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0:00How do I cold approach? Stop [ __ ]
0:01cold approaching. You don't understand.
0:03But this puts you at an instant
0:04disadvantage. You cold approaching is
0:05just you pursuing her. How are you going
0:07to attract a woman if you're the one
0:09pursuing her? The point is you get her
0:11to pursue you. And so you think that's
0:13done by you pursuing her. This is the
0:14thing. You guys spend hours cold
0:18approaching and learning pickup lines
0:19and all this [ __ ] [ __ ] that all
0:20these other [ __ ] idiot dating coaches
0:22tell you. And all of it is [ __ ]
0:23What you need to do is understand how to
0:25attract a woman, not how to pursue a
0:27woman. Because the pursuit of a woman
0:29does not involve attraction. So this is
0:32the thing. You can only pursue something
0:33that is above you, in front of you,
0:35ahead of you. And so the second you
0:36pursue her and you ask for a number,
0:38what happens is is you establish that
0:40she is more valuable than you. And
0:42there's a guy in her life that isn't
0:43pursuing her and she's automatically
0:45going to disqualify you because she
0:46finds that man more attractive. Now, you
0:47might get lucky if this guy in her life
0:50doesn't exist. And so she might give you
0:51the number, but you still start off on
0:53the wrong foot. And the game is just
0:54very difficult. And this is a game
0:55that's just a waste of time, a game that
0:57you don't want to play. Instead, you
0:59could use that time trying to figure out
1:00all these pickup lines and all this
1:02[ __ ] with which by the way doesn't
1:03work. It doesn't change anything. You
1:05could use that time to instead
1:08better yourself and become a man that
1:10women pursue. Women chase. Cuz look,
1:11this is the thing. If you don't spend
1:13all your time focusing on yourself,
1:15she's not going to focus on you. Women
1:16don't focus on men who focus on them.
1:18They focus on men who are focusing on
1:19themselves. You want her to focus on
1:21you, focus on yourself. you focus on
1:23her, she's going to focus on another
1:24man. This is what it is. You got to
1:25understand this. And so, you already
1:27start off on the wrong foot by just
1:29pursuing her, trying to get her number.
1:31Because if you got laid all the time,
1:32right? This is the thing. You got to
1:33understand what is attraction based off
1:35of, right? How many options you have,
1:37how easily you can get laid demonstrates
1:39that you're valuable, which increases
1:40your attraction. So, you got to
1:41understand for you to be attractive in
1:43her eyes, you got to not care. Meaning,
1:45you don't care to walk up and ask for
1:47the number. So, now guys are going to
1:48ask me, "Well, this how do I meet
1:49women?" You don't. You don't meet. You
1:52don't meet women. You don't. You wait
1:55and wait and you play the long game and
1:57you become this man that's
1:58irreplaceable. And then you realize that
2:00women come to you and now you win twice
2:02because now you've achieved all your
2:03goals and dreams. You have the future
2:05you always wanted. You have the purpose.
2:07You have the life you want to live.
2:08You've retired your parents. You've
2:10taken care of. You can take care of the
2:11people you love. And now women just
2:13naturally gravitate towards you because
2:14you have all the things that the women
2:16want. This is what it is. You want a
2:18woman to love you. You want a woman to
2:20love you. Do you understand? And so if
2:23you want a woman to love you, this
2:24doesn't just come out of the blue like,
2:25"Oh yeah, she's just the right one and
2:27so she loves me for me and behi besides
2:29my money and what I've achieved." No,
2:31that's wrong. Because a woman can only
2:33love you for who you are on paper. Your
2:36money, how you look, your physique, the
2:37way you act, your confidence, that is
2:39who you are. A lot of guys are like,
2:40"That's a gold digger." No. Because if
2:41you're not giving her the money and you
2:43just are the money, that's not gold
2:44digging. She doesn't get anything out of
2:45it. Sure, she gets to live a life that's
2:48more abundant and she gets to live a
2:49life where she gets to travel and she
2:51gets to have a better life than if she
2:53was with a broke [ __ ] That
2:54doesn't make her a gold digger though at
2:56all because that is you. You are the
2:58money you make. Okay? And the only guys
3:00that are insecure about this and they're
3:02like, "Well, I want to meet a girl that
3:03that I want to find a girl before I get
3:05rich." These are the guys that are
3:06insecure in themselves. Okay? These are
3:09the types of dudes that the money makes
3:12them. They don't make the money. You
3:13understand? You make the money. The
3:15money doesn't make you. And so if you
3:17make the money, the money is you. You
3:19are the money. You are the [ __ ]
3:21money. And you are your physique and you
3:23are your confidence. You are all these
3:25things. And a woman falls in love with
3:27you because of all these things because
3:28that ensures that she can survive. See,
3:30your resources and your values directly
3:32correlated to how attracted she's going
3:34to be to you and whether she's going to
3:35love you or not. Because see, what love
3:36is is oxytocin and serotonin release.
