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0:00So, in elementary school, every single
0:02one of my teachers
0:04was a woman
0:06except for my sixth grade teacher.
0:09And growing up,
0:11definitely I would say my mom
0:14um
0:15pretty much ran the relationship or like
0:17the whole household
0:19was mainly about like making her happy.
0:22Right? And like if mom's not happy, no
0:24one's happy.
0:25So, I was pretty much raised by women my
0:27whole life. Like every teacher I had in
0:29elementary school was a female besides
0:31my sixth grade teacher.
0:33And this video isn't like me like
0:35coaching you. It's just like food for
0:37thought because if you think about it,
0:39if you actually think about how like
0:41the conditioning started as a child,
0:45like of basically um
0:49always staying in line, right? And
0:52making sure you never step outside the
0:54box. Like when I really look back at
0:55this, for me, the first switch in my
0:58mind where I was like, "This is weird."
1:00was having to raise my hand to go to the
1:02bathroom or in elementary school we had
1:05a sign-in sheet where only one person
1:07could go at a time.
1:08And I remember even coming home and
1:10telling my parents like, "Oh, I have to
1:12go, but there was three other people in
1:13line before me and I had to wait a half
1:15hour." And all this stuff.
1:18And I don't even know what would have
1:20happened if I just would have went to
1:21the bathroom on my own but like without
1:23asking or but like that was the mindset
1:26was stay in line and stay in order. And
1:29I think most men have that mindset today
1:31where it's like every move that they
1:33make,
1:34the vocal tone in their language, the
1:36nuances in their speech, how they
1:38communicate, it's all about pleasing
1:40women.
1:42It's like essentially always submitting
1:43to her.
1:45That man is either trying to appease his
1:47mother
1:48or he's trying to appease the girlfriend
1:50or the wife.
1:51And all that happens
1:53when the guy tries to appease the
1:55girlfriend or the wife is she'll just
1:57belittle him more and more. Now, it
1:59starts small.
2:01At first it's just like nagging or, you
2:04know, a small put-down here or there
2:06where she just like puts down his
2:08demeanor or his character.
2:09But eventually, if the guy keeps
2:11tolerating it and never leaves the
2:13relationship, if he keeps staying in
2:14that relationship without ever leaving,
2:17she'll just resort to like belittling
2:19him in public in front of people or
2:22a lot of times women will even
2:24like gain attention from it. So, the
2:28woman you'll notice might even make a
2:29scene in front of people where like
2:31she's yelling at the guy or
2:33disrespecting him in front of people.
2:35And a lot of people can't even believe
2:36this is happening, but she doesn't care
2:38because she's gaining attention as it
2:39happens. Like I just started noticing
2:42these things as I got older and I think
2:44it's really sad like most men don't even
2:46notice this stuff or even talk about it.
2:49I think that majority of men sit their
2:52whole life like mute.
2:54It's like all these things like you know
2:56they're true deep down, but like for
2:57some reason like you still have that
2:59attachment to emotion. You still have
3:01that attachment to your mother like when
3:04you're a child.
3:06It's like if you didn't have your mommy,
3:07you're just scared and sad and it's like
3:10you know, I think a lot of guys are
3:11still like that.
3:13Constantly needing female companionship.
3:15And what happens as they get older, that
3:17translates into that guy like basically
3:20just like um
3:21needing female companionship so bad, he
3:24basically turns out to be emasculated
3:26because he just craves intimacy or he
3:28wants a girlfriend so bad. That's what
3:30happens.
3:31You know, I remember like um
3:35even with school, I never liked school.
3:37So, I always hated school. Like I hated
3:39it.
3:39And I remember, you know, I remember
3:41like my mom or my grandma, every time I
3:43would tell the truth and say, "I hate
3:44school. I hate school." I would say this
3:46growing up all the time. "I hate school.
3:47I don't want to go. I can't believe I
3:49have to sit there every day. I can't
3:50believe I have to watch
3:52this stupid news channel in the morning
3:55at school." That's the other thing, too.
