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0:00The more I watch my colleagues in the
0:02field , the sadder I get . Most advice on
0:04" How to be successful with women "
0:06somehow boils down to the idea that you
0:08have to bend your life backward and
0:10literally become a different person .
0:12And in theory , it sounds correct , right
0:14? If you're not getting results , then
0:16why the hell would you expect results ?
0:18But the question is : is there a way to
0:20seduce women while being just an
0:22ordinary guy ? And the answer is : yes ,
0:24it’s just not as cool to talk about .
0:27So yeah , brew yourself something
0:28stronger . And if this is your first
0:30time on my video , my name is August ,
0:31I'm an anthropologist , and for the last
0:3310 years , I've been looking for
0:34effective keys to seducing women
0:35without leaving the house . Yes ,
0:37literally how to be a broke loser and
0:38still seduce and sleep with a huge
0:40number of women . And it's not a
0:41guarantee that YouTube will show you my
0:43video again . Who knows if that's good
0:44or bad , but don't forget to like and
0:46subscribe , even if you don't like this
0:47video . But you'll just unsubscribe and
0:49leave a dislike . So , yeah , without
0:50further personal pleasantries . Let's go
0:51. So , I have the first question . Do you
0:54want to be loved , or do you want the
0:55things around you to be loved ? You know
0:57, like the saying : you don't love the
0:58fish , you love the taste of the fish .
1:00Well , I’d like a girl to actually
1:02love me , not the idea that in 20 years
1:04she’ll be living in some castle or
1:06palace , and will have everything in
1:09life . And blah , blah , blah . I mean ,
1:10it's cool , right ? I wouldn't turn that
1:12down myself , but where do I fit in all
1:14this ? If we take me out of this whole
1:17story and put in another guy , and she's
1:19okay with that , well , that doesn't
1:21really suit me much . Moreover , the
1:24answer itself , like : " Well , damn ,
1:26improve yourself , join a gym , make some
1:28money . " It’s a very simple answer ,
1:31and it’s all cool , it will all work .
1:34But even with all that , for some reason
1:36, out-of-shape , fat guys with boring
1:38lives are already getting everything
1:39you only wish to have . And that will
1:41likely happen for you in about 5-6 , or
1:43maybe 10 years . You have to admit ,
1:44that’s not very cool . But again , this
1:46is an answer like : " Well , just make
1:47some money . " Funny . We’re not going
1:50to do that . We’ve just patted
1:51ourselves on the back . Great . The tenth
1:53girl in a row dumps me , but that's just
1:54because they're all " unsuitable . " Not
1:56because I'm doing something wrong . But
1:58that’s just me venting . Okay . So ,
1:59let’s break down what actually
2:01matters . In psychology , this was
2:03discovered a long time ago . Moreover ,
2:05in pickup culture about 20 years ago ,
2:07it was more or less the same thing . I
2:10know the term " pickup " is completely
2:11run into the ground and cringey for us ,
2:13but if we move past those losers who
2:15run up to people on the street asking
2:16for numbers , and actually look at what
2:18was happening in , say , the Western
2:19schools , you’d be surprised . It’s
2:22literally what was later confirmed by
2:24studies , albeit many years later . So ,
2:27let’s start with the basics . We have
2:28absolute value , and we have contextual
2:30value . Absolute value is all those
2:33things . Meaning , we take guy X , give
2:35him some attribute , and he becomes
2:37cooler , right ? So here’s guy X ,
2:39let’s make him a bit more handsome .
2:41Cool , cool . Guy X , let’s give him a
2:43bit of money . Cool , cool . Will he
2:45become more attractive ? Definitely .
2:47That is what we call absolute value . I
2:49assure you , this bar for absolute value
2:51is 1,000 times lower than what you're
2:53being told right now . The " looksmaxxing
2:55" crowd will tell you that you have to
2:57be like a 10 out of 10 Brad Pitt in his
2:59prime just for her to even look at you .
