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0:00The biggest thing I see is that you guys
0:02have an issue with balancing
0:04how to not care and how to care. So, the
0:07question a lot of guys ask is
0:10if I don't if I'm supposed to show that
0:12I don't care about her, so how do I keep
0:15her in the relationship, right? Cuz it's
0:16like if you don't show any interest, how
0:18are you going to keep the girl, right?
0:19It doesn't make any sense.
0:21But, this only doesn't make sense when
0:22you don't understand how it works. So,
0:24I'm not telling you guys not to care.
0:26You guys are humans. End of the day,
0:29you're a man, but you're a human. You're
0:30emotional. Emotions is what makes you
0:33human. So, I'm not telling you to
0:34suppress your emotions. I'm telling you
0:37I'm telling you to just not show her
0:40those emotions. You can feel those
0:42emotions. In fact, you should try to
0:43feel those emotions as much as possible
0:45because that's what makes you feel
0:46alive. If you feel like you love her,
0:49that's fine. Sit in that. But, you don't
0:51have to tell her that all the time, and
0:52you need to control your emotions. See,
0:54what makes a man
0:56is controlling his emotions.
0:58What makes you a man is not you never
1:00crying. It's you not crying in front of
1:02the wrong crowd. So, if you go and lock
1:05yourself in a room and you cry by
1:06yourself, that doesn't make you any less
1:08of a man. But, the fact that you didn't
1:09show it to everyone and you suppressed
1:11that in the in the when when the moment
1:13was wrong for you to do that because you
1:15need to hold your frame and stay strong
1:17so everyone else stays calm cuz you're
1:18the man.
1:20That's totally fine. You left and you
1:22did what a man does. That's called being
1:25human. You're supposed to be
1:27feeling these emotions. But, here's the
1:29thing is like people are like, "Well,
1:30you're telling me not to care." I'm not
1:32telling you not to care. I'm telling you
1:33not to show her that you care. So, this
1:35means if you love her, I'm not telling
1:37you never tell her that you love her.
1:39But, if there's nothing going on and you
1:41just see her and you're just looking at
1:42her and she looks all pretty and you
1:43think about how cute she is and you're
1:44like, "Oh my god, I just want to hug
1:46this girl and kiss her and I want her to
1:47be in my life forever." You don't have
1:48to tell her all of that because once you
1:50tell her all of that, you lose leverage
1:51in the relationship. When you show her
1:53how much you care and how much you love
1:54her, if you continue stating this every
1:56day, "I love you. I love you. I love
1:57you. I love you.
1:58Guess what? The more you say that to
2:01her, the more you reveal your interest
2:02level. And the problem with revealing
2:03your interest level is that you show her
2:05that she's the only one.
2:07You show her that she's the only thing
2:08that matters to you. And all of you guys
2:10think that this is the point, right? I
2:11don't I want to show my girl that she's
2:13so special and she's the only one. No.
2:15No, you don't. Because you give her all
2:18the power this way, right? It's like if
2:20you knew that you were the prize in the
2:23relationship, you would do and say
2:24whatever you want to do. So, every time
2:26you tell her how beautiful she is and
2:27every time
2:28you give her all these compliments and
2:30do everything that she wants to do, you
2:31give her all the power.
2:33But the problem with that is that you
2:34are the man and you have to have all the
2:36power. She is a woman. She's feminine.
2:39She cannot have the power because power
2:40is masculine. You need to be the one
2:42holding the frame and holding the power
2:44in the relationship. And if it doesn't
2:45work this way, guess what? The
2:47relationship crumbles. Because a man can
2:50regulate power correctly, a woman can't.
2:52When she has the power, she's just going
2:53to become disrespectful. She's going to
2:55start doing things that you don't want
2:56her to do. She's going to dress however
2:57she wants to dress because she has the
2:59power. She can do whatever she wants and
3:01she can't have that.
3:03She doesn't have frame.
3:04You see, you have frame.
