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0:00So look, let's say this girl cheated on
0:01you. What are you going to do? All
0:02right, how are you going to fix this?
0:04You have to understand why this
0:05happened. First of all, every single man
0:08needs to understand that everything is
0:10his fault. See, a woman makes a constant
0:13calculation on whether you are her best
0:16option or not. And if one day she
0:17decides another man is a better option,
0:19guess what? She leaves you. She leaves
0:22you for that man. She cheats on you. And
0:24the thing is, what you have to
0:25understand and internalize is that this
0:27is your fault. because you were the kind
0:29of man that spent time with her. You
0:30were the kind of man that spent your
0:32energy and your days with her. What I
0:35mean by this is you prioritized her. You
0:38tried everything in your power to make
0:39her happy, bought her flowers, took her
0:41out, nice dinners, all this stuff. And
0:43this is exactly why she cheated.
0:44Everybody tells you that women cheat on
0:47men who cheat on them, but they don't.
0:49They cheat on men who they deem aren't
0:51their best option. And she looks at you
0:53trying to do all these things for her.
0:55She doesn't find it attractive. she
0:56finds it unattractive because then she
0:59measures you as a low value man. Let me
1:01tell you, all a woman has to do to see
1:03which kind of man gets laid more is tell
1:06two men, let's say there's two different
1:08guys. She goes, "I want flowers."
1:10Whichever guy goes runs over and gets
1:12those flowers first is the guy that
1:14never gets laid. And let me tell you,
1:16how does a woman measure your value? She
1:18can't check your bank account. You know
1:19what she can do? See how desperate you
1:20are for her. So, all she's got to do is
1:22test you. And you see, it's natural for
1:24a woman to test. Every woman tests, and
1:26they're not evil for this, right? and
1:28they try to break you down because
1:29they're the weaker variable in the
1:31situation. You are the masculine. You
1:33are the power. And so the only way she's
1:34going to be able to see if you are
1:36stronger than her and if you are capable
1:37and you are emotionally stable is by
1:39trying to break you. And this is the way
1:40she's wired. She's not evil. She is just
1:43weaker than you. And so she is testing.
1:45And they test with all these things.
1:46Saying they want a loyal man, saying
1:48they want flowers, saying they want a
1:50nice date. All of this is a test because
1:52this is what allows them to see which
1:53man is going to give me this. And the
1:55man that gives them all of those things
1:56is the guy that never gets laid. And
1:58see, the guy that doesn't care enough to
1:59give her all those things. The guy that
2:01doesn't care to to be the perfect guy,
2:03the perfect boyfriend, that's the guy
2:04that she actually ends up cheating on
2:06you with. You, a lot of you guys wonder,
2:08why is it that this woman cheated on me
2:11with some guy that isn't even half of
2:13the man that I am? Well, it's because he
2:15just doesn't care. He doesn't care to
2:17impress her. Doesn't care to connect
2:18with her. Doesn't care to buy her
2:19flowers. Doesn't care to take her out
2:20somewhere nice. He does not care. And so
2:22the calculation she makes is that he's
2:24higher value than you. Why? Think about
2:27it. A man with a lot of value, looks,
2:29money, status, confidence, all these
2:30things is a man who has more dating
2:32options than a man without all those
2:35things, all those variables. And so you
2:38got to understand, flip it around. Now,
2:40a man with a lot of options must be a
2:42man who's valuable. A man with a lot of
2:44options, you know how he operates, you
2:46know how he acts. He doesn't care about
2:47anything. He doesn't care to keep the
2:49relationship. Doesn't care to make
2:50things work. Doesn't care to connect.
2:51Doesn't care to take her somewhere nice.
2:52Why? Because he doesn't care to lose her
2:54because he can replace her with a girl
2:55just as valuable, just as pretty. And so
2:58you care more than that guy. And
2:59automatically, even if you are on paper
3:01ahead of him in life, she looks at you
3:04and she goes, "But you care more than
3:06him." And what kind of guy would care? A
3:08guy who can't replace the woman. A guy
3:10who thinks he can't do better. Right? If
3:11you could do better than this girl, you
3:12would not care to take her out somewhere
3:13nice. You're only taking her somewhere
3:14nice because to you, she's special. see
3:16to that other guy, she's not special for
3:19whatever reason. Maybe he just loves his
3:21weed. Maybe he doesn't have any other
3:22options, but she thinks he has other
3:23options because he just does not care.