3:01No , man , it doesn't work like that . I
3:03took pictures of this guy here , and the
3:05conversation went just fine . I
3:06literally physically took the phone and
3:08chatted on his behalf . And surprisingly
3:11, it all just went well on its own . And
3:12everything was fun . So you can’t
3:14really blame it on " well , you don't
3:16have the face of a GigaChad . " Or when
3:18the guys and I jump into some Omegle
3:20calls and have great chats , my face
3:21isn't there , just my voice .
3:23>> Never .
3:24>> No.
3:24>> In 40 years , not a drop of aggression ?
3:27>> Of course .
3:28>> What about when you hit me over the
3:29head with a frying pan while I was
3:30sleeping ? That was also done with love .
3:32>> I was ironing .
3:35>> That's for clothes . I don't need
3:36ironing . Especially not with heavy or
3:38hot objects .
3:39>> The doctor prescribed it for you . I'm
3:41just following orders . Above the bed .
3:44>> Who to open ?
3:45>> Above your bed . And above the bed is a
3:47doctor . No , I only have your poster
3:49above my bed .
3:49>> Well , that is the doctor .
3:51>> You’re a doctor too ? Damn , you have a
3:53lot of personalities . You’re almost
3:55like Johnny Sins . He’s also a pilot ,
3:56a doctor , a cook , and a plumber .
3:58>> I’m a borprepter . That’s it .
4:00>> She knows her stuff . And it’s not
4:02like I have the kind of voice you’d
4:04obsess over . You have to agree . So , yes
4:05, let’s go back to our contextual
4:08value . And why this is incredibly
4:09important . Let's rewind . I don't know
4:11when you were in school , but it doesn't
4:12matter . I'm sharing a personal
4:13experience here . When I was in the
4:14second grade , I already knew perfectly
4:16well who Angelina Jolie was . I knew who
4:17Megan Fox was . I saw a lot of beautiful
4:20girls . But for some reason , I liked one
4:22specific girl who , objectively speaking
4:24, lost to them in every way . Well , how
4:26else could it be , right ? Or another
4:27moment : when a guy gets dumped by a
4:29girl and rushes to unalive himself . I
4:32condemn that , but is this girl truly
4:34the most objectively beautiful and
4:35attractive person in the world ? I doubt
4:38it , because our psyche works a bit
4:40differently than just having a set of
4:42factors . And we desire that specific
4:44set of factors . No , getting back to how
4:47we interact with people ... if you look
4:49at how these couples are formed , and
4:51moreover , those same studies — they
4:53took couples , watched them for decades ,
4:55saw how everything developed and what
4:57happened — the beginning is always
4:59roughly the same . The first is the
5:02number of shared moments and common
5:04context . In principle , people almost
5:07always match at the same level , and it
5:09doesn't matter which one . It could be
5:12the same social level , the same field
5:15of activity , a shared joke , a common
5:18interest , whatever . So , you need to
5:20find as many of these points as
5:22possible , where you are similar . That's
5:24the first point . The second point is
5:26working on opening the person up . We
5:29are all insane narcissists . Everyone
5:31loves themselves . No matter how much
5:34they might say , " No , I hate myself , " it
5:37doesn't work like that . Sooner or later
5:39, the brain rationalizes ; sooner or
5:41later , it will find a reason to love
5:43itself . And our task is to extract
5:45those specific moments . And I'll
5:47shamelessly take this opportunity . I
5:49remind you that via the link in the
5:50description or the first comment ,
5:51you'll find two breakdowns of my own
5:53chats , literally analyzed message by
5:54message , from the first text to her
5:56coming over to my place . You understand
5:57what kind of sequel that implies . We'll
5:59break down why whether she likes you or
6:00not is far from being her choice . Why
6:0280 % of men are literally trash to women .
