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0:00Okay, so today I'm really going to show
0:01you how to be the loser that women love
0:04and what this comes down to is keeping
0:06her emotions in pocket. This is what I
0:09call it like the term that I call it is
0:11keeping her emotions in pocket. You have
0:13to keep the woman in pocket. You have to
0:15keep her vibe in the sweet spot or in
0:18this pocket that I'm about to describe.
0:20You have to do this or you run the risk
0:23of turning her off. Now, you're going to
0:25hear a lot of guys
0:27say different things like um, you know,
0:29be a good guy, be a good leader, be
0:32strong and
0:33uh, you know,
0:35um, do this or do that, but it's like at
0:37the end of the day if you actually pay
0:39attention to who she chases,
0:43it's majority of the time men who give
0:45no effort, men who don't want her, and
0:48she's going to chase men who um, she has
0:51to attempt to fix. Okay, this will all
0:54make sense if you just give me the next
0:565 to 15 minutes to talk through this
0:57video and here's how I know I can help
0:59you with this. Let me give you an
1:00example. A dude in my community, he
1:02goes, "School says I'm 43% through the
1:05language of women course.
1:07I got four girls phone numbers tonight
1:10at work and I've literally got two women
1:12waiting for me to get off so they can
1:14hang out lol. This works almost too
1:17good {exclamation mark}. Can't believe I
1:20am capable of this." Okay, so when I see
1:22a guy literally say the words, "Can't
1:25believe I'm capable of this." Like that
1:27literally tells me he's getting new
1:29results that he thought was possible.
1:32So, since I'm actually seeing stuff like
1:34that, I know I can help you too. Just
1:37join the community that I built after
1:39today's video is over. I'll help you
1:41learn, understand, and master the
1:42language of women as well. It's
1:45completely amazing like the stuff that
1:47I'm seeing inside of that community. So,
1:49join us inside of that after today's
1:51video is over. Let's dive in. Okay, so
1:54how to be the loser that a woman loves
1:56or that a woman craves. Okay, this is
1:58going to be the typical archetype. Like
2:00just write this down on a sheet of paper
2:01so you know this and so you remember
2:03this forever. The archetype of a guy
2:07um, that she's going to chase is a guy
2:09who she sleeps with. Okay, so he lays
2:11down that good pipe real good. Okay, she
2:14sleeps with him, but he doesn't pursue a
2:17committed relationship. This is the
2:19whole premise of the whole thing.
2:22It's a guy who seems okay with just
2:24casual sex and not needing commitment.
2:28So, he appears like he doesn't need
2:30commitment from her at all. Okay? It's
2:34like she sees him maybe once a week,
2:36maybe she sees him every other week,
2:38maybe sometimes he skips a week. But
2:41keep in mind like these rules aren't
2:42like hard and set. Maybe there's a time
2:45or two like through the course of a few
2:47months where she sees him two days in a
2:49row.
2:50Like a lot of times when you hold
2:52yourself to these weird rigid rules
2:55um, that never are based on the
2:57circumstance like oh, only see her once
3:00a week and if you overstep that one
3:02rule, then the whole thing's going to
3:04dissolve. That's not true at all. Okay?
3:07There's going to be sometimes where
3:08she's hanging out with a loser and uh,
3:11you know, he's getting stoned, smoking
3:12pot all the time, and two days float by
3:15on a weekend and he realizes it's about
3:17to be Monday morning and he's got work
3:19and he didn't even realize what
3:20happened.
3:21And that's the type of guy she just
3:23happened to kick it with for the whole
3:24weekend. And then he's gone and he says,
3:26"Okay, I'll catch you later."
3:27Nevertheless, I'm going to talk about
3:29how to do this, okay? Because you have
3:31to understand this.
