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0:00hi everyone welcome back to my channel
0:01if you're new here i'm courtney ryan
0:03and in today's video think of this as
0:05the crystal ball
0:07into the brain of a woman and red flags
0:09you should be looking for
0:11in your relationship so these are 10 red
0:13flags that you're going to want to pay
0:14attention to
0:15when you're dating a girl so everyone
0:17has their own personal relationship red
0:19flags
0:20everyone has their own deal breakers but
0:22these are going to be 10
0:23pretty intense red flags that you should
0:25be paying attention to i want to help
0:27you guys
0:27i am on your side as a woman i feel like
0:30i have a pretty good idea of
0:32when women do this i have a ton of
0:34friends that do some of these things i
0:36had people in my sorority that did these
0:38things
0:38i've been around a lot of women my
0:40entire life so trust me
0:42i've heard it all and the reason why i
0:43think it's so important for all of you
0:45guys out there in relationships even not
0:47in relationships and just looking for a
0:48girlfriend in general
0:49to be listening to a list like this is
0:51because a lot of times when we're in
0:53relationships we put our blinders up
0:55we want things to work out we don't want
0:57our relationship to fail we don't want
0:59to be sad
0:59i've been there i've done it and i have
1:01ignored about a million and a half
1:03red flags that have been waving in front
1:06of my face because of just simply
1:08not wanting something to fail not
1:09wanting something to not work out so
1:11trust me
1:12it's important to pay attention to these
1:14things because most of these are
1:15patterns and behaviors that become even
1:17more intense later down the road
1:19and you'll be questioning yourself and
1:21wondering why the heck you stayed in
1:22this relationship so
1:23let's jump into the video number one red
1:26flag is
1:27she's possessive and needy and by this i
1:30mean for example
1:32you tell her that you're going to hang
1:34out with your friends for the weekend
1:35and she gets mad at you because you're
1:37hanging out with someone besides her
1:39it's okay to want to be with someone and
1:40hang out with someone a lot but when she
1:42cannot physically function without being
1:44with you
1:45or she gets mad when you're with someone
1:47else it could be anyone else not even a
1:48girl just anyone else besides her
1:50this is a sign of possessiveness and
1:53control this does not get better as the
1:55relationship progresses in fact it
1:56probably just will get worse
1:58number two how do they treat people when
2:00you go out to dinner how do they treat
2:02the waitress when you go grab a coffee
2:04how do they treat the barista
2:05how does she treat her family all of
2:07these are
2:08big red flags if she's treating them
2:10poorly if she's being rude if she's
2:12acting like she's better than them
2:14she could be the most beautiful or hot
2:17or whatever
2:18girl in the world and if she has an ugly
2:19personality
2:21ditch her and keep in mind how she is
2:23treating these people
2:24is probably how she's going to treat you
2:26later on down the road when you do
2:28something that
2:28dissatisfies her or isn't up to par with
2:31her standards so keep that in mind too
2:32number three we have
2:33excessive jealousy so a little bit of
2:36jealousy is healthy i think it's totally
2:38normal
2:38for someone to be a little bit jealous
2:40every now and then but when it's
2:42excessive
2:43it becomes a problem for example say
2:45something funny happened at work
2:47and you tell your girlfriend about it
2:48and the story just so happens to involve
2:50a girl
2:51the second you bring up the girl she
2:53instantly is not interested in the story
2:55she gets mad at you
2:56she accuses you of x x and x whatever it
2:59is
2:59if she's getting mad for no reason and
3:01you haven't given her a reason to be mad
3:03over a girl this is an issue this
3:05signifies that she's insecure
3:07she's gonna be constantly paranoid it's
3:09going to be very unhealthy for the both
3:11of you so you're better off just
3:12getting out of it like i said a little
3:14bit of jealousy is totally okay i have
3:16been jealous before i think jealousy is
3:18something that everyone has felt at some
3:19point in their life
3:20but there's a very big difference
3:22between a little bit of jealousy to keep
3:24the relationship interesting
3:25and excessive jealousy number four she
3:28doesn't
3:29say thank you so think about if you've
3:31taken her out on a few dates
3:33you've paid for all of her stuff and she
3:34did not even say thank you
3:36if she's not appreciative of these
3:37little things that you're doing for her
3:39she's never really going to be
3:40appreciative of the big things either
3:42and this can create a lot of resentment
3:44in a relationship especially if you feel
3:46like you're the one that's always giving
3:47always paying
3:48and she's giving you nothing in return
3:50it's one thing if she forgets to say it
3:51once or twice but if you're noticing a
3:53pattern where
3:54she has kind of a princess mentality and
3:56just expects it and never says thank you
3:59run for the hills number five we have no
4:02goals
4:02or hobbies so for example say you ask
4:05her where she pictures herself five
4:07years from now
4:08and she can't even formulate a thought
4:10she can't even tell you where she begins
4:11to see herself
4:12in a year two years three years four
4:14years at all if she is
4:16unable to talk about her future you ask
4:18her what her hobbies are and she says
4:20she doesn't have any
4:21shopping by the way is not a hobby i
4:24like shopping
4:25but it's not a hobby this is an issue
4:26because you want to be with someone that
4:28has
4:28ambition you want to be with someone
4:29that has goals and aspirations and
4:32things that they want to accomplish in
4:33life
4:34especially if you're someone that has
4:35all of these things it's impossible to
4:37be with someone that doesn't share these
4:39same interests as you
4:40so keep that in mind as well how are you
4:42supposed to be a power couple and build
4:44each other up if she can't even build
4:46herself up
4:47or has any kind of goal for herself
4:49number six we have unrealistic
4:51communication
4:52expectations and i'm not talking about