3:56The news at school when I was in like
3:58elementary school and middle school,
4:00just a bunch of stuff that just puts you
4:02in a state of fear. Like I don't want to
4:04see that. I'm a kid. I don't want to sit
4:06in this building without my parents and
4:08have to watch all this fearful news type
4:10stuff. I just didn't like it. And I
4:13remember uh
4:15I have a younger brother.
4:18And I remember his first day of
4:20kindergarten.
4:22It was one of the saddest moments of my
4:24whole life. I'll never forget this.
4:26I was so sad um
4:29And I was one of the kids in school that
4:31actually followed the rules a lot of
4:33times simply because like I wanted to
4:36make sure like I still had all of my
4:38freedoms within the
4:40day-to-day structure. Like I didn't want
4:42to lose my recess when we would get to
4:44go outside and play on the playground,
4:46all that type of stuff. But I remember
4:47this, my brother, it's his first day of
4:49kindergarten.
4:50And I can just picture this. At this
4:52time I'm probably in like uh the
4:54fourth grade, maybe.
4:58And he didn't like school, either. And I
5:00remember he was scared to be there
5:02because it was a new environment and
5:04like no one was with him. He didn't know
5:06anybody. And he's sitting there and I
5:08remember he's just sitting there at the
5:09table and he's crying.
5:11And I remember seeing this and you might
5:12be laughing thinking of this, but I
5:14remember like me as a fourth grader just
5:17being in such a state of panic like
5:19seeing that. I was so sad. I went over
5:22to his table at lunch.
5:24Uh in my elementary school, the
5:26lunchroom was the gym, the gymnasium.
5:28And the janitors a lot of times would
5:30set it up um
5:33for lunch. There would be lunch tables.
5:36And I remember just going and standing
5:38by him
5:39and like trying to calm him down and
5:43then eventually uh
5:45a school supervisor came and helped him
5:47and I had to get back to class, but
5:50I remember that and I didn't like it. I
5:53didn't like as a kid having to sit there
5:55and listen to all this. You got to
5:57listen to all these classes. You got to
5:58listen to this. You got to listen to
6:00that. You got to raise your hand to go
6:01to the bathroom. It's like for what?
6:03Like if you actually question it, too,
6:05like why didn't the teachers teach
6:07independence?
6:08Hey students,
6:10in life,
6:12you're going to have to go to the
6:13bathroom from time to time. Because of
6:15that, if you need to go, it's down the
6:16hall and to the left. Like whatever. I
6:17don't know, but to make it where you
6:19have to
6:20sit there as a kid and not go to the
6:24bathroom once you have to go, to me is
6:26just wild.
6:28You know, and just the constant
6:29attachment to like the mother and
6:31needing comfort. But one of the things
6:32like I even remember as a kid like I did
6:34not like being alone or away from my
6:37home. I really hated that. I hated being
6:40away from my home. And even in school I
6:42sat there and I'm constantly questioning
6:43like it just felt so weird. It's like,
6:45"Why are my parents not here teaching
6:47me? Why do I have to learn all this? Why
6:50do I have to sit in this class every
6:51day?"
6:52And then they would drop me off from
6:53school and then I'd have to sit there
6:55all day and like I was always I was
6:57always worried I would never get picked
6:58up. I was always worried I would never
7:00get picked up from school.
7:02I was always worried like my parents
7:04would like forget about me.
7:06And I just remember this. But it starts
7:08small, right? Like as you get older, you
7:10got to start to think for yourself.
7:13And you got to realize the ways you were
7:15probably um
7:17molded to think a certain way, to speak
7:19a certain way.
7:21As I get older, I practice one thing and
7:22that is speaking however I want.
7:28My words
7:31come from me.
7:32And I try to think about my words and my
7:34speech
7:36and what I'm saying without any
7:37influence from, you know, how other
7:39people talk. What people do is they they
7:42try to match how other people are. And
7:45like I try to never do that, right? I
7:46try to just say, "Hey, like how did
7:50how was I
7:52like built?"
7:54You know, God made me in his image. How
7:57how do I need to shine?
7:59You know, and that's kind of what you
8:00got to do, right?