3:32When you actually look at like who hot
3:34women pursue, hot women pursue men who
3:37don't care. Hot women pursue men who um,
3:41are almost like
3:44he's so passive in not desiring
3:47commitment. Like he doesn't care if they
3:48text message, he doesn't care if he gets
3:50a phone call, he doesn't care if he ever
3:52sees her again or not. He just really
3:53doesn't care, but when
3:56she is around him, it's like he's just
3:59so nice, he's so perfect. He's able to
4:01just uh, kick back and be nonchalant and
4:04chill and go with the flow
4:06and everything's just a cool vibe. Okay?
4:09So, what we're going to talk about today
4:11is keeping her in pocket. So, what is
4:14pocket? Pocket is the sweet spot, right?
4:16Like you're in the pocket. If you think
4:18about like hockey, right? Or if you
4:19think about like sports, in the pocket,
4:21in the goalpost, whatever you want to
4:22call it. There's a certain range you
4:24have to keep her emotions. Now, if you
4:27go too far over to the left, you run
4:30into tapping into your feminine energy.
4:33And your feminine energy essentially
4:35means that you're trying to connect and
4:38you're outwardly focused. You are
4:40outwardly focused on her and her life.
4:44Okay? If she texts you and says, "Oh my
4:46gosh, I just had the most amazing brunch
4:48at uh, you know, whatever brunch spot."
4:50The guy who's too far in his feminine
4:53energy will give a response that shows
4:55he's invested in that one conversation.
4:58Okay, so what that means is he takes
5:00active interest in being outwardly
5:03focused in her life. He'll say, "Oh, no
5:06way, what restaurant was it? Oh my gosh,
5:08that's so amazing. Me and you will have
5:09to try that too. I have a friend who
5:11went to that restaurant once. How often
5:13do you go to brunch?" Okay, he's too far
5:15in his feminine energy. That will turn
5:18her off. She will probably friend zone
5:20him. He over communicates, he runs his
5:23big mouth way too much. When you run
5:24your big mouth way too much, you're no
5:27longer in that pipeline zone. You got to
5:29stay in that pipeline zone. Okay?
5:32He gives her that good pipe, pipes her
5:34down good, and then he bounces. He
5:37bounces meaning like he's still there if
5:39she picks up the phone and calls him in
5:41a couple days or next week, he'll
5:43answer. He's there, but he's never
5:45actually actively pursuing a further
5:47relationship. That's the pipeline zone.
5:50If you hear from me, you hear from me,
5:51if you don't, you don't. This is how you
5:54are or how you become the loser that she
5:56wants to sleep with. Now, this is over
5:58here on the left side or my left side of
6:00the range of the spectrum. On the left
6:03side, you run into your feminine energy
6:05too much. Now, also the opposite is
6:08true. If you fall too far into your
6:11masculine energy over on this side,
6:14here's what happens. You also run your
6:16mouth too much and the vibe is too
6:18serious. You run your mouth too much and
6:21the vibe is too serious and what you're
6:22going to run into over here is you start
6:25actually talking facts. You start
6:28speaking logical rational truths about
6:31the world. You start giving inside
6:33information into your own life. And even
6:36if you're inwardly focused, meaning
6:38you're focused on yourself, if you're
6:40too far into your masculine energy, it's
6:42coming across so serious and every
6:44sentence that you start saying, you're
6:46revealing more details about yourself
6:49and she gets turned off because there's
6:50no room for mystery.
6:53Now, another thing you're going to
6:54notice is a guy who's too far in his
6:56masculine energy, there's not a lot of
6:58vocal tone fluctuation. Okay?
7:02Um,
7:04so she never ends up giggling or
7:06laughing. You have to be right in the
7:08pocket, right in the sweet spot. The
7:10sweet spot is in the middle. Let me give
7:12you an example.
7:15If you're too far in your uh, masculine
7:17energy, if you say, "Whoa, no way,
7:19that's wild." It's so direct, it's so
7:22punctual, it's so serious. Okay?
7:25It doesn't do anything to like her
7:28feminine spirit. When you're in the
7:30pocket and you kick back and you say,
7:31"Whoa, no way. Oh, that's wild."