6:05And we'll specifically break down a
6:06clear , step-by-step plan on how to
6:08transition from the " mommy's boy "
6:09category — which , by the way , is a
6:10total simp — to the category of a
6:11naturally attractive , sexually worthy
6:13man — which , by the way , is a guy with
6:14big balls . We’ll also break down why
6:16this photo didn’t get me a single
6:18like , while this one got me 91 likes in
6:2024 hours . We’ll break down , point by
6:22point , why this photo is actually made
6:24for men , and why this one is made for
6:25women , and you can see the results for
6:27yourself . You'll find the link in the
6:29description and the first comment ,
6:31because look , here is a person , and a
6:33person has about 8 million different
6:35masks . Meaning , in this situation , I
6:37act like this . In this situation , I act
6:38like this . Here , I want people to see
6:40me like this . And that’s why I love
6:42those questions : " What would you like ? "
6:45And the girl starts : " Okay , she
6:47imagined Brad Pitt , who naturally
6:48doesn't need to prove anything anymore .
6:50He’s already everything , well , he’s
6:51the ideal in her eyes . " Well , let's
6:53talk about an abstract Brad Pitt . And
6:55she imagined : " Well , of course , I want
6:57him to be good to me , to be open with
6:59me , to be very caring . " Yet , in her
7:03Instagram , she has 8 million guys who
7:05do the exact same thing , but for some
7:06reason , they stay on Instagram . And yet
7:09, they might be no worse than Brad Pitt
7:11. But what’s the issue ? It's that she
7:13already has some context with Brad Pitt
7:15. She’s seen a movie with him .
7:16She’s seen how he , for example ,
7:18interacts with some lady . She put
7:20herself in the role of that lady .
7:22That’s probably the most basic role
7:23model . If you look at most movies for
7:25girls , why aren't the girls there super
7:27cool ? Because a regular girl wouldn't
7:30be able to put herself in that position
7:31. Moreover , if you look at almost any
7:33movie , like Spider-Man , for instance ,
7:35at the beginning , he's just a regular
7:37nerd who becomes cool , a guy who
7:39doesn't leave his room , and you're like
7:41: " That's literally me . " And that’s
7:43it . Spider-Man is still the most
7:46popular superhero . And almost
7:48everything we look at is built exactly
7:50like that . There’s a role model , and
7:52we start from that role model . And a
7:54girl wants exactly the same kind of
7:56role model . And that role model
7:58shouldn't be built on an ideal image .
8:02So , disclosure is probably top two , but
8:04I’d put it in first place right along
8:06with relatability . Meaning you just
8:10have to give a girl the chance to open
8:12up , show her true self , and offer
8:13acceptance for that real part of her .
8:17Because always being in this guarded
8:19position , where she has to act like
8:20someone she's not , it's fun , it's cool ,
8:22but it doesn't spark attraction . It’s
8:24basically just stroking your own ego .
8:26That is , in fact , the reason why you
8:27start talking to a girl , everything is
8:29great , you’re chatting , she’s
8:31putting in some effort , you’re
8:32discussing things , it’s all fun , but
8:34the next day she doesn't text you , and
8:36then you text her , and she ignores you .
8:38And why is that ? Because you were
8:39talking to that mask , right ? She got
8:41her dopamine hit . No worries , it’ll
8:43be more interesting to do that with
8:44another guy , and he’ll go through the
8:45exact same situation . It will end
8:47exactly the same way . The next day ,
8:48she’ll go and talk to someone else
8:49about the exact same things . But
8:51opening up is what allows us to build
8:52that bridge between one another . I’ll
8:54surprise you , but opening up is never
8:57about being perfect . Opening up is
8:58precisely about , " Oh , we’re so
9:00vulnerable , oh , we’re so flawed , tell
9:02me , what did they hit you with in
9:03childhood ? " So , once again , we resonate
9:05with people not because we are perfect ,
9:07but because we resonate with these
9:09minor screw-ups in our lives . And from
9:11here , we move on to the next point ,
9:13specifically to reciprocity . This is
9:15basically a cheat code for any
9:17interaction with women . If you want to
9:19get something from a woman , do it
9:20yourself first . So , if I want a girl to
9:23start opening up , I’ll just take the
9:25lead and open up first . If I want a
9:27girl to tell me what she’s feeling
9:28right now , I’ll just go ahead and
9:30share it first . And she will pick up on
9:31it , and she will start doing it too .
