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0:00How do I make her obsessed with me? How
0:01do I attract women? This is what you got
0:03to understand. How do you maintain
0:04attraction? Well, it's very simple.
0:05There's this core There's this one core
0:07thing that you have to understand. It's
0:08fundamental to every relationship, and
0:10looks, money, and status is not going to
0:11save you. You could have all the looks,
0:12all the money, and all the status, drive
0:14that Ferrari. I don't care. 6'5",
0:16six-pack abs, it ain't going to save you
0:18if you don't understand this one simple
0:19thing because you see all those things
0:20become invisible when you don't
0:22demonstrate this one simple thing.
0:24And what this is is options. You have to
0:28demonstrate that you have more options
0:29than every other guy that she can be
0:31with and every guy that she's been with
0:33in the past. Otherwise, she's going to
0:34love that guy that cheated on her more
0:35than she loves you. You know how you
0:36beat that guy? You cheat on her twice as
0:38much as he cheated. Because your value
0:40is directly correlated to how many
0:41options you have. You know what happens
0:42when you cheat? You show that you have
0:43options. There's nothing unattractive
0:45about cheating cuz cheating shows that
0:46you have options. A man without options
0:48can't cheat, meaning he's an
0:49unattractive man. Attraction is directly
0:53correlated to how many options you have.
0:56So, there's no such a thing as
0:57connection. You see, a woman will sit
0:58down on a date with a guy that doesn't
1:00care about her at all, and he's not
1:02trying to connect at all, but she feels
1:03a connection. She feels a spark. She
1:04tells all her friends, "I finally met
1:06the one."
1:07Because that guy is so much more
1:09valuable than her cuz he gets laid so
1:11much more than every other guy that
1:12she's ever been with, and he gets laid
1:15more than she can get laid. That's it.
1:17She looks at that guy as a superior to
1:20all the other dudes she's ever been to,
1:21and now she feels a connection. The
1:23connection is that she wants him. She
1:24needs to have him because he's better
1:26than everybody else because she knows
1:28she will live a better life with him, or
1:30at least she thinks she will live a
1:31better life with him because he's more
1:32valuable than everybody else. So, you
1:35got to understand this. Inflating your
1:36looks, money, and status is going to
1:37raise your value. And what happens when
1:40you raise your value? Well, you have
1:42more options in the dating market. So,
1:44when you raise your value, you raise
1:46your amount of options. Meaning, if you
1:47raise your amount of options right now,
1:49you're going to raise your perceived
1:50value. Perceived. See, you could have a
1:52bunch of girls around you, and girls are
1:53going to think that you're rich. They're
1:55going to think, "Well, you must have a
1:56Ferrari." Like, when a guy has a 10 out
1:57of 10 next to him, two 10 out of 10s,
2:00three out of 10 out of 10s, what do you
2:01think right away? Oh, they're paid for.
2:02Oh, he's just got money. Instantly. So,
2:05options is literally directly correlated
2:06to all that value. So, you want to
2:08demonstrate value, demonstrate that you
2:10have options. That's it. And you do this
2:12by not caring. You don't try to connect
2:14with her. You don't try to ever prove
2:16yourself on a date. You don't talk about
2:17anything that's deep and meaningful
2:19because guess what? You already get
2:20laid. You don't care to connect with
2:21her. Okay? Only the guy that never gets
2:24laid and he never has attention from
2:26women and he never talks to girls is
2:28looking for that connection. She looks
2:30at you and she goes, oh, you're the one
2:31guy that's not trying to connect or
2:32prove himself or talk about how he grew
2:34up and he did this and now he wants to
2:36do this with his life and he wants to go
2:37here and there and do this. Now she
2:39looks at you and she goes, why are you
2:40not trying to prove yourself? Why are
2:42you so abundant? Why do you not care?
2:44Why? Every other guy gets on his knees
2:46and starts begging for my approval and
2:48you just don't care and that's the
2:49connection. That's the obsession. That's
2:51how she gets obsessed with you. She gets
2:52obsessed with you because you're the one
2:54guy that she can't figure out, that she
2:56can't have, and the one guy that's more
2:57valuable than everybody else. Remember,
2:59you are strictly transactional.
3:01As a man, you have to offer something.
3:05So, that means your value needs to be
3:07high. You need to have resources. How do
3:09you demonstrate that you have resources?