7:35You'll notice the vocal tone shift,
7:38you'll notice the voice change, you're
7:40going to notice that um,
7:42you'll actually watch her smile and most
7:45likely reciprocate interest back. So,
7:47this is the sweet spot. The sweet spot
7:50or the pocket is right in the middle.
7:52You have to keep her emotions in the
7:54pocket. And I'm going to explain to you
7:56how to do this in just a very few simple
7:58steps. But let's recap first and
8:00foremost. What is the spectrum or this
8:03however you say that, what is the range?
8:06If you're too far over to the left,
8:07you're tapped into your feminine energy,
8:09you're playful and you're nice, but
8:11you're too outwardly focused. You're
8:12focused on her, you're focused on
8:14getting to know her. Anytime you're
8:16focused on getting to know her and
8:18actually discover real inside
8:20information about her life as if you
8:22care or give a you're going to be
8:24friend zoned and she's going to think
8:25you're too nice. Anytime you're so
8:28rational, logical, serious, having
8:30actual intellectual in-depth discussion
8:33with a woman, you are now too far in
8:35your masculine energy and you have
8:37essentially lost that almost like stoner
8:40vibe that women respond to. Now, for
8:42those of you watching this channel and
8:43that hurts your ears a little too much
8:45to hear, I don't really care. I don't
8:48care.
8:49I don't care.
8:52This is the pocket and this is the sweet
8:54spot that women respond to. I'm going to
8:56tell you this, the hotter the woman
8:58gets, the more sensitive she is to only
9:02dealing with men who understand how to
9:04keep her emotions in that pocket, and
9:06that's why she chases bad boys and
9:08players and alphas all throughout her
9:0920s and early 30s. That's the sweet spot
9:12and that's the pocket. So, if you want
9:14to get hot women, listen up because the
9:16rest of this video I'm going to show you
9:17what to do and how to behave, especially
9:20to curate that right type of vibe and
9:22persona. I actually believe that this is
9:23something that any man can do with
9:25enough practice as well. Um, now keep in
9:28mind,
9:29even the vocal tone that I'm delivering
9:31all this information to you in is more
9:34so in my masculine energy. It's
9:36punctual, it's rational, and it's
9:38direct. When I'm with a woman, I do not
9:40carry myself the same way, so
9:42straightforward and just punctual.
9:44The vibe is much more
9:46Oh, I'm so hungry. Let's go get food.
9:49It's more kicked back, it's more
9:50relaxed. The longer you date a woman
9:53for, obviously the harder that is to
9:54keep up, but specifically when she first
9:57gets to know you, there's a specific
9:59range that you have to keep her emotions
10:01in and the only way you do this is if
10:03she feels comfortable and she starts to
10:06like you. She starts to like you when
10:08she feels no negative emotion.
10:11Okay? She starts to like you when she
10:13feels absolutely no negative emotion
10:15when she's around you and the only
10:17negative emotion that she ever feels is
10:19self-created specifically because she
10:21doesn't hear from you. This is what I
10:23have learned the more I've gotten to
10:25understand women. Women do not want to
10:27feel any negative emotion at all. Women
10:30optimize for their own happiness 24/7.
10:33That is essentially what she optimizes
10:35for at all times. Am I happy? Am I happy
10:38and how does this make me feel? If you
10:40are not bringing happiness to her right
10:42there in the moment,
10:44she is going to start to lose interest
10:45and decrease interest and attraction for
10:47you. This is why as a man anytime you're
10:49in a relationship and you try to have
10:51some type of logical discussion that
10:53essentially references a behavior change
10:56that you would like her to make, a lot
10:58of times she'll instantly
11:00take it as potential criticism and then
11:03even if the things that you're saying
11:05make sense and it would help the
11:07smoothness of the relationship and it
11:10would cause good relationship cohesion,
11:13naturally she will take this as you
11:15getting reactive and you losing your
11:17center and because of that, because
11:19you've now lost that nonchalant vibe,
11:21you'll notice that she just pulls away.
