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0:00You said you love your girl? You don't
0:01even know what love is.
0:03According to Christianity, love is
0:05self-sacrifice. Let's talk about that
0:06first, right? Jesus died on a cross for
0:08the greater good of humanity. What have
0:09you done?
0:11What have you sacrificed? If you really
0:13loved your woman, you would want to give
0:14her the whole world. If you would really
0:16love your parents, you would want to
0:17give them the entire world. You would
0:18want to go out there and become so
0:20incredible that you could give them
0:21everything. You would sacrifice all of
0:24your time, your dignity, your pride. You
0:26would sacrifice your happiness, your
0:28fun, your enjoyment, your youth, so that
0:29you could provide for the people that
0:31you love.
0:32That is real love. You cuddling in bed
0:34with your girl is not love. You telling
0:36your girl that you love her is not love.
0:37You know what the ultimate form of love
0:40is? Self-sacrifice.
0:42You want to cuddle with her? I get it.
0:44You want to kiss her? I get it. You want
0:46to sit there and spend that much time
0:48with her and go watch a movie with her
0:49and tell her how much you love her. I
0:51get it, but that's not love. And she's
0:52not going to love you for that because
0:53it just isn't love. You aren't
0:55sacrificing anything. You could be
0:57making a way greater sacrifice than just
0:59spending some time with her. You could
1:01be sacrificing that need for that
1:03connection and that "Oh, I love you so
1:05much." or cuddling in bed with her.
1:06Going out there and pursuing something
1:08incredible, something great. Think about
1:09how much more she will love you for
1:10that. Think about how much more she will
1:12respect you for that.
1:14You go out there and try to change the
1:16world. You go out there and try to do
1:18something to help people, to make the
1:20world a better place, to push humanity
1:22forward. Purpose. Purpose.
1:25Purpose is what's going to carry you
1:26through life.
1:28Purpose is what's going to make you want
1:29to wake up every single day of your
1:30life. Purpose is what's going to make
1:33women love you, family love you, friends
1:36love you. You need to start making
1:38sacrifices. You know why the depressed
1:40people are depressed? Because they're
1:41never sacrificing anything. They just
1:43sit still all day.
1:45They don't sacrifice their dignity. They
1:47don't go out there and put themselves
1:49into the real world. They don't
1:50sacrifice their time and their fun.
1:52They just sit there, mute, zero, no
1:55energy going in, no energy going out,
1:57nothing.
1:58Nothing. That's why they're depressed.
2:00They don't have any purpose. They have
2:01nothing to wake up for tomorrow. They
2:02have nothing to sacrifice. They have
2:04nothing to sacrifice tomorrow. If the
2:06ultimate form of love is self-sacrifice,
2:08the reason why people are depressed and
2:11the reason why people take their life
2:13is because they aren't doing anything.
2:15Because when you don't do anything and
2:16you don't sacrifice your time and your
2:18energy, you cannot love life. You need
2:21to sacrifice for life to love and enjoy
2:23life.
2:25This is the way it works. You want to
2:27love yourself, you got to go out there
2:29and sacrifice.
2:31Sacrifice your dignity. Sacrifice your
2:33happiness. Go out there and achieve
2:35something great. That's what life is
2:36about. It's not about a woman. And in
2:38turn, women will love you.
2:40Because you see, now you can actually
2:41make a worthy sacrifice to her, to give
2:43her love. She's not going to love you
2:45for that, but I'm saying, let's say you
2:47want to go spend a day with your
2:48girlfriend. You want to spend a day with
2:50your family. It means a lot more.
2:52Because if they know you're a busy man,
2:54they know you have purpose. They know
2:55you have things to do. You
2:57sacrificing that time is totally
2:58different than some homeless man
2:59sacrificing some time to spend with
3:01somebody.
3:02You sacrificing that time, that time has
3:04value. Your time has value because you
3:06made it valuable. Now that sacrifice is
3:08worth something. It allows you to love
3:10her.
3:11Love
3:12comes from you
3:14sacrificing. So, for her, for you to
3:17love her, you need to sacrifice for her.
3:19If you have no value, you can't
3:21sacrifice anything cuz you have nothing
3:22to sacrifice.
3:24Now, imagine if
3:25you sacrifice that one day of work to go
3:27spend it with somebody you love. Now you
3:29can actually love them. Now you can
3:30actually get that
3:31serotonin oxytocin release, which is
3:33love. You actually get to feel that love
3:35because you are actually sacrificing
3:37something. You're actually valuable.
3:40Your time and energy is valuable. So,
3:41when you decide to put it off to the
3:43side and say, "I'm going to spend it
3:44with this person because I care about
3:46them and they're worth it."
3:47Well, guess what?
3:49Now that allows you to love them.
3:51Allows you to make that sacrifice for
3:52them, allows you to love them.
3:54Then, think about your woman. Your woman
3:56is not going to sacrifice for you unless
3:59you are worthy of that sacrifice. Unless
4:01you are valuable enough for her to make
4:03that sacrifice. Meaning, if you are not
4:05a valuable man
4:06and your value isn't from you telling
4:08her you love her. Your value doesn't
4:09come from you always cuddling in bed
4:10with her. Your value comes from you
4:12being an irreplaceable man. Your value
4:14comes with you being the most attractive
4:16guy out of all the other guys she's ever
4:17spoken to or all the other guys in her
4:19DMs, all the other guys she could ever
4:21be with. That's where your value comes
4:22from. That's where your attraction comes
4:24from.
4:25That kind of man
4:27is the only kind of man that she will
4:29really truly ever love.
4:31For you to get to that point, you have
4:33to build value.
4:35Then she can actually love you because
4:36then you are worthy of sacrifice. She
4:39needs to sacrifice to love you. So, you
4:41need to be valuable enough so that she
4:43sacrifices for you because if you're not
4:44valuable enough, she's not going to
4:45sacrifice for you. You become valuable.
4:48Now she sacrifices sacrifices for you.
4:51Now she loves you. If your girl is not
4:54okay with you cheating on her, if your
4:55girl is not okay with you being with
4:57multiple women, if your girl is not okay
4:58with you not spending every single
5:00second of your day with her and instead
5:02working on something in the future,
5:03working on on your business, on your
5:04purpose, she just doesn't love you.
5:07Love is measured in how much the person
5:08will sacrifice for you. You want to know
5:10how much Jesus loves you? Look at how
5:12much he sacrificed. Everything.
5:15Everything. I'm not Christian, but I'm
5:17giving you an example because
5:1930% of you are.
5:21So, that's what you got to understand.
5:22Your woman will not sacrifice for you if
5:24you aren't worth the sacrifice. So, you
5:27need to become worth the sacrifice,
5:29which will allow her to love you. So, if
5:31you really want to love a woman and you
5:33really want a woman to love you, you
5:34need to become a man that's valuable so
5:36that when you sacrifice, it's worth
5:38something so it's actually you feeling
5:40love because now you're sacrificing
5:42something cuz you have value.
5:45And you need to become valuable because
5:47then she will sacrifice for you because
5:49you are worth the sacrifice.
5:52So she will put up with you being with
5:54multiple women. She will put up with you
5:56not spending every second of the day
5:58with her. She will put up with you being
5:59the guy that doesn't sit on FaceTime
6:01with her and do all this And
6:03at the same time, you get to win by
6:05going out there into the real world and
6:06doing something that people will respect
6:08you for. You get to explore, create, do
6:10incredible things. You get to be a man.
6:13Man follows God. Man follows purpose.
6:15Man follows something greater than life.
6:17And the woman follows the man. That's
6:19the way it works.