9:33Why ? Because you’ve literally just
9:35given her the indulgence , saying , " Yes ,
9:37here , you can do this too . " Because
9:39while we , as men , live our whole lives
9:41in this category — meaning : you must be
9:43like this , you must have this and that ,
9:44by this age you must be such-and-such ,
9:46and society puts pressure on us — for
9:48girls , it’s much more complex ,
9:49because it’s not society that
9:50pressures them , they pressure
9:51themselves . And a girl’s ego will
9:54never allow her to take the first step
9:56in that regard , because what if you say
9:58, " Go to hell " ? And what would happen
10:00then ? She would go out of her mind .
10:02That’s why she’d rather screw up 40
10:04times and lose the best man in her life
10:06than take that step . Yes , there are
10:08exceptions , but they are just that —
10:09exceptions . In 99 % of cases , no matter
10:11how awesome you are , she won't start
10:13doing it herself . You have to give her ,
10:16I don't know , a bridge so she can do it
10:18. So , once again , if you want something
10:20from her , do it first so that it just
10:22clicks in her head . Oh , well if he can
10:25do it , then I can do it too . This
10:27actually applies to flirting , getting
10:28closer , and everything like that . Why ?
10:31Because for a girl , again , this is a
10:32very strong emotional step . And guys
10:35who just sit there and obsess over some
10:37perfect moment that will eventually
10:38happen — it won't happen . So once again
10:40, you have to initiate it . And initiate
10:43it in such a way that at any moment you
10:45could say , " Wait , it's a joke , like
10:47it's not serious , relax . " And she needs
10:49to understand that . And only in such a
10:51situation will her anxiety drop enough
10:53for her to be able to do it . And this
10:55is another probably S-tier point that
10:59shouldn't be missed . It's about the
11:02fact that we have attraction and we
11:03have the girl's anxiety . And for some
11:05reason , guys think that attraction is
11:06what's needed and anxiety is something
11:08you can just ignore completely . No , on
11:10the contrary , anxiety is 70 % of your
11:12success . Or rather , how much you have
11:14lowered her anxiety . And this is
11:16precisely what allows a girl to reach
11:19new horizons that she wouldn't be able
11:22to cross with someone else . And this is
11:26exactly the point you need to feel , in
11:28the sense that if you went on a date
11:30with a girl and she can't tell you , for
11:32example , about how someone tried to
11:33assault her when she was 12 , you
11:35haven't opened her up enough . Yes , this
11:38sounds incredibly cringy , absolutely
11:39trashy , and like , what the hell is this
11:41? But if she can't open up to you that
11:43much , you're falling short somewhere ,
11:45so to speak . We take a step back , fix
11:48that , and then return , because just
11:50hammering away at constant escalation ,
11:52well , it doesn't work like that . Like ,
11:54take a little step , then lower the
11:56anxiety . Take a little step , lower the
11:58anxiety . Everything hinges solely on
12:00this . Moreover , if you look at it , when
12:03it comes to anxiety , there are two
12:06types of girls . The first type of girls
12:09operate by inflating their anxiety
12:11significantly so as not to do anything
12:13unnecessary . The second category of
12:15girls , they strongly devalue the action
12:17itself so that this anxiety doesn't
12:19arise . It’s like with sex . It’s the
12:21same for both the first and the second
12:22girl . Sex can be something super
12:24important . Their libidos might be the
12:26same , but the first one will start to
12:28close herself off from it all , like ,
12:30you know , sex on the twentieth date
12:31after the wedding , when we finally have
12:33the act . Meaning , for her , sex remains
12:36a very important part , and so she
12:38closes off through this very defense ,
12:40you could say . The other one , on the
12:43contrary , goes for devaluation . She’s
12:44like : " Well , like , sex , cool , and
12:46what’s next ? " And that’s it . And
12:48there won't be any anxiety there ,
12:49because for her , it’s a devalued
12:50action . Yeah , I don’t remember , there
12:52was some very old book , I think it was
12:54called Pandora's Box or something like
12:56that . Ah , and those archetypes were
12:58described right there . And on one hand ,
13:00it was really cool because it was ,
13:02let's say , a theory of requests , just
13:03broken down in slightly different words
13:05. On the other hand , it kind of hit the
13:08ego a bit , you know , that , like , some
13:09guy did it 20 years before you , and you
13:11were sitting there figuring it out
13:13yourself . Well , that’s not the point .
