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0:00You've become a better man and she still
0:01doesn't care. She still doesn't give you
0:02attention. She still doesn't pursue. She
0:04still wants the bum. Guy probably
0:06doesn't make as much money as you. Isn't
0:08as good-looking as you. Maybe he's not
0:09in as good a shape, but she still
0:11pursues that guy. She still doesn't give
0:12you attention. Let me tell you what this
0:14is. This is a lack of understanding
0:17female nature. You see, the guy who
0:18smokes weed in his mom's basement
0:20sometimes, actually a lot of the time,
0:22wins over the guy with the looks, money,
0:24and status. Because the looks, money,
0:25and status shows how hard you're trying.
0:28Cuz you see, when you don't approach it
0:29correctly and you don't approach it with
0:31the fact that you're doing it for
0:32yourself and you should never do it for
0:33her, then what happens is you're just
0:35trying super hard to keep her and so
0:37you're improving yourself because you
0:38don't want to lose her. And now she sees
0:40that fear. She sees that lack of
0:42abundance and now she loses all
0:44attraction. And you have to understand
0:46how this works because otherwise you're
0:48going to lose to a bum who has put in no
0:50work and then it's just unfair to you,
0:52right? Cuz you've grinded, you spent all
0:54this time to better yourself as a man.
0:56But the thing is, what she measures you
0:58on is totally different than what you
1:00measure yourself on. It's totally
1:02different. The way men look at a man's
1:03value versus the way a woman looks at a
1:05man's value is totally different. And
1:08you have to understand how this works,
1:09or else you're going to keep losing. So,
1:12look, first of all, why is it that you
1:14see a lot of these beautiful women end
1:16up with these guys that have nothing
1:18going for them? I'll tell you why.
1:19Because a lot of these guys that have
1:21nothing going for them really don't care
1:23about anything in life. And what that
1:25means is that they don't care about her
1:27either. They don't care if their
1:28relationship works out. They don't care
1:30if it fades. They don't care. One way or
1:33another, they've still got their weed in
1:36their basement. And see, what that does
1:39is it creates an illusion of value. That
1:41woman looks at that man, sees his lack
1:43of care, and makes a calculation that
1:46he's a man that constantly gets laid.
1:47You see, women measure your value, not
1:50based on the car you drive, not based on
1:53how much money you make, not based on
1:54your status. Okay? They measure it based
1:57on what those things indicate, which is
2:00options. Right? If you drive a Ferrari
2:01versus a Toyota, which guy do you think
2:03gets laid more, the guy with the
2:04Ferrari? What's attractive is not the
2:06Ferrari. What's attractive is the fact
2:07that the guy with the Ferrari can get
2:08laid more. The fact that he can get laid
2:11more indicates that he is a better
2:14option for a woman's survival, right?
2:16Because obviously women trust him with
2:17their life. Women are attracted to that
2:19man for something, for his attributes,
2:20for his resources. And so that's what's
2:22attractive. Cuz if he has a Ferrari, he
2:24must be competent, he must be smart, he
2:27must be all these things that ensure the
2:30survival of other women. And so other
2:32women gravitate towards him. And that's
2:34what is attractive to other women when
2:36they see that you have things that other
2:37women
2:39want. So look, what is the ultimate way
2:42that you demonstrate value? How do women
2:44measure value? because you just measure
2:45it by looks, money, status. But women
2:47don't do that. They measure it based on
2:50options. How many dating options do you
2:53have? How many women can you date? How
2:55easily can you replace her? That's how
2:58she measures your value. And so, how do
3:00you indicate that? There's many ways you
3:02could cheat. You could cheat. This is my
3:04favorite thing to do because if you
3:04cheat on a woman, that is ultimate
3:07ultimate value. It's like, imagine
3:08caring so little that you go against all
3:11of society's norms. You cheat on her.
3:13She confronts you. You don't apologize.
3:15You don't lie. You just tell her how it
3:16is. You say, "Listen, I did what I did.
3:18If you don't want to stay together, no
3:19problem. That's fine." Now, you've
3:21raised you raises attraction with two
3:23things. The first thing was that you
3:25cheated on her. So, you show that you
3:27don't care if the relationship works
3:28out. You're going to do something that
3:29everybody tells you is going to sabotage
3:31the relationship. So, you must really
3:32not care. You demonstrated options,
3:35right? Because a guy without options
3:37can't cheat. And then the second thing
3:38that you did is showed a willingness to
3:40let her go, which only a guy with a lot
3:42of options can do, right? If you could
3:44replace her with a girl just as pretty,
3:46you wouldn't care if she leaves or she
3:47stays. And therefore, you would not
3:48apologize. You would not lie about the
3:50situation. You would tell her the truth
3:51and you would let her go. See, when you
3:52apologize or you lie, this is the only
3:54reason why men get left for cheating.