3:39It's a reward system for a woman
3:40choosing the right partner. And she's
3:43only going to choose the right partner
3:44if that partner, right? And she's only
3:46going to feel that reward system if
3:48she's choosing a partner that is worth
3:49sacrifice. Because what is love? Love is
3:52a reward system for a woman's sacrifice,
3:54right? Or for an individual sacrifice.
3:56Of course, it applies to men as well. So
3:58what love is, right? Think of the two
3:59people you love the most in life and
4:01think of the two people you would
4:02sacrifice the most for in life. It's the
4:03same two people. And that's what love
4:05is. Love is sacrifice. You would
4:06sacrifice more for somebody else because
4:07you love them more. That's it. And so
4:10you have to become a valuable man. You
4:11have to become a man of value because
4:13guess what? She will only sacrifice for
4:14a man that is worth the sacrifice.
4:17And you need to understand this. It's
4:18all transactional. All these fairy tale
4:21[ __ ] stories that you hear all the
4:22time. Yeah. It's just about finding the
4:24right one that comes from the right
4:26background and you guys align and all
4:28this stuff. Nope. Nope. Because let me
4:31tell you, you know the funny part is a
4:33lot of guys are going to be, "Well, Tom
4:34Brady, he's valuable and he got cheated
4:36on." Well, let me tell you something
4:36about Tom Brady. He got married. And
4:39when you get married, you just show the
4:40woman how much you care. And guess what?
4:41Guess what kind of man cares? A man
4:42who's low on options. And a man who's
4:44low on options is a man who is now
4:45perceived as low value even if he isn't.
4:48And so this is the thing. Why? Because
4:50when you get married, you're focusing
4:51everything on the woman. She's your
4:52life. She's your everything. You want to
4:54commit to her. You commit to a woman
4:55instead of God or your purpose or your
4:57future or yourself. That's when you lose
4:58the woman. He lost the woman by
5:00committing to the woman because now he's
5:02unsafe. If he's so vulnerable and he's
5:04so emotionally manipulated that he's
5:06going to give all of his assets, he's
5:08going to sign this piece of paper that
5:09gives up all the leverage because he
5:11loves this woman so much. He's that
5:12emotional, that's not logical at all,
5:13right? If there's nothing logical about
5:14it, that means you're an unsafe man
5:16because you make emotional decisions.
5:18So, he might have all that value, but
5:19how long is that value going to last?
5:21Because he's emotional. What if tomorrow
5:22something happens in his business and
5:24because he's emotional and he doesn't
5:25feel like showing up, he screws
5:27everything up and now he loses the
5:29money. So this is how she tests to see
5:30if you fall weak to her to see if you
5:32would fall weak to other things. Are you
5:33going to fall emotionally weak to other
5:35things and that's what allows her not to
5:37only see okay fine she measures your
5:39value but she also needs to see if
5:40you're going to be able to retain that
5:42value through whether you're logically
5:45if you operate based on logic and
5:47whether you're calculated. Otherwise if
5:50you're not logical and you're not
5:51calculated you might have all the value
5:52but that doesn't make you attractive.