11:24The only negative emotion she wants to
11:26feel or she enjoys feeling because it's
11:28a a lot of times causes her to engage in
11:31her emotions even deeper and she chases
11:34and pursues that type of guy harder is
11:36if the negative emotion is self-created
11:39because her brain is sitting there doing
11:41mental gymnastics over and over and over
11:44wondering what he's doing and why he's
11:46not calling. That right there is going
11:48to be the only type of negative emotion
11:50that she
11:51responds well to.
11:53Mystery and potential disinterest from
11:56him. But the second that the vocal tone
11:59between them or the conversation is
12:03argumentative or reactive at all, you
12:05will watch the entire relationship start
12:08to fizzle out. So I'm going to give you
12:10some good guiding principles through the
12:12rest of this video to implement this
12:14with ease. Okay, so there is really
12:16three guiding principles or three
12:18guiding keys to keep her emotions in
12:21pockets. So guiding key number one or
12:23guiding principle number one would be
12:26this. You have to understand that the
12:27way you fundamentally understand and
12:30interpret masculine leadership with your
12:32logical rational male brain is
12:35fundamentally different than what women
12:37respond to. Okay? Women don't respond
12:41very well to any type of leadership
12:44verbally where she feels like she's
12:46being told what to do or she feels like
12:48he is too controlling or she feels like
12:50he just makes all the plans and she
12:52doesn't have freedom of expression or
12:54creativity to step into her feminine
12:56energy. So let's say she's with a
12:58husband who makes all of the decisions
13:02and let's say he plans every single
13:04date, even if he's planning all the best
13:06dates at the nicest five-star
13:08restaurants and she's well taken care of
13:10because the energy
13:12is so direct and it's so
13:15masculine,
13:16she will start to feel as if he's too
13:19controlling and the energy just isn't
13:21what she's looking for and that she
13:23doesn't have any um
13:25you know,
13:26uh freedom of creativity and she doesn't
13:28have any type of good vibe or good
13:30feeling and he's too controlling even
13:32though he makes a bunch of money and
13:33even though he plans everything and on
13:34paper he's a great husband. Okay? The
13:37first thing you have to understand about
13:39women is how they define masculine
13:41leadership is polar opposite to how your
13:44rational logical male brain interprets
13:47the word leadership and masculinity. A
13:49woman, okay, listen closely.
13:53Another huge issue when you attempt to
13:55lead is that a woman
13:57mistakes it for
14:00low sexual market value because she
14:02looks at it as effort. So here's a guy
14:04planning everything, being
14:06very direct and punctual and good with
14:08his communication and he really makes
14:11sure
14:12to lead properly so that way she feels
14:15as if so that way hopefully she feels
14:17like she can just
14:19follow his lead and the day goes smooth.
14:21She will not like that energy. This is
14:23what you have to understand. How a woman
14:25views masculine leadership
14:28is a man who doesn't try or a man who
14:30doesn't give effort.
14:32That's how a woman views leadership.
