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0:00you are already ahead of 90% of the
0:01people your age if you can just
0:03communicate confidently it is
0:05statistically proven that the people who
0:07are better communicators they get better
0:09job opportunities and make more money
0:10and they attract higher quality of the
0:13opposite sex and if you look at the
0:15people under the age of 25 nowadays you
0:17will see that there is a supply and
0:19demand issue there's a demand for good
0:22communicators but there's not a lot of
0:24supply and when there's not a lot of
0:27Supply you don't necessarily need to be
0:29the best you just need to be okay so
0:33you'd be pretty dumb to click up this
0:34video because this video might just save
0:36the rest of your entire life being a
0:38good communicator is the equivalent of
0:40being a 63 handsome man nowadays in our
0:44generation so let me show you how when I
0:46was 12 years old I was in year six at
0:47the time I was the school captain of my
0:50primary school had I think maybe 30 or
0:5240 kids because I was probably the best
0:55speaker there I always try to encourage
0:58other people by telling them to never
0:59give up to always try their best and
1:01then 3 or 4 months later I started
1:03dating the other school Captain who was
1:06a good speaker as well around five
1:08months into our lovey Dy stage we
1:10decided to go on like a Halloween you
1:12know trick or treating and one of my
1:14friends came along with us two there was
1:17three of us and I could tell that she
1:19was extremely attracted to my friend
1:22that she hadn't seen before and when we
1:24decided to go home my girlfriend went to
1:26her place and my friend came back to my
1:28place and my friend started to explain
1:31to me how he could tell that she was I
1:34and him and that just confirmed my
1:38suspicions so that was when I developed
1:42a lot of anxiety a lot a lot of jealousy
1:45and this is where my insecurity started
1:47to come in I started to look myself in
1:49the mirror every single day and think I
1:50was ugly even though I wasn't and
1:54because I had built those insecurities
1:57my communication skill suffered because
2:01probably wondering why I have this
2:02picture up here this pipe
2:05represents your inability to speak okay
2:09this the tap the quality of water
2:11represents the quality of your
2:13communication I had because of my
2:16anxiety developed gunk in this tap we
2:19don't want that because you could be the
2:22I was a very very good communicator but
2:24the blockage was holding me back from
2:26being a good communicator you could be
2:28the best speaker out there but if you
2:30have a lot of anxiety a lot of
2:32embarrassment a lot of like a fear of
2:34judgment you're not going to be able to
2:36express yourself clearly CU it feels
2:38like there's a block at your throat
2:40feels like there's just something
2:41blocking you okay and the way you get
2:45rid of this is by just simply asking
2:49yourself where it comes from what's
2:52causing this gunk in the tap what's
2:54causing it is it something to do with
2:57the start where it's coming from right
2:59how can you fix that it's all about
3:01getting to the root cause on why it's
3:04there in the first place why can't I
3:07express myself clearly why am I so
3:10scared of talking to that girl number
3:12one exercise you will do in order to
3:14improve your communication okay cuz this
3:17the gunk is holding you back I'll leave
3:19a video at the end of this video on how
3:21I overcame my anxiety okay now once this
3:26is limited you're never going to be
3:28perfect okay I get anxious all the time
3:30I get embarrassed all the time I fear
3:33judgment quite a bit but I just have
3:36less Gunk than other people do meaning
3:40I'm a better Communicator compared to
3:42other people meaning I get better
3:44opportunities people can sense the
3:46confidence okay so how do we get better
3:51quality water which is your
3:53communication skills I'm going to share
3:55with you four crucial things that aren't
3:56necessarily hard they're very very easy
3:58that you can do to day to improve this
4:02water quality number one you must
4:04realize the intention creates your
4:07intention the intention behind why you
4:10speak okay I remember when I was in
4:12year7 this is where my insecurities had
4:15developed quite a bit I went up to talk
4:18to a pretty attractive girl on the bench
4:20at school it was like my third or fourth
4:22day of school a lot of you guys know
4:24this story and I went in with the
4:27intention of talking to this girl to get
4:29valid dated by her I didn't really want
4:31to connect with her so there was an
4:33awkward silence 5 seconds in and the
4:36conversation just ended off that if I
4:39had went in with the intention just to
4:42connect with this woman not to attract
4:44her just to connect with her find out
4:46more about her trust me it would have
4:50been it would have gone so much better
4:52your intention creates the Tope of
4:54tension if you're talking to a girl you
4:55just do it to connect with her not to
4:57necessarily attract her you just be your
4:59best self you spread love you spread
5:01positivity trust me that blockage is
5:04going to be reduced and your water is
5:06going to be higher quality this is easy
5:08but not not a lot of you would like it
5:10and the second one is to actually read
5:13more books now the reason I say to read
5:15more books two main reasons number one
5:18it increases your vocabulary half of the
5:20words you probably hear me say that are
5:22kind of advanced even though I don't
5:24really say many Advanced words cuz I'm
5:26speaking to a younger audience is from
5:28the books I've read each time I read
5:29which is usually around 30 to 60 minutes
5:31per day I will highlight one to two
5:34words that aren't too
5:37robotic but I've heard them before and I
5:40want to start using more in public if
5:42you have a really really simple
5:44vocabulary it's very hard to be a really
5:47good communicator there's like a cap to
5:49the quality of water you can be so
5:50expand your vocabulary now second thing
5:53when you're
5:53reading you most of the time are
5:57mentally trying to think of the word
5:59[ __ ] I meant to be a good communicator
6:01rehearsing what you're reading in your
6:04mind there are various studies to prove
6:06this I originally heard it from Andrew
6:08hman on you know reading and how it
6:10improves communication so read more
6:13specifically books that help your future
6:16self because you're gaining knowledge
6:18and becoming a better Communicator it is
6:20literally a cheat code third thing it
6:22kind of goes to eliminating the guck out
6:27of your pipe and that is improving your
6:30looks and improving just your overall
6:33appearance now I'm not one of those
6:35black pill [ __ ] looks ma tudes
6:39yeah I'm only saying this because when
6:41you feel confident you express how you
6:44feel get some nice clothes that actually
6:46fit you me I justar I wear Kmart clothes
6:49I don't wear nothing special but I wear
6:51clothes that fit me get yourself a
6:53haircut start getting better sleep look
6:55after your skin you know start eating a
6:57Clean Diet these really simple things
6:59that will improve your looks and improve
7:02how you feel so you naturally feel more
7:04confident now the fourth thing that has
7:05improved my communication skills I'd say
7:08probably the most because I do it so
7:10much is speaking on camera I will play a
7:12snippet of Me 3 years ago with my first
7:15ever YouTube video hello everyone
7:17welcome back to another video today's
7:19video I'm not going to be bringing you a
7:20workout video but instead I'm going to
7:22give be giving you five tips how to get
7:24abs in 4 weeks now 4 weeks might sound
7:27like a short time but it really isn't
7:29but if you look like this then you can
7:31maybe add a zero on top of that four
7:33because there's definitely nutritional
7:35issues going on can you sense the
7:36difference my tone is so much better my
7:39confidence is so much better simply
7:41because I have practiced so if you want
7:45to jump straight in go out there and
7:48practice in public a lot of you don't
7:50really want to do that maybe don't have
7:51time to do that with school and
7:53everything 10 minutes per day 5 minutes
7:55per day sit on the chair and just Yap to
7:57the camera documents your your life use
8:00it as a journal right you're making your
8:03life into a movie post it on YouTube
8:06private your videos but you're also
8:08improving your communication that's it
8:09from me and I'll catch you in the next
8:11one peace