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0:00She's choosing bums over you. She's with
0:01a guy right now probably doesn't make as
0:03much money as you. He's probably not as
0:04good-looking as you. And you're
0:05wondering why is she choosing this guy
0:07over me. And I'll tell you why. It's
0:09because I don't care how much looks,
0:10money, or status you have. If you don't
0:12understand the fundamentals of female
0:14nature, you are going to lose the woman
0:16regardless. Because she's going to view
0:18him as more attractive and more valuable
0:19even if he doesn't have as much value on
0:21paper. You know why? Because the way she
0:22measures value is totally different than
0:24the way men measure a man's value. She
0:27measures a man's value totally different
0:30than what you've been taught. Everything
0:31you've been taught is a lie. Oh yeah, a
0:33girl just wants a nice guy who's sweet
0:35and kind and makes money and he's stable
0:37and all this. Nope. Wrong. I'll tell you
0:39what it is. That guy doesn't care as
0:42much as you to make the relationship
0:43work. That's why you're losing her. You
0:46have to understand how this works. You
0:47think that, oh, you got to become more
0:49attractive through just being a more
0:51attractive man physically and having
0:53more money and all these things. But let
0:54me tell you, all of that is trumped by a
0:56man who understands female nature, by a
0:58man who understands female psychology.
1:00I'm going to tell you something that
1:00nobody else understands. It's that if
1:02you care less, you automatically
1:04position yourself as more valuable at
1:06than that man. That's all it is. So pay
1:08attention and listen because if you
1:10don't understand this, you're going to
1:11lose every single woman that you get
1:12into a relationship with to somebody
1:14who's a bum. Some dude that doesn't have
1:16what you have, hasn't worked as hard as
1:18you've worked, will take her away from
1:20you if you don't understand this. This
1:21is why loyal men get eaten alive. This
1:23is why celebrities get cheated on with
1:26the pool boys. I'll tell you why.
1:28Because the pool boy didn't give enough
1:31of a [ __ ] to marry that woman. And so,
1:33he is perceived as higher value. So, pay
1:35attention. Look, attraction is built
1:39based off of your value. See, you want
1:41her to be more attracted to you.
1:42Otherwise, if she's more attracted to
1:44him, she's going to choose him, right?
1:46So, how do you become more attractive?
1:47The dilemma here is that you're not as
1:48attractive as this guy. So, how do you
1:49become more attractive than that dude?
1:51All you got to do is increase your value
1:53or at least your perceived value. Of
1:55course, you can increase your value
1:56through looks, money, status, all this
1:58stuff. But this is unnecessary because
1:59there is a secret here and something
2:00that doesn't take as much time and is a
2:02lot easier to implement. You could start
2:04doing it right now. Right now. And what
2:07that is is a lack of care. Now, let me
2:09make the correlation so you understand
2:10what I'm talking about. Attraction is
2:12based on your value. But perceived value
2:14is the key word here, right? Perceived
2:16is the key word. Perceived value can be
2:18inflated through many different things.
2:20You can make her think that you're rich.
2:22You can make her think that you have a
2:23lot of women. You can make her think
2:24that you have making her think that you
2:27have value is the key. So understand how
2:30do you do this? Well, look, a man who
2:31has looks, money, and status and a man
2:33who has a bunch of options is a guy who
2:35doesn't care to make the relationship
2:36work. So you trying to connect with her
2:37constantly, you trying to reach out to
2:39her more, you trying to take her
2:40somewhere nicer than that guy is
2:41actually what's turning her off. See, if
2:43you know you're better than that guy on
2:44paper, why are you trying harder than
2:46him? You need to understand that you
2:48just existing is attractive. Right? If
2:50you're more attractive than him on
2:51paper, the only way you can retain and
2:54maintain that attraction is by not
2:56trying to do anything better than he
2:58does. You don't care to make the
3:00relationship work. You don't care to be
3:01more respectful. You don't care to open
3:02the car door. You don't care to give her
3:03flowers. You don't care to take her out.
3:04You don't care. You know why? Because
3:06every amount of care, every ounce of
3:08care shows that you are low on options.
3:10See, the only reason why you would care
3:11about this woman, the only reason why
3:13you would care to make the relationship
3:15work and you would try to prove yourself
3:16through demonstrating, oh, look, I can
3:18take you somewhere nicer and I have more
3:19money is through something that you
3:22lack. It's a lack of options, right?