14:34There's a few reasons for this. The
14:36first thing you have to understand
14:37though is when you're attempting to
14:39verbally lead and you're attempting to
14:41verbally say things that positions you
14:43in that masculine role of leadership,
14:45since she looks at that man as giving
14:48energy and emphasis to the conversation,
14:51the problem with it is that she mistakes
14:53that for low sexual market value and she
14:55assumes that you don't have any options
14:57due to the fact that you're giving this
14:59situation, this circumstance effort. She
15:01sits there and goes, "Look at him jump
15:03through hoops and try to plan this and
15:05try to verbally say the right thing to
15:06lead this relationship. Look at him
15:08care. Look at him give effort." She sits
15:10there and goes, "He is nurturing the
15:11relationship even more than me." and she
15:13starts to get turned off. So this is
15:15what you're going to find. Any husband
15:17that I've ever met, any guy in a
15:18long-term relationship I've ever met who
15:20really attempts to be a good leader and
15:22a good uh man's man and says what he
15:24means and all this stuff, the wife
15:26typically doesn't want to sleep with him
15:28or the relationship falls apart and she
15:29ends up sleeping with some dude who you
15:31would call a loser. So that's number
15:33one, okay? How a woman views leadership
15:36is essentially him not reacting to
15:38anything and since he doesn't react
15:39anything, since he doesn't actually
15:41verbally attempt to give any direction
15:42or lead anything, since that man who is
15:45almost in like a state of just sitting
15:47and not caring, you would even say from
15:49the naked eye looking in at that
15:50situation, he's in his passive energy,
15:53since that's what he's okay doing and
15:55he's completely okay being centered and
15:57present in the moment, she's like drawn
16:00into that frame or she's like drawn into
16:03that circumstance emotionally wondering
16:05why he won't try. So this is what you
16:07have to understand first and foremost is
16:09that women like to see a work in
16:11progress and you have to start to
16:13reinvent or reshift how you view
16:15masculine leadership. That's the first
16:17thing that I want you to take away from
16:19this video. Now let's dive into the
16:20second thing. The second thing that you
16:22have to understand about a man who
16:24understands this or a man who does the
16:26right things or a man who um
16:29is able to basically be
16:31um the loser that she's drawn to or keep
16:34her emotions in the sweet spot or the
16:35pocket, this man does not try to future
16:39pace future potential plans. Let me give
16:42you a couple examples of what future
16:43pacing looks like.
16:48The guy and the girl give each other a
16:49hug goodbye.
16:50And as the guy gives the hug, he says,
16:53"All right, I'll see you later. I'll
16:54text you when I get home." or "Be sure
16:55to text me when you get home." Do you
16:57see how now there's a future plan being
16:59set?
17:00Okay, he's taking himself out of the
17:02present moment to plan more things in
17:04the future. Woman also mistakes this for
17:06low sexual market value. So anytime a
17:09guy gets to know a woman and let's say
17:11he's more of like a man's man who likes
17:13to plan things and all this and let's
17:15say he starts to catch feelings for her,
17:16he starts planning stuff. So they're on
17:18a date
17:19and they've known each other for 6 weeks
17:21and he starts saying things like,
17:24"Oh yeah, you know,
17:26in the city or over in this part of the
17:27city there's a steakhouse I love. I go
17:29to it all the time. I'd love to take you
17:30there. I can't wait to take you there.
17:32Oh, do you know what would be fun?
17:33Christmas is coming up. We should go do
17:35this.
17:36Christmas is coming up. We should go
17:38sledding. We should go do this. Oh, you
17:39know what would be great is if we did
17:41this at this time." And what she sees
17:44is she sees that you are now planning
17:46your future and she's included. Anytime
17:48you future pace plans with a woman, you
17:51will notice a decrease in interest
17:53because once again, women for whatever
17:55reason don't like effort. They will tell
17:57you they want effort. They despise
17:59effort. Women completely despise effort.
18:01The guy who doesn't care, the guy who
18:02does not put in effort, she will chase
18:04and chase and chase and chase and chase
18:05and pursue him and wonder why he doesn't
18:08put forth more effort only to finally
18:10see and figure out that once he does put
18:11forth that effort and he now has this
18:14mental visualization or this imagery
18:17that includes her in his life and
18:19includes him in her life as if they're a
18:21happy couple, watch her now start to
18:24destroy that whole relationship.