3:26Right? A man with a lot of options has a
3:28lack of care for one woman. Because it's
3:30like the only kind of man that would
3:33chase a dollar bill is a man who only
3:35has a dollar bill. A man with a million
3:36wouldn't care to chase a dollar bill.
3:38And this is all it is. A man with a lot
3:40of options wouldn't care to chase one
3:42woman. Only a man with a lack of options
3:44or a lack of options better than her
3:45would care to chase her and give her
3:47everything and be this perfect
3:48boyfriend. And so [snorts] this is where
3:51you went wrong. But what do you do? How
3:53do you proceed? How do you fix the situ
3:55situation? Well, I've got some news for
3:56you, right? You can't you can't you
3:59can't fix this. You got to walk away
4:00from this. There is no way that you can
4:02get back with this woman and fix the
4:03situation because she will always always
4:06look at you as a man that is so
4:08desperate to be with her that you're
4:09willing to have that picture, that image
4:10of her being with another man is still
4:12getting back to back with her. No man
4:14with options would ever do that. If you
4:16had options, you would replace her. You
4:17would move on. You have no problem with
4:19that. You getting back with her, it'll
4:21never work. She'll do it again and again
4:22and again and again. You know when they
4:23say once a cheater, always a cheater.
4:25I'll tell you when it comes to women,
4:27that is absolutely true. Why? Because if
4:30you get back with her after she cheats
4:32once, the amount of disrespect that is,
4:34like there's things that women do, which
4:35is like minor tests, like maybe she'll
4:38go out and she'll entertain a guy,
4:41right? Purposely to get under your skin,
4:42see how you react, fine. She didn't
4:44really do much though, right?
4:47If she sleeps with another guy and she
4:49knows that you're okay with that image
4:50of her sleeping with another guy, it's
4:52done. There's nothing you can do. Why?
4:55Because the only kind of man again that
4:56would get back with that woman is a man
4:58who is low on options. And a man who's
5:00low on options is a man that must have
5:01no value or at least she calculates that
5:03man as a valueless man. And a man who
5:06has no value is a man who can't be
5:07attractive. See, her attraction for you
5:09is based directly on how valuable she
5:11deems you are. And she measures your
5:13value based on how many options you
5:14have. And she'll never ever think that
5:16you have any options if you get back
5:17with her after she disrespects you to
5:19that level where she cheated on you. So
5:21there's no way for you to make this
5:23work. But what you should do is reflect
5:25and see where you went wrong. How needy
5:27were you? How often did you communicate
5:29with this woman? A lot of guys, most of
5:30the guys that I coach, you know, when I
5:33asked them, listen, why did things not
5:35work out? Why do you think this woman
5:36disrespected you at this level? How many
5:39times you talk to her a day? Let me
5:40guess, every day were you communicate
5:42communicating with her every day? And
5:44guys always say yes. It's always this
5:45constant pattern of constant
5:46communication. They're always 24/7 on on
5:50the chat with her. Like that's what it
5:51is. calling her, FaceTiming her, all
5:53these things. And so what happens is
5:56every time you you give her that easy
5:58access and every time you show her how
5:59much you care to have this constant
6:01connection and how much you're afraid to
6:04have those blank points in between, that
6:07right there turns her off. Guys, I don't
6:09think you understand this. This is this
6:10is so simple and everybody over
6:13complicates it. All you have to do is
6:14focus on yourself because you got to
6:16understand what is attraction. The whole
6:18point of life is life. That's the point.
6:21It's duplication. Replication of the DNA
6:24that already exists inside of us. Right?
6:25So, you're just a vehicle. You're just a
6:29vehicle that is going to duplicate your
6:32DNA. That's it. And everything that you
6:34are wired for is a reward system for
6:36choosing the right person to duplicate
6:38with. Women are exactly the same. And
6:41so, she's only going to choose the right
6:42person based on whether that person is
6:44the best option for her survival and her
6:46offspring survival. So, when I say a
6:48better man comes along, he can take her
6:50away from you. Better doesn't mean
6:51nicer. Better doesn't mean he can take
6:53her to nicer restaurants. Better doesn't
6:54mean that he's a more respectful guy.