3:24That's the only reason why you would be
3:26acting this way. Because if you could if
3:27you could replace this woman with a
3:28woman just as pretty, you wouldn't care
3:31to keep her. You wouldn't care to hold
3:32on to her. And so, this is what you have
3:35to understand. You have to have a lack
3:36of care of trying to make the
3:37relationship work. The nuance here is
3:38not that you don't care about her. You
3:40just don't care about making the
3:41relationship work. That is the key. You
3:44don't care to make the relationship work
3:46and what she does is make a calculation
3:47that you're more valuable than a guy who
3:49cares more than you do. Why? Because the
3:52only reason you would care about this
3:53woman, the only reason you would give
3:54her all these things and try to take her
3:56somewhere nice is because you don't
3:57think you can do better than her. If you
3:58knew you could do better, you would
3:59never invest any time to prove yourself
4:01because you could just replace her. And
4:03so she looks at you and she goes, "Oh,
4:04he can't replace me because look at all
4:06the time and effort and attention he's
4:07giving me. That guy that she's with,
4:09he's a bum. He probably smokes weed all
4:10day in his mom's basement. He doesn't
4:12care about her as much as he cares about
4:13the weed." If she looks at him, she
4:15goes, "He doesn't prioritize me over his
4:16weed, so he must have other women that
4:18he goes out with. He must go out with
4:19women just as pretty as me all the
4:21time." And this is the calculation that
4:22she makes. And now he is raising his
4:25value. Why? Because when you raise your
4:27value, right, through looks, money,
4:28status, a lack of care, all these
4:30things, what happens is the most
4:32valuable guy has the most amount of
4:34dating options, right? The more you
4:35increase your value, the more dating
4:36options you have. And so, reverse that,
4:38flip that. The more dating options you
4:40have, or at least the more dating
4:41options she thinks you have, the more
4:43valuable you become. How do you increase
4:45your perceived dating options? Through a
4:46lack of care. Because a guy who can date
4:48any woman and can replace her with any
4:50woman, is a guy who doesn't care to make
4:51anything work. He doesn't care to
4:53impress her. He doesn't care to talk
4:54about all these deep, meaningful things
4:55on the day. He doesn't care to show her
4:57how nice of a restaurant he can take her
4:59to. He doesn't care to show her how rich
5:00he is and what his goals and dreams are
5:02and all of this stuff that you're doing
5:04that's extra that you think is you
5:06positioning yourself in front of that
5:07guy, that guy that she's choosing over
5:09you that's a bum is actually putting you
5:10behind. Why? Because it shows how much
5:13you care. And you would only care if you
5:15were low on options. And if you're low
5:16on options, that means you have no
5:17value. And if you have no value, you
5:19have no attraction. So look, you sit
5:21down on that date, you don't care. You
5:22enjoy the food in front of you and
5:23that's it. You talk about what you want
5:25to talk about. Now, this might work for
5:27some guys to be deep and meaningful, but
5:28only the guys that are naturally deep
5:30and meaningful because then she looks at
5:31you and she goes, "Oh, he doesn't care
5:32to change the way he acts. He's just
5:34being himself." Now, if you're a guy
5:36that doesn't usually speak a lot, which
5:37is most of you guys. So, most of you
5:38guys should never be trying to connect
5:40on a date by doing all these extra
5:42things through trying to talk about what
5:44kind of man you are and why you believe
5:46in the things you believe in and where
5:47you're trying to go because most of you
5:48guys don't care to do this naturally.
5:50And so, when she sees you doing this,
5:51women can tell that it's not who you
5:53really are. and she sees that you're
5:54just trying. You're just trying. The guy
5:56who smokes weed, he's not trying. He's
5:57just being himself. He just smokes weed
5:59all day and that's all he cares about.
6:00And that's why it works for him. And you
6:03have to understand this. This is the
6:04kind of man that is going to take your
6:06woman away from you. The reason why that
6:07guy is winning, maybe he doesn't win on
6:10paper, but in her mind, she doesn't
6:11calculate based on looks, money, status.
6:13She calculates based on how little the
6:15man cares. That's it. You guys got to
6:17understand looks, money, and status.
6:19It's not attractive because she not she
6:20knows what kind of Ferrari you drive or
6:22because she knows what kind of you know
6:23what the amount of money you have in
6:25your bank account. It's not because
6:26she's attracted to the amount of money
6:28in the bank account or because of that
6:30particular car or because you're
6:31good-looking and your jaw is shaped a
6:33certain way. She's attracted to what
6:34those things indicate. And what those
6:36things indicate is a surplus of options.
6:38Those things indicate that you get laid
6:40with other women. And what this
6:41indicates is safety because only a
6:42valuable man with resources can get laid
6:44with other women. And so this is how she
6:46calculates to see if you're safe and a
6:47good option for her survival and that's
6:49how she determines or that's how she
6:51calculates whether you are attractive or
6:53not. That's what deter like think of the
6:55attraction as a as like a bar and you
6:57fill the bar the more valuable you
6:59become in her eyes. Now if you have
7:01looks money and status but you care more
7:02than the other guy who maybe doesn't
7:04have all those things on paper but he
7:05just doesn't care as much as you. She
7:07makes the calculation through looking at
7:08how little he cares, that he is more
7:11valuable than you and all that stuff
7:13that you have on paper that you've
7:14worked so hard for, all those years that
7:15you invested into trying to attain all
7:17those things. She looks at it and she
7:18goes, "Well, you care more than him. So
7:22obviously
7:23all those things don't matter." She
7:26looks at them, she goes blind to them.
7:28Why? Because you're more emotional. And
7:30so what that means is that you're more
7:31volatile. Tomorrow you might lose
7:34everything. Because when she looks at
7:36the looks, money, and status and she
7:37goes, "But he's emotional and he invests
7:40very easily into a woman, he gets
7:41really, really easily emotionally
7:43manipulated by what I say and what I do.
7:45And he cares really, really a lot. He
7:47cares a lot to try and persuade me to
7:49like him." And so what she sees is a man
7:51who's emotional rather than calculated
7:52because that doesn't benefit your life.
7:54You trying to persuade her to like you,
7:55that doesn't that's not effective.
7:57That's not increasing your value. And
7:58she looks at you and she goes, "Well, he
7:59might have all these things now, but he
8:00might not have them tomorrow." The guy
8:01who smokes weed is more safe than you
8:03are because he is more predictable in
8:05the sense that he is logical. Do you do
8:08you understand what I'm saying? This is
8:09a calculation that they make 24/7. And
8:11if you don't abide by this rule, if you
8:13don't abide by this, this is the way it
8:15works. I don't care what you think. I
8:17don't care where she comes from. I don't
8:18care how many bodies she has. I don't
8:19care if she's a burgeoner. She's been
8:20with 50 guys. They all calculate this
8:23exact same way. You want a winner over
8:25that guy. All you got to do is care less
8:27than him. And the thing is, all you got
8:29to do is exist. If you know you're
8:30better than him on paper, that means
8:32you're automatically more attractive.
8:33So, all you got to do is let her come to
8:34you through not chasing her. You just
8:36don't give a [ __ ] You don't care.