18:26Watch her now start to bite back and
18:28say, "I hate this guy." That's what's
18:30actually going to happen. So you can't
18:32future pace anything. If you first met a
18:35woman and you're at the door and she
18:37gives you a hug goodbye, you say, "All
18:38right, I'll catch you later." She
18:39doesn't know when she's going to get to
18:40see you. You don't need to say, "I'll
18:42call you when I get home." You don't
18:43need to call her when you get home. You
18:45don't need to try to set plans for the
18:46next weekend. You just go home. Women
18:49absolutely hate
18:50like the end point or what would be
18:52called like in a movie or a story when
18:54you don't know what's going to happen
18:56next, like the term cliffhanger. They
18:58hate that because now her mind is
19:00sitting there spinning circles wondering
19:02if she will now get to see you again or
19:04not. So this is very important to
19:06understand. That's the second point that
19:07I have to make. And point number three,
19:09I saved the best for last. If you look
19:10at any movie, okay, this is point number
19:12three. If you look at any movie or any
19:14story,
19:16okay, or you look at fantasy movies,
19:19fantasy TV shows, fantasy stories that
19:21women are drawn to. Every story, every
19:23movie has conflict, tension and drama
19:27between the characters, which brings me
19:29to point number three is this. Women do
19:31not want to see or women do not like to
19:34see
19:37a man that has every single box checked
19:41and is the completed package as is
19:43because that's a finished product. What
19:46women like to do and what women want to
19:48do is women want a work in progress.
19:52Okay? women want a work in progress and
19:55she would rather get a man
19:57a lot of times who appears broken or
19:59like he doesn't care or like he's this
20:01loser bad boy that might be a player and
20:04she wants to attempt to see if she can
20:05take a year or two and slowly change
20:09him. She's wondering, "Why can't I get
20:11this guy to demonstrate care? Why can't
20:14I get this guy to demonstrate future
20:15plans? Why can't I get this guy to
20:17demonstrate masculinity? Why can't I get
20:20this guy to say, 'Hey, you know, uh
20:23I attend this restaurant every week and
20:25I'd love to bring you sometime.'"
20:27The second she gets that man at face
20:30value who is perfect like that, she just
20:32discards him because the movie's over,
20:34the story's over. It's a completed
20:35package.
20:37What she would rather have is a guy
20:39who's rougher on the edges, appears to
20:41be broken in certain ways and now she
20:42wants to dig deeper and discover why
20:44he's like that and now she wants to run
20:46the relationship that way to try to
20:47change him. And she wants to try to
20:49slowly make him into the perfect husband
20:51for her. And a lot of times women will
20:53spend all of their 20s doing this. This
20:56is what you have to understand. They'll
20:57spend all of their 20s doing this.
20:59Literally all of their 20s. And a lot of
21:01times they will put off getting married,
21:04they'll put off having kids only to be
21:0530, 35, 40 years old and going, "Oh my
21:07gosh, what do I do? What did I do? Why
21:09did nobody tell me that I was naturally
21:11drawn to these things?" And then a lot
21:13of times she's disappointed how her life
21:15went. So, this is how you keep her
21:17emotions in the sweet spot or the
21:18pocket. The only reason why I'm telling
21:21you to potentially do these things is
21:23because if you don't, you'll just be
21:26left for a different guy. So, it's like
21:29if you don't do this stuff or implement
21:31this stuff,
21:32you're just going to go from date to
21:34date to date or relationship to
21:36relationship to relationship or
21:37interaction to interaction to
21:38interaction and they all just fizzle
21:40out. So, if you actually want to know
21:42how to like maintain interest, you're
21:43going to have to do this for like
21:45probably the entire duration of the
21:47relationship. And then a lot of times
21:49like let's say she does finally marry
21:50that guy and now they have this on paper
21:52perfect marriage or whatever. Now the
21:54puzzle piece has been completed or the
21:56puzzle's completed and now she wants to
21:58destroy it and now she wants to find a
21:59new puzzle that she has to put all the
22:01pieces back together. Rinse and repeat,
22:03rinse and repeat. And if you don't adapt
22:04to these things, if you don't listen to
22:06what I'm saying and internalize this,
22:08every relationship or every interaction
22:10you have, it'll just fizzle out and
22:12you'll keep wondering why none of the
22:13women have interest in you. Hit the like
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22:18help you learn, understand and master
22:20the language of women. I do believe I
22:22teach this better than anybody. So,
22:24we'll see you in the next one.