3:06If you believe that something is
3:08disrespectful,
3:10you're not going to do it because logic
3:11dictates that if you do that, then it's
3:14the wrong thing to do. It's immoral and
3:15it's just disrespectful. But see, in her
3:18eyes, she looks at something as
3:19disrespectful, but because it makes her
3:21feel a certain kind of emotion, she's
3:22going to do it cuz she wants that spike.
3:24She wants that emotional spike.
3:25She doesn't think logically. She thinks
3:27emotionally. So, when she looks at
3:29something goes, "This is disrespectful."
3:31She knows it's disrespectful. She's
3:32still going to do it. Because she wants
3:34that emotional narrative. She wants you
3:37to get upset. She wants some drama in
3:39her life. And you give her the power to
3:40initiate that drama. You give her the
3:42power to dress however she wants because
3:44she knows if she dresses however she
3:46wants, you're not going to leave her.
3:47Why?
3:49Because you aren't the prize. Why would
3:51you leave her? She's the prize.
3:53She's not losing anything if you leave,
3:54so that's why she doesn't care. She
3:56doesn't care if you feel disrespected.
3:58She doesn't care.
4:00And this is the problem with her having
4:02the power, her being validated
4:03constantly. You've been taught this your
4:05whole life by every woman you've ever
4:07met that every woman wants to be called
4:09beautiful and every woman wants the
4:11roses and the big bouquet and the gifts,
4:14but guess what? When you do this, you
4:15get cheated on. When you do this, you
4:17get left for another guy. You get left
4:19for a guy that can make her feel more
4:21emotions, that is the man in the
4:23relationship because guess what? The
4:25power dynamic has to be you having the
4:28power cuz that's the masculine. It's not
4:29feminine for a woman to have more power
4:31over you.
4:33And she's going to look for a man that
4:35can satisfy that. She's going to look
4:36for a man that has power over her. And
4:39this isn't always a man who's going to
4:41be the most respectful man to her. This
4:43isn't the man who's going to be
4:45who's going to do whatever she wants to
4:46do and going to satisfy her and call her
4:48beautiful all the time. This is going to
4:49be a man that might be a little bit
4:51disrespectful at times. This is going to
4:52be a man that might not call her for a
4:54week or two.
4:55But this is what it's what this is
4:56what's being a man. This is what it is.
4:58This is how you be a man. Like it's this
5:00simple.
5:01Really, to the core of all of this.
5:04The fact is that her having the power is
5:07not masculine and every time you sit
5:08there and give her that power,
5:11the relationship just starts falling
5:13apart because she doesn't know how to
5:15use that power because she doesn't think
5:17logically. She thinks emotionally and
5:19she's going to use that power
5:22to do whatever it takes to satisfy as
5:23many emotions as possible, whether it
5:25hurts you or not, whether it's
5:27disrespectful to you or not.
5:30So, you need to understand this and you
5:31need to internalize this and you need to
5:34really
5:35start putting this into work. You need
5:37to really start putting this into play.
5:39You need to utilize this and use it.
5:42See, any guy can do this. You could do
5:44this tomorrow. You could put your girl
5:45in her place tomorrow.
5:47You can limit the time that you spend
5:49with her starting today. You could limit
5:52how much you text her and call her
5:53starting today. You could portray
5:55yourself as a high-value man starting
5:57today, but you don't because you don't
5:58have the balls. You know how to do it. I
6:00just told you how to do it.
6:01But, this is the thing is I can talk to
6:04men about this 100 times over, and some
6:07men get it and some men don't. Some men
6:08have the balls to implement it and some
6:10men don't. But, you have to stop being
6:12afraid of losing her because let me ask
6:13you this.
6:15If I told you that you're guaranteed to
6:17lose her doing what you're doing right
6:19now and not growing some balls and being
6:20a real real man, would you start
6:22implementing it? You probably would.
6:25So, I'm telling you, if you don't start
6:27implementing this, you're going to lose
6:28her regardless. So, you might as well
6:30try.