3:11You don't even need resources. You
3:12don't. You just demonstrate that you
3:14don't care because if you don't care,
3:15you must have so many women around. And
3:17if you have so many women around, you
3:18must be rich and you must have
3:20resources.
3:21The same way having resources must mean
3:23that you have a bunch of girls around
3:24cuz if you drive a Ferrari, everyone's
3:26everybody's going to think you always
3:27get laid. It's the same way. You flip it
3:29around and it still works. Now, here's
3:30the thing. Looks, money, and status is
3:31not going to save you because you could
3:32have all the looks, money, and status in
3:34the world, but if you don't understand
3:35this and you don't understand how to
3:36maintain attraction in the relationship,
3:37she's still going to leave you because
3:40all those things become invisible if you
3:42don't act right. If you start simping
3:43and acting just like the guy who's broke
3:45and desperate, well, guess what? She's
3:46going to look at you and go, oh, you're
3:48not as attractive as the guy that drives
3:49the Camry that the Camry that didn't
3:51text me for a week that I have to always
3:53reach out to first. That guy still gets
3:54laid more than you and you drive a
3:55Ferrari. Then it's even worse. Now, you
3:57drive a Ferrari and you're jacked and
3:59you still look like you get no women.
4:01That's even worse because now she goes,
4:03"There must be something really wrong
4:05with you that you have all these things
4:06and you still can't get laid." So,
4:07looks, money, and status, guess what?
4:09Looks, money, and status is not what's
4:10actually attractive. What's attractive
4:12is what it indicates.
4:14And what it indicates can be erased like
4:16this because that indicate that
4:18indication can be totally wiped if you
4:21don't continue to portray or to continue
4:24showing and demonstrating that you have
4:26options
4:28through you being a simp, through you
4:29doing whatever the hell she wants you to
4:31do. All those things become invisible.
4:33So, it's not the looks and the money and
4:34status that's attractive. What's
4:36attractive is what it indicates, which
4:37is options. Why? Because if you have
4:38money, you have something that every
4:39woman wants, which is resources. They
4:41need that to survive. So, when she looks
4:42at you and she goes, "You drive a
4:43Ferrari, you have resources. I know
4:45other women find you attractive." When
4:46she looks at you and she goes, "You're
4:48in shape and you have a nice nose or
4:50whatever it is." She goes, "Okay, you
4:51have genetics that are going to ensure
4:52the survival of my child and my child
4:54will also be able to reproduce and we
4:55can secure a lineage." And she goes, "I
4:57know other women also want that. That's
4:59attractive." It's not the actual shape
5:00of your nose that's attractive. What's
5:01attractive is the fact that it
5:02demonstrates that you have options. Why
5:04do women love bad boys?
5:06They don't want to be disrespected. They
5:08don't want to be with a guy that's
5:09always mean and doesn't care.
5:12What's attractive is what that lack of
5:15care and that disrespect shows. It shows
5:17that the man always gets laid cuz he
5:19doesn't care to be nice. He doesn't care
5:21if he disrespects her once in a while
5:22and she's upset. He doesn't care and you
5:24only wouldn't care if you already get
5:25laid, right? Imagine if you had a bunch
5:26of girls around. You wouldn't care to be
5:28nice all the time. You wouldn't care
5:30because you get laid. So, what is she
5:31going to do? Leave you? Okay, great.
5:32Leave. You can replace her. Not a
5:34problem. But, the good boy, the guy that
5:35buys her flowers, sits on FaceTime with
5:37her until 4:00 in the morning, well,
5:38guess what? That dude is just indicating
5:40one thing and one thing only. He's not
5:41showing that he cares and that he's a
5:42good man and he's loyal and he's such a
5:44good boyfriend. No, he's just showing
5:46that he never gets laid and he'll go out
5:47of his way to do whatever it takes
5:50to seek approval, to get approved from
5:52this girl, and to hope to maintain the
5:54relationship which In fact, that's how
5:55you lose the relationship. Trying to
5:57maintain it is how you lose it. If you
5:58focus on a woman, you lose the woman. If
6:00you focus on trying to make the woman
6:02happy, you are going to make her
6:05unhappy. You are going to actually
6:06disappoint her and you're going to make
6:07her feel like, you know what? I need to
6:08go find another man. She now feels like
6:10she needs to go find another man. She
6:12wants to find someone better because now
6:14she looks at you and she goes, "You're
6:15not safe." Instead of spending your time
6:18going out there achieving things and
6:19acquiring more resources so that you
6:21could provide for us, no, what you're
6:22doing is you're cuddling in bed with me.