4:54you've ghosted her for a week and she's
4:56upset with you
4:57that is totally acceptable and she has
4:59every reason to be upset with you if
5:01that is the case
5:02i'm talking about example you're at work
5:05and you haven't texted her back all day
5:06because
5:07you're at work and she's freaking out
5:09blowing up at you getting mad at you for
5:11not texting her back
5:12this is a huge red flag
5:15because she is expecting you to drop
5:18everything in your life for her
5:19to make you her entire world and this is
5:22just
5:22an unrealistic expectation at any point
5:24in a relationship but if you're seeing
5:26this in the beginning this is going to
5:27be a huge problem that continues
5:29throughout
5:30your entire relationship so please keep
5:32this in mind or you're out with your
5:34friends and she's expecting you to text
5:35her every five seconds
5:37you are allowed to have a life outside
5:40of your partner
5:41i would argue that this is one of the
5:43most important things
5:44when you're in a relationship it's okay
5:46to enjoy doing things together it's okay
5:48to want to be with a person and spend
5:50time with a person
5:51but it's so incredibly important to have
5:53a life and
5:54interests and goals and hobbies and
5:56spend time
5:57apart and not spend every waking moment
5:59together doing every single thing
6:01together
6:02being your own person and bringing your
6:03individuality into a relationship
6:06is what makes a relationship work number
6:08seven she brings
6:09up past relationships too much so
6:12it's okay in the beginning of your
6:14relationship to ask each other about
6:16past relationships and maybe why
6:17something didn't work out
6:19i think it's totally okay to be a little
6:20bit curious about this and to wonder
6:22this about the person that you're
6:23getting to know
6:24and you're with however if she's
6:26constantly bringing up her ex
6:29unsolicited with no context this is an
6:31issue
6:32she's probably not over him if she keeps
6:34talking about him all the time
6:35that's kind of weird and if she's
6:37constantly bringing up your ex
6:38and asking you questions and getting mad
6:40at you about things that you maybe did
6:42with her or people that you've slept
6:44with this is a huge issue it's a control
6:46thing
6:47and it's a lack of control over what
6:49you've done in the past or who you've
6:50been with
6:51and it's going to be something that
6:52carries on for your whole relationship
6:54there's going to be 90 years old in a
6:56nursing home and she's still going to be
6:57bringing up your ex so
6:58if you don't want that to be you don't
7:00even put up with this kind of girl
7:02number eight she just got out of a
7:04relationship
7:06so this doesn't sound like it would be
7:07that bad i know sometimes things happen
7:10you run into her at the train station
7:11and it's magical like a movie
7:13sometimes things like that they just
7:15work out and it makes sense but if she
7:17just got out of a relationship and you
7:18meet her on tinder or
7:20at a bar and she's already seeking out
7:22another relationship
7:23this signifies that she can't be alone
7:26she's insecure with herself
7:27she's not independent she feels like she
7:30needs someone with her to be happy
7:32this is a problem because like i
7:33mentioned earlier it's so important to
7:36be your own person and to bring your
7:37individuality into a relationship in
7:39order for it to work and the biggest red
7:41flag here
7:42is that you're a rebound nobody wants to
7:44be a rebound it just
7:45is what it is you don't want to be that
7:47guy and you're going to be questioning
7:48it your whole entire relationship
7:50number nine she has no girlfriends
7:53this doesn't also sound like it would be
7:55that bad but this signifies that
7:58she doesn't have any committed
7:59relationship she doesn't have any
8:01constant relationships in her life and i
8:03think this is really important just to
8:05show that
8:05you can keep relationships for a long
8:07time you aren't just going through
8:09friends like hotcakes so when a girl
8:11says she doesn't have any girlfriends
8:13this just shows that she can't maintain
8:15relationships and you have to wonder
8:17why the friendships didn't work out it's
8:19kind of like the girl that has dated a
8:21million guys and constantly talks bad
8:23about all of them and says
8:24you know they were just jerks it didn't
8:26work out but why because you were
8:28the common denominator in all of it also
8:30it's really important to
8:32have friends outside of your
8:33relationship as well so if you're with a
8:35girl and she wants to spend all her time
8:37with you
8:38she doesn't have any friends no
8:39girlfriends no guy friends just no
8:41friends in general
8:42this is an issue because it's so
8:44incredibly important
8:46to have other relationships outside of
8:48your
8:49romantic relationship that you're in and
8:51lastly
8:52number 10 she has cheated this
8:55i think is the most obvious one once a
8:58cheater
8:58always a cheater i am a firm believer in
9:01this from people that i have dated in my
9:03past
9:04once they cheat once they just keep
9:06cheating because they know they can get
9:07away with it but the biggest one here
9:08that i think a lot of people ignore
9:11is did she cheat with you was she dating
9:15a guy
9:15did she cheat on him with you and now is
9:18in a relationship with you
9:19well you might think well you know it
9:21just didn't work out for them it's great
9:22with us
9:23what happens when she gets bored what
9:25happens when she no longer wants to be
9:27with you or she meets someone that she
9:28thinks is better than you
9:30she's going to do the same exact thing
9:32to you that she did to the last guy
9:34with you if anything the fact that she's
9:36cheated before just shows
9:37a lack of commitment a lack of respect
9:40and a lack of loyalty which
9:42why would you want to date a girl like
9:43that guys just being 100 honest
9:46like i said i'm on your side i believe
9:49in you
9:50if she cheats she belongs in the streets
9:53kick her out get rid of her you're
9:55better than that alright guys that
9:56concludes my list of 10 red flags to
9:58look for in women
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10:24thank you all so much for watching and i
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