3:56It's not because of the cheating,
3:57because the cheating is attractive. It's
3:58impossible for her to leave you for
3:59something that is attractive. She'll
4:01only leave you if she's unattracted. You
4:03know what's unattractive? When a guy
4:04sits there and begs for her to stay.
4:06When a guy sits there and tries to cover
4:07up the story because now what it shows
4:09is that he doesn't have the option to
4:11replace her, he's desperate. And now she
4:13has all the power. Now she loses
4:14attraction because she goes, "Oh, he
4:15can't do better than me. He can't do
4:17better than me, which means I have all
4:18the power, which means everything was a
4:20bluff. He didn't really want to cheat.
4:22He didn't want to do that. He didn't do
4:23that because he doesn't care if the
4:24relationship works out. He did that
4:25because he had an impulse. And now he's
4:28trying to cover it up because he's
4:29afraid of losing me because he doesn't
4:30think he can do better. And now she
4:32leaves. Not because of the cheating, but
4:34because of how you reacted to her
4:35confrontation. So what do you do? You
4:37just you tell her how it is. You tell
4:39her what you did and you move on. That's
4:41the first way you can demonstrate
4:42options. It's my favorite way, right?
4:44Because imagine what kind of woman would
4:46you cheat on? You wouldn't cheat on the
4:47girl that's the best of the best, right?
4:49But you know what kind of women fall in
4:50love with you? The women that feel like
4:51they're way, way, way below you. So how
4:53do you make a girl that might even be
4:55above you fall in love with you? You
4:56just make her feel like she's way below
4:57you. What would you do to a three out of
4:5810? You cheat on her. You never stay
5:01loyal. You would cheat. You wouldn't
5:02care. I could replace a three out of 10
5:04because I because you're just a three
5:05out of 10. So, treat her the same way
5:08you would treat a three out of 10.
5:10Perfect. Now, she's attracted to you
5:12because now there's a discrepancy in
5:13value. She sees you and she goes, "He
5:16must be so much more valuable than me if
5:17he doesn't care to lose me. That must
5:19mean he can replace me with a girl just
5:21as pretty, just as valuable." And so now
5:25she'll be just as in love with you as
5:27the three out of 10 was. Second thing,
5:30how do you do this? You simply stop
5:33caring. You don't care if the
5:35relationship works out. You don't care
5:37to buy her flowers. You don't care to
5:39take her to a nice restaurant. You go to
5:40McDonald's. Who gives a [ __ ] You don't
5:42care.
5:44Why? Why is this the other way to do it?
5:46Because the only kind of man that has a
5:48lack of care to try and impress a woman
5:50or make things work with a woman is a
5:52man that looks at that woman and goes,
5:53"I can replace you again." A man with
5:56options. You know what kind of man is
5:58valuable? Think about it. When you
6:00increase your value, what increases? The
6:02amount of dating options you have. So,
6:04reverse it. By increasing your perceived
6:07amount of dating options through a lack
6:08of care, even if you can't date other
6:10women, but let's say because you you
6:12don't care to impress her, she looks at
6:14you, she goes, "Well, he must be able to
6:15date other women." Because what kind of
6:17man wouldn't care? A man who can easily
6:18replace her. And so now, because your
6:20perceived options are going up, your
6:22perceived value goes up. And you know
6:24what attraction is based on? You know
6:26what makes a woman fall in love with
6:27you? Love. I'll tell you what love is.
6:30Love is sacrifice. That's it. It's not
6:32happiness. It's not all this fun and
6:33games and all this crap that everybody
6:34tells you, "No, this is all social
6:36programming, not true." That's
6:37validation, right? When somebody comes
6:38up to you and tells you how beautiful
6:39you are and how much they love you,
6:40that's validation. That ain't love. Love
6:43is doing something for somebody that you
6:44wouldn't do for someone else. And so,
6:46what that is is sacrifice. You think of
6:47the two people you love the most in
6:49life, and you think of the two people
6:50you would sacrifice the most for, it's
6:51the same two people. And so, how do you
6:53get her to sacrifice? You want to get
6:54this woman to love you, right? Don't be
6:56a degenerate. Don't go out there and
6:57sleep around and have one night stands.