6:57Usually, it's actually the opposite.
6:58Better means a guy who has more options.
7:00Because if he has more options, he has
7:02more value. If he has more value, he's
7:04more attractive. Why?
7:07Because her attraction for you is
7:09directly correlated on your ability to
7:11allow her to survive and her offspring
7:13to survive. And this has nothing to do
7:15with how happy you make her. everything
7:16to do with the resources you can provide
7:18and for how long you can provide those
7:20resources for. That's what it is. So,
7:22look, this is why a lot of guys who have
7:24looks, money, and status, fine. But she
7:27looks at that guy who has looks, money,
7:28and status and goes weak for her
7:29emotionally still and it trumps all the
7:31looks, money, and status. Because if you
7:32have looks, money, and status, but you
7:33go emotionally weak for her, think of it
7:36as like a calculation of like, okay, you
7:38have the value right now, but how long
7:39are you going to have it for? Because
7:40you're emotional. So, you could lose
7:41everything like this, right? She goes,
7:42"Well, if you're emotional with me and
7:44I'm just a woman and I can break you and
7:45get you to fall to your knees, what if
7:47the business goes to hell? What if
7:49tomorrow there's there's a market crash
7:52and you're all emotional, you don't want
7:53to show up to work because you're not
7:54logical and instead you act based off of
7:56emotion?" And she goes, "You might have
7:57these resources now, but how long are
7:58you going to be able to keep them for?"
8:00And that's the calculation she makes.
8:01And a lot of the times she'll choose a
8:03middle income guy who's stable and
8:06doesn't give a about her because
8:07she looks at that guy and she goes,
8:09"Well, he'll always be middle income
8:10because he always puts himself first and
8:12he always only cares about himself." And
8:15this is the kind of guy that's safe. The
8:16kind of guy that's safe is the guy that
8:17focus on himself. says, "Ask yourself
8:19this. To attain as much power and
8:21resources as possible and to be as safe
8:22as possible for your survival and the
8:24survival of your children and the people
8:26around you, would you accomplish that by
8:28focusing on her or would you accomplish
8:30that by focusing on you?" And see,
8:32answering that question tells you
8:33everything you need to know. Focusing on
8:35yourself is the only thing that's going
8:37to make you more attractive. And any
8:38amount of focus on her is instantly
8:40unattractive.
8:42And the only time you get to focus on
8:43her is when you're so much better than
8:44all the other guys that even you even
8:47you focusing on her a little bit because
8:48it will kill attraction every single
8:50time you do that Even you focusing
8:52on her, even though it decreases
8:53attraction, but you're still so much
8:55better than all the other guys around
8:56you that she still can't find someone
8:59better, right? She still even with you
9:00decreasing attraction through doing
9:02whatever it is that you're doing, taking
9:03her out too much, calling her a little
9:05bit too much. And this is why you have
9:07to focus on yourself 24/7 because you
9:09can get to a point where you're so elite
9:10level. It'll always matter what you do.
9:13You can't just let go of everything. But
9:14you get to a point where you have more
9:16and more and more free space to kind of
9:19just let things loose a little bit,
9:22right?
9:24But at the end of the day, it has to be
9:25all about you. You have to be a
9:26narcissist. You have to understand that
9:29this is all that life is about. And I
9:30wouldn't have it any other any other
9:32way. For example, why would you want to
9:34focus on a woman? Why? Focus on your
9:38future. Focus on your goals. And this is
9:40the thing. A lot of you guys
9:41misinterpret this. Have multiple women.
9:44Multiple women that love and respect
9:45you. Don't go around to the clubs. Don't
9:47smoke and drink and do degenerate
9:48Have multiple women that love and
9:50respect you. And you accomplish that by
9:52having a lack of care to cater to those
9:54women.
9:55Let me tell you, you act this way, women
9:58will never cheat on you ever. By you
10:01having a lack of loyalty to them, they
10:03will have all the loyalty for you. See,
10:05women are not loyal to loyal men.
10:07They're just loyal to their best option.
10:09She measures whether you're her best
10:10option by how many options you have. And
10:13guess what? A man who can cheat and a
10:14man with multiple women, a man who can
10:16even have multiple relationships with
10:17multiple women, is a man that has more
10:19options than a man who can't do those
10:20things. So that's what it is. Beat the
10:23system.