
14:11What does that even mean? What does it
14:13mean you want him to be emotional and
14:15open with you? What does that mean? You
14:18want him to sit across you like your
14:19girlies and tell you about his feelings
14:21and shed tears and cry so that you
14:24console him? What does that mean?
14:26>> And it constantly made me feel like I
14:28was too much. And he was never saying
14:30that. He was never like you were too
14:31much, but it always made me feel like I
14:33was too much. And what we've come to the
14:34realization in our separation is is that
14:37my emotional capacity because of my life
14:39experiences is incredibly large and his
14:42is just not.
14:43And that's okay. That's not an
14:45inherently bad thing on either of our
14:46parts. But what I do think it says is
14:48that like we can't be mismatched in that
14:51and that it isn't enough for your
14:52partner to just be a good guy.
14:55It's not enough for him to just be the
14:56breadwinner. It's not enough for him to
14:58be the person that shows up for the
15:00dates that you plan. It's not enough for
15:01him to plan an occasional date. It's not
15:03enough for him to remember special
15:04events. It's not enough for him to show
15:07up when you ask him to.
15:10It's not enough for him to show up when
15:11you ask him to.
15:12There needs to be this reciprocal
15:15relationship with
15:17with intentionality, with emotionality,
15:20with
15:22future planning, with drive and
15:25ambition, and who pushes things forward,
15:27and who creates the momentum even for
15:28things like chores and errands.
15:30I think
15:32so many great women
15:34settle for men who are good men,
15:37who could provide happy, stable lives,
15:40but they miss out on the opportunity to
15:41understand themselves and what they need
15:43deeper because they think that that's
15:45enough. So, all this being said, if you
15:47are with a good man and you feel like
15:48you're begging to be seen and heard in
15:50your relationship, you can still leave a
15:52good man even if he hasn't done anything
15:54bad to you.
15:55>> I think I lost some brain cells by just
15:57listening to her for the few minutes
15:58that I've listened to her. Seriously, I
16:01did lose some brain cells, and I have no
16:03comment for any of the things that she
16:05said. Please feel free to let me know
16:07what you think in the comments below.
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