5:54That that's not the golden rule. This is
5:55what the red pillars is going to tell
5:56tell you. Oh you just got to have all
5:57this money. But let me tell you, you
5:58hold her hand a little bit too long. You
5:59go too weak for her. You marry her, it's
6:01all done. It's all down the drain.
6:03Because guess what happens? She looks at
6:05you and she goes, "But you're emotional.
6:08You're emotionally weak. I got you to
6:10commit. I got you to go emotionally
6:11weak. I got you to sign a piece of paper
6:12that is illogical and you just did it
6:14because you don't want to lose me and
6:15you feel like you found something here
6:16and you're insecure." That's it. You
6:18don't need to marry a woman.
6:20And the day you understand this, the day
6:22you understand that there is a structure
6:23and there is a system and there is a
6:24calculation that is constantly going on
6:26in her head and just getting married to
6:27her and committing to her and being with
6:28her for 10 years, it never goes away.
6:30Let me tell you, you know, grandpa sits
6:31in front of the couch and grandma still
6:33bothers him about [ __ ] all the time
6:34because the tests never stop. But you
6:36see, grandpa, he's already in a natural
6:37state of a lack of care. He doesn't
6:39care. He just wants to watch his TV.
6:40He's just going TO YELL AT THE HE'S JUST
6:41GOING TO YELL AT THE TV. HE doesn't
6:42care. He doesn't care. He don't give a
6:45[ __ ] OH, DIDN'T SCORE A [ __ ] THAT'S
6:48IT. THAT'S ALL HE CARES ABOUT. THAT'S
6:49WHAT GRANDPA cares about. That's You got
6:50to be grandpa. Be grandpa. Just stop
6:52giving a [ __ ] about everything.
6:54Grandma's bitching about something. She
6:55complain about something. Doesn't
6:57matter. Grandpa don't care. Grandpa's
6:59just focused on the football game.
7:01Grandpa always has something that he
7:02likes more than her. Something that he's
7:04prioritizing over her. And that's why
7:06grandpa lasted so long. Be grandpa. You
7:10don't care to make anything work. You
7:12don't care to save the relationship. You
7:13don't give a [ __ ] about any of these
7:14things. You just exist. And if she wants
7:17to end things, fine. Thing is, that's
7:19how you keep her. You guys have to
7:21understand this. It is all
7:22transactional. It is all this specific
7:25system and calculation that goes on her
7:27in her head. And if one day, let me tell
7:29you, if one day you decide, oh, well,
7:30because I've known her for so long and
7:32we trust each other. Nope. Promise you,
7:35hold her hand a little bit too long,
7:36tell her how much you love her a little
7:37bit too many time, a few too many times,
7:38go emotionally weak for her, commit to
7:40her, doing a logical decision like
7:41getting married and watch attraction
7:44start to fade. You know, they always
7:45say, "Yeah, the honeymoon phase faded."
7:46Yeah, because you're an idiot and you
7:48committed. You want the honeymoon stage
7:50to last forever. Never give her a
7:52commitment. Just exist. And so that's
7:55why cold approach doesn't work. Because
7:56with cold approach, you aren't just
7:57existing. You're walking up to her and
7:59you're pursuing her. And you have to
8:00understand this because what this
8:02triggers in her mind is, "Oh, he doesn't
8:04get laid. He doesn't get enough from
8:06other women. So, he wants to come up to
8:07me and he wants to pursue me."
8:10>> See, this is the thing. I'll tell you
8:12this to end things off. cold approach
8:14just to grow your boss, just to become
8:15more confident. Just become more
8:17comfortable talking to women. So, cold
8:18approach, but not as an optimal way to
8:20meet women ever. Don't ever look at it
8:23as an optimal way to meet women. That's
8:25it. That simple. Use it as a way to grow
8:27your confidence, but for nothing else.
8:29You do it when it's convenient. Let's
8:30say you're out and you saw a girl that
8:32you like, fine, walk up to her. But to
8:33go out of your way to go sit at the mall
8:34with your buddies, the cold approach is
8:36ridiculous. Never do it ever. You need
8:39to understand how to just get yourself
8:41to a point where you are so valuable.
8:43You existing is enough. And that's how
8:45you attract women.