6:24Now she looks at you as this pathetic
6:25loser
6:26with no options. Now she's instantly
6:29turned off. The attraction, the
6:30obsession, it all comes from you
6:33demonstrating that you have more options
6:34than every other guy. And
6:37this includes the guys that she's been
6:38with in the past. If she's been with a
6:40guy that cheated on her, guess what? The
6:42only way she's going to love you more
6:43than she loves that ex that cheated on
6:45her is by you cheating on her even more.
6:47Because the less you care, the higher
6:49value you seem. If you had a thousand
6:51girls, you wouldn't care about one. You
6:53would only care about one girl if you
6:54had only one girl. So, the less you care
6:56about her, the more attractive you are.
6:58And you have to be more attractive than
7:00that guy in her past. Otherwise, she's
7:02going to always find that dude as her
7:05best option. She's always going to look
7:06at him. She's going to think about him
7:08when you guys are in bed together, okay?
7:09Because that dude was the one guy that
7:11she couldn't have, the one guy that was
7:13more valuable than all the other guys,
7:15the one guy that never gave her
7:15commitment. So, guess what? Give her
7:17Give her even less commitment.
7:19Now she finds you more attractive than
7:20him. He cheated on her twice, cheat on
7:22her four times. Now she loves you. Now
7:24she finally gets over that guy because
7:26now she found someone better. Better is
7:27not you being more loyal, not you being
7:29more kind, not you being a pushover, not
7:31you buying her flowers, sitting on
7:33FaceTime, being her best friend. No,
7:34better is your value being higher. And
7:37your value is directly correlated to how
7:39many options you have. And if you had
7:41more options, you wouldn't care. So, the
7:43more options you have, the less you
7:45care, meaning your value is directly
7:46correlated to how little you care and
7:48how willing you are to let her go and
7:49how much you don't care if she's upset
7:51or sad about something that you did. You
7:53just you don't care. You don't react.
7:55There's no emotion coming out of you.
7:57You are who you are. She's privileged to
7:58be with you. She should feel blessed to
8:00be with you and that's the way it is.
8:02And it's my way or the highway. That's
8:04it. And now she looks at you as the one
8:06guy, the only guy that she wants,
8:09obsessed with you. She doesn't even look
8:10at another dude. Some guy walks up to
8:12her, tries to cold approach her, some
8:14dude walks up to her and tries to get
8:15her number, she doesn't even look at
8:17them. You know those girls you see all
8:18the time on those those Ray-Ban glasses
8:20videos where the girl doesn't even look
8:22at the guy, ignores him. That's because
8:23she's with a dude that is so high
8:27with options. He had He's demonstrating
8:29such an insane amount of options that
8:32she doesn't even she's closed to the
8:35market, totally, totally.
8:37Those girls that don't talk to that guy
8:39when those guys with the Ray-Ban
8:41glasses, the the cold approach dudes
8:42approach them, those girls are not guys
8:43with loyal men. Those girls are with men
8:45that are either like in a situationship
8:47with them where they're trying to attain
8:48that guy that they can't get to commit
8:50or they're with a guy that is with them
8:52and has a bunch of resources, money,
8:54looks, status and doesn't give a
8:55about them, either. Is never there. He
8:57just doesn't care. He's never emotional.
9:00He He He's with other women. He has
9:02multiple girls on his roster. That's the
9:04guy that she stays quiet for. She
9:06doesn't stay quiet for the loyal man.
9:07You know what women do when they're with
9:08a loyal man? They entertain other guys.
9:11That loyal dude is boring. He's not
9:13emotionally stimulating. She knows his
9:15every move. She knows he's not going to
9:16leave her. She can act however she wants
9:17to act. That's why those girls go to the
9:19club and do whatever the hell they want
9:20to do and argue with their boyfriends
9:22and send them all those paragraphs.
9:23That's why your girl is doing that to
9:24you cuz you only have her and she knows
9:26you only have her and if she acts
9:28however she acts, she can act wrong.
9:29What are you going to do? Leave her? You
9:31got nobody else. That's it. You want a
9:33woman to be obsessed with you? Never
9:35give her 100% commitment and demonstrate
9:36that you have more options than every
9:38other guy she's ever been with in the
9:39past. That's it. Obsession, attraction,
9:41that's all that it is.