13:15Anyway , the point is that these things ,
13:17their beauty is that they repeat
13:19themselves . If you look at different
13:22approaches to communication , building
13:24relationships , and all that , you’ll
13:26see that many points coincide , so much
13:28so that it's as if they copied from
13:30each other , even though they don't even
13:32know each other at all . And finally ,
13:35what is also very important is the
13:37speed . Yeah , you’re going to say ,
13:39what kind of [ __ ] are you talking
13:39about ? You just talked about how
13:41anxiety needs to be reduced , and now
13:42you’re talking about speed . And I
13:43will answer you that time is not an
13:45indicator here at all . Like , what
13:46really matters is the density of
13:48actions . You can perform the same
13:49actions . Just over a span of , I don't
13:51know , several days , or you can do them
13:52in literally a couple of hours , it
13:54makes no difference , the structure
13:55doesn't change from that . If we
13:57fundamentally look at the communication
13:59from meeting to relationship , which
14:01took , I don't know , 2 months , maybe
14:03even more . By the way , here's a fun
14:06fact for you : most relationships begin
14:09after 22 months of friendship . Well ,
14:12obviously , these are very averaged
14:13statistics and all , but you get the
14:15point , the same theme about the friend
14:16you shouldn't worry about . So , uh , 22
14:19months of friendship , or I don't know ,
14:21they hooked up on the first date , and
14:23two days later they moved in together .
14:25The structure is the same , the things
14:27done are the same . That's why time , in
14:30this regard , doesn't really matter . But
14:32where does time , specifically speed ,
14:33actually matter ? First of all , we live
14:35in very dynamic times , where a girl can
14:37, in principle , steal anyone . I'm
14:39speaking from personal experience here
14:40— I once posted this on Telegram , it's
14:42a very telling case . There have
14:43actually been many , but this one is
14:44just perfect . How do you take a girl
14:47from a date ? She was sitting on a date
14:48with a guy . I got her to come over to
14:50my place , and we hadn't even met before
14:51that . Go figure . Or when , you know ,
14:54you're talking to a girl and she's
14:55already given you every green light
14:57possible , but you're sitting there
14:59thinking , " Damn , maybe I shouldn't ,
15:00maybe it's too early for some
15:01Jewish-slash-Orthodox parents . " But in
15:05reality , once a girl has decided in her
15:07head that she's ready to move to the
15:09next stage , a countdown starts , so to
15:11speak . If you haven't made a move by a
15:14certain point , what does she conclude
15:16in her head ? Well , either I'm just not
15:19that interesting to him , or he’s just
15:21some kind of loser . If I'm not
15:23interesting to him , that's kind of
15:24hurtful , right ? It hits the ego hard .
15:26Girls don't like that . So , more often
15:28than not , they drift toward the second
15:29conclusion : that , well , he’s clearly
15:31a loser , and that’s it . And the
15:32attraction fades away instantly . And
15:35this applies to meeting up , moving to a
15:37first kiss , having sex , or entering a
15:39relationship . Meaning , for each of
15:42these stages , a girl has a rough idea
15:44in her head that she's ready , and then
15:45the countdown begins . If it doesn't
15:47happen , your communication will end
15:49right there . If it does happen , great
15:51— we wait for the next moment until
15:53she gives off the next green signal . So
15:55, yeah , stalling and being indecisive
15:56isn't an option these days . First ,
15:57there's quite a lot of competition .
16:00Second , the threshold of what we expect
16:02to be enough is actually much lower , I
16:05assure you . A girl is ready to meet you
16:08much sooner than you think it's time . A
16:11girl is ready to kiss you much sooner
16:13than you think it's time . It's the same
16:15thing for sex . That's your bedtime
16:17story for the night . And yes , don't
16:19forget the link to the free bot with
16:20message analysis and profile review
16:21that got me 91 likes in a day . You'll
16:23find it in the description and the
16:24first comment . Talk to you soon .