6:58That's not what I promote. That's not
6:59what I'm telling you to do. Don't do
7:00that. Okay? Build meaningful
7:02relationships with women that love and
7:04respect you because that actually
7:05provides value. Guys look at you. They
7:06want to they want to understand what you
7:08know, what it is that you know that this
7:09woman is so obsessed with you. That adds
7:11status. That gives you power in life.
7:12You can achieve other things, attain
7:14more things. You want women that love
7:16and respect you long term. Okay. So, how
7:18do you do that? Right? You got to get
7:19the woman to fall in love with you. How
7:21do you get the woman to fall in love
7:22with you? You convince her through not
7:24trying to convince her, right? Because
7:26convin trying to convince her shows that
7:28you care. Through not trying to convince
7:29her. You convince her because it shows
7:31that you don't care. You do this. You do
7:34this by convincing her that you are
7:36worth the sacrifice. A woman will only
7:38sacrifice for you if you are worth the
7:39sacrifice. And you are only worth a
7:41sacrifice whether based on whether you
7:44have the resources necessary and whether
7:47you're reliable enough to ensure her
7:49survival and her offspring's survival.
7:52That's it. We are here to duplicate.
7:54Life is about life. The whole point of
7:56life is that you duplicate. You spread
7:59your DNA. That's it. That's what she's
8:01wired for. That's what attraction is
8:02wired for. The only reason attraction
8:03exists is for a woman to be able to find
8:05a man that she is supposed to duplicate
8:07with. That's it. So, it is impossible
8:10for her to want to duplicate with you
8:12because you make her happy or because
8:13you take her somewhere nice. No. The
8:15only way that she's going to grow her
8:17attraction for you, right, wanting to
8:20duplicate with you is if you increase
8:22your perceived value. How do you
8:23increase your perceived value? Through
8:25increasing your perceived options. How
8:27do you increase your perceived options?
8:28Through a lack of care. Attraction is
8:30based directly on how valuable you are.
8:33That's it. That's all it is. Nothing
8:36else. Who ever said that she needs to be
8:38happy 24/7? She doesn't. Stop trying to
8:40make her happy 24/7. In fact, what this
8:42shows is how much you care. And you know
8:43what kind of man cares? a man who can't
8:44replace her. And you know what? You know
8:45what kind of man can't replace her? A
8:46man who has no value. And you know what
8:47kind of man is unsafe? Can't provide for
8:49her and her offspring. You know what
8:50kind of man is unattractive? A man that
8:53has no value. You see the correlation?
8:56This is the way it works whether you
8:58like it or you don't. And this is the
8:59thing. The only guy the only guys that
9:01have an issue with this are the guys
9:02that are so socially programmed. They
9:04are so brainwashed that they go, "Well,
9:06that's evil. Well, if you have to do all
9:08of that, she's not the one." No. Wrong.
9:10Wrong. Wrong. Absolutely wrong. This is
9:12all social programming. Get it out of
9:14your head. Every single woman is like
9:15this. All of them. I don't care where
9:16she comes from. I don't care what kind
9:18of family she was raised in. I don't
9:19care if she has a body count of 50 or
9:20she's a virgin. They're all exactly the
9:22same because they are not optimizing for
9:24their happiness. They are optimizing for
9:27their survival. That's it. All you got
9:30to do is be the guy that cares the least
9:32if she stays or if she leaves. You don't
9:34give a [ __ ] if it works out or it
9:36doesn't. If it doesn't work out, so be
9:38it. And if you're the guy and you remain
9:41the guy that cares the least to make
9:43things work, guess what? She's going to
9:46fall in love with you. She's going to
9:48choose you. So stop focusing on trying
9:50to get bigger in the gym. Stop focusing
9:52on trying to make more money. Stop
9:54focusing on all these things. Stop
9:56focusing on them for her. Focus on them.
9:58I'm not telling you not to do them. Do
9:59them, but don't do them for her because
10:01that just shows that you care. If you're
10:02doing it for her, it shows how much you
10:03care to make things work with her. Do it
10:04for yourself. Do it to retire your
10:06parents. do it to achieve the things you
10:08want to achieve for yourself. But when
10:10it comes to her, you just don't care
10:12whether it works out or it doesn't. You
10:13stop texting her so much. You stop being
10:15there all the time. You just don't care.
10:17Let her come to you. And that's that's
10:20when it's actually going to start
10:21working. That's when you're going to win
10:22over the guy that is smoking weed in his
10:24mom's basement. Until then, you're going